FabSwingers.com forum: Bloody hell!!

By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I automatically delete a message with the paper clip of death attached, I don’t even look now.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

no need for it x

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

#desperation

More and more guys I'd say, less couples and single females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky cow, where's mine?

It must be the heat getting to their penises, it will pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s become quite disgusting actually

I just block, then delete the mail

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Lucky cow, where's mine?

It must be the heat getting to their penises, it will pass."

Lol I’m sure you don’t need any help

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds."

More of a hook up site I think! Dating doesn’t even come in to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had some proper grim ones recently!

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds.

More of a hook up site I think! Dating doesn’t even come in to it

Apologies, you are right

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't think things have really changed much in 5 or so years

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Glad im not female

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By *heshire-cat74Woman
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I even have on my status that I'm not well and still getting them and even fancy meeting now message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have really noticed the same thing in the last few weeks.

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds."

Not sure dick pics would be welcome on a dating site either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds.

Not sure dick pics would be welcome on a dating site either "

I was just going to say this. I actually had one the other day on my messenger, Somebody I had never interacted with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds.

Not sure dick pics would be welcome on a dating site either

I was just going to say this. I actually had one the other day on my messenger, Somebody I had never interacted with. "

And insta! I’ve never had them on there and I’ve had a dozen this week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I automatically delete a message with the paper clip of death attached, I don’t even look now.

“Paper clip of death” haha love that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I automatically delete a message with the paper clip of death attached, I don’t even look now.

'Paperclip of death'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had some proper grim ones recently!

Rude

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over a year ago

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's since the pandemic started. So many members of the T!ner Brigade joined when night clubs and pubs shut and they think that swinging means an easy shag.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I hate 2022. Can't even send my peen to randoms. Do you actually expect us read your profile and send a sensible message? Liberties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I automatically delete a message with the paper clip of death attached, I don’t even look now.

"Paper clip of death"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've not had any dick pics sadly, what's the world coming to? I've had a lot of clearly randy messages but they feel they need to wine and dine me first. And impress me with their hotel choice.

Swap? I'd like some more dick in my life. You can take the Master Seduction types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like climate change and the runaway greenhouse effect.

More and more men join in numbers dar exceeding single woman and couples. So their chances because less and less leading to more frustration that manifests into anger and sadly abuse. This in turn puts more and more single women and couples off leading them to leave fab. Thus the vicious cycle gets worse.

Maybe a rethink and add some statements single men have to read before the account can be activated / message others? At least that might set more realistic expectations and explain upfront no reply = no interest.

A new single female account set up even with limited pictures these days can receive 500 messages in the first 24 hrs of which a significant percentage are crass and vulgar so its no wonder some many new females / couples don't stick around for long.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

You forgot the 45 mins

You should be grateful i messaged as no one else would want you in fact i dont either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had any dick pics sadly, what's the world coming to? I've had a lot of clearly randy messages but they feel they need to wine and dine me first. And impress me with their hotel choice.

Swap? I'd like some more dick in my life. You can take the Master Seduction types."

Oh I never get Master Seduction ones! Give us a sample.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Unfortunately some guys feel self entitled and that if they use this method they are bound to get somewhere eventually, it just spoils it for the rest of us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's since the pandemic started. So many members of the T!ner Brigade joined when night clubs and pubs shut and they think that swinging means an easy shag."

Hadn't actually looked at it that way...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Aww, come on DC, those ones are good sport! You can play "photoshop the dick pic" by drawing funny faces on it before sending it back to them

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I've not had any dick pics sadly, what's the world coming to? I've had a lot of clearly randy messages but they feel they need to wine and dine me first. And impress me with their hotel choice.

Swap? I'd like some more dick in my life. You can take the Master Seduction types."

Sausage incoming!!! I also have a Britannia hotel booked for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any first message that has pics attached to it I just deleted as 90% off the time it’s a dick pic

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Really?! It used to be better?

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

So true! And I thought it was just me being overreacting! It got so bad recently I’m now hiding my profile when I log out for the day.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Any first message that has pics attached to it I just deleted as 90% off the time it’s a dick pic "

So the ten % who send a face pic get deleted whilst those who send with no pic get read. Harsh.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Because most have heard off a mate that all the women are gagging for it apparently

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Do we think the site is too well known, too mainstream now then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Really?! It used to be better?

No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any first message that has pics attached to it I just deleted as 90% off the time it’s a dick pic

So the ten % who send a face pic get deleted whilst those who send with no pic get read. Harsh. "

Not really as the way I see it I didn’t ask for a pic and also before reading the message I look at the profile so really there is no need to send a pic at all in a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose marriage is outta the question then

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

Its shocking what some send, the sheer volume of vulgarity women get is mind boggling

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"I've not had any dick pics sadly, what's the world coming to? I've had a lot of clearly randy messages but they feel they need to wine and dine me first. And impress me with their hotel choice.

