FabSwingers.com forum: Just why lol....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it I meet potential playmates that I chat to and get to know before I agree to meet and they seem perfectly fine. Then they turn out to be utter psychopaths.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The internet attracts crazies. Who knew?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blame Google

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last one I thought I met a really nice person we had one play session the when we met a second time all the crazy came out.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Define crazy?

Unstable, emotionally unavailable, dangerous?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Maybe you secretly like it so do something to encourage it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you secretly like it so do something to encourage it. "

Good point. If it keeps happening then the problem might be a bit closer to home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last one I thought I met a really nice person we had one play session the when we met a second time all the crazy came out."

I need to hear about the crazy?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it I meet potential playmates that I chat to and get to know before I agree to meet and they seem perfectly fine. Then they turn out to be utter psychopaths....."

Can you elaborate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves gets too them maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Define crazy?

Unstable, emotionally unavailable, dangerous?"

Very emotionally unstable I always have the conversation about boundaries and being safe also tell them from the start I'm poly so not always available and on the second meet she said she wanted me all to herself. Them got angry when I told her that can't happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe you secretly like it so do something to encourage it. "

Maybe but I don't think i do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nerves gets too them maybe."

Maybe but I'm always very clear about my intentions so they know what they ate getting into.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Define crazy?

Unstable, emotionally unavailable, dangerous?

I've left the site on a previous profile because of exactly this except she reserved the right to continue to meet others whenever she wanted but insisted I was exclusive to her.

I was upfront with her from day one and her friends told her she was being idiotic about it but the amount of drama she created was unbelievable so I walked away completely for over a year.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I hear you mate. Exactly same happened to me very recently. We went very well for a short period of time. Lots of good time and fun and suddenly she turned to controlling, extremely jealous, emotional with nasty comments to my previous relationship etc… And worst of all she was the first one I felt really good with after divorce. I even thought this might work long term one moment. May be I just unconsciously looking for such partners? Have no idea. Just really, really feel like shit now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not going to let it sacre me off as you said I'm also very clear about everything from the start. You have to be honest and open or it just doesn't work and people end up hurt. I don't get it maybe I have to reevaluate the way I do things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hear you mate. Exactly same happened to me very recently. We went very well for a short period of time. Lots of good time and fun and suddenly she turned to controlling, extremely jealous, emotional with nasty comments to my previous relationship etc… And worst of all she was the first one I felt really good with after divorce. I even thought this might work long term one moment. May be I just unconsciously looking for such partners? Have no idea. Just really, really feel like shit now."

Yep same here but I'm not giving up I don't want loads of partners just one good one that understands will do me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Them got angry when I told her that can't happen."

Them's the breaks.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Are these meets with people from here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are these meets with people from here?"

No not from here one was from a poly site and one was from f e t l I f e.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Are these meets with people from here?

No not from here one was from a poly site and one was from f e t l I f e.

Oh ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are these meets with people from here?

No not from here one was from a poly site and one was from f e t l I f e.

Oh ok. "

To be fair this site probably isn't the best place for me to meet people. But you don't get if you don't try.

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