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"I have been where you are. All I can say is make the best of any opportunities to spend time together. Take videos, audio as I don’t have those of my Dad and I’d love to hear his voice again. Does your Dad have a Macmillan nurse? As they can be very helpful for the whole family. Feel free to send a private massage if you’d rather and would like to talk more. " Good lucky trying to get a MacMillan nurse Never ever available or return calls | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through similar situations. Last night I found out that my old man has been diagnosed with cancer. Not just a simple stage 1, he’s gone the whole hog and is at stage 4. I’ve shot up north to see him and he seems ok but I’m falling apart inside. I don’t dare Google it as I don’t think I want to see what it says Has anyone else had someone close to them diagnosed with this and what did you do to cope. I’m terrified of living in a world without my dad! " Had this happen with both my parents in 2019… and honestly, whatever you’re feeling and scared of, they are feeling it even worse and need your support. Ask him what he needs, how you can help and just spend time together doing as much as they can/want. This could be the last time you get a chance to | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through similar situations. Last night I found out that my old man has been diagnosed with cancer. Not just a simple stage 1, he’s gone the whole hog and is at stage 4. I’ve shot up north to see him and he seems ok but I’m falling apart inside. I don’t dare Google it as I don’t think I want to see what it says Has anyone else had someone close to them diagnosed with this and what did you do to cope. I’m terrified of living in a world without my dad! Had this happen with both my parents in 2019… and honestly, whatever you’re feeling and scared of, they are feeling it even worse and need your support. Ask him what he needs, how you can help and just spend time together doing as much as they can/want. This could be the last time you get a chance to " I’ll try and help all I can. It’s a bit tricky as I live in London now and my parents live up north. I think I need to take some time off work | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through similar situations. Last night I found out that my old man has been diagnosed with cancer. Not just a simple stage 1, he’s gone the whole hog and is at stage 4. I’ve shot up north to see him and he seems ok but I’m falling apart inside. I don’t dare Google it as I don’t think I want to see what it says Has anyone else had someone close to them diagnosed with this and what did you do to cope. I’m terrified of living in a world without my dad! Had this happen with both my parents in 2019… and honestly, whatever you’re feeling and scared of, they are feeling it even worse and need your support. Ask him what he needs, how you can help and just spend time together doing as much as they can/want. This could be the last time you get a chance to " Superb advice | |||
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"I have been where you are. All I can say is make the best of any opportunities to spend time together. Take videos, audio as I don’t have those of my Dad and I’d love to hear his voice again. Does your Dad have a Macmillan nurse? As they can be very helpful for the whole family. Feel free to send a private massage if you’d rather and would like to talk more. Good lucky trying to get a MacMillan nurse Never ever available or return calls " totally wrong these MacMillan nurse work way harder than any normal nurse i did a 6 week placement with them years ago as part of my training there focus is a on the person with cancer and b immediate family .... these nurse's are the super man of the nursing profession i learnt so much from them so much that after i did my nursing i went on to do my mental health nursing too ... the problem is theres not enough thats not down to the charity thats down to the tight wallets of political parties now and past blue and red | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through similar situations. Last night I found out that my old man has been diagnosed with cancer. Not just a simple stage 1, he’s gone the whole hog and is at stage 4. I’ve shot up north to see him and he seems ok but I’m falling apart inside. I don’t dare Google it as I don’t think I want to see what it says Has anyone else had someone close to them diagnosed with this and what did you do to cope. I’m terrified of living in a world without my dad! " Focus on the now. He’s still here. As strange as it sounds worrying about what will happen will rob you - and more importantly him - of the time you both have. Take some time off work. Go stay nearby (give him space, he needs to process this and may want to do that without his son seeing that bit). And look after yourself. Neglecting yourself won’t help the situation. I’m not religious, but someone told me we are all on loan and eventually our maker wants us home. I like that. | |||
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"We have both had cancer and my mum died from it. Get any help you need, talk to people, don't worry about having a cry showing your feelings. Most importantly tell your dad you love him while you can. We both missed that opportunity when our mums died. Big hugs things are hard however it does get easier. " xxx | |||
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" Take videos, audio as I don’t have those of my Dad and I’d love to hear his voice again. . " This, this and more this. Not cancer related but My dad died with dementia and my mum died of natural causes. Anyhow my Niece sent over a video of her kids at my Mum and Dads house, and to hear natural daily conversations, tellings off and naggings was amazing and deeply emotional. I'd nearly say voice over images. | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through ...." Im going through this right now, but my dad lives close by. Diagnosed terminal in January. We will get through this mate | |||
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"I know this seems an odd place to post something like this but I’m struggling and thought I’d ask how other people got through similar situations. Last night I found out that my old man has been diagnosed with cancer. Not just a simple stage 1, he’s gone the whole hog and is at stage 4. I’ve shot up north to see him and he seems ok but I’m falling apart inside. I don’t dare Google it as I don’t think I want to see what it says Has anyone else had someone close to them diagnosed with this and what did you do to cope. I’m terrified of living in a world without my dad! " My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal prostate cancer 5 years ago and was given 12 - 18 months. 3 years ago he was in a hospice family had come from all over to his bedside while the priest gave his last rights. Somehow he made it through that night and is still with us for how much longer now I don't know. Having this extra time has allowed me to really appreciate so much him meeting my wife attending our wedding and meeting our 2 baby's. He now has dementia vascular and the cancer has spread significantly but some how he fights on, he has the old school British mentally though of always getting back. Whilst it's been hard I'm at the stage now where I've made peace with it and he has more than earned his rest when the say comes. My good mate lost his Dad in a freak accident which left so much unresolved so I'd rather my experience to that. It's been harder on my brother living in Wales (my dad is local to me in Teesside). If you wanna talk PM me. KJ Mr | |||
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