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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are peoples views on those with dependancy on these to play.. or even function... Day to day kinda thing?

Would you steer clear.. see it as a fun side of them or even see it as something the police need to be aware of??

Seeing someone like it makes us cringe.. Its shocked us how rife it seems to be in the scene and were not talking a few viagras lol..

Thoughts anyone??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was married to a nasty d*unk for far too long, so drink and fun don't mix for me at all.

As for drugs, orgasms are the only high I need xxx

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over a year ago

Oh we stay well clear of anyone thats too d*unk to function,you never know if they're gonna turn from loving to nasty at the drop of a hat,makes me feel very edgy,especially with the men, and the women don't look so attractive either

Now I love a drink but won't go mad when im playing,it makes me go numb for a start and a d*unken marauding honey is not always a good thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol.. More worried by the druggies out there if honest.. a few drinks we all do and can enjoy without being a problem, mostly!!

But drugs make people into nutters...

Seen too many take the route.. always always ends badly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont drink when im meetin someone or drugs whether they be recreational or not!! if someone needs these to boost their confidence or whatever then they not for me!! social drinkin aka the nite out at the wk end is destressing time for me and i enjoy it but to have a dependancy on it to function no thanks! i know these are addictions to some and i feel sorry for anyone who has these problems x

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

i once went to a VERY well known swinger club outskirts of london when i first started swinging

nearly EVERYONE there was pilled up and off their heads!

Then a few years after i went to another club to see if it was any different. This one was even worse in the midlands

I mean people can do whatever they want thats up to them but gurning in a sex club and probably not remembering much of it the next day isnt my idea of fun

Do i go to swinger clubs anymore??

I think not!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i once went to a VERY well known swinger club outskirts of london when i first started swinging

nearly EVERYONE there was pilled up and off their heads!

Then a few years after i went to another club to see if it was any different. This one was even worse in the midlands

I mean people can do whatever they want thats up to them but gurning in a sex club and probably not remembering much of it the next day isnt my idea of fun

Do i go to swinger clubs anymore??

I think not!! lol"

lol the downside of extacy the love drug...rampagin horn but face pulling of a professional gurner!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i once went to a VERY well known swinger club outskirts of london when i first started swinging

nearly EVERYONE there was pilled up and off their heads!

Then a few years after i went to another club to see if it was any different. This one was even worse in the midlands

I mean people can do whatever they want thats up to them but gurning in a sex club and probably not remembering much of it the next day isnt my idea of fun

Do i go to swinger clubs anymore??

I think not!! lol"

gurning pmsl.... Well said.. and very apt lol.. The faces these peeps pull eh!!

Sad to have to take crap just to be able to socialise though.. Surely?

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

i think a lot of peeps wouldnt even swing if they didnt have something in their system to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it is sad that u need to be outta it to enjoy yourself or have the fake confidence of a drug high to do it!! wee vodka for dutch courage i can understand but 50 quid to shovel shit up your nose that probably been cut with god knows what i just dont understand!! i think a lot of time its the placebo effect for some!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i think a lot of peeps wouldnt even swing if they didnt have something in their system to be honest"

A few drinks to relax yeah.. can even understand Viagra to a degree.. But harder stuff, Ooooerr..

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

and in reality all they really need is a cock loaded with spunk and rock hard that will make you see stars i,m sure lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I know a few that can't have a drink down the local without snorting the columbian marching powder to have a good time

although if you ever go in our local you would understand why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never touched drugs, never interested me at all, sex and music was always my thing, however I did used to drink quite heavily, not to the point of it becoming a problem as such but just too much social drinking, I now rarely drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats even more disturbing is that the average purity of any peddled at street level is around the 10% mark.......so in reality they are shovelling 90% shite up their nasal passages. oh how great it is to dabble in the "showbiz" drug......hence it is so cheap and available now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say NO cos I see the effects on a daily basis and its that ripple which spreads out from the taker to family and friends which makes it such a shit thing to be doing Yet there are those who think it is cool...