Swap? I'd like some more dick in my life. You can take the Master Seduction types."

I’m jealous you get offered hotels: I had two separate truck offers this week

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By *J2020Man
over a year ago

somewhere

A friend of mine joined a couple of days ago and I warned her it could be a bit “ heavy” at times … she is no prude by any means but she was shocked , she even sent me some screen shots and it made me want to vomit .

Within a couple of hours she had over 300 messages and very few that were very appealing . She closed her account within the same day .

It seems manners and decency lack seriously from some people and I can see why it’s so hard for the few decent ones here ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are appalling aren’t they. I’m ruthlessly deleting the vulgar, crude, offensive and just plain horrid messages.

The boring one word/sentence ones go too.

It makes me despair ….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

You forgot the 45 mins

You should be grateful i messaged as no one else would want you in fact i dont either

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or I hate bitches like you ...you are missing out on a nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might have to take a new approach, I usually attach a face picture when messaging first time but it might prevent it from being opened....

On the plus side, it might not have been my face putting people off so that is good.

Also, guys need to stop the dick pic things. I love my cock and happy to show anyone that wants to see it but not without them asking. Is there an function to report them on here and is anything done about it?

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By *oftyandhisloverCouple
over a year ago

surrey

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

Yessssss! This happens too often!!! Had a chap message 20 times within a hour, ended up having a conversation with himself lol!!!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

You forgot the 45 mins

You should be grateful i messaged as no one else would want you in fact i dont either

or I hate bitches like you ...you are missing out on a nice guy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

Rex is pretty loose when he wants to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, some folks don't seem to realise they're talking to actual people.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can kinda understand why a guy might send one dick pic. Kinda. But 7? What goes through the mind of someone who does that to a complete stranger?

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

I'm glad no one has said "all men" this time.

I for one refuse to be tarred with same indiscreet brush.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I have really noticed the same thing in the last few weeks. "

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I can't believe Åsh is still sending you 'roadkill penile' photographs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

There are a couple of reasons not to do this - one is that some ladies get abuse if they reach out to guys (BBW for example) and also if you want to be able to chat to guys on the forum and participate.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A lot seem to think it's #instashag.

The site has definitely gone down hill lately x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

I don’t mind receiving messages as a general rule, and I’ve had some good ones, but the vast majority are terrible.

I shouldn’t have to put filters on, people should be able to speak to others like they are humans

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I can't say I've noticed any difference in recent times compared to years ago. But then I don't get a lot of messages anyhow .

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i would never send a lady a dick picture,, only if she asked me too

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

On a sex site! How dare they!!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

This is extremely accurate.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

what a dick..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

self entitled idiots who don't know what this site is about...

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Real shame for the genuine ones who are dealt the same fate of deleted messages. Been on here a long time never sent a cock pic to anyone.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I automatically delete a message with the paper clip of death attached, I don’t even look now.

Ah, that could be a bother, as I sent a face pic with a first message. Nobody wants to see a picture of my manhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Diego tend to do the Fabmin and I’ve seen more cocks in the last year than the clap clinic nurse.

Easy delete and block without having to waste time reading a probably rubbish bio.

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By *4DY-FWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

great filter ..block ...move on

if abusive ...report ... block

as said before lots of people are forming away from fab groups where only couples and women are in (ie known in flesh from clubs or meets ie real people) where they share info on whos bad / fake where they share user names and screen shots of what was said so its real can see this happening more

and yes we know women and couples can be abusive too and rude

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"great filter ..block ...move on

if abusive ...report ... block

and yes we know women and couples can be abusive too and rude"

This

one of the reasons I hardly use the site now. Usually the ones involved spout the #bekind bullshit....hypocrisy at its finest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

I find full filters work for me, I turned them on as soon as I joined. But for other women it could still be far too many messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might i add my last post was not against fab its self we still use fab just the outside group makes it easier to pre block and get ahead of those who send abuse..

fab is still the best platform on the net for getting meets ..once you dodge all the rubbish ...

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

At least with cock pics they’ve attached a picture, must be better than:

“Mmmmmmm u got Kik”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not so much the dick pics that get to me.. after awhile on here you get used to them and become kind of immune to them..

It’s more the graphic what they would like to do to me or me to them stuff.

