FabSwingers.com forum: Leaving a job

By *valon7 OP Woman
over a year ago

Lancaster

We've all im sure had bad days at work when we've just wanted to tell the boss were to go and walk out but normally practicalities set in (bills to pay etc.,)

Im wondering though,if anyone on here has actually done this and how did your life pan out afterwards?Id be interested to know!It may encourage me to bit the bullet so to speak!

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By *onelfMan
over a year ago

Saltash

Well I guess I kind of did when I left the Navy A LOT of years ago, but i did have time to retrain as required 6 months notice in those days.

Went from Chef to Tree Surgeon and now I work in Data..

Not sure if that should serve as an inspiration or a warning..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walked out of a job at the beginning of the year 2000. Had a couple of months out of work and was then head hunted for a rival company. Better pay, better working conditions and was valued there.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck with it and hope it works out well xx

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"We've all im sure had bad days at work when we've just wanted to tell the boss were to go and walk out but normally practicalities set in (bills to pay etc.,)

Im wondering though,if anyone on here has actually done this and how did your life pan out afterwards?Id be interested to know!It may encourage me to bit the bullet so to speak!"

I told my boss where to go and left the building in a real rage, which is not like me. I'd even thumped the desk.

I cooled down after a while and returned but never forgot how badly I'd been treated that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lasted one day and a bit in a job back in 2019. It wasn't for me and I told them. They accepted it and I got another job two months later. No regrets x

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Unless you can live without an income for a while - never leave a job until you have another one lined up

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"We've all im sure had bad days at work when we've just wanted to tell the boss were to go and walk out but normally practicalities set in (bills to pay etc.,)

Im wondering though,if anyone on here has actually done this and how did your life pan out afterwards?Id be interested to know!It may encourage me to bit the bullet so to speak!"

Yes, I've left jobs before. I've left a job at very short notice. I've left jobs without another job to go to.

Learning how and when to quit is incredibly freeing.

Very best of luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless you can live without an income for a while - never leave a job until you have another one lined up"

I agree with this. Walking out on a job, even if I hate it, would terrify me if I didn't have move onto another one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left a job in 2004 to go self-employed with no confirmed work lined up.

I lived off credit cards for a month or so, but 18 years later I’m still self-employed and wouldn’t change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live within your means you can quit and fly to a sunny day

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Unless you can live without an income for a while - never leave a job until you have another one lined up"

I'd agree with this.

Don't let anyone force your hand until you are ready (as much a possible) to tell them to stick it!

Be as prepared as you can be. In being so it becomes less worrying and more freeing to leave.

You'd be less inclined to take another job which you may not really want to, just to make ends meet.

Leaving will hopefully open up better possibilities for you. At the very least you won't feel like you've been walked over.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all im sure had bad days at work when we've just wanted to tell the boss were to go and walk out but normally practicalities set in (bills to pay etc.,)

Im wondering though,if anyone on here has actually done this and how did your life pan out afterwards?Id be interested to know!It may encourage me to bit the bullet so to speak!"

Are you ok? If you are having hassles then please seek advice

I was in a toxic job this time last year, someone creating rumours and spreading gossip about me to others. The turnpoint came when I heard two staff discussing me like I wasn't there, I have a heart condition and they were discussing it saying they didn't think I was genuine. I was so upset, put in a complaint with my boss but she was trying to defend them and justify the gossip...

I went home and applied for a job at a place I worked at a few years prior.

HR rang me the next day to discuss my application and offer me an interview, still the same guy who was HR when I last worked there....Had an interview later that week and he offered me the job later that day saying that they jumped at the chance to have me back. After the official stuff we started chatting having a catch up and I told him a bit about what had been going on, he said that I just needed to walk and be back with them wanted and appreciated

Telling my boss was cathartic, she wouldn't let me walk because she was short staffed so I told her she had two weeks to find someone, literally turned up did as little possible and when people asked why I told them the truth

7 months in my new (old) job and it was like I'd never been away, love it. No mind games or gossip and my boss is supportive...Starting to feel like the old me now

If you are struggling then please start the process to get it sorted and get out, life is a struggle enough without toxic workplaces added to the mix

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

I left my job in October 2020 with nothing to go to. I’d been furloughed for 6 months. Things changed in that time. I changed in that time and I no longer wanted to be treated the way I had been at that work place.