God Im on a downer today...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"whats even more disturbing is that the average purity of any peddled at street level is around the 10% mark.......so in reality they are shovelling 90% shite up their nasal passages. oh how great it is to dabble in the "showbiz" drug......hence it is so cheap and available now"

Bloody Hell... Imagine what that does to your brain cells?? Ooooerr...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra must represent exactly the same risk as other substances, Doctors warn those with problems to be very careful with its use.

Those that purchase Viagra from friends/internet are even more at risk than those that have a diagnosed problem....they don't know what they are swallowing, yet it's seen as okay by most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of my meets have had a problem waiting for me to shoot up before we play ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are peoples views on those with dependancy on these to play.. or even function... Day to day kinda thing?

Would you steer clear.. see it as a fun side of them or even see it as something the police need to be aware of??

Seeing someone like it makes us cringe.. Its shocked us how rife it seems to be in the scene and were not talking a few viagras lol..

Thoughts anyone?? "

makes me vomit

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over a year ago

I have noticed not just in swinging but people that have taken are reeaallllllly boring and can't stop talking about themselves and how wonderful they are

An hour later they've gone completely paranoid and you've got a timebomb on your hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are peoples views on those with dependancy on these to play.. or even function... Day to day kinda thing?

Would you steer clear.. see it as a fun side of them or even see it as something the police need to be aware of??

Seeing someone like it makes us cringe.. Its shocked us how rife it seems to be in the scene and were not talking a few viagras lol..

Thoughts anyone?? "

it would appear that society is broken, such is the trend of habitual drug taking appearing to be the norm within such a large percentage of young folk....and indeed some not so young!! i can understand the experimental youth stage but its become a much larger problem nowadays.....as mentioned by the good doctor earlier the ripple effect is so so true. but with so many children who grew up with parents with drug issues now displaying the same trends......what chance is there for the next generation!!! where has it all went wrong?? who is to blame?? how do we fix it?? does the justice system need to dish out tougher sentences to those importing drugs or selling them?? and what about the users??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"none of my meets have had a problem waiting for me to shoot up before we play ffs

Trust you ya nutter lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed not just in swinging but people that have taken are reeaallllllly boring and can't stop talking about themselves and how wonderful they are

An hour later they've gone completely paranoid and you've got a timebomb on your hands

That's because some bastard has nicked their stash

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

we have the odd drink to relax get rid of the butterflies when meeting, but like honeypot says too much drink makes me numb!! lol!!! as for drugs no im not that sad or insecure that i need them, went to s wingers club down south, they were all out of their head on ,walked around with eyes like saucers

each to their own i say, but dont think i would play with someone out their head on a)drugs b) too d*unk not to remember!!

and i too like a drink infact my downfall is vino!!! lol, and yes i do get pissed on a normal nite out, but when meeting, a few drinks and respect!!! phew i need a beer noo lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right... that me done then..

i'm gonna have a a smoke and get off to bed lol..

g'night all xxxx

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

lol!! nite nite xxxxx oh and nice to see ya back xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NN Notts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol!! nite nite xxxxx oh and nice to see ya back xxx

The fronts even more impressive lol... Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"NN Notts "

Talking of back lol... You too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are peoples views on those with dependancy on these to play.. or even function... Day to day kinda thing?

Would you steer clear.. see it as a fun side of them or even see it as something the police need to be aware of??

Seeing someone like it makes us cringe.. Its shocked us how rife it seems to be in the scene and were not talking a few viagras lol..

Thoughts anyone?? "

personally i hate d*unk people, i find them so unpredictable and some times a little scary, i was at a house party a few weeks back and there was a guy there who was really d*unk and acting a right knob head, thing was he was getting aggresive with it, forcing himself on people, i dont mean sexually just right in your face and you had no choice but to talk to him, every time i walk off he kept following me asking me 'what my problem was'

he was stumbling about and falling all over, on several occasions falling into people and pushing them into walls etc, now normally i would tell him to fuck off to his face but because drink obviously bought out the nasty side to him and me being a single woman i tried to be polite and not say anything to antagonize him, in the end he was asked to leave and he went, not without a fight tho

Now to me a d*unk person is not attractive or sexy and why people get d*unk in swinging situations is beyond me

I personally would never play with a d*unk person because

A its not attractive to have some d*unk fumbling at you

and

B when i play with someone i want to know they are with me because they want to be not cause its a horny pissed up anyone will do shag

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

sounds like a total dickhead to me and i feel exactly the same although a hot d*unk milf forcing herself on me wouldnt be so bad lol

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

An ex FB of mine couldnt leave the bloody stuff alone.

