FabSwingers.com forum: Bi guys turn on or off

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess just after some feedback as to weather it's worth saying that I am if I'm mainly after ladies and only the occasional guy if I'm attracted.

Any and all feedback is appreciated xxx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Nah... Its a turn ON for me...

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

It's a turn off for me, but it wouldn't necessarily we wouldn't meet you. So long as a bi guy will play straight it's not a really problem

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it depends on how much self worth you have, more than, is it worth it..

I would want people to meet me, not what I choose to declare about myself or hide.

Some won't meet bi guys and that is down to their preferences and should be respected. A few shout and enjoy the platform to denounce bi guys, just never rise to it.

Be you and enjoy the people who will meet you and not focus overly on the ones who won't.

welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a straight man married to a bi woman it would be hypocritical to have any issues with bi-sexuality.

Just as I know J is not going to run rampant in the changing rooms at M&S due to random women taking their shirts off, I know any bi guy will manage to resist my charms should we happen to be naked in the same woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a straight man married to a bi woman it would be hypocritical to have any issues with bi-sexuality.

too many 'straights' think they are so attractive that bi's will be slavering uncontrollably all over them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will attract some and put others off.

Personally, I think if you are bi you should state just that.

That way you are being true to yourself whilst allowing tbose who _iew your profile an HONEST perspective.

You will not be attractive to everyone - no one is, but at least you are going to attract mail from those who are genuinely interested in meeting you.

Good Luck. Have Fun

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally, I think if you are bi you should state just that.

That way you are being true to yourself whilst allowing those who _iew your profile an HONEST perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest, if you also play straight but someone don't like the fact you are bi and that's the only thing that puts them off. Then It's their lost at the end of the day.

But lying about it to get more meets is just plain wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - in the shortest possible answer i've ever posted when this question crops up......

It's never been an issue with me or anyone i've met. Might be an issue for those I haven't - but why would I worry about that!

Good luck!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm bi, it's on my profile, not particulary proud or ashamed of it, it's just me. I can play straight or bi. In my case, it's no big deal.... Really....*looks down*....no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the answers everyone, been very helpful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to just state what you are, some couples might be put off incase you jump on the straight male, others are more open minded and dont really mind, i would just state on ur profile that u can play straight or bi. There are plenty of couples that lv to play with bi guys, there are plenty of threads about bi guys an couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi and not stopped me from having fun - just Be honest and you be uk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best to just state what you are, some couples might be put off incase you jump on the straight male, others are more open minded and dont really mind, i would just state on ur profile that u can play straight or bi. There are plenty of couples that lv to play with bi guys, there are plenty of threads about bi guys an couples

Wish I could find some of those couples lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of my meets came about because i AM bi ,xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On ON OOOONNNNN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On ON OOOONNNNN

Methinks someone has a liking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can normally tell when a 'straight' guy loves a bit of cock anyway when you see their friendslist is full of men and TVs hehe

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"On ON OOOONNNNN

Methinks someone has a liking!

Methinks she's not the only one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmm now it wouldn`t bother me, I get a kick out of seeing 2 guys together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People saying they are straight then want bi is worse. At least I'm being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will attract some and put others off.

Personally, I think if you are bi you should state just that.

That way you are being true to yourself whilst allowing tbose who _iew your profile an HONEST perspective.

You will not be attractive to everyone - no one is, but at least you are going to attract mail from those who are genuinely interested in meeting you.

Good Luck. Have Fun

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Turn ON.

- VincentandAmy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the hypocrisy comes from the misconception of bi-guy = gay guy!

As a straight fella, I'm self aware enough to know that just because a bi fella likes a cock......it doesn't mean it's my cock he wants!

Live & let live and play safe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the hypocrisy comes from the misconception of bi-guy = gay guy!

As a straight fella, I'm self aware enough to know that just because a bi fella likes a cock......it doesn't mean it's my cock he wants!