I had a phone call with them on the Monday morning and told them I wasn’t going back. The monday afternoon I got an interview for the same day and offered the job. I left that job after a month (because I was unwell and couldn’t physically do the job any longer) and the day after I quit that one I got a call from a friend offering me a work from home job, which I started 2 days later on a 5 week temporary contract. That actually last 18 months and then ended at the end of April this year with just a weeks notice. I’d nothing lined up but applied for one job, interviewed and got it! Started 5 weeks later and now just finishing my training.

A couple of years ago, the thought of any of that would have terrified me to the core. Uncertainty was not my thing - everything had to have a place and purpose. But I’m now a firm believer of these things happen for a reason, and what will be will be.

The job I have now is perfect - permanent work from home, good pay, great benefits, fabulous team!

I think taking that leap of faith is sometimes exactly what we need to do

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

After retiring i decided to work again.

But unlike before felt no need to take ANY shit at all. So, left 1 job after a month or so after being disrespected by a 19 Yr old....bye !

Another job after 4 months, due to the way they treated some workers there.

I felt sorry for the guys that had to just suck it up due to mortgages and family etc. So 1 afternoon....bye !

Nowadays zero hour contracts etc , I pity those with decades to see out in jobs they don't enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, worked for a huge sports company! I won’t name the company but it’s owner has the initials MA!

Shop was moving to a bigger premises round the corner. Had me boxing up all the trainers, whilst all the other staff were downstairs chatting. Area manager came in and asked was that all I had done! Replied someone could come up and help me it would get done faster. Caught him slagging me off to my manager. Next day wanted me to workikg from 5am all the way through until the new shop was fitted out with no scheduled breaks. Picked my manager up at 4 in the morning she asked where my uniform was told her to tell the area manager to stick the job up his arse and hers. Also said that if I see him walking down the st he better put his head down. See him 2!week later guess what he put his head down and carried on walking.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Sometimes we underestimate our own capabilities and our confidence. You can step out of your comfort zone providing you have a plan .. be it to work or not

Stable employment and a salary is a life anchor that most people need to fund their lifestyle

Ensure your life anchor is always secure (employed/ retired) and everything should fall into place

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

Yep here, just never look back.I would say if you are unhappy do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve walked out on two jobs this year and def made my mind up never working in retail ever again. Aldis and Heron horrible jobs

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I generally find that if you take a big decision then things tend to work out for the best although the bit in the middle can get bumpy. I think that is because if you are unhappy (in a relationship, work, whatever) then the fear of making the change tends to put you off and if you actually bite the bullet then you are solving that underlying issue.

I would suggest that if you have made a bit of a plan before you “bite the bullet” then that usually makes the bumpy middle a bit less bumpy.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I did this. Walked out, called her what for. He manager rang me asked what happened. Long story short, she left and I took a massive promotion and got her job!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes I did it, my manager was useless, the bully is still a bully. Head office did fuck all. Manager disposed of all qualifications certificates because I stood up for myself.

Bully still bullying, manager still working.

Me. Mental health is so much better no stress.

Offered a job fingers crossed this is a better work environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need money. You don’t need ‘that job’ or ‘thieir’ money if it makes you unhappy.

That’s my best advice to anyone.

I’ve walked. Never looked back when I realised the advice I give above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The moment you don't want to get up and go to work in the morning through being unhappy and miserable in your job. It's time to leave. Personally I'm a firm believer in never closing a door behind myself and having my ducks in a row before a rash decision. Like walking out on any given day.

Start looking for something else immediately. Have your next move ready before leaving. Unless you can afford to be unemployed for a bit then lucky you. The job market is flooded right now (in construction anyway) I'm sure you will find something else soon enough.

2nd option is get signed off with stress if you can afford it while looking for your next move.

