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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney

I’m not the best at composing messages so I could do with some tips to help me with getting better responses on here as I’m having no real luck on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd be better off putting a bit of effort into your profile first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with sweetheart.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Look at your profile and think about whether it would stand out and appeal to people you're looking for (this is generic advice)

Read profiles and message those whose preferences you think you meet

Use the information in the profile to shape your message

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I’m not the best at composing messages so I could do with some tips to help me with getting better responses on here as I’m having no real luck on here"

OK.

So if someone gave you tips on writing messages that might help.

If someone else gave you tips on creating a profile that drew people in that might also help.

If someone then accompanied you to social meets to help keep conversations going and ease any nerves then that might also help.

And then if you got any play meets someone could sit on the sidelines and give pointers then too, to make sure you provided the right kind of physical stimulation.

Obviously I'm not being serious about most of the above.

But the point is this. The second other people start doing the work for you, be it a message or a profile rewrite - the interaction between you and someone else stops being just that and becomes an interaction between you, the other party and whoever is giving pointers or tips, or who helped recreate your profile.

If people want to be sure they are getting a tue picture of someone via a profile and/or a message then the content needs to come from them, not anyone else.

You (generic 'you', not you specifically) wouldn't ask someone to go to a meet on your behalf and fuck someone. Why ask them to help enable that meet in the first place?

At some point - ideally from day one - people need to take responsibility for rhein own interactions rather than rely on assistance from others. Not helpful I know, possibly comes across as harsh, but it's really the only way people can see the real 'you' and therefore establish if they're attracted to you and interested in meeting.

A

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Probably best not to send messages. Join in with forum/cam room chat and good luck!

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney


"I’m not the best at composing messages so I could do with some tips to help me with getting better responses on here as I’m having no real luck on here

OK.

So if someone gave you tips on writing messages that might help.

If someone else gave you tips on creating a profile that drew people in that might also help.

If someone then accompanied you to social meets to help keep conversations going and ease any nerves then that might also help.

And then if you got any play meets someone could sit on the sidelines and give pointers then too, to make sure you provided the right kind of physical stimulation.

Obviously I'm not being serious about most of the above.

But the point is this. The second other people start doing the work for you, be it a message or a profile rewrite - the interaction between you and someone else stops being just that and becomes an interaction between you, the other party and whoever is giving pointers or tips, or who helped recreate your profile.

If people want to be sure they are getting a tue picture of someone via a profile and/or a message then the content needs to come from them, not anyone else.

You (generic 'you', not you specifically) wouldn't ask someone to go to a meet on your behalf and fuck someone. Why ask them to help enable that meet in the first place?

At some point - ideally from day one - people need to take responsibility for rhein own interactions rather than rely on assistance from others. Not helpful I know, possibly comes across as harsh, but it's really the only way people can see the real 'you' and therefore establish if they're attracted to you and interested in meeting.

A"

point taken

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle


"I’m not the best at composing messages so I could do with some tips to help me with getting better responses on here as I’m having no real luck on here

OK.

So if someone gave you tips on writing messages that might help.

If someone else gave you tips on creating a profile that drew people in that might also help.

If someone then accompanied you to social meets to help keep conversations going and ease any nerves then that might also help.

And then if you got any play meets someone could sit on the sidelines and give pointers then too, to make sure you provided the right kind of physical stimulation.

Obviously I'm not being serious about most of the above.

But the point is this. The second other people start doing the work for you, be it a message or a profile rewrite - the interaction between you and someone else stops being just that and becomes an interaction between you, the other party and whoever is giving pointers or tips, or who helped recreate your profile.

If people want to be sure they are getting a tue picture of someone via a profile and/or a message then the content needs to come from them, not anyone else.

You (generic 'you', not you specifically) wouldn't ask someone to go to a meet on your behalf and fuck someone. Why ask them to help enable that meet in the first place?

At some point - ideally from day one - people need to take responsibility for rhein own interactions rather than rely on assistance from others. Not helpful I know, possibly comes across as harsh, but it's really the only way people can see the real 'you' and therefore establish if they're attracted to you and interested in meeting.

A"

Great response.

And good luck OP hopefully the advice given helps you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join in the forum fun get to know people.

You can learn a lot about people from their posts and sometimes if you're lucky then something more comes from this.

The main thing to do would be read the person's profile and construct a message based upon that.

Be patient as well this isn't instashag be prepared to make friends before anything else.

Good luck with everything

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney

Thanks for the tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi slag, fancy a fuck? Usually works for me and don't forget at least 4 cock pics at different angles.

Guranteed winner.

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney

Thanks love the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oi slag, fancy a fuck? Usually works for me and don't forget at least 4 cock pics at different angles.

Guranteed winner."

Behave yourself you, I’ve just spilt my brew.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

I see no improvement?

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney


"I see no improvement?"

What else can I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As brutal as it sounds, you need to heed the advice above and work it out for yourself.

We don’t know you, and don’t know how to ‘sell’ you to your target audience.

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney


"As brutal as it sounds, you need to heed the advice above and work it out for yourself.

We don’t know you, and don’t know how to ‘sell’ you to your target audience. "

sound

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Smile in profile pics.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I see no improvement?

What else can I do

"

You could improve you bio maybe? Do you think your profile is the best it can be. Are you attached as you can’t accommodate and your status? You really think most women would be excited by that. You need to up your game as there are hundreds of better profiles on here. Good luck

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By *audrig OP   Man
over a year ago

killarney


"I see no improvement?

What else can I do

You could improve you bio maybe? Do you think your profile is the best it can be. Are you attached as you can’t accommodate and your status? You really think most women would be excited by that. You need to up your game as there are hundreds of better profiles on here. Good luck"

ok

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