Even in the mornings before work had to have a joint.

Would do loads of Coke too - and it was always obvious when he did cos his cock would never be quite so big or hard - so even if he lied and said he hadnt taken it - it would show, lol

And he had the cheek to moan that i like a couple of glasses of wine every day!!!

Difference was - his whole day revolved around his drug taking, my glasses of wine were a wind down in the evening either at the pub, eating out or at home watching tv.

With him, most of the time we never went out cos it would mean he couldnt have a joint

Its sad - but once you get that sucked in, you see it as normal, and dont even feel the need to stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sounds like a total dickhead to me and i feel exactly the same although a hot d*unk milf forcing herself on me wouldnt be so bad lol

would u seriously play with a d*unk women forcing herself on you tho?

personally i couldnt, id feel they wasnt in control of what they was doing and id feel i was taking advantage, id hate to play with someone and in the morning them wake up look at me and think .....OMG i didnt, thats last time im getting d*unk lol

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

err no i was jesting i wouldnt contemplate such debauchary!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i once went to a VERY well known swinger club outskirts of london when i first started swinging

nearly EVERYONE there was pilled up and off their heads!

Then a few years after i went to another club to see if it was any different. This one was even worse in the midlands

I mean people can do whatever they want thats up to them but gurning in a sex club and probably not remembering much of it the next day isnt my idea of fun

Do i go to swinger clubs anymore??

I think not!! lol"

i use swinging clubs quite a lot, infact i mainly use clubs as i just find them so much eassier than pissing about arranging meet on here, and to be honest in the 9 years ive been using them i have only seem a hand full of people who where d*unk to the point they was being a pain and very few who are obviously on drungs, guess you must have just fell unlucky on the times you went, or ive been very lucky lol i never fail to have a good night at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"err no i was jesting i wouldnt contemplate such debauchary!

not that you'd admit to anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must have lived a very sheltered life as we have never seen drugs at any club we have visited, not saying it's not happening but we have never seen it.

Never seen them being used in life in general either

A few drinks while playing is perfectly acceptable however being d*unk is not

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Never seen them being used in life in general either

Wow - thats amazing!!!

And no i am not taking the pee.

In all walks of life since i was 16 and going down the pub to play pool and darts (and have me 3 halfs of lager at 65p each), i have seen drugs.

I pretended i was a trainee copper at first so didnt see any of it - but as soon as they realised i wasnt 18 and NOT a trainee copper, my god - it seemed like everyone was on them, and probably was.

The good thing was that even tho i was offered - i was never pressured when i said no.

Have seen all kinds of ages taking them too - not just the teenagers, but people in 30's 40's and even an old work college was in her 50's used to smoke joints on a regular basis.

Dont get me wrong - i have dabbled myself - its been around me too much, but its not something i particularly took to, and have been fortunate not to have felt i needed to by peer pressure or the likes.

I like a good drink, and enjoy that as my poison - but as for on a meet - getting TOO d*unk not good, as i agree its not attractive, and yes it numbs the bits!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest with you i have never seen anyone take drugs, ive seen a few who have obviously been on them but never seen them take them

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"to be honest with you i have never seen anyone take drugs, ive seen a few who have obviously been on them but never seen them take them "

Gawd - it must just be me mixing with the wrong sort of people then, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have some great friends that very very occasionally smoke a joint but in my job drugs of any sort are a total no no and we have random checks to enforce that.

As regards any other sort of drugs simply never seen them in use but thats probably a combination of my job, folk we socialise with and where we socialise.

Boring feckers us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy alcohol with my meals.

I had my d*unken days when I was young, and stopped being reckless after I got really d*unk at a work function, and made a right arse of myself.

As for drugs, it is my professional responsibility to uphold the laws of the land, so I don't do it.

