FabSwingers.com forum: Too perfect

By *ustintime69 OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

Lol ain't seen anyone perfect on here lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Nope as I don't believe anyone is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people who will like me, want to meet me, want to do sex. There are the rest, who won’t.

That’s what I see.

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

Absolutely no one is perfect. It’s in the eyes of the beholder. Grab life by the balls

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

No one is perfect

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"
I wouldn't message or meet people I found too good looking for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect as in they tick all my boxes? Not really, I find it exciting. Well, up until the crashing disappointment when I realise I don't tick any of theirs.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Nahhhhhh, everyone's got a bit of cunt in em. Perfect doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nahhhhhh, everyone's got a bit of cunt in em. Perfect doesn't exist."

And a bit of dick in em....do want some in......im joking lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not scared of anyone who appears perfect. And we all have our flaws, I get exited when I know they are perfect for me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nope I'll always send a message if I want to get to know him better, nothing ventured nothing gained after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope as I don't believe anyone is perfect. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting? I wouldn't message or meet people I found too good looking for me x "

I met someone for a social, saw him waiting and thought “he is gorgeous, way out of my league. He’ll stay for coffee and make his excuse”

We talked three hours, met that night and the following night. We are human and attraction isn’t just looks

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm not daunting ..honestly

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I've never found anybody here daunting. Yes, there are people who I think are absolute knockouts, but some of them have replied to out messages and some are open to meeting us. Luke

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There is no such thing as perfection. You may mean if you think they are too good looking (I don't know) in which case I probably wouldn't message them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a different idea of perfect though.

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By *dible_KinkCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Shoot for the stars, what have you got to lose?? Sometimes it surprises you who is actually interested in you!! I was taking a punt when I messaged Mrs EK yet, here we are!!!

Mr.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.

Perfection doesn't exist.

Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry i try not to be that scary

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.

Perfection doesn't exist.

Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey. "

In saying that though I've been told a few times that I'm nobody and apparently nobody is perfect so that's probably why I'm not getting lots of messages from all the daunted women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.

Perfection doesn't exist.

Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey. "

I think I can relate to Things and people being daunting in here. There’s big personalities and loud voices who I was awkward to approach for a conversation.

There’s then those that are stupidly gorgeous who appear out of my league too. (I understand when people have said this)

So I hear what the op is saying.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

What is "too perfect"?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No OP, I can't say I do. Sure there are people who are more stereotypically aesthically pleasing but I don't see them as being perfect. They still shit. Cry, swear, have issues, you get the idea. They're human. Not better or less than.

But I've found maybe once or twice I've been a bit intimidated by someone's intelligence. Actually once. She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay."

It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.

Okay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope as I don't believe anyone is perfect. "

What she said

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm going to say no because we're all human and everyone has flaws, life is too short to not approach someone based on how they look or how intelligent they seem to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, where are these people?

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

"people who are too perfect"

There is no such thing, either on Fab or IRL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I massively punch ubove my weight on here. Those that are "physically perfect" have a lot of emotional flaws in my opinion.

But I am a freak magnet anyway

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay.

It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.

Okay?"

Ha! Very good. No, I'm okay with being okay with the fact I'm okay about it because being okay is okay in itself, if that's okay?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is "too perfect"? "

It’s beyond perfect. Unfathomably perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay.

It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.

Okay?

Ha! Very good. No, I'm okay with being okay with the fact I'm okay about it because being okay is okay in itself, if that's okay? "

Being okay with being okay is definitely okay. Just as it's okay to be okay with not being okay.

It is what is it hun. You do you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm I find when ppl are pitching themselves as perfect in messages ....red flag for me . I don't think anyone is perfect ....I most definitely am not ...pretty filthy at times but perfect no.

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By *hegirthmasterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Nobody is too perfect

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Just say hi .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no such thing as perfect

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The closest I've ever got to perfection was at school: I was the class prefect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I find them boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

I find them boring."

.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

I find them boring.

.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person."

So not as boring as you first thought then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

I find them boring.

.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person.

So not as boring as you first thought then?

Aye, aww right smart arse!

I suppose the persona and image of perfection put forward annoys me so would be a total turn off. I like personality and idiosyncrasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

I find them boring.

.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person.

So not as boring as you first thought then?

Aye, aww right smart arse!

I suppose the persona and image of perfection put forward annoys me so would be a total turn off. I like personality and idiosyncrasies."

