FabSwingers.com forum: Face filters on pictures ….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So after just having a social on here and meeting somebody that looked nothing like the person I expected to meet I was curious about others thoughts on these types of pictures ? I’m not wanting to name and shame and I did have an polite adult conversation about this with them to their face and also take some of the responsibility, I do feel like it’s a little misleading like using old photos from years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using any form of beauty filter is 100% catfishing. I understand people wanting to represent the best part of themselves, wanting to feel good, to feel confident but if you are using those pictures to meet people it is very misleading.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I think they're often quite easy to spot as the skin looks overly smooth, the eyes often look unnatural and some of them give a weird pointed chin. They weird me out the most when people use filters on babies and young children's faces as their skin is already super smooth!

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I've never used a filter, other than to change the background effect of a phone - for example to blur the background of a portrait pic. I would never dream of changing my appearance as I certainly don't want to mislead or delude anyone into thinking they're getting something I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the type of filter I think. I'm not sure what a face filter is so can't really comment on that but I use colour and lighting filters on our pics. I don't agree with anything that completely changes the way someone looks though.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Never use filters and I wear glasses.

i always send an everyday face photo so people really see what I look like! Plenty of them in my friends’ gallery too.

No point in misleading people.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I don’t use one on the standard couple of face pics. There’s just no point. Those same photos are my profile photos on other platforms & are all less than 12 months old.

I think on some of the Fab photos that if I’ve changed the colour filter, it naturally changes on my face too but still looks like me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m all for using filters to be creative to enhance the photo, colours, lighting, fun ones but not to completely change the look and age, like most I do need that attraction as well as the mental one. I could see it was a filtered set of images but didn’t think it was quite as much as it clearly was, it’s more like I feel It was misleading than anything else like I explained to them. I accepted the apology and move on with no hard feelings.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

What do you define as a filter?

Snap chat type ones that “beautify” you?

Smoothing skin?

Altering body shape/composition?

Using black and white or other colour altered photos?

Using creative angles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A photo only tells you a tiny bit about a person, but you'd expect to recognise them in person from their pics! I'm not a fan of filters, I find them quite childish, but each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s also about the time you put into getting to know somebody giving them attention, building the connection through long conversations and then also the 2 hours traveling to meet, it’s such a waste of everyone’s time, maybe they just expect guys to not care and not say anything about it. Again not a personal attack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree op, I kinda get why people do it on social media platforms but when you plan to meet people in real life, you hope that they share a pic that actually looks like them or it can make for a very awkward first meet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sort of understand why people do it, if they feel insecure about their natural appearance, although they're doing themselves no favours in the long run. Lots of us on here use clever lighting and flattering angles to make ourselves look slimmer/more athletic/better endowed. Is that equally deceptive? Years ago I met a bloke who had used filters to make his penis look bigger and face pics from a decade before. That was a surprise! Back then I was too afraid of hurting people's feelings to mention anything. Silly me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed. I met a woman recently and it was clear her pic on Fab was taken years ago…..why? It’s not like you won’t spot this when you meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m all for using filters to be creative to enhance the photo, colours, lighting, fun ones but not to completely change the look and age, like most I do need that attraction as well as the mental one. I could see it was a filtered set of images but didn’t think it was quite as much as it clearly was, it’s more like I feel It was misleading than anything else like I explained to them. I accepted the apology and move on with no hard feelings. "

Perhaps the onus should be on each of us to specifically request unfiltered pictures before we get too invested?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you define as a filter?

Snap chat type ones that “beautify” you?

Smoothing skin?

Altering body shape/composition?

Using black and white or other colour altered photos?

Using creative angles?"

Ones that actually change how you look so yes probably the snap chat beautifying type changing skin complexion and altering age appearance.

Body altering again doesn’t feel right as that’s misleading.

A tasteful thought about photo using angles and altering colours doesn’t really mislead anyone, that’s the type of picture I try to take and share of myself but do send more standard photos privately is that what you mean with me altering mine etc ? I hope that doesn’t come across as misleading it’s more to hopefully get the mind working and being a little different from just getting my cock out next to a remote control

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

There is an advert that has been shown for the past few weeks on tv. I think for ‘Dove products’ ? . This does show how filters can be used to change someones appearance . Yes this advert to extreme ?

Easy to do using some of apps that can be downloaded at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why a video call before meeting is the only way to know that you’re meeting who you think you are.