In the past, I would stay away from crowds where peeps would be smoking dope. However, since dope has been reclassified, I am more tolerant.

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

Bloody Hell... Imagine what that does to your brain cells?? Ooooerr..."

It's hard to imagine a user having brain cells.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

was married to a d*unk for 20years so dont drink much, drugs never been my thing, and have stopped smokeing am i getting old or boreing ?

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

and can someone tell me where do they get the money ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i like but its usually diet with a vodka thrown in lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WELL WELL WELL

IT FRIGHTENS ME TO SEE HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE SAYING DRINK NO WAY. GOING WITH DRUNKS NO WAY.DRUNKS ARE NO GOOD .I LIVED WITH A DRUNK AND HE WAS NO GOOD .

I THINK THERES SO MANY OF YOU DRUNK AND DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT .

GET YOUR SELF A DRINK AND STOP MOANING .

WE LUV A DRINK AND IF WE HAD TO PICK DRINK OR SWINGING .

IT WOULD BE DRINK .

INFACT IF IT HAD TO BE DRINK OR LINDA AND SWINGING .

YEAH THATS RIGHT IT WOULD BE DRINK .

GET A LIFE XXXX

JIMMY THE ALCHOLIC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A former f/bud of mine, excellent businessman, company director, with a rapier wit and incredible smarts turned out to be a total head... he had to use viagra to counteract the 's effects. It's there in all walks of life unseen and deadly... needless to say he didn't last long with me... everything going for him but the was his mistress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AND BY THE WAY IF IT WAS NOT FOR DRUGS WE WOULD ALL BE DEAD COS HOW WOULD WE GET RID OF ALL THEM SICKY THINGS LOL

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

"and can someone tell me where do they get the money ? "

Crime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and can someone tell me where do they get the money ? "

It starts with the money from their parents 'pocket money' for some.

Teenage kids today are given increasing amounts of weekly cash year on year, £50.00 + per weekend is now common place with more than people here may realise. A few little white lies from our children that most swallow and job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from prescribed drugs like antibiotics and the odd headache pills I have never done any drugs in my life, and i'm T-total (almost.. maybe a can a cider every couple of months)

Shaz used to drink alot when we first got together but rarely bothers with it now.

We swing without having nothing before hand, but wouldn't mind if them we was meeting have had a couple of drinks, but if they was to badly intoxicated and could hardly stand then wouldn't play as Shaz would feel uncomfortable.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do poppers come under the catagory of using a substance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do poppers come under the catagory of using a substance?"

Why wouldn't they ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just suprised no-one has mentioned them

I don't drink, but do have play with poppers now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just suprised no-one has mentioned them

I don't drink, but do have play with poppers now and again.

poppers nearly killed me!! never again lmao

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"AND BY THE WAY IF IT WAS NOT FOR DRUGS WE WOULD ALL BE DEAD COS HOW WOULD WE GET RID OF ALL THEM SICKY THINGS LOL"

I think they mean recreational drugs and not drugs to treat illness etc!

I have a couple of drinks usually but never have too much and have never done drugs in my life - if you need something in order to swing then you shouldn't be doing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need poppers to swing, but I do think that it is just an added extra and perfectly acceptable to use them within the realms of swinging, or indeed sex in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LETS FACE IT WHEN YOUR MEETING SOME OF THE PEOPLE OFF HERE USE NEED A FEW DRINKS .THERE NOT ALL AS GOODLOOKING AS US LOL

AND B4 USE ALL START AGAIN YEAH ITS A JOKE LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just suprised no-one has mentioned them

I don't drink, but do have play with poppers now and again.

poppers nearly killed me!! never again lmao"

Sure you didnt mix up poppers and bangers, a lit banger up your nose would certainly sting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't need poppers to swing, but I do think that it is just an added extra and perfectly acceptable to use them within the realms of swinging, or indeed sex in general."

While I think everybody is entitled to do whatever they want and part of the fun of a place like this is finding out other folks opinions of certain things, my own view is a little cautious, I think that most of the alkyl nitrites (poppers) can be fairly safely used but can be VERY dangerous if combined with other drugs, ( esp. heart medicines or viagra ) .

