FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think swinging should be more accepted ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?"

Not just swinging, people should realise embrace all things that are not heteronormative and monogamous.

As long as it is between actively consenting adults and doesn't hurt anyone (outside that in consensual kink play that is) then it should be embraced as a healthy sex life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think any legal and consensual sexual activity should be acceptable but swinging and being gay aren't similar things at all. One is a preference the other isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do we gain from it being “accepted”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it is what it is for 100s of years people were told pairing for life is what good people doo and shagging your neighbours wife fucked you over so its how people see it but these days peoples opinions matter less and less unless they kick off about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

Not just swinging, people should realise embrace all things that are not heteronormative and monogamous.

As long as it is between actively consenting adults and doesn't hurt anyone (outside that in consensual kink play that is) then it should be embraced as a healthy sex life."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have admit for me the secret is apart of the adrenaline rush

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"What do we gain from it being “accepted”? "

You'd prolly find it would be easier to find meets cos there would be more utilities available across the spectrum to find them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What do we gain from it being “accepted”? "

You can invite next door round for sex without the curtains twitching in the street

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?"

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison."

It's just a thing I compared it to . I mean the secret is the adrenaline for me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

Not just swinging, people should realise embrace all things that are not heteronormative and monogamous.

As long as it is between actively consenting adults and doesn't hurt anyone (outside that in consensual kink play that is) then it should be embraced as a healthy sex life."

very well said xxxxxxx

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison.

It's just a thing I compared it to . I mean the secret is the adrenaline for me personally "

According to your profile you haven't done anything yet??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison.

It's just a thing I compared it to . I mean the secret is the adrenaline for me personally

According to your profile you haven't done anything yet??"

When did I say I did ?

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison.

It's just a thing I compared it to . I mean the secret is the adrenaline for me personally

According to your profile you haven't done anything yet??

When did I say I did ?

It says this.

Happily married . Just here curious as me and the wife are curious about the lifestyle and swinging

So did you swing with or without her?"

I've never done swinging in my life we haven't took the step yet.

By saying its the adrenaline for me I mean that's what drives me and my wife .

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine an ad for fab during Champions League coverage

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

We wouldn't say the secret is the thrill, however the thing is OP you have to actually live the lifestyle to enjoy it.

Swinging is a lifestyle choice. Being gay is just who a person naturally is.

We don't actually see any comparison.

It's just a thing I compared it to . I mean the secret is the adrenaline for me personally

According to your profile you haven't done anything yet??

When did I say I did ?

It says this.

Happily married . Just here curious as me and the wife are curious about the lifestyle and swinging

So did you swing with or without her?

I've never done swinging in my life we haven't took the step yet.

By saying its the adrenaline for me I mean that's what drives me and my wife ."

Got you!!

Believe me, when you get into a club situation, especially the first time, everything is highly charged!!

You and your wife will love it

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Swinging is a tiny minority of people. The majority think we are all filthy degenerates

. A minority will never be accepted anywhere equal to a majority ideal people follow ..

We see this is all minority groups vs majorities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine an ad for fab during Champions League coverage "

A close up of a spunky cock fills the big screens. Woman's hand grabs it and guides it into a man's mouth. A thong twangs past their heads.

Cut to a pussy dvp then camera pans out to show 60 men wanking furiously around them.

....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was accepted we wouldn’t have to spin a web of lies when we need a babysitter. One day those lies will catch up with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *utdooorsyguyMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

It should be more accepted, what people do in their own time that doesn't affect any ones else's life, what the harm!?!?

In my last poly relationship we made the decision that we wouldn't hide it. The three of us walking down the road hand in hand recieved so many horrible and crude comments she didn't ever want to do it again. Different than what the op was asking about, but it really just highlighted peoples small mindedness to any thing apart from monogamy....

If people are happy, why be horrible!?

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan
over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

define swinging

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

I think that if it were free swing, the adrenaline of the secret would be lacking, perhaps they know it, maybe not, the anklet that someone recognizes and many don't, in my opinion the adrenaline would be lacking!

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Surely, the illicit thrill of transgressing sexual mores is all part of the fun!

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I have found, more people accept it than you would think... Or they have in my case, at least... I don't actually care if people accept it or not though... What should be, is people, just doing what they like, without caring about acceptance, maybe?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I suspect a lot more people accept it than we think.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"What do we gain from it being “accepted”? "
well I wouldn't have had to sign an agreement to say I wouldn't " swing" when fostering my own grandchild

Because It apparently made me unsafe and a risk

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What do we gain from it being “accepted”? well I wouldn't have had to sign an agreement to say I wouldn't " swing" when fostering my own grandchild

Because It apparently made me unsafe and a risk "

Good lord! I can think of many more things that would make you unsafe and a risk.

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By *obbienormalguyMan
over a year ago

oxford

Always liked Jungle book did loads for the king of the swingers back in the 70s...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame the church For our social 'norms'. The medieval churches ordained that we all must follow a list of rules and must be monogamous, else "Eternal damnation", quite effective they were too especially with reports of stoning and beatings.

But irony being of course was that it only really applied to the poor. Clergy and the rich could pay their way to forgiveness.