Men “filter” in different way. They take photos of their dicks from underneath, hold it at the balls or death grip it to make it look bigger than it is. It’s all misleading and not a true representation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s why a video call before meeting is the only way to know that you’re meeting who you think you are.

I drew highly accurate and calibrated markings on mine for size judgment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find filters to be a huge turn off. I don’t even entertain chatting to someone with a photo.

It’s a red flag for so many things - but in particular insecurity and willing deception.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s why a video call before meeting is the only way to know that you’re meeting who you think you are.

This is some advice that I might actually use in the future as leaves no doubt either are who they say so just as much a good thing for them to see I’m me if that makes sense, I guess you probably get a feel for how the conversation flows to. I don’t do cock pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it depends on the filter and if the person is meeting. If its just a change of lighting or contrast then fair enough, also if the person has no intention on meeting and it makes then feel good, then great for them. However, some of the filters and photoshops are definite catfishing. There are some face and eye pictures which are more like cartoons and waists brought in, boobs made fuller, to me that isnt fair on the people they are potentially meeting.....but if the men aren't bothered then......

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We can just about use the camera function without it going blurry let alone use filters. If anyone can recommend a filter to make us look thinner though then please by all means get in touch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me, it depends on the filter and if the person is meeting. If its just a change of lighting or contrast then fair enough, also if the person has no intention on meeting and it makes then feel good, then great for them. However, some of the filters and photoshops are definite catfishing. There are some face and eye pictures which are more like cartoons and waists brought in, boobs made fuller, to me that isnt fair on the people they are potentially meeting.....but if the men aren't bothered then......

Well they are verified and had lots of compliments maybe it’s just me but felt completely misled so I had to be honest about it. Some guys probably don’t care and will just still go along with it, I’m not that guy. Like I said no hard feelings just disappointed about the wasted time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe ask for a live pic before a meet or video call? Good luck for next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe video call with that person or if your lucky persons

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I don't share face photos. It's why I expect a social meet in advance....but outside of BDSM/swinging I've been known to use the odd Snapchat filter. Mainly the makeup ones when I can't be arsed heaving the makeup bag out

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

If the photos has the cartoon Snapchat filters I just avoid them personally

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

To me, any filter that alters a person's appearance is deliberate deception. Flattering angles and colour filters are fine, they're not actually changing anything and that person would look like that if viewed from that angle.

But, the deception filters are usually pretty easy to spot...I don't know many people in their 30's & 40's that have completely flawless skin without even the merest hint of crow's feet, and I haven't seen many doors with curved panels or frames.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I avoid the ones that use face filters unless they have ones without them as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Honestly even without pictures I’d of had a no pressure social as we really had nice conversations not all about sex and I felt a connection, my mind was responsive to her and that’s important to me, I still wouldn’t of took the meet further on this occasion as she wasn’t my type in the flesh ( no offence intended ) but least it would of been an honest conversation before meeting rather than misleading.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe ask for a live pic before a meet or video call? Good luck for next time "

Definitely video call next time it’s a great idea, don’t get me wrong if they aren’t comfortable doing so and we have decent conversations I’d maybe take the chance if local but that would be spoken about honestly between the 2/3 of us. Video calls are definitely a great idea for all involved I think x

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

This has happened to me and my partner, went to meet a couple, couldn't see them in the bar but noticed a couple waving at us, it was them their pics were at least 10 yrs out of date which they seemed to think was fine we didn't and left. I don't see the point in it I'd be too embarrassed to meet someone knowing I look nothing like my pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This has happened to me and my partner, went to meet a couple, couldn't see them in the bar but noticed a couple waving at us, it was them their pics were at least 10 yrs out of date which they seemed to think was fine we didn't and left. I don't see the point in it I'd be too embarrassed to meet someone knowing I look nothing like my pics."

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I only ever change the colour. I never use the "beautify" thing as so obvious and also just for the reason pointed out in op.

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

The only filter i use on some of mine is to change the colour to b&w. I worry enough that the person in meeting will be disappointed so don’t need to add to that by making myself look completely different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has also happened to me and its very frustrating! They even asked for a verification for the meet which was over before it began

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x "

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject. "

You discussed it with her. She would of been embarrassed you brought it up with her enough as it is. As you know she uses the forums, as you know she would most likely see this, you know she would of taken this very personally. You have only made this thread to have your thoughts justified and for her to see it. This was a very low blow..

