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Can sexual attraction be built?

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

you go out meet someone they are a great person but there’s no physical or sexual attraction, can it be built?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you build it, they will come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me personally, been there, tried it. Disasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im attracted to someone sexually from their personality over there looks anyway so if you already know they are a great person but your not attracted to them then I’d say it’s probably not something you can just build on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its possible for me to find someone more attractive once I get to know them, but we'd have to really get on and connect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no

Really depends

On what I am looking for in that person

Ie if I am looking for someone to date and settle down with then yes

As looks comes and sexually attractiveness take a back seat to

Personality

If the person is just for sexy time then probably not as there wouldn’t be time spent to build appon it

But also it’s a multiple layer question as well

Depending on the gender off the person as well

Ie woman wouldn’t lead them on just for a bang would tell them straight up they not for me but can be friends

Couple the same

Tv/ts would say we can be friends but that’s it

For guys this whare it gets a bit complicated

It’s all depends on the effort put in on the outcome

meaning if we meet for coffee in a public place mid afternoon would probably tell them they not for me

If they wine and dine me with a hotel room booked for after

I would let them bang ones as a thank you for the night and then tell them they aren’t really for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak from a personal perspective. Which is, for the purposes of how I use Fab…..no. If I don’t fancy a person straight away, no amount of personality, etc will sway me to finding them sexually attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me personally, been there, tried it. Disasters. "

This. It can inadvertently cause a lot of hurt.

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

I ask because I met a girl we’ve been speaking for a while, at the weekend she got pissed and I drove her home she asked me to stop and have a drink, she fell asleep on me on the sofa, woke up and asked me to put her to bed which I did she then demanded I got in for a cuddle she fell asleep, I left

In the morn I got a text saying It was a shame she wasn’t physically attracted to me :/

An before anyone says it I’m not really physically attracted to her

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Personally, no. If there isn't any physical attraction at the start then it's never going to come, no matter how much I like their personality.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I used to think no but not sure if it’s as I’ve gotten older but I find personality and making me laugh can make me sexually attracted to someone ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so. Sometimes when you just click with someone they become 10x more attractive.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.

Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh

If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster


"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.

Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh

If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it "

So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its an instant thing like instinct see if she makes you nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" you go out meet someone they are a great person but there’s no physical or sexual attraction, can it be built? "

Maybe, if you are compatible, looking to build a similar kind of relationship, don't find them radically unattractive/a turn off - more meh/neutral. Then as your feelings grow, their attractiveness can grow.

A persons personality can also be a turn off even if they are good looking IMO.

Sin xo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if she agrees to sit on my face

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Nope tried it and fucked up both of our lives.

I'll never do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.

Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh

If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it

So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way"

If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster


"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.

Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh

If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it

So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way

If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure "

like I don’t wanna see her hurt or be the one responsible for hurting her, so when she text and said that was she protecting me? Or genuinely wishing she was into me

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster


"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.

Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh

If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it

So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way

If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure like I don’t wanna see her hurt or be the one responsible for hurting her, so when she text and said that was she protecting me? Or genuinely wishing she was into me "

I got d*unk an told her I loved her 6months ago, she didn’t speak to me for 3 months cuz it freaked her out, she thought I meant in a romantic sense

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Well Thsts what most people would think if you didn’t make it clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

presumably you mean grow rather than built?

Yes, It can. I've had it with several relationships in my life time. As others have said there needs to be a connection, and as we get to know each other better that turned sexual.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No, if they don’t give me that zing they ain’t filling my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a lab? Or Japanese nerds basement perhaps?

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster


"presumably you mean grow rather than built?

Yes, It can. I've had it with several relationships in my life time. As others have said there needs to be a connection, and as we get to know each other better that turned sexual.

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yes poor choice of words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Demisexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest with her and tell her you don't see her like that and you just want to be friends.

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

Tbf I said I don’t do the things I do to get her to be attracted to me or think that she already does!!

Just confused as to why she brought it up out of nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually know within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone if I would or not.

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

But when nothin was mentioned I’m confused why she said it lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It has, in the past.

As I can't tell who it will happen with I have to have some interest in them as a person.

I am more likely to stop feeling sexually attracted to someone if I become annoyed with their behaviour and treatment of people. Or, if the relationship remains on one note - it gets boring.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Yes and it has in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, I am surprised at these responses. I must be ‘odd’ - I can be attracted to someone but then get to know them and be completely put off. I can then not really notice someone, but then get to know them and I get totally into them. No matter how attracted I am to someone, unless there is no mental stimulation and a spark of magic I would never. I do have a very specific type though.

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By *iddylad87 OP   Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Built? No. It can’t be forced or worked at.

But I think it can happen, some would call it a ‘spark’

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes.

I am great at talking my way into peoples pants, yet look like the back end of a bus

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