FabSwingers.com forum: Says he’s fallen for me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

To my mind, sounds like a "block and ignore" situation. Rings way to many bells and all are bad bells.

But obviously you and I might see things differently.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Explain you are not looking for the same things, wish him all the best and let him know you will not be communicating any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's more red flags than the Chinese Communist party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a red flag. I'd block him and move on, this could turn to stalking if you're not careful. Please take care OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run!

And block!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Definitely a block everywhere and pretend it never happened.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

"This is a red flag. I'd block him and move on, this could turn to stalking if you're not careful. Please take care OP x"

This. Good luck and stay safe.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Run!

And block!

This

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"

That’s not healthy at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run for the hills

But also do the decent thing and don’t just ghost

Let him down gently

Tell him you had a lovely time and the sex was wonderful but you weren’t looking for anything other than that and wish him the best off luck in the future

Try to get out off it without the need for blocking and such

If the worst comes to the worst block button

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"

I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Op, follow your gut feeling..

The same gut feeling that led to this post, which in my honest opinion is telling you to cut all contact..

Wish you well..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a red flag. I'd block him and move on, this could turn to stalking if you're not careful. Please take care OP x

This. Good luck and stay safe. "

Definitely

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By *r AnalyticMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

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By *r AnalyticMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

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By *r AnalyticMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"

Then he is useing you to move on. If his life home was good but the physical wasn't happening then he wouldn't come out with that statement.

I would say cut ties unless you want a knock on the door by the wife

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By *r AnalyticMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Sorry for the last two deletes spelling and grammar are not my strong points

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By *yster07Man
over a year ago

all over

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"

Ask for his bank details before you run....I'm in need of a service (car)

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

I think you know what to do and the feedback here is pretty unanimous...

Unless of course you want a bit of drama and yes that does happen!

Nowt as queer as folk..

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I agree with previous replies OP.

Definitely send a polite message saying enjoyed your company blah blah blah, sorry I don’t want any further contact, please respect that, thank you and goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs you all over react have a chat explain one way or the other a real conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block he’s married and my advice would be that could turn out to be a complete and utter nightmare for you his wife and any children involved.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

You need to have a conversation with him About how you are feeling too as you're clearly not on the same page

Don't ghost that's just awful

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By *rs D.Woman
over a year ago

Tyne And Wear

"You need to have a conversation with him About how you are feeling too as you're clearly not on the same page

Don't ghost that's just awful "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a conversation and tell him that’s too much for you to deal with.

It’s not for us to try to psychoanalysis him

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just say something along the lines of “look Dave, I know my pussy is magical but we got to face reality here. You’re married and I just want some light hearted, carefree sex. I don’t want to be tied down. We both want different things. So, if you really love me, you’ll set me free. And who knows, another time….another place, things could have been different. Take care sweetcheeks” *block him*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Psychoanalyse ….

Bloody hell

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By *yster07Man
over a year ago

all over

"Just say something along the lines of “look Dave, I know my pussy is magical but we got to face reality here. You’re married and I just want some light hearted, carefree sex. I don’t want to be tied down. We both want different things. So, if you really love me, you’ll set me free. And who knows, another time….another place, things could have been different. Take care sweetcheeks” *block him*"

....magical you say....where would you find these delightful things??

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Delete and block.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Tell him to get a grip!

For me it would be a massive turn off and I probably wouldn't meet up with him again.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?

I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags "

So it's her fault?? I don't think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even men can be bunny boilers. Be kind say you don't feel it.

Haven't read other comments or the threat.

If he can't take no yes Men some of yous can't just block.

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

This is the reason I'd steer clear of anyone who is in a 'dead' marriage. It doesn't take much to ignite a spark in someone who has been feeling physically neglected by a long term partner for a long period of time.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"You need to have a conversation with him About how you are feeling too as you're clearly not on the same page

Don't ghost that's just awful "

She doesn't owe him anything though. He's a stranger. He's over stepped a boundary. It's perfectly acceptable to just walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had my share of stalkers , let him know upfront that you are uncomfortable and he's being a pest . This will sound harsh but you need to be firm and not nice about it ...if you put it nicely it will make him think there is hope and he will attempt to wear you down. BE VERY CLEAR AND FIRM , HARSH EVEN ...take it from someone who has been there..it will get worse.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

He is confusing lust with love.