Remember we work to live, not live to work. It will be better soon enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left a job after 10 years and then started working part time and spending half the year abroad travelling and being a beach girl

I spent 3 winters in a row in India

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I done it many times. It can only be better

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Unless you can live without an income for a while - never leave a job until you have another one lined up"

I can see your point but sometimes you have too.

I walked out of my previous job on a Friday afternoon and never returned. Was off sick for 3 mths due to stress and anxiety brought on my the company.

I handed my notice in after 7/8 wks and hadnt got a job. And never had a back up plan.

I did get offered a job in my current company 10 days later.

Never looked back and my mental health improved once I made the decision to hand my notice in.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I walked out of a job at 19. Had no real commitments, no fear.

A couple of months doing nothing and then got a job. Been with the same company ever since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless you can live without an income for a while - never leave a job until you have another one lined up"

I would normally agree with this, however I once had a job that nearly caused me to have a mental breakdown. By the time I finally had the courage to give it up, I was diagnosed with PTSD and took 2 years to even come close to recovery.

Sometimes mental health comes first.

I have done this OP, feel free to pm me as site rules won't allow me to discuss it in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spemd all your energy into trying to do something you want to do. Or, trying to do something you don’t want to do.

It’s your choice.

I know what I prefer.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I have done this a couple of times. The last time I just walked into my bosses office threw my company car keys at him and said stick your job were the sun don't shine. Been great since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was working for the Post Office, sorting office in Reading as a temp but walked out because I'd had enough of the bullying.

I was unemployed for 4 days

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I have walked out before, went to work for a couple different companies but ended up back in the same places however on a higher wage and less stress.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Definitely had days like that , I’ve had some brutal times in Africa where I’ve been threatened and politics in the uk can be soul destroying but I decided a long time ago always to finish well.

When it gets like that and can’t be fixed I’ll dig in, work it to a mini high then leave on good terms. And it works , companies change over time and usually try to get you to come back

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

It happens quite a lot in my industry but as most people are self employed they find work again very quickly. It's a very transient industry.

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By *valon7 OP Woman
over a year ago

Lancaster

Thanks everyone for your input!Good advice and positive outcomes for the majority.Im going to start applying in earnest for other work,maybe agency work so I can dictate my own hours ( either that or I will end up on crimewatch!!)Thank-you all!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your input!Good advice and positive outcomes for the majority.Im going to start applying in earnest for other work,maybe agency work so I can dictate my own hours ( either that or I will end up on crimewatch!!)Thank-you all!xx"

Good luck for your future. I hope you find something you're extremely happy with xx

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Already met my boss to tell him i'd been offered other jobs and i wanted a pay rise, told he was 'working on it'. turned down offers as the jobs weren't really what i wanted (despite the large pay rise that came with them).

Month later, same thing happens again, ask what happening with the pay rise and improved conditions- get a bollocking for my 'poor attitude' for asking again.

Next morning he arrived to my resignation and i left the next week as i took the job offer...4 of us went in just over a month- top quality people management there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go where you’re celebrated not where you’re tolerated.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Recently had to leave a job for pinching someone’s arse, the fallout has been quite dramatic but I hope to put the episode behind me and I regret my actions…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not stormed out after telling people what I really think of them but I've left because of the way I've been treated and not bit my tongue when I've been asked why.

Once just after my eldest was born and once a couple of years later.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this back in January.

After years of working for myself, then having a hard time through covid and health issues I decided to go back to being employed.

Unfortunately took a job with the biggest bellend I've ever had the misfortune to work with and sad to say lost my shit one day. Called him unspeakable things after he said some very disrespectful stuff to me and stormed out.

All worked out for the best. Back working for myself again and couldn't be happier

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Luckily in my job I'll probably never experience this. We're kind of left alone to turn up, do what we get paid for and go home. As long as we do our job correctly we rarely see any management and they don't stick their nose in. It normally just to say hello or sign some paperwork.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"I did this back in January.

After years of working for myself, then having a hard time through covid and health issues I decided to go back to being employed.

All worked out for the best. Back working for myself again and couldn't be happier "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left a job needing a break and never expected the break to last this long

But there was little support at work and too many thoughts of wanting harm felt had little choice

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