Live & let live and play safe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know plenty of bi men and it doesn't bother us what sexuality they are.

We don't play sexually with bi men as I (Mr) feel a little uncomfortable when it comes down to being in close proximity in the boudoir lol (had an unpleasant situation once and I don't want to talk about it

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

"you can normally tell when a 'straight' guy loves a bit of cock anyway when you see their friendslist is full of men and TVs hehe

Not true i like to see sue with the guys straight or bi

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

It really doesn't matter bi, gay, straight. What really matters is the type of person you are and how you treat and get along with others. The best turn on is a lovely person.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"We know plenty of bi men and it doesn't bother us what sexuality they are.

Doesn't mean it's always going to be like that m8. It's who rather than what someone is when all's said and done...

Wolf

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Straight question and not a dig or a judgement..how many would consider playing with a bi guy would increase their chances of catching HIV more than it would in normal straight play?..especially given todays news about the alarming massive hike in Gay HIV/AIDS cases in the uk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straight question and not a dig or a judgement..how many would consider playing with a bi guy would increase their chances of catching HIV more than it would in normal straight play?..especially given todays news about the alarming massive hike in Gay HIV/AIDS cases in the uk"

Only if the guy in question didn't play safe. It also said that a lot haven't been tested for three years. Not everyone is so reckless.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

probably a big fat zero if all stick to safe sex..

the fact that a large majority of those quoted had not visited a clinic for a check up in ages (3 years i think?) is particularly worrying tbh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a happily, straight married bloke as 1/2 of a 'hot wife' couple, I can say from a swinging perspective it would put us off slightly, as we would not wish anything to get awkward / any miscommunications to happen. Having said that, if it's clear that no M:M contact was appreciated or wanted, then we'd have no problem whatsoever meeting a bi-guy, for her pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really doesn't matter bi, gay, straight. What really matters is the type of person you are and how you treat and get along with others. The best turn on is a lovely person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a happily, straight married bloke as 1/2 of a 'hot wife' couple, I can say from a swinging perspective it would put us off slightly, as we would not wish anything to get awkward / any miscommunications to happen. Having said that, if it's clear that no M:M contact was appreciated or wanted, then we'd have no problem whatsoever meeting a bi-guy, for her pleasure

As with all relationships, even temporary, communication is key but to much loses the natural feel and too little makes you think ' can I .....'

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Most people will never cross the line if you spell it out plain and simple that you're not interested in such things.

It's a matter of pride usually that people aren't made or felt to be manipulated into doing something that they don't want to do or feel uncomfortable with.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We know plenty of bi men and it doesn't bother us what sexuality they are.

Doesn't mean it's always going to be like that m8. It's who rather than what someone is when all's said and done...

Wolf

It was posted in jest wolf and know not all are the same, just the odd few (and they are odd

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It just unnerves me a little when they eye me up, can't blame them wanting my adonis like body and good looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will attract some and put others off.

Personally, I think if you are bi you should state just that.

That way you are being true to yourself whilst allowing tbose who _iew your profile an HONEST perspective.

You will not be attractive to everyone - no one is, but at least you are going to attract mail from those who are genuinely interested in meeting you.

Good Luck. Have Fun

My thoughts exactly

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"We know plenty of bi men and it doesn't bother us what sexuality they are.

Doesn't mean it's always going to be like that m8. It's who rather than what someone is when all's said and done...

Wolf

It was posted in jest wolf and know not all are the same, just the odd few (and they are odd

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It just unnerves me a little when they eye me up, can't blame them wanting my adonis like body and good looks

I know m8...

Just tell em to look with their eyes and not with their bits

Wolf

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"I think the hypocrisy comes from the misconception of bi-guy = gay guy!

As a straight fella, I'm self aware enough to know that just because a bi fella likes a cock......it doesn't mean it's my cock he wants!

Live & let live and play safe!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"It will attract some and put others off.

Personally, I think if you are bi you should state just that.