Its a risk VS reward situation, make your own mind up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just suprised no-one has mentioned them

I don't drink, but do have play with poppers now and again.

poppers nearly killed me!! never again lmao

Sure you didnt mix up poppers and bangers, a lit banger up your nose would certainly sting

no i stupidly let a guy hold them and he ended up tipping them up me nose the fucking div lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't see any difference between any substance that helps relax others, of course it's a totally different matter when people have become senseless.

In my younger days the social circles I travelled in all used one drug or another recreationally, , ecstasy, speed and were and still are always available.

Like anything else moderation is the key. How people can judge others for smoking a little etc when they happily sit there drinking booze strikes me as a little odd.

Correct me if I am wrong but isn't alcohol still the number one misused substance in the country creating no end of social problems and misery ?

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over a year ago

You're right about alcohol and I think its about how any sort of substance affects you

If it turns you into a mumbling,miserable paranoid wreck then it does'nt make you very attractive,therefore I know I would'nt want to be involved with anyone displaying those signs in a play situation and would steer well clear

People can take what they like when they like its up to them,most adults know the what the effects could be and make their own informed choices,my choice is to leave them to it on their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're right about alcohol and I think its about how any sort of substance affects you

People can take what they like when they like its up to them,most adults know the what the effects could be and make their own informed choices,my choice is to leave them to it on their own"

I find myself wondering now just how many, bearing in mind how nerve-racking meets etc are for most, would be - mumbling, miserable, paranoid wrecks without using one substance or another during a meet.

To date I'm the only person I know that used to swing sober, in fact I only started drinking booze again to be 'swinging social' after 15 years of being tea total.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always use date rape drugs when i am on a meet, oe shall i say my other meets use it, but just dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i always use date rape drugs when i am on a meet, oe shall i say my other meets use it, but just dont know

I swallow copious amounts of date rape drugs, still rape free here

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"You're right about alcohol and I think its about how any sort of substance affects you

People can take what they like when they like its up to them,most adults know the what the effects could be and make their own informed choices,my choice is to leave them to it on their own

To date I'm the only person I know that used to swing sober, in fact I only started drinking booze again to be 'swinging social' after 15 years of being tea total."

Steve doesn't drink before or during meets as he's usually driving! Even at home he will have a soft drink, and we meet lots of people who don't drink or just drink a small amount. We do feel nervous before meets esp if never met the couple before but don't need alcohol to go through with it! Live and let live though, if other people want to use drugs then it's their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Funny area this is for some its fine and some it really fucks them up.

Said that anything you have to depend on stimulant wise can’t be healthy long term wise. Have spoken to a few on here who have had probs with getting involved with people taking things.

Personally I veer away from it unless it’s a prescription drug prescribed to you by your own GP. As for alcohol! Hmmm well not an innocent substance and potentially as bad as many others. For me well if I am near a car it’s a no no but the word moderation comes to mind as you don’t want your performance affecting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reading some here makes me want to clarify the difference between a little snifter, or the people who have a few to relax and enjoy... to those who have a serious 'need' to get absolutely smashed.. I doubt there are many of us who have been to a party or social etc.. where there is that one or two couples who in their eyes are the life and soul... but to others are making complete fools of themselves at best or find them intimidating and even threatening at worst..

Just plain ugly in our opinion and when combined with recreational drugs as they are called.. possibly dangerous not only for them but for others around..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married to a d*unk and we dabbled in swinging, it was a huge embarrassment for me but she couldn't remember the next day anyway. So now 10 years on i dont go near anyone who is even the slightest bit d*unk/high. Spoils the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't play without the need for drink/drugs and/or 'Viagra'(with the obvious exceptions) then you have a dependency, the only difference being people simply choose to place their personal thing into their safe mental box.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you can't play without the need for drink/drugs and/or 'Viagra'(with the obvious exceptions) then you have a dependency, the only difference being people simply choose to place their personal thing into their safe mental box.

Whilst i'd agree with what your saying.. never yet seen anyone get arsey on Viagra lol..