It can end up vary damaging for you both, so the best thing is to cut your ties, unless you feel the same.

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Ive fallen for my right hand so cant complain lol

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

That's easy tell his wife Job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he not read Forum Posts?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Ignore and block.

Best not to get involved in his mess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had my share of stalkers , let him know upfront that you are uncomfortable and he's being a pest . This will sound harsh but you need to be firm and not nice about it ...if you put it nicely it will make him think there is hope and he will attempt to wear you down. BE VERY CLEAR AND FIRM , HARSH EVEN ...take it from someone who has been there..it will get worse."

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And where is the esteemed verification he has left you? Let’s read it

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Wow he sounds a bit full on

Big red flag, I'd have to say not meeting again and block

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

The biggest red flag to me would be thats he's married...wouldn't have even considered meeting him if i knew this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"

Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Explain to him that he's coming on to strong, if he takes no notice, THEN block and delete. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has the potential to go sideways ...you guys are saying block and delete but it might not be that simple.

OP you said he is married so assuming you guys met up at yours ? so he knows where you live ?

Also assuming you swapped numbers as well ?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?

Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?"

That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

OP, I'd tell him that you're looking for different things, then block. You're making a nice clear statement that way, no unanswered questions for him.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be firm with your boundaries, what do you want? If its not the same as him, move on, tell him that. I'm guessing the love bombing will only get worse. Try and lead your actions with your head, not your heart.

Alarm bells ringing for me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Married or not. Fab or normal dating site. Anyone who says that, after one meeting. Massive red flag. RUN!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im scared and im only reading this,,down tools and tell him it's not what you looking for

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

holy shit run for the hills,,

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?

I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags

So it's her fault?? I don't think so."

Absolutly not you cretin...

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By *r AnalyticMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Ok the OP has come off the site. Does anyone know this person and got there number if so please check in on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, you must be amazingly gorgeous to fall for after just once….. Call me???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a way to go i suppose

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"This is a way to go i suppose"

There is no other way just blocking wouldn't be enough as can still see bit's of your actively the man in question can see everything put down in forum and make contact though it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, you must be amazingly gorgeous to fall for after just once….. Call me???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to involve police once with a couple I met

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By *ess JinksWoman
over a year ago

West coast

"Run for the hills

But also do the decent thing and don’t just ghost

Let him down gently

Tell him you had a lovely time and the sex was wonderful but you weren’t looking for anything other than that and wish him the best off luck in the future

Try to get out off it without the need for blocking and such

If the worst comes to the worst block button "

The psychology of a stalker is a scary one, so I agree with the advice. Let down gently but definitively. Don't block straight away. But don't re-engage.

Speaking from experience.

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?

That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.

Mrs TMN x "

As my dear departed nan used to say, "it takes two to tango.."

How is this situation not at least 50% the fault of the person who knowingly agreed to meet someone else's husband?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?

That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.

Mrs TMN x

As my dear departed nan used to say, "it takes two to tango.."

How is this situation not at least 50% the fault of the person who knowingly agreed to meet someone else's husband? "

Ummm... I don't think his marital status has anything to do with the OP being accused of telling him lies to make him fall in love with her. That's a whole other conversation. In any case, OP has left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, you must be amazingly gorgeous to fall for after just once….. Call me???

Haha.

I stand by what I said on another thread. I get half a story from a short post from an UNLOS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???"

Escalated? Maybe To marriage?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Tell him you don't feel that way and to ease up on the messages. If he doesn't comply block him. It's a common phenomena for people in unhappy marriages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell him you don't feel that way and to ease up on the messages. If he doesn't comply block him. It's a common phenomena for people in unhappy marriages."

user no longer on site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???

Escalated? Maybe To marriage?

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not even remotely funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???

Escalated? Maybe To marriage?

not even remotely funny

I laughed from a geographical distance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no, she's gone. I do hope she's ok x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Anyone concerned about the wife of the married man she met up with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???

Escalated? Maybe To marriage?

not even remotely funny

You started it

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