FabSwingers.com forum: why do guys contact straight men

By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

just join fabguys if you want men,,

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because if you don't ask you don't get. Same as people who contact anyone else despite not matching their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because not all men here, who state they’re straight, are.

Only way to really find out, is by messaging.

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Because most men are ‘fab’ straight we get lots of mail from straight males despite our profile saying exactly what we want

If those straight males are chancingnit with us why shouldn’t bi or gay males approach them?

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"Because not all men here, who state they’re straight, are.

Only way to really find out, is by messaging. "

This

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

i understand that im not pulling them down,, but can get a bit much,,

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Because if you don't ask you don't get. Same as people who contact anyone else despite not matching their preferences"

Exactly this

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By *oodprincess69Woman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

Block mail from male's, problem solved

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

yes ive done that, im not here to upset anybody it just got a little over the top,,

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Probably because not all men who claim to be straight are,block men on your filters .

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

must set one up ,,

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I'm a straight man but recently have become curious so I don't mind men messaging me

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By *mbatman2021Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Im on both and find the guys on here much more my type of people and get more meets from this site than the other one.

But i respect peoples sexuality so i would never message any guy that has straight on their profile or says they are not looking for single men first. I may look and fab but wouldn’t message them.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

"Block mail from male's, problem solved

Not the smartest of moves actually! If a guy is well verified, seen to be reliable, and is able to accommodate, you'd be surprised how many guys, looking to arrange something for a special lady friend, such as mmf or gang bang, will contact you with some suggestions, especially to ask what you have to offer in the way of accommodation.

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

yes i understand that but theres no lady in site on there profile,,

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

Your sexuality is who you have lusty feelings for.

This doesn't have to have ANY bearing on who you are willing to sleep with.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some truly straight men still have sex with men.

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

im sure they do x

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By *oodprincess69Woman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

"Block mail from male's, problem solved

I must see things differently as I like to choose who I meet so will message them myself not through a 3rd party, but each to their own

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By *asepaul71Man
over a year ago

Buxton

I message straight guys as well as bi, women n couples too, when they posts pics or have videos I like it's normally a message saying thank you for sharing and quite often I get a message back thanking me for the positive vibes, I don't see a problem with showing appreciation of someone's beauty but fully understand it must get annoying constantly getting messages from someone you don't want so just block or put no messages from guys/men I always respect that x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Your sexuality is who you have lusty feelings for.

This doesn't have to have ANY bearing on who you are willing to sleep with."

Sexuality according to the dictionary is attitude and activities relating to sex, it has everything to do with who you sleep with hence the term sexual orientation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just join fabguys if you want men,,"

I think this. I also think that maybe there’s actually more men in here than in that site. :-But it could be “the thrill of the chase too”. Lot of straight guys they know, may not be actually really straight….? I dunno though. My messages have gone down, maybe people have took the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More chance of getting a reply and have a decent lengthy conversation where it’s back and forth and not all one way?………..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe use the filters option

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In all the time I've been here I've only had one cocksucking offer from a man. The reason I blocked all men was because of the number of messages either offering me a position as their wingman or asking to be mine.

I had to add a line in my profile at one point to say I had no interest in anything like that but it came to a head when someone contacted me to give me an update on the wingman group plans.

Apparently I had been added to a list that was being given to women for potential group meets without my knowledge.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Because they saw the chicken cross the road?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that im not pulling them down,, but can get a bit much,,"

Use the filters then so you don’t receive messages from men

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"just join fabguys if you want men,,"

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

If the gates open people will try walk through even if it says no entry

my filters are well and truly up

I’m here for the sexy curves only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because half the men who state ‘straight’ aren’t actually straight

It’s not your job to tell them what site is good for them … as my gorgeous friend above says, filters work wonders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just join fabguys if you want men,,

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

If the gates open people will try walk through even if it says no entry

my filters are well and truly up

I’m here for the sexy curves only

Fancy a bonk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the filters, Luke.

Or just ignore/delete.

It’s been said before, bisexual guys feel they are penalised for being open about it on here so maybe that’s driving sone of this behaviour. Fabguys might be a sister (brother?) site but it’s tone is quite different to this one, and probably off putting to both bi and gay guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that im not pulling them down,, but can get a bit much,,"

you do know that you can block men?

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By *omoxfordMan
over a year ago

leeds

Because their in the closet an are lying to them selves

The best one I ve heard is

" I m not into guys either I just like to suck cock when I m hungover "

I couldn't think of anything worse

I m straight therefore I have no desire to do it or have I thought about doing it

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By *ecret_Passion777Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It’s relentless, isn’t it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Because if you don't ask you don't get. Same as people who contact anyone else despite not matching their preferences"

That’s very true , if message filters aren’t on , preferences are often not hard-stops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get contacted by a guy, I take it as a compliment, I might have a quick chat (depending on the tone of the message) or just delete and move on. I could'nt really care less. If I did, I'd put the filters up.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

fake women pretending to be men?

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Message filters.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I learned about filters later than I should have, after many messages beginning "I know it says straight on your profile, but...."

I still see many "straight" male profiles viewing mine repeatedly and fabbing my pics. Not that I mind, but I find it sad that they feel they have to present as straight

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

I'm quite willing to have a conversation with anyone off the forums.

(It's not a significant problem for me, I get a wink from a fella every few weeks, that's all)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"fake women pretending to be men? "

Obviously that's it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

I'm quite willing to have a conversation with anyone off the forums.

(It's not a significant problem for me, I get a wink from a fella every few weeks, that's all)"

Great attitude

I’ll chat to anyone on the forums, and sometimes get messages from forums from guys who aren’t into me (personally or categorically) but it’s nice to be social.

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Theres alot of straight guys that will hapily pester anyone for a blowie. Ive had a few ask me

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By *arickMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

I regularly have 'straight' men winking, fabbing and messaging me. So a question to