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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word is "Experience".

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Get d*unk and fall over the dancing pole is always a good move

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"The word is "Experience". "

That's not what he asked ...

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social "

Nice that you recognise it's not a free for all and chatting to couples and sf is the best approach sitting in the corner on your own just staring would be off putting just be yourself and treat it like a night out let staff at club know it's your first time they will introduce you to some regulars and give you a tour of club which club ate you thinking of attending? Check out their website they usually give good advice on them ... good luck

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If you sit on your own you're unlikely to be approached. Have a walk around the club (don't follow people), look for eye contact, say hello. Some will be happy to chat, some not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its insanity il never repeat still have ptsd from that day

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Clubs would work best if you actually engaged with people rather than sit at the bar and wait.

It’s like a night club…you might chat to people at the bar, you might dance with someone. The more you go the more you’ll be noticed.

Just be polite, respectful and don’t be a wanker, following women/couples around.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social

Nice that you recognise it's not a free for all and chatting to couples and sf is the best approach sitting in the corner on your own just staring would be off putting just be yourself and treat it like a night out let staff at club know it's your first time they will introduce you to some regulars and give you a tour of club which club ate you thinking of attending? Check out their website they usually give good advice on them ... good luck "

Liberations .. Portsmouth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feels a bit daunting first time I can imagine. Would like to approach a couple but there must be a right and wrong way

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Chat to people they’re all just people and if you come over as friendly and not pushy you are more likely to get invited to some fun.

Always seek consent, never assume it is ok to touch

No means no, don’t persist or you will get kicked out, likewise if people move into a private room and close the blind that means they want privacy don’t keep knocking on the door or trying to peer around the blind.

Chat to the staff they are usually a mine of information about when is a good time to be there for what you’re seeking or if particular couples/singles are going to be there that match what you’re looking for.

Be prepared to just have a few drinks and enjoy the view.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm assuming by enjoy the view. Everyone is naked in there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know how when you go to a pub on your own, if you sit at the bar all night it's going to be a solitary evening, but if you engage with with people there then the evening is all the better for it?

Same rules apply. Take the sex/ play out of the equation. You are going to a social environment. Be social.

The

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So generally it's luck of the draw if you're chosen. Assuming it may be with 1 couple or a few couples.

Best keep some reserves in place

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social

Nice that you recognise it's not a free for all and chatting to couples and sf is the best approach sitting in the corner on your own just staring would be off putting just be yourself and treat it like a night out let staff at club know it's your first time they will introduce you to some regulars and give you a tour of club which club ate you thinking of attending? Check out their website they usually give good advice on them ... good luck

Liberations .. Portsmouth "

Not been there yet lol but as others have said just strike a conversation up at the bar you generally find they start opening up about what they want or looking for during conversation just don't be pushy or feel deflated if they say no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So generally it's luck of the draw if you're chosen. Assuming it may be with 1 couple or a few couples.

Best keep some reserves in place "
no luck needed if pre planned but be prepared to do lots of judo chops to grabby hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

May sound silly but do you wear clothes or are there naked people walking around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel the room . U should know by the vibe

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"May sound silly but do you wear clothes or are there naked people walking around "

It completely depends on the club, each club has different ways of doing things. It will tell you on the website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feels a bit daunting first time I can imagine. Would like to approach a couple but there must be a right and wrong way "

A lot of single guys don’t get that many couples go specifically on single guy nights to meet single guys so if you’re well dressed, clean, polite and appropriately flirty you should do well.

Eye contact, smile and don’t drink too much.

As hard as it may be try and avoid grouping or buddying up with other men as couples might find it intimidating to approach you.

Good luck.

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley


"I'm assuming by enjoy the view. Everyone is naked in there ?"

Depends on the club some everyone wanders around naked, others they are clothed and strip for fun in certain places. But as you wander around the club you will most likely see a fair bit of action going on

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley


"Feels a bit daunting first time I can imagine. Would like to approach a couple but there must be a right and wrong way "

Generally observe to start and when they’re comfortable with you watching a simple “is it ok if I join you” will suffice. Sometimes people just want the audience.

If there are couples just chatting, just introduce yourself and talk, say it is your first time and you are trying to understand the correct etiquette. Most people at the clubs are really nice and good manners go a long way.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social "

Approach every woman and tell her you have magic fingers and can definitely fingerblast her until she squirts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weirdly.my first club was liberations and there is a good social area by the bar and a TV playing porn, lots of people chatting so just like a pub friendly chat and banter occurs there. The rooms upstairs is where any action happens and just go and watch what happens. There is a great run upstairs with a large corner sofa and a massive bed where you can watch and if you are lucky you may get invited to join.

It's a great starter club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Weirdly.my first club was liberations and there is a good social area by the bar and a TV playing porn, lots of people chatting so just like a pub friendly chat and banter occurs there. The rooms upstairs is where any action happens and just go and watch what happens. There is a great run upstairs with a large corner sofa and a massive bed where you can watch and if you are lucky you may get invited to join.

