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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it with people on here that simply cant take rejection?? Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss but we tend to find that just over half of the people we say no to seem to turn on us and cant take it,

We could be like some on here and either just delete and block them, or even just say no thanks, but we go out our way to message them saying something like, "were sorry nothing against you but you are not what we are looking for, have fun x"

And people tend to accept that and leave it at that, but we have had a few turn around and reply "well you are not what were looking for either" or "you are not proper swingers" oh and "You couldnt handle us anyway" etc, and some pretty nasty ones that we will leave to your imagination.

We never take any of the replys to heart but we would just like to see if this is a big thing on here, or if its just us and are we just too nice and should we just delete and block rather than email then? lol

Mr & Mrs Mids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss "

have to say i'd kick up a fuss if you came across me

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

dont mind them. it is part of the game. Keep having your fun with who you like and who like you

If they are still playing stupid, just block them and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss

have to say i'd kick up a fuss if you came across me"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont mind them. it is part of the game. Keep having your fun with who you like and who like you

If they are still playing stupid, just block them and move on"

We know its all part of swinging that some people just cant cope with that 'NO' we should know as we have had the 'NO' a lot of times ourselves but we just message back saying ''not a problem and thanks for letting us know'' we never take it to heart and we just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i send them a message saying thanks but your not realy my type.

most of the time people are ok about it but some are nasty.

if i get a message from someone who i think is the type of person to send me a nasty message, then i block them after i have sent them a reply.

maybe they are fed up because they arent getting much luck, or they think you should be grateful there interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One we get a lot when saying they are not what we are looking for is a reply of "well its your loss not mine".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One we get a lot when saying they are not what we are looking for is a reply of "well its your loss not mine"."

yeah we have had that a couple of times, cant see how it would be our loss as they were the ones who were interested in us in the first place lol, we just tend to be a little picky, were not looking for models, to be fair we prefer the more normal people, and we have now way got a que of people lined up for us, but as we dont meet that often then we tend to make sure our meets are with people who we really get on with and jump out at us, but others are on here simply just to fuck and move onto the next meet so there are the odd few that simply think rejection is wrong and shouldnt exist

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss

have to say i'd kick up a fuss if you came across me"

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No we very rarely get anyone coming back with a nasty comment, most of the time we just get a thanks for getting back to us type message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that I very rarely send a message back saying no thanks. I have done in the past and its resulted in not very nice responses so I just ignore the messages or block...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats what we used to do and we felt a little rude so thought we would go out our way to reply to them but it might be best just not to bother as some people cant take it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One we get a lot when saying they are not what we are looking for is a reply of "well its your loss not mine".

yeah we have had that a couple of times, cant see how it would be our loss as they were the ones who were interested in us in the first place lol, we just tend to be a little picky, were not looking for models, to be fair we prefer the more normal people, and we have now way got a que of people lined up for us, but as we dont meet that often then we tend to make sure our meets are with people who we really get on with and jump out at us, but others are on here simply just to fuck and move onto the next meet so there are the odd few that simply think rejection is wrong and shouldnt exist "

We're the same, we can't get out that often so we try and make sure we pick the people who we think we can click easily with.

We always try and reply politely to anyone who has taken the effort to read our profile and I must say that mostly we have got thanks for the reply messages back.

Although we have had one baffling reply which more or less said you couldn't handle us anyway.

Can't see the point in that, surely it better to ignore and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One we get a lot when saying they are not what we are looking for is a reply of "well its your loss not mine".

yeah we have had that a couple of times, cant see how it would be our loss as they were the ones who were interested in us in the first place lol, we just tend to be a little picky, were not looking for models, to be fair we prefer the more normal people, and we have now way got a que of people lined up for us, but as we dont meet that often then we tend to make sure our meets are with people who we really get on with and jump out at us, but others are on here simply just to fuck and move onto the next meet so there are the odd few that simply think rejection is wrong and shouldnt exist

We're the same, we can't get out that often so we try and make sure we pick the people who we think we can click easily with.

We always try and reply politely to anyone who has taken the effort to read our profile and I must say that mostly we have got thanks for the reply messages back.

Although we have had one baffling reply which more or less said you couldn't handle us anyway.

Can't see the point in that, surely it better to ignore and move on. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you come across people with the same attitude in every day life, not just on here. There are just some people who, for whatever reason, have an over-inflated view of themselves and, when they do get a knock back, their way of handling it is to get narky with you in return... and that is just a vocal (or typed!) manifestation (my word of the week it seems!) of an inability to handle rejection... the inflated view of themselves being an 'in-advance' way of over-compensating for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, you come across people with the same attitude in every day life, not just on here. There are just some people who, for whatever reason, have an over-inflated view of themselves and, when they do get a knock back, their way of handling it is to get narky with you in return... and that is just a vocal (or typed!) manifestation (my word of the week it seems!) of an inability to handle rejection... the inflated view of themselves being an 'in-advance' way of over-compensating for it.

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Good point indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with people on here that simply cant take rejection?? Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss but we tend to find that just over half of the people we say no to seem to turn on us and cant take it,

We could be like some on here and either just delete and block them, or even just say no thanks, but we go out our way to message them saying something like, "were sorry nothing against you but you are not what we are looking for, have fun x"

And people tend to accept that and leave it at that, but we have had a few turn around and reply "well you are not what were looking for either" or "you are not proper swingers" oh and "You couldnt handle us anyway" etc, and some pretty nasty ones that we will leave to your imagination.

We never take any of the replys to heart but we would just like to see if this is a big thing on here, or if its just us and are we just too nice and should we just delete and block rather than email then? lol

Mr & Mrs Mids x"

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

must say iv been lucky then because they usualy just come back with "thanks anyway good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you get a nasty message do what we do copy it click report user paste the message so admin can see it then block them it dont take long befor there profile disapears of site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"must say iv been lucky then because they usualy just come back with "thanks anyway good luck" "

Lucky you that must be because your a woman then and the ones we get must think its always mr mids saying 'not for us' maybe

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Don't get us wrong as we have come accross some very understanding people who don't kick up a fuss

have to say i'd kick up a fuss if you came across me"

Absolutely brilliant,

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Some people think that due to the nature of the site, they have a god given right to get a meet with who they want, when they want. Spolit brats spring to mind, they have always got their own way so when someone does say 'No' threy cannot handle it - they are about in our every day lives, just not as overt if we dont interact with them.

Unfortunately is a factor of this site, but just ignore it - you say most accept it, so I wouldnt let a minority spoil it. If you do, they win?

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