Not even sure if it gives a high?? Does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading some here makes me want to clarify the difference between a little snifter, or the people who have a few to relax and enjoy... to those who have a serious 'need' to get absolutely smashed.. I doubt there are many of us who have been to a party or social etc.. where there is that one or two couples who in their eyes are the life and soul... but to others are making complete fools of themselves at best or find them intimidating and even threatening at worst..

Just plain ugly in our opinion and when combined with recreational drugs as they are called.. possibly dangerous not only for them but for others around.. "

Would have to agree with you there - it's not very nice being threatening towards others d*unk, stoned or sober, takes all sorts huh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst i'd agree with what your saying.. never yet seen anyone get arsey on Viagra lol..

Not even sure if it gives a high?? Does it?

Like many things depends on the situation, I'm sure a male that has popped a few Viagra down his neck, stood with a raging erection, and no one to play with would be less than happy. And given the opportunity would no doubt get a touch agitated, leading to abuse self or otherwise.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Just plain ugly in our opinion and when combined with recreational drugs as they are called.. possibly dangerous not only for them but for others around..

Would have to agree with you there - it's not very nice being threatening towards others d*unk, stoned or sober, takes all sorts huh "

Agree with you totally on that. You wouldn’t believe some people! Come over screaming and balling and you! Wow good job I always smile at such things my self!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our bottom line is: If you need to put something into yourself in order to put something into my wife.... you wanna sort your life out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My father liked his drinks, and put my mum through years of misery. He only stopped when he was informed he had about 6mths left to live

Ironically, I got his drinking gene, and can handle alcohol, unlike my siblings.

I have no time for d*unks, especially those that are violent when d*unk.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

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"My father liked his drinks, and put my mum through years of misery. He only stopped when he was informed he had about 6mths left to live

Ironically, I got his drinking gene, and can handle alcohol, unlike my siblings.

I have no time for d*unks, especially those that are violent when d*unk.

I agree, my Mum was an alcoholic and it's heart breaking, I wouldn't condemn any one with a drink problem but it isn't nice to see people falling about d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My father liked his drinks, and put my mum through years of misery. He only stopped when he was informed he had about 6mths left to live

Ironically, I got his drinking gene, and can handle alcohol, unlike my siblings.

I have no time for d*unks, especially those that are violent when d*unk.

I agree, my Mum was an alcoholic and it's heart breaking, I wouldn't condemn any one with a drink problem but it isn't nice to see people falling about d*unk."

Its so sad to see those who do and think they are being funny.. and think they are so cool doing so, when really just about everyone just thinks them nothing but stupid d*unks..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agree with you totally on that. You wouldn’t believe some people! Come over screaming and balling and you! Wow good job I always smile at such things my self!

Thats what I mean... not something they would do sober eh... Sober or straight! Shameful behaviour...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My father liked his drinks, and put my mum through years of misery. He only stopped when he was informed he had about 6mths left to live

Ironically, I got his drinking gene, and can handle alcohol, unlike my siblings.

I have no time for d*unks, especially those that are violent when d*unk.

is there such a thing as a drinking gene? lol im sure alcoholism isnt hereditary

My dad was a alcholic to the point we spent most of our childhood in care home and shipped aorund family members cause we had nothing at home, everything we had of even the slightest value was sold for beer, some days the only food we would have was the free meals we got from school, he was also very violent and abusive, even more so when he couldnt get a drink, unlike yours my dad being told he was dieing didnt seem to stop him and the drink got the better of him and killed him

Neither me or any of my brothers or sisters have a drinking problem tho, it think maybe people who drink a lot who have had a partent that drinks a lot do it out of habit, as it seems normal to them to drink because its all they have grown up knowing as apposed to them drinking because its someone how been passed on medically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there such a thing as a drinking gene? lol im sure alcoholism isnt hereditary"

I personally believe there is, not towards alcohol as such, but having a tendancy towards things of an addictive nature...

My father was alcoholic, not any longer thank god.... having a member of family or knowing someone who has a problem does tend to give you an awareness towards these things and makes you realise.

For what it's worth my opinion is that alcohol is just a bad as most drugs. Worse than others, and perhaps not quite as bad as some of the harsher things like heroin. I'd much rather be around someone who is really stoned than someone who was really d*unk.