I mean asking me if I want to shit on them as an opener ain’t going to win my heart or Fanny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least with cock pics they’ve attached a picture, must be better than:

“Mmmmmmm u got Kik”

Personally, nope. It's being treated only as a sexual object that's the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

It's so bad, I haven't had any unsolicited booby pics in the last 9 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously. Someone asked me if I wanted to meet for sex the other day. On a swingers site!!! What are they thinking!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously. Someone asked me if I wanted to meet for sex the other day. On a swingers site!!! What are they thinking!??"

dont you do it wont someone think of the children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously. Someone asked me if I wanted to meet for sex the other day. On a swingers site!!! What are they thinking!??

dont you do it wont someone think of the children

I tend not to think of the children while I'm finding someone to fuck

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"At least with cock pics they’ve attached a picture, must be better than:

“Mmmmmmm u got Kik”

Personally, nope. It's being treated only as a sexual object that's the problem. "

Wish i was treated as a sexual object

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously. Someone asked me if I wanted to meet for sex the other day. On a swingers site!!! What are they thinking!??

dont you do it wont someone think of the children

I tend not to think of the children while I'm finding someone to fuck

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ooops it fell off

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

"At least with cock pics they’ve attached a picture, must be better than:

“Mmmmmmm u got Kik”

Personally, nope. It's being treated only as a sexual object that's the problem. "

Yeah for sure, there’s been desired and chased in an appropriate way, then there’s the vulgarity and objectivity of many…

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Some valid points above just such a shame as this behaviour makes it so difficult for the honest genuine guys on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not so much the dick pics that get to me.. after awhile on here you get used to them and become kind of immune to them..

It’s more the graphic what they would like to do to me or me to them stuff.

I mean asking me if I want to shit on them as an opener ain’t going to win my heart or Fanny!

Kinkshamer...

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over a year ago

"Some valid points above just such a shame as this behaviour makes it so difficult for the honest genuine guys on the site."

No it doesn't. Loads like to shout about how despicable men are on here. Many of us simply ignore the idiots, and those that stand out are responded to. Those who shout loudest aren't always right.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Glad im not female

Omg where have you been

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"Some valid points above just such a shame as this behaviour makes it so difficult for the honest genuine guys on the site.

No it doesn't. Loads like to shout about how despicable men are on here. Many of us simply ignore the idiots, and those that stand out are responded to. Those who shout loudest aren't always right. "

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"A lot seem to think it's #instashag.

The site has definitely gone down hill lately x"

It’s in the gutter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some valid points above just such a shame as this behaviour makes it so difficult for the honest genuine guys on the site."

It doesn’t make it any more difficult for me, that theory is blown out the window.

Being awesome helps me to stand out head and shoulders above the lesser mortals.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

I get some real explicit ones on messenger from Women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

I don’t mind receiving messages as a general rule, and I’ve had some good ones, but the vast majority are terrible.

I shouldn’t have to put filters on, people should be able to speak to others like they are humans "

Yes in utopia! But meanwhile in the real world the tools are there.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

I’m fine with Minstrels

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

I’m fine with Minstrels

•

What about the Harlequins and Jesters, oh Elizabethan one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

I don’t mind receiving messages as a general rule, and I’ve had some good ones, but the vast majority are terrible.

I shouldn’t have to put filters on, people should be able to speak to others like they are humans

Yes in utopia! But meanwhile in the real world the tools are there. "

Yes, I know

. It’s just a shame it’s necessary

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Don’t get me wrong …. I’m not averse to dick pics per se … if I ask to see but don’t just drop your over the toilet, scruffy bedroom, in someone else’s vagina, red angry vile dick pics in my inbox!

And the reason for my post was that messages seem to be random, more frequent of late and not forum users …. Purely chancers more than anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

I’m fine with Minstrels

You’re missing out on something Legendary

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

I’m fine with Minstrels

You’re missing out on something Legendary

Am I now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

Of course. It's entirely personal choice.

But if incoming messages are causing irritation it's a solution.

The tools are there for those that want to use them.

I don’t mind receiving messages as a general rule, and I’ve had some good ones, but the vast majority are terrible.

I shouldn’t have to put filters on, people should be able to speak to others like they are humans

Yes in utopia! But meanwhile in the real world the tools are there.

Yes, I know

. It’s just a shame it’s necessary "

It is... but I think so little of most people that I just always assume the worst and adapt my attitude accordingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve not seen beauty until you’ve seen my big angry cock.

I’m fine with Minstrels

You’re missing out on something Legendary

Am I now

*runs n hides*

Please take it with the humour meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many dick pics are sent on a daily basis.

I've seen a rise in fanny pics lately. Is that just how the new 18 year olds behave these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same advice to you as a male will get.

