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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

Overthink things, like really overthink things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Overthinker right here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I do it all the time, stress about all eventualities and drive myself nuts over decisions

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By *uncouple_12Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I’m terrible for it the mr always tells me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not personally, no. I’m a simple creature.

But I know many people that do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, and always come up with the worst outcome, that never actually becomes reality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always, dunno if it's a bad thing though because I've essentially run through and stressed about every scenario in my head, so when something happens I've already overthought it and can handle it easier. Gives me gift of the gab so to speak and has helped me many times in job interviews because I'm never caught out by a surprise question I haven't already thought about 50 times

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. Especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Life’s too short to dwell on things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. Other times I just think, meh fuck it…

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

All the time!

I’m making a conscious effort to trying not too though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to. I trained myself out of it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to. I trained myself out of it though."

Hi Nelly, was there a particular technique you used to do this? X

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

I’m the worst I constantly think my mates have fell out with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Overthink things, like really overthink things?"

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stress is normal, over thinking things is normal and anxiety about things is normal. The best way too approach life is feel whatever you need to feel but anything out of your control, let it go.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes. I was awful for it a few years ago now. But I'm learning, slowly, to recognise and accept that it's more likely to happen when I'm in a low energy phase (a drop/hormonal changes) and not beating myself up about it nor allowing my mind to run free.

Sometimes you need a friend to call you a nob and tell you they still would. That really does stop overthinking.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Let me think on this before giving you an answer

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster


"Sometimes. I was awful for it a few years ago now. But I'm learning, slowly, to recognise and accept that it's more likely to happen when I'm in a low energy phase (a drop/hormonal changes) and not beating myself up about it nor allowing my mind to run free.

Sometimes you need a friend to call you a nob and tell you they still would. That really does stop overthinking."

I’ve text a mate who I no suffers exactly the same, and she’s just screened the messages

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales


"Overthink things, like really overthink things?"

All the time, but mainly work stuff, with life in general I just try and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried meditation?

You are not your thoughts, your thoughts do not define you.

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By *orthwhile27Man
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

I used to on here, then I deleted my account, since I came back I don't give a shit.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes. I was awful for it a few years ago now. But I'm learning, slowly, to recognise and accept that it's more likely to happen when I'm in a low energy phase (a drop/hormonal changes) and not beating myself up about it nor allowing my mind to run free.

Sometimes you need a friend to call you a nob and tell you they still would. That really does stop overthinking.

I’ve text a mate who I no suffers exactly the same, and she’s just screened the messages "

I don't know what screened the messages means, apologies. In the gentlest way, other people don't have to be there for you - they might not have the headspace/energy/desire or ability to be.

Why not be your own friend? Look in to practicing mindfulness - being present in the moment can really help stop the background noise of overthinking. There's also meditation, it can help centre the chaos of your mind. You can allocate yourself a set time to ruminate on things and then move past it. Forget it. Occupy yourself with things that raise the dopamine level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it once drove my to the edge of oblivion so now i try not to think at all seems a good a cure as any i suppose

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

No! Neither of overthink anything

I probably should !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’m guilty of this sometimes I’d say

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Overthink things, like really overthink things?"

I've been thinking about this for the last 13 hours since you posted this and......nope....still undecided on my answer.

I'll come back to you next week. OK?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time.

Basically think and it turns into a movie in my head with many seasons/etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always, dunno if it's a bad thing though because I've essentially run through and stressed about every scenario in my head, so when something happens I've already overthought it and can handle it easier. Gives me gift of the gab so to speak and has helped me many times in job interviews because I'm never caught out by a surprise question I haven't already thought about 50 times "

Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to. I trained myself out of it though.

Hi Nelly, was there a particular technique you used to do this? X"

Mindfulness excercises and generally being more aware of my thoughts, taking a step back and asking "is this actually helping?". It takes a lot of practice but it's achievable. Listening to audiobooks keeps my mind focussed on something external and breaks the pattern of getting lost in a whirlpool of over-analysis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to. I trained myself out of it though.

Hi Nelly, was there a particular technique you used to do this? X

Mindfulness excercises and generally being more aware of my thoughts, taking a step back and asking "is this actually helping?". It takes a lot of practice but it's achievable. Listening to audiobooks keeps my mind focussed on something external and breaks the pattern of getting lost in a whirlpool of over-analysis."

I’ve actually been listening to some podcasts on this

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not generally. I can usually tell when something needs to be put out of my mind and I do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Overthink things, like really overthink things?"

Gonna give this a think over. I'll let you know when I'm done...

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By *astandtheCurious2Couple
over a year ago

letchworth

Always, generally going back over things I’ve said and done

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Overthink things, like really overthink things?"

Quite litterally all I do.

Am really good at overplaying my significance in people's lives which is an excellent way of hurting yourself

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

No, not at all, well, maybe, hmm, I think sometimes, possibly, or maybe not, I mean I might be and not be being sufficiently aware of it, I could be I suppose, but then again, I don’t think so, not all the time, some of the time probably, but is that then a yes! I don’t know, hang on, ummmm, what was the question again?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Oh yes and I find it absolutely exhausting sometimes.

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