Personally I have dabbled a bit in my time... would certainly never take anything (including usually alcohol too) if I was meeting someone. I don't really frown on people who take things, but think it's not good to meet someone that way, and if they have to then they probably have a problem that needs addressing. Still not sure if that makes them a bad person, just maybe misguided?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

man u lot go on about so much shit all the time, take drugs be happy i got herion to sell gonna go out of work soon ffs.

booze drugs who cares u are adults if u dont wanna play with a piss head junkie dont init.

i think the world looks a much better place when ur sitting in a pile of your own piss and cant speak/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there such a thing as a drinking gene? lol im sure alcoholism isnt hereditary

I personally believe there is, not towards alcohol as such, but having a tendancy towards things of an addictive nature...

Do you not just think that learned behaviour tho?

Growing up to do things that you've grown up seeing as a child?

If you have grown up around drungs and drink maybe because it seems normal to you you are more likely to do it.

They recon over 80% of teenegaers who smoke will have at least one parent that smokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there such a thing as a drinking gene? lol im sure alcoholism isnt hereditary

I personally believe there is, not towards alcohol as such, but having a tendancy towards things of an addictive nature...

Do you not just think that learned behaviour tho?

Growing up to do things that you've grown up seeing as a child?

If you have grown up around drungs and drink maybe because it seems normal to you you are more likely to do it.

They recon over 80% of teenegaers who smoke will have at least one parent that smokes"

Well you've got me thinking now and maybe you are right... its a complicated question I guess, there are many reasons why people habitually use and abuse substances, maybe it's a combination of both our views? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there such a thing as a drinking gene? lol im sure alcoholism isnt hereditary

I personally believe there is, not towards alcohol as such, but having a tendancy towards things of an addictive nature...

Do you not just think that learned behaviour tho?

Growing up to do things that you've grown up seeing as a child?

If you have grown up around drungs and drink maybe because it seems normal to you you are more likely to do it.

They recon over 80% of teenegaers who smoke will have at least one parent that smokes

steady on we'll be getting onto the whole nature v nurture debate soon, over a glass of wine maybe

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just think 'in the scene' its wrong to get off ya face then in someones face... aggressivness when d*unk or shitfaced is just ugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do have additive personalities, they tend to roll from one addiction/obsession to the next. Take a look at some of the forum posters, chat room users and tell me addicted, obsessed or just plain mad lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People do have additive personalities, they tend to roll from one addiction/obsession to the next. Take a look at some of the forum posters, chat room users and tell me addicted, obsessed or just plain mad lol"

Most though have self control.. and a deeper understanding of right and wrong. Besides a little madness helps eh......

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I don't have a dribk problem - I've pretty much figured it out.

There's a secret to drinking - its callled a Personal Tolerance Limit: the trick is not to go over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a dribk problem - I've pretty much figured it out.

There's a secret to drinking - its callled a Personal Tolerance Limit: the trick is not to go over it

Agree with that, no your limits and stay within them.

For those that have no idea what a reasonable limit is there are controls in place to remind them, such as being asked/forced to leave, bans from pubs, clubs etc. Some need more reminding that others as they are either unable or unwilling to learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most people like a drink no one likes a d*unk!! there has been a lot of research into alcoholism and the "alcoholic gene" but most of time it comes into the persons way of dealing with the experience.some never drink some go on to the same pattern of behaviour.alcohol is the legal drug with a big tax income same as nicotine hence why it never be banned!found this to be a very good post and many good points well done!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"most people like a drink no one likes a d*unk!! found this to be a very good post and many good points well done!! xx"

Wonders what it would end up like if the d*unks come in later lol...

Like the Jeremy Kyle Show some will see, read take it in.. then get pissed and be the same.. Hence so many willing to make themselves look so stupid on TV as well as parties and socials maybe??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stupid on tv its the desire for 15 mins of fame!! never will understand why anyone feels the urge to go on that show ritual humiliation you can get councelling through the nhs without havin to broadcast it to the nation!! i have been waitin on abuse actually because of the post but really dont give a shit i stand by what i said!!

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