That’s it right there. A perfect persona is rather bland and often turns out to be a thin veil.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m perfect

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

Maybe this is the reason I am getting very few approaches… hm… eye opening

As for me I don’t think anyone is too perfect same as I am not so no hesitation. I have to say I chose not to approach first to lesser workload on single ladies and couples inboxes

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By *ames5169Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"There’s no such thing as perfect "

Sure ? I have always thought you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the people that are the most perfect are the most easiest to get on with

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Nah, there are people who we wouldn’t message as whilst they look fantastic, I don’t think we’d get on. But not daunted by anyone…

Would see it more as a challenge if we liked the look of someone and their profile intrigued us

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

No as they won't be perfect. No one is.

We are all perfectly imperfect.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

Take a look in the mirror and tell yourself you are gorgeous, when you realise that your (perceived) imperfections are the beauty that others find deeply attractive then there is nothing that’s too out of reach.

As Keyser said up in this thread, nothing is too daunting when you realise you there’s someone for you here.. no matter how beautiful they look.

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

How do you mean perfect?

Your type ?

Outta your league?

That statements a tad confusing...as most people on here are just regular people who have the same interests?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I don’t think anyone is ‘too’ anything

You’ll get people who are more confident and that could intimidate you I suppose but perfection is a myth x

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

There’s certainly people I’ve thought were way out of my league, but have occasionally still tried my luck with given the right forum thread to respond to, and surprisingly it hasn’t always gone catastrophically wrong

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People may be a great match or have the ideal attributes that you'd like at that moment. But nobody is perfect, however much time, money, effort or genetic fortune that they have invested.

Most people are not mutually matched, so not meeting respective ideals is standard. Some realism helps to ensure expectations aren't unmet, due to having a head outside of the real world of life

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

What do you class as too perfect?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No such thing as perfection x

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By *he Wrangler and BelleCouple
over a year ago

Bishops Strortford

Like in everyday life, I think that there are profiles on the forum where people are a little snobbish or have a high opinion of themselves. That doesn't mean they are perfect, but its enough to put us off messaging.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

No and also the physically perfect specimens are complete fucktards personality wise. So it’s not always plain sailing

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By *haneSugarMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Nobody is daunting. If they come across as a horrible person it doesn't matter how good looking they are. The appeal soon disappears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where does this assumption come from that physically beautiful people have horrible personalities come from?

Some of the most physically stunning people I’ve met have been beautiful souls.

Equally, I’m met some very physically unappealing people who have been absolute scum bags.

You’re either nice or a nob, appearance aside.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Where does this assumption come from that physically beautiful people have horrible personalities come from?

Some of the most physically stunning people I’ve met have been beautiful souls.

Equally, I’m met some very physically unappealing people who have been absolute scum bags.

You’re either nice or a nob, appearance aside. "

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get that - when a guy messaged me and he looks like a model I am always so suspect. Like… really?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

There are alot of "socially accepted", physically beautiful people on here that are just as beautiful in the personality stakes too... And they seem to like some of us that would be deemed not so beautiful, too... Weird huh?!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Where are these perfect people you speak of?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Where are these perfect people you speak of? "

I think it depends on who you ask, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you're saying as I've seen a lot of profiles I'd never message due to them (I my opinion being too good for me) but having to spoken to a few people on here now most (not all) care about anything other than the connection and the time spent together.

I've now decided that even if I believe them to be "too good for me" I will still endeavour to send a wink or even a message, what's the worst to happen ?? Just get ignored and blocked ??? Not gonna meet half the people on here anyway

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Nobody is daunting. If they come across as a horrible person it doesn't matter how good looking they are. The appeal soon disappears."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Send them a FAF? What’s the worst that can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

No, you can’t buy class.

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

Whats perfect ?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Whats perfect ? "

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Home-made warm Jam Roly-Poly pudding with lashings of steaming bourbon-vanilla custard. And with a delectable Shortbread ingot on the side (the slightly crumbly variety).

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I hope no one finds me daunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"

Just meet "people" from Coatbridge then.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No such thing, I get told I'm perfect all the time, I assure them I'm far from it!!

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Nahhhhhh, everyone's got a bit of cunt in em. Perfect doesn't exist."

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Never no one is above anybody. And you don’t know until you try. Don’t anything put you off

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Too perfect" and "daunting" aren't the words I'd use to describe it.

It's easy to only see the idealised fantasy of someone through thier profile, a snapshot of the person they are and what they're willing to show us, but the reality is they're just human like all of us.

People are just people, like your friends/family/colleagues or randoms in the the street.

But (and this is probably what your point is) I do regularly come across profiles that after a quick read and flick through thier pics I know I haven't got a chance in hell with them.

Don't worry about it, just keep trying your best, your best is all that you can ever do

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