It's a great starter club "

Assuming the sofa is there just to watch the action take place and the couple's don't mind being watched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been.once its was quite daunting ... we wasn't sure what to do ... everyone seemed to know each other .. we was abit shy to talk to others .. we wasn't approached ... the main room did feel bit like a free for all lol for our first time ... so we found a room had our own fun and left the door wide open

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social

Approach every woman and tell her you have magic fingers and can definitely fingerblast her until she squirts. "

Ignore advice like this lol

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

It's just like life. Some people will want you to just be blunt and ask "wanna fuck", some people will want conversation before hand, some people will approach you, some people just won't want to spoken to by a single Male, some people just won't want speaking to at all.

Everyone is different, everyone wants something different.

Just be you, never a good idea to pretend anything else.

Everyone in there/a club has had that first time experience of a club so everyone will know how it is. But most importantly of all is abide by the rules of the club, and ask. Ask if your unsure, ask for clarification, ask for permission

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield


"Only been.once its was quite daunting ... we wasn't sure what to do ... everyone seemed to know each other .. we was abit shy to talk to others .. we wasn't approached ... the main room did feel bit like a free for all lol for our first time ... so we found a room had our own fun and left the door wide open "

Can we enquire as to which club?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Only been.once its was quite daunting ... we wasn't sure what to do ... everyone seemed to know each other .. we was abit shy to talk to others .. we wasn't approached ... the main room did feel bit like a free for all lol for our first time ... so we found a room had our own fun and left the door wide open "

We were the same on our first visit. The more you go the more you'll learn, and hopefully have some great experiences

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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

First time I went was with an FB …I was d*unk it was ok as was with someone we had a look around played a little then after a while joined a group on a big bed..next time I went was on my own to a daytime meet…did chat with a couple few times before they were going so I arranged to go in with them which helped everyone was friendly enough and happy chatting I would say go with no expectations be yourself and try to start general conversation just relax…good luck

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Been to 2 both times found someone from here to buddy up with is that an option to make it easier for u maybe? X

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"You know how when you go to a pub on your own, if you sit at the bar all night it's going to be a solitary evening, but if you engage with with people there then the evening is all the better for it?

Same rules apply. Take the sex/ play out of the equation. You are going to a social environment. Be social.

The"

Be chatty and friendly, without being pushy and you will get remembered positively and maybe even have a nice show later on! Slow knows

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social "

Doing my first night this week, going with the mindset of meeting a couple on a social, to be polite, converse, social, introduce myself to the male first, engage with zero expectations other than to get the first night out the way and hopefully have a laugh, share stories and meet different people, anything else will be a bonus, really liking forward to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only been.once its was quite daunting ... we wasn't sure what to do ... everyone seemed to know each other .. we was abit shy to talk to others .. we wasn't approached ... the main room did feel bit like a free for all lol for our first time ... so we found a room had our own fun and left the door wide open

We were the same on our first visit. The more you go the more you'll learn, and hopefully have some great experiences "

Hi ... maybe we need a trip to the attic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know how when you go to a pub on your own, if you sit at the bar all night it's going to be a solitary evening, but if you engage with with people there then the evening is all the better for it?

Same rules apply. Take the sex/ play out of the equation. You are going to a social environment. Be social.

The

Be chatty and friendly, without being pushy and you will get remembered positively and maybe even have a nice show later on! Slow knows "

slow does know. slow by name, but not to learn.

and damn, what a nice show it was

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By *rLothbrokMan
over a year ago

Lancs

I was lucky with my first experience, as my local club were regularly hosting social evenings for a few hours. A member of fab was also attending, and as I’d heard about it from her, it was a little more relaxing to know there would be at least one friendly face, so to speak.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Never once been to a club and wanted to go as a single gent.

Appreciate I'm not expecting sex just because it's a club but wanted to know the general unwritten rules.

Do I approach a couple or a lady or do I sit at the bar and wait and just be social "

Most places should let you know what the rules are, unwritten rules lead to confusion . Go Enjoy your self be sociable and a decent human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I touch base with people on the forums. Look for posts for the day you want to go out put one up yourself. I've rarely played with anyone I've not connected with on here.

You then have a bit of chat behind you to them carry it on. You'll also know what people are looking for and dynamics especially with a couple.

I went to an event Friday. Connected with lots of people on here first (male, females and could couples) so they at least had one friendly face when they got to the club to say hello.

I go to VA. The social areas are the bar and hot tub. Chat to people, introduce yourself and go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I touch base with people on the forums. Look for posts for the day you want to go out put one up yourself. I've rarely played with anyone I've not connected with on here.

You then have a bit of chat behind you to them carry it on. You'll also know what people are looking for and dynamics especially with a couple.

I went to an event Friday. Connected with lots of people on here first (male, females and could couples) so they at least had one friendly face when they got to the club to say hello.

I go to VA. The social areas are the bar and hot tub. Chat to people, introduce yourself and go from there. "

Excuse the typos

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