You get out of it what you put in. Is this actually the place you need?

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

My first day on here

One of the first messages was what size are your boobs, followed by before I’d even read the boobs one

Send me a picture of your c*nt, sent within less than 1 min of each other.

Nothing else literally

What size are your boobs

Send me a picture of your cu*t

Blocked needless to say

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab gives users the option to send helicockters via message and users continue to send dick pics

Lack of creativity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least with cock pics they’ve attached a picture, must be better than:

“Mmmmmmm u got Kik”

Personally, nope. It's being treated only as a sexual object that's the problem.

Wish i was treated as a sexual object

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too enjoy a dick pick from a man I'm chatting to for a while. Or whom I've already had sex with. But from a total stranger who has probably sent the same photos to 20 other women that day? Fuck off to the far side of fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message"

Any idea what your profile pic is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I'm pretty sure you're not on my bulk mailing list?..

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message

Any idea what your profile pic is? "

I thought that reading this….

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

First line of my profile... Don't send them, and what do I still get? Dick pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many dick pics are sent on a daily basis.

I've seen a rise in fanny pics lately. Is that just how the new 18 year olds behave these days "

It's due to the increasing reliance on devices to communicate instead of enduring the potential of a traumatic actual face to face meeting with a real person. It's far easier to use your dictaphone.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Filters tighter than Rex's Bumhole keep the dick pics away

This.

Someone can only send an offensive message or a dick pic once if you then block them.

And for the ladies that get inundated with messages from single guys? Block all incoming messages from men and go browsing yourself. That way only you get to choose who you converse with.

Simples.......

But the majority of profile pics are dicks too, so this will never work!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I wonder how many dick pics are sent on a daily basis.

I've seen a rise in fanny pics lately. Is that just how the new 18 year olds behave these days "

I might start keeping count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many dick pics are sent on a daily basis.

I've seen a rise in fanny pics lately. Is that just how the new 18 year olds behave these days

I might start keeping count

Probably double figures since you posted this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I call it on line sex offending. Guys think is OK to be so vile because there is a sexual element to this site. It's like bus stop flashing without the cctv threat.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message

Any idea what your profile pic is?

I thought that reading this….

I didn't.

I'm not sure why he's being explicitly referenced by that remark. And yet the profile above him, who has a plethora of breast pictures, has commented that she's been inundated with crass messages about her breasts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

How do guys think they will get a meet doing that?

Some guys are their own worst enemy.

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By *liceinwanderlust101Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge/London

I just put up a video so am waiting for the onslaught, have a few hours of boredom ahead of me so thought I might just get on with some admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message"

You have 7 pictures of your cock on your profile.

Pot, kettle, and black.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If a guy posts something along the lines of ‘I don’t understand why I’m not getting any messages’ or ‘my messages are deleted without a reply’ etc etc then 99.99% of the time he will be advised to ‘change his approach’.

Maybe in this instance the same advice could be adopted here as well.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"It’s become quite disgusting actually

I just block, then delete the mail "

I do this

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos

I feel you! I’ve nearly burnt out the block button today! Must be something in the air!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message

You have 7 pictures of your cock on your profile.

Pot, kettle, and black."

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What a myopic response!

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

"I just put up a video so am waiting for the onslaught, have a few hours of boredom ahead of me so thought I might just get on with some admin

I have only one word for you .

Stunning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

makes me laught guys blaming other guys for then getting nowhere ... a guys who fucks up fucks it up for himself and himself only he does not fuck it up for you ...only you are reponsible for you so you getting nowhere is on you or no one is wanting you its blunt but its a fact stop hiding behind other peoples mistakes they have no reflection on you..

to us these guys who consantly moan are as bad as those's who fuck up insant block for us ... you join a site where nobody owes anybody anything ... so its up to you how you stand out or not ..

also 100 to 200 men per women or couples what part of that do guys not understand its simple maths it = alot of men getting nowhere good or bad ... the main problem is this alone for men but they choose to think its other stuff then go of to bragg to there mates that its a free for all sex site (yet theyve had none) filling the site up with more men to make their own chances even less likely ....

i dont want to say this if the site continues to grow with just men then sadly the site will one day be of no use to anyone who wants to swing .. i really hope not as fab is such a great site

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Less of a swingers site these days and more of a dating site in some guys minds."