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I don't know many people in their 30's & 40's that have completely flawless skin without even the merest hint of crow's feet, and I haven't seen many doors with curved panels or frames. "

I'm 42 and don't have a single wrinkle. My skin isn't flawless it's more that it's as oily as it was when I was a teenager so I have blemishes and outbreaks (especially depending on the time of the month)

I guess it's good genetics for me, my mum is only just starting to get wrinkles in her 60s.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it. "

Especially if they have now left the site because of it.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I would hope everyone has no filters and up to date pics on their profile or sent to me as I do as yes it's deceiving x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just part of the game isn't it.

To quote some good films, "lies, deception" and "it's a trap!"

As others have said, it's pretty easy to spot the egregious filters that bend time and space whilst removing every pore from the skin. Ironically, that in itself is a filter, as it allows me to scoot on by and avoid it.

It's when people use really old pictures, or angles and cropping that hide the reality of the situation. Sometimes it's accidental, but if you can't provide a normal face and full length body pic, well, once again, another filter to scoot along.

No point worrying about it, just refine the tool kit for sorting the wheat from the chaff.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Apart from a bit of make up I don’t use filters I cannot stand them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it.

Especially if they have now left the site because of it. "

I do agree it’s certainly not my best decision and feel really bad. I’ll contact them

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

The worst I'm guilty of, is what most of us do- only post pics that show me in what I consider to be at my best. If I get a compliment, I'm always very quick to point that fact out!!

I think it's pointless & actually a pretty selfish to make yourself look completely different or use very old pics.

We're all entitled to our preferences & between work & home life are generally pretty short on leisure time- wasting someone's time by getting them to a meet using false pretences is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x "

Don't feel responsible. People are supposed to be adults. If they can't understand the issues of lying via pics they shouldn't be on here.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Sometimes feels like dating again!! Filters are as annoying as decade old photos.. Prior to us meeting Mrs met someone evidently 15 year's older than his pics and Mr walked straight past his 'date' didn't recognise her at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject.

If a woman had met a man who used pics that looked nothing like like him, the Sisterhood would have annihilated him.

The OP is a fair question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all want to look good etc and I only post pics I think are good or portray me in a good light. I use lighting, angles and colours but never filters or airbrushed.

When I get compliments etc I’m quick to point out that they are just pics and the best ones!

I’ve had a few socials and it’s an eye opener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who usually use those snap chat type filters look obvious.

Your probs better trying to video chat them instead.

I'd rather someone sent me what they actually looked like than a filtered version of themself.

And always a recent face photo.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It does baffle me how some people think some of those pictures are real when they defy the laws of physics

. Some are living in wormholes or something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject. "

What?

"Not a personal attack"?

"So after just having a social on here and meeting somebody that looked nothing like the person I expected to meet" and "not wanting to name and shame". Perhaps these statements needn't have been included if you were merely curious about what others think?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I look just as rough in person as on here

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject.

I don't really see why she should be embarrassed as she must be aware she used filters to make her look different.I have said it to a guy who sent me pics of him from years ago who I met his excuse was it's still me.

So I've no issue with saying it to anyone if they have filtered or used pics from years ago if they are embarrassed then they may not do it next time. It's catfishing and I don't see an issue with the op posting it. If a woman posted that it happened to her no one would be pulling her on saying it was a low blow ,in fact the reaction would be a lot worse towards the man who catfished.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I look just as rough in person as on here

Some like a bit of rough

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I wouldn’t know how to use a filter - it took me long enough to learn how to watermark our pics

J x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I look just as rough in person as on here

Some like a bit of rough

I'd give you all my rough

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"Personally I think they're often quite easy to spot as the skin looks overly smooth, the eyes often look unnatural and some of them give a weird pointed chin. They weird me out the most when people use filters on babies and young children's faces as their skin is already super smooth! "

This!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it.

Especially if they have now left the site because of it.

I do agree it’s certainly not my best decision and feel really bad. I’ll contact them "

Just leave them alone. Why do you want to contact them if it’s more than clear that you have no interest? The damage is done…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That face tune app is dangerously good - stay safe folks

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I look just as rough in person as on here

Well if you're rough I obviously have a thing for rough, I never knew!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I look just as rough in person as on here

Well if you're rough I obviously have a thing for rough, I never knew!

Some do like the rough

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By *amesy6918Man
over a year ago

newry

Hate the filters!

