FabSwingers.com forum: ED

By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

Ok I’m gonna throw this topic out there as I don’t think guys talk about it enough due to stigma and I don’t think enough women understand issues guys have.

I suffer from anxiety and being with a new partner in the bedroom can bring this on and lead to not much going on down there which then adds to more anxiety and then even less going on etc etc etc

I know I’m not the only one and this is why I tend not to meet very much unless we really click and I can feel comfortable.

Also just to point out, it could also be a reason a guy cancels a meet last minute! ! !

Just thought I’d share this as a ED support thread more than anything else

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

Have you sought help? As in gone to see a doctor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check this forum for a thread named .....

TRT - Testosterone Replacement

This will help you

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

It’s not a medical issue.

It’s a mental illness issue.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Do you masturbate?

Stop doing that

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

"Do you masturbate?

Stop doing that "

Thank you for trying to help, but thats not what I’m here for.

I’m sure that would be an issue for some people but that’s not what my issue is.

I just wanted to create an open space for guys to console.

Not for guys that don’t have an issue to try and fix others issue with throw away comments ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks OP. I think pointing out a possible reason for someone else's behaviour that is a bit more nuanced than "time wasting twat" is airways worth it.

There is always an assumption here that any person who does a no show is automatically an arsehole. While I'm sure some are, and I definitely agree that a no show is not a good way to respond to inner difficulties, I do wonder though at the seeming total lack of suggestions to explain the behaviour beyond "what a prick". You are of course right, men as well as women do suffer with anxiety, agoraphobia and low self worth and I'm quite sure many no shows are triggered by this.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Do you masturbate?

Stop doing that

Thank you for trying to help, but thats not what I’m here for.

I’m sure that would be an issue for some people but that’s not what my issue is.

I just wanted to create an open space for guys to console.

Not for guys that don’t have an issue to try and fix others issue with throw away comments ha "

It’s not a throw away comment. It’s how I fixed mine

So many guys with ED completely ignore the fact that they are over stimulated with porn and masturbate too much

Don’t masturbate for 2 weeks, then see how you get on, if there’s still an issue then we have other things to tackle. But to fix ED you need to take it step by step and the 1st step is seeing if you are masturbating too much

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"It’s not a medical issue.

It’s a mental illness issue. "

It can be both tbf, I appreciate that with you it may be mental. I'm very anxious about lots of things at the moment and it definitely can have an effect on sex drive.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s not a medical issue.

It’s a mental illness issue. "

There are many medical conditions that can cause ED, and medications taken for certain medical conditions can also cause ED

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had about six months of it turned out I had a blood clot that needed to be zapped, apparently it's an early warning sign for many conditions and shouldn't be ignored

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By *dging-In-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

I've had issues previously and I also have anxiety/depression.

Some medication for that is known to cause issues so talk to your GP like I did and they can switch it.

Worked wonders for me.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Good on you for speaking open and honestly as well as providing a space for others to do so.

I've had troubles with anxiety and it's definitely impacted hugely on both general libido and being able to get and maintain an erection. Like others have said, some form of psychological input would be a good start to help you identify the root causes of your anxiety as well as being able to develop tools to manage it better. I personally found it to be a great decision.

Some medications, especially those for anxiety/depression, are known to cause problems with sexual function. If you take anything for your anxiety, it would be worthwhile discussing with your GP/pharmacist to make them aware of the potentially adverse effects. This will allow them to maybe trial something different which may not carry the same side effects

Only you know what will work best for you though and hopefully this thread gives some helpful info/advice/coping methods.

All the best mate!

C (mr) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After having covid i had it for about 4 months as a long covid hang over luckily it has fucked right off now soft wanks arnt much fun

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

"Good on you for speaking open and honestly as well as providing a space for others to do so.

Only you know what will work best for you though and hopefully this thread gives some helpful info/advice/coping methods.

All the best mate!

C (mr) x"

Thanks for the great response.

Yeah I’m off all meds now.

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I think this is a great thread, I suffer horribly at times with anxiety and whilst I don’t have a penis for it to affect, it gets to me in many other ways such as not being feeling able to meet if it’s particularly bad to not being able to reach orgasm on meets. I think it hugely important to increase awareness on the different ways mental health struggles can impact us.

I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

"I think this is a great thread, I suffer horribly at times with anxiety and whilst I don’t have a penis for it to affect, it gets to me in many other ways such as not being feeling able to meet if it’s particularly bad to not being able to reach orgasm on meets. I think it hugely important to increase awareness on the different ways mental health struggles can impact us.

I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here

It’s nice to hear from ladies that suffer similar issues.

I think it’s important to speak about the mental health side of this site and respect other peoples needs.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it? "

Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.

I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?

Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.

I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.

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And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet?

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By *inkyEssexGuy OP Man
over a year ago

southend

"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?

Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.

I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.

And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet? "

Oh I do. I used to meet quite often on here a few years back , people seemed a lot more friendly then and there would be way more conversations. It’s gone a bit like horny tinder on here now though sadly.

I mean I’m a great lay so they are missing out haha

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?

Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.

I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.

And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet?

I mean I’m a great lay so they are missing out haha "
You appear to have a positive attitude so I'm sure you'll do OK.

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

Anxiety can be a killer for me at times too... we're only human, dont try to be a machine, slow things down and try to go easy on yourself when it happens.

Mr C-B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here

It’s nice to hear from ladies that suffer similar issues.

I think it’s important to speak about the mental health side of this site and respect other peoples needs. "

Another lady here who suffers in much the same way as StarflyLou. Not got much to add, just know you're not alone. X

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