Hook up site, assuming that, because women are on here we will all just automatically drop our drawers when instructed to so do.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"makes me laught guys blaming other guys for then getting nowhere ... a guys who fucks up fucks it up for himself and himself only he does not fuck it up for you ...only you are reponsible for you so you getting nowhere is on you or no one is wanting you its blunt but its a fact stop hiding behind other peoples mistakes they have no reflection on you..

to us these guys who consantly moan are as bad as those's who fuck up insant block for us ... you join a site where nobody owes anybody anything ... so its up to you how you stand out or not ..

i dont want to say this if the site continues to grow with just men then sadly the site will one day be of no use to anyone who wants to swing .. i really hope not as fab is such a great site

We’ll explain, Point taken

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Well this was a fascinating read, quite diverse or do I mean divisive comments…I dunno.

Anyway it was cool to see what everyone thinks. I have had my fair share of vulgar messages and unsolicited dick pics…oooh I even got an unsolicited dick video the other day

I don’t really know how you stop such behaviour but I try not to enable it by responding, just delete and/or block/report as necessary.

Also I find sending phone numbers in first messages or on profiles or in statuses a bit creepy

but I have my own way of dealing with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to us these guys who consantly moan are as bad as those's who fuck up insant block for us ... you join a site where nobody owes anybody anything ... so its up to you how you stand out or not ..

i dont want to say this if the site continues to grow with just men then sadly the site will one day be of no use to anyone who wants to swing .. i really hope not as fab is such a great site

I agree. It makes me laugh when single guys blame other single guys for their lack of meets.

If you can't get a meet it is because your profile is not enticing. Your messages are shi. You think swingers = I will fuck anyone who asks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site was way better years ago. I had an inbox the other day asking if I wanted to watch him cum on a bakewell tart and eat it on cam. Even ruining baked goods for me now

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By *ndyn50000Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve had some proper grim ones recently!

Rude

At leaat we have an idea of who is sending them all now....

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"This site was way better years ago. I had an inbox the other day asking if I wanted to watch him cum on a bakewell tart and eat it on cam. Even ruining baked goods for me now

Now I know we don’t kink shame here but that’s just fucking wrong…ruining baked goods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love the persistence of the white knights on here

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over a year ago

"This site was way better years ago. I had an inbox the other day asking if I wanted to watch him cum on a bakewell tart and eat it on cam. Even ruining baked goods for me now

Now I know we don’t kink shame here but that’s just fucking wrong…ruining baked goods

I know! If anyone ruins lasagne for me I will lose my shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Yep, it seems some have lost the ability to communicate respectfully. I just ignore and block

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Nothing like an unsolicited:

Hi there with dick pic attached..

5 mins later .. so do you like ?

10 mins later ... hi beautiful

20mins later ..you didn't say if you liked , can we meet up ?

25 mins later ...I guess not , enjoy your life .

1 hr later ...Hi you up to meet up?

So accurate!

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By *ingerie whoreTV/TS
over a year ago

kirk hammerton

Even I get them and it shocks me and that's saying something

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Receiving dick pics and “u free now” type messages isn’t a new thing, along with random kink requests but I agree, this week I’ve only been getting 5-10 messages a day which is probably 10x less than normal (not complaining at all) but 90% of those messages are really extra grim than normal.

Like the one the other day with a picture of an arsehole that looked like it should be on a putting green

Just why?!

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By *ingerie whoreTV/TS
over a year ago

kirk hammerton

Iv had some sent that honestly looked like they had shit out a bowling ball it was horrid

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

I will never send dick picks and reluctant to when asked those images are on friends only settings, ( or crude messages )

“ we are all human after all “.

I have built up a circle of wonder friends since joining this site over five years ago it is however becoming harder and harder for single males on this site, as mentioned above the ratio of males to females is poles apart and not looking for single guys unless you are bi or bi curious now seems to becoming a badge of honour on this site.

I do not condone fowl abusive behaviour towards another person either so saying said behaviour makes it harder for other single guys on here is not blaming other's for one’s lack of response’s “ it just is what it is “.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Things have changed on her from a while ago.

Ladies are also different how they use this site too. We all have our different views don’t we?

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

I wish they’d send them to me ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

I call it on line sex offending. Guys think is OK to be so vile because there is a sexual element to this site. It's like bus stop flashing without the cctv threat."

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

Things have changed on her from a while ago.

Ladies are also different how they use this site too. We all have our different views don’t we?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a gentleman never send dick pics they are on my profile if you wish to see them.i never ask stupid question in a first message

Any idea what your profile pic is?

I thought that reading this….

I didn't.

The OP is about men sending unsolicited dick pics.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"What is it with some guys on this site and what has it come too

I’ve had quite a few messages this week - crude, vulgar, unsolicited disgusting

dick pics

It never used to be this bad

seems some dont want to try and impress or tease with their first contact, we see an email as an intro and to entice the reader to want to reply, and some of these people need to realise this x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Dear Sir,