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

It’s pretty obvious when someone has filtered their pics.

Only meet if they send non filtered ones.

Or ask to do a FaceTime or a live picture.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I rarely send and ask for face pictures but always happy to video call via telegram at the earliest occasion. But then I have very strong foreign accent and want that part out of the way, just in case.

No point of using beauty enhancing filters in my opinion but I’m all into playing with lightning and monochrome just because I like it.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I use my filters sparingly. But I save my best filters for my artisan coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine if someone turned up looking like one of those Snapchat cute puppy filters.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Imagine if someone turned up looking like one of those Snapchat cute puppy filters. "

Furries

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"It’s pretty obvious when someone has filtered their pics.

Only meet if they send non filtered ones.

Or ask to do a FaceTime or a live picture. "

You can use filters in real time these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never use filters on my photos…probably should do by looking at them!

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

As many have said, what is the point of lying/filtering when people will know when you meet. However public humiliation on here is also not on in my opinion if the matter was discussed and settled. I know others perhaps will think differently

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject.

If a woman had met a man who used pics that looked nothing like like him, the Sisterhood would have annihilated him.

The OP is a fair question. "

If it had been a womans post I would say the same thing. He knew she would see this, that's my issue. Hut we the sisterhood is fine with leaving a sister feel so humiliated she leaves.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it.

Especially if they have now left the site because of it.

I do agree it’s certainly not my best decision and feel really bad. I’ll contact them

Just leave them alone. Why do you want to contact them if it’s more than clear that you have no interest? The damage is done… "

Don't humiliate them amd then say sorry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine if someone turned up looking like one of those Snapchat cute puppy filters. "

Rather dog filter than location fishing. Two options use a bag or drinks on them until beer goggles kick in

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

I only change the lighting as my house looks pretty dark in pics.And I don’t see the point in using filters if you actually want to meet people as I’d feel so embarrassed if I didn’t look like my pics when we met.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Never used a filter, what you see on my profile is the true and all my pics are fresh and I try to make sure they kept upto date. I can’t see the point in misleading people, why do it you get found out when you meet face to face ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know many people in their 30's & 40's that have completely flawless skin without even the merest hint of crow's feet, and I haven't seen many doors with curved panels or frames.

I guess it's good genetics for me, my mum is only just starting to get wrinkles in her 60s. "

Ditto! 41 and no wrinkles. My skin is smooth too. Partially down to my race me thinks.

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

Honestly this thread makes me want to use filters, to filter out those who have a problem with them from contacting me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I look just as rough in person as on here

Some like a bit of rough

And I'm thankful for that

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s bewildering why people ever think this is a good idea. Pretty much guarantees when you finally meet you won’t want to take things further - not necessarily due to poor looks but from being lied to!

I need to be able to trust anyone I meet at a basic level at least. If you’re lying about how you look which is easily and quickly disproven what else you lying about?

I am not everyone’s cuppa for sure I don’t see the point in misleading. Flattering pics yes but not filtered or altered in that way at all. Might alter the lighting on occasion as my real life lighting isn’t great quality.

As a larger lady I tend to try and send a full length pick prior to first meet too so they’re under no illusions

Try and get them to reciprocate doesn’t always work.

It seems to be becoming more prevalent on here too. I’ve seen pics recently that are easily as much as 20 years old! I mean why?! It’s usually pretty obvious even just glancing at the pics in that case! Not least from quality/style of photo or even clothes and decor!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I do sometimes use a filter but on the whole it's not majority over done or if I have its b/w.

It's no difference really from the person who posts photos that are older than some people on here. Ironically they are then surprised when I say no.

BTW Chris Waddle called and he wants his mullet back ....

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If you read this as I know you use the forums it’s not a personal attack we spoke about it and everything is fine I’m just interested in other people thoughts and feeling on the subject.

Yeah, not cool!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Well the person in question has now left and I actually feel a little responsible and feel bad.

Sorry you experienced the same x

I think if you discussed it with the person at the time and came to whatever conclusion, it was a bit shitty to put this on knowing they’d see it.

Especially if they have now left the site because of it.

I do agree it’s certainly not my best decision and feel really bad. I’ll contact them

Just leave them alone. Why do you want to contact them if it’s more than clear that you have no interest? The damage is done… "

I would imagine you're blocked everywhere. Don't harass the poor woman too.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

There’s a lot of it going on in here

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