That way you are being true to yourself whilst allowing tbose who _iew your profile an HONEST perspective.

You will not be attractive to everyone - no one is, but at least you are going to attract mail from those who are genuinely interested in meeting you.

Good Luck. Have Fun

My thoughts exactly"

Ditto an honest guy is much more attractive regardless of being bi or straight!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love women into bi guys together knowing how much we turn them on drives us wild!!

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts? "

I may be repeating myself,but if the closest you get to another guy,whilst having a mmf,is a high five,that's going to be one tense threesome.

I can also say,without doubt,I am the most gorgeous guy you will ever meet,and to date,no bi guy has ever jumped me.

you can only admire their fortitude,in the face of the most extreme temptation.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts?

I may be repeating myself,but if the closest you get to another guy,whilst having a mmf,is a high five,that's going to be one tense threesome.

I can also say,without doubt,I am the most gorgeous guy you will ever meet,and to date,no bi guy has ever jumped me.

you can only admire their fortitude,in the face of the most extreme temptation.

Ha ha must be self control, an admirable quality

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts?

I may be repeating myself,but if the closest you get to another guy,whilst having a mmf,is a high five,that's going to be one tense threesome.

I can also say,without doubt,I am the most gorgeous guy you will ever meet,and to date,no bi guy has ever jumped me.

you can only admire their fortitude,in the face of the most extreme temptation.

Ha ha must be self control, an admirable quality "

Indeed my friend,indeed.

I just didn't realise bi guys had so much of it.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts?

I may be repeating myself,but if the closest you get to another guy,whilst having a mmf,is a high five,that's going to be one tense threesome.

I can also say,without doubt,I am the most gorgeous guy you will ever meet,and to date,no bi guy has ever jumped me.

you can only admire their fortitude,in the face of the most extreme temptation.

Ha ha must be self control, an admirable quality

Indeed my friend,indeed.

I just didn't realise bi guys had so much of it.

Does it disappoint you?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"I see a difference between bi guy and one not phased by guy guy contact during play.. Thoughts?

I may be repeating myself,but if the closest you get to another guy,whilst having a mmf,is a high five,that's going to be one tense threesome.

I can also say,without doubt,I am the most gorgeous guy you will ever meet,and to date,no bi guy has ever jumped me.

you can only admire their fortitude,in the face of the most extreme temptation.

Ha ha must be self control, an admirable quality

Indeed my friend,indeed.

I just didn't realise bi guys had so much of it.

Does it disappoint you? "

More disappointing for them,truth be told.

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford

"mmmm now it wouldn`t bother me, I get a kick out of seeing 2 guys together

i think its more of what dose it for one dosent do it for another but, on the whole for men its watching 2 women together so it has to work the same way for women watching to men together its like as we are all aminmals at the end of the day

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe

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By *axwellTattMan
over a year ago

knutsford

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe "

well if you think about it bi sex has been going on from the dawn of time i both sexes

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe

well if you think about it bi sex has been going on from the dawn of time i both sexes"

So it has and why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess ... "

I know the OP has deleted his account, but do biguys have a certain look about them then? Are we all Graham Norton-esque type characters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess ...

I know the OP has deleted his account, but do biguys have a certain look about them then? Are we all Graham Norton-esque type characters?

More John Inman.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess just after some feedback as to weather it's worth saying that I am if I'm mainly after ladies and only the occasional guy if I'm attracted.

Any and all feedback is appreciated xxx "

I guess you must have had the advice 'leave the site' cos that's what you've done. Not that you'll read this.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess ...

I know the OP has deleted his account, but do biguys have a certain look about them then? Are we all Graham Norton-esque type characters?

More John Inman.

I look normal. Maybe a bit more confident and flamboyant at times than other guys. Certainly appears judging by some crap messages I was reading that my heads screwed on better.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe "

'seems'

There's no truth in that though.