Just look at the 'Borgias', sex mad and deviant but could pay huge amounts to have their sins forgotten, even when they were part of the 'Church'. If the documentary is even half truthful.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Once a famous celebrity couple get 'outed' as swingers you will then see a different portrayal in the MSM

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

Not just swinging, people should realise embrace all things that are not heteronormative and monogamous.

As long as it is between actively consenting adults and doesn't hurt anyone (outside that in consensual kink play that is) then it should be embraced as a healthy sex life."

Absolutely

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Is it generally unaccepted? Most people just shrug at hearing it these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can do as they please now , thing have changed inn my lifetime , just enjoy life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once a famous celebrity couple get 'outed' as swingers you will then see a different portrayal in the MSM"

Will Smith and Jayda

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it was accepted we wouldn’t have to spin a web of lies when we need a babysitter. One day those lies will catch up with us."

Haha

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

In my 'real life' most people I know are aware I enjoy this lifestyle. I've not met one person who has judged me or people that partake in this. Some want to ask questions, some don't. My rule is if you ask the right question I'll answer honestly! I don't think pushing for the lifestyle to be mainstream and accepted would benefit, I don't want the clubs full of one off visitors just nosing!

Cherry x

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"I have found, more people accept it than you would think... Or they have in my case, at least... I don't actually care if people accept it or not though... What should be, is people, just doing what they like, without caring about acceptance, maybe? "

Agree totally, a lot more people find this lifestyle acceptable these days.

It is more honest and respectful than cheating!!

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Crikey, some talk about swinging as if it's just been invented lol..I'm sure I saw adverts in the back of old magazines like escort, Forum etc and sending off a Polaroid picture in the hope of meeting a couple. Lol

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

Until there is a rewrite in the Bible and other such religious books then you can kiss any form of total acceptance of anything other than a monogamous & straight relationship. after all it's those works of fiction that govern so many people's lives and choices.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"If it was accepted we wouldn’t have to spin a web of lies when we need a babysitter. One day those lies will catch up with us."

I've never experienced parenthood. It sounds grim!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"What do we gain from it being “accepted”? well I wouldn't have had to sign an agreement to say I wouldn't " swing" when fostering my own grandchild

Because It apparently made me unsafe and a risk

Good lord! I can think of many more things that would make you unsafe and a risk. "

Me too but till about 3 weeks ago I was signed off anything as it was such a bad thing apparently. You would have thought I was off murdering people at the weekends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Monogamy is a social value enforced upon us through Christianity.

Draconian rules still deemed acceptable in a supposed free society.

We now accept homosexuality. Rightly so may I add. Yet "polygamy" is frowned upon. Considering the bible.

Genesis 2:16 To the women he said, I will make pains in childbearing very severe,

With painful labour you will give birth to children.

Your desire will be for your husband,and he will rule over you.

This is not values I wish to adhere to in any way.

#swingers lives matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?"

Peoples freedoms should be more accepted. I don’t mean promoted more than any other choice, but what people do shouldn’t be judged or labels as better or worse than any other way of home soon I guess a healthy relationship.

*just my opinion.

I was once in a monogamous relationship. And it was perfect for me at that time. I knew of swinging, and admired those that could be happy that way, but it wasn’t for me.

I’m now different, but I now admire those that want or have a monogamous reletationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

*just my opinion.

I was once in a monogamous relationship. And it was perfect for me at that time. I knew of swinging, and admired those that could be happy that way, but it wasn’t for me.

I’m now different, but I now admire those that want or have a monogamous reletationship.

If you don't mind me asking.

What made you do the total flip reverse admired swinging while monogamous to admire monogamous as a swinger?

Did u feel u were missing out during monogamy and now miss the 1to1 devotion?

Not being facetious. Genuinely interested in your thoughts as to why. Its an interesting mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's 2022 . Just like gay pride etc . I think swinging should be accepted but at the same the thrill is the secret right ?

*just my opinion.

I was once in a monogamous relationship. And it was perfect for me at that time. I knew of swinging, and admired those that could be happy that way, but it wasn’t for me.

I’m now different, but I now admire those that want or have a monogamous reletationship.

If you don't mind me asking.

What made you do the total flip reverse admired swinging while monogamous to admire monogamous as a swinger?

Did u feel u were missing out during monogamy and now miss the 1to1 devotion?

Not being facetious. Genuinely interested in your thoughts as to why. Its an interesting mindset.

It’s weird, and difficult to explain. But your ‘missing out’ is probably close.

Having known only 1-1 the ‘swinging’ sounds exiting. Then when it’s ‘swinging’, you miss the other stuff that a relationship brings. FOMO is annoying

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

A fair few people we know, know we swing. There's no one we've come across who has a problem with it. However I understand it still can get some people into trouble in certain professions. That is totally unreasonable if you are descriminated against just because of what you do in the bedroom. However not if you bring the sexual details and activities you do in the bedroom into the work place, that's different IMO (but same as if you were monogamous).

Same problem in some areas of Naturists life. Just the knowledge that you swing in some places can make folk hit the roof and think your the Devil. Like you can't be a swinger and a naturist and enjoy those aspects of your being as separate entities?

In some places there's just an ignorance that we are all sex pests with no self control or the ability to separate and compartmentalised our lives. When you see the hassle some people on here get it would be nice to have some sort of legal protection for our chosen form of lifestyle and sexual expression.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I dont see why its anyones else business what we do in private, we dont go round shouting our mouths off about it

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