I'd bet there are more women who indulge because they are encouraged to or because it pleases a male or because it gets them attention that they can't get alone than actually decided to do it themselves.

If people seek out woman on woman porn or pics or meets.....it's going to seem that more women are at it.

Can't see the wood for the lezzies - to coin a phrase.

In brief i'm saying it's part of a 'performance' by women for men.

Obviously - bi sexuals are not included in the above statement.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just wondered if advertising about being bi is putting people off.

To look at me you'd never guess ...

I know the OP has deleted his account, but do biguys have a certain look about them then? Are we all Graham Norton-esque type characters?

Your stocking tops are a dead give away Wishy.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe

'seems'

There's no truth in that though.

If people seek out woman on woman porn or pics or meets.....it's going to seem that more women are at it.

Can't see the wood for the lezzies - to coin a phrase.

In brief i'm saying it's part of a 'performance' by women for men.

Obviously - bi sexuals are not included in the above statement."

Can you please provide any tips and hints on where to find these performing lezzies?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

lezzie emporium circa 350 B.C.

off you popped ! there was a sale on next week

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

" lezzie emporium circa 350 B.C.

off you popped ! there was a sale on next week"

Sounds legit. I'm off to party like it's 350 B.C.!!

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe

'seems'

There's no truth in that though.

If people seek out woman on woman porn or pics or meets.....it's going to seem that more women are at it.

Can't see the wood for the lezzies - to coin a phrase.

In brief i'm saying it's part of a 'performance' by women for men.

Obviously - bi sexuals are not included in the above statement."

I understand. as you say women are more willing to go along with it for their man probably, I dont know. Most men wont do it for their woman unless its what they want?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't you bloody listen?

IN THE WOODS!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that it has put off some couples usually the man who thinks I'll jump on his cock as soon as he gets it out

and some ladies think that as a bi guy I'm not masculine enough - not sure how they get that impression I'm guessing its a preconception

But this has been a minority whilst most straight swingers appreciate bi guys respect limits and where the guy is bi the lady has often been tuned on watching two guys - after all I find watching two ladies a great turn on

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I couldn't comment. I'm not bi.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Where have all the bi guys gone?

Long time passing

Where have all the bi guys gone?

Long time ago

Sorry couldn't resist bastardising Pete Seeger.

Minces away, wearing a Victorian housecoat and drinking a dry sherry..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I couldn't comment. I'm not bi."

Although I'm tempted

And easily persuaded.

And I'm very agreeable too.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I know the OP has deleted his account, but do biguys have a certain look about them then? Are we all Graham Norton-esque type characters?

Not sure about Graham Norton, think I'm more Alan Carr sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn on, but I am biased!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bi guys and love playing with two..

It's even more fun if there's another bi fem in the mix.. Everyone playing with everyone..

Mmmm yum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love bi guys and love playing with two..

It's even more fun if there's another bi fem in the mix.. Everyone playing with everyone..

Mmmm yum "

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe "

Or we, like the majority of women, dont like a cock up our ars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems women are more able to enjoy same sex than we chaps.. We are more inhibited maybe

Or we, like the majority of women, dont like a cock up our ars!

It is a common misconception that gay sex always equates to bum sex.

Whilst there is a place for it, most bi / gay sexual exchanges tend to be more orally centred than anally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a turn on with the right couple. I never meet single guys unless its for a social as part of a threesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it a turn on with the right couple. I never meet single guys unless its for a social as part of a threesome."

I'm the same, enjoy bi mmf fun, but could never ever be with a guy on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it a turn on with the right couple. I never meet single guys unless its for a social as part of a threesome.

I'm the same, enjoy bi mmf fun, but could never ever be with a guy on my own."

Fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it a turn on with the right couple. I never meet single guys unless its for a social as part of a threesome.

I'm the same, enjoy bi mmf fun, but could never ever be with a guy on my own.

Fancy a shag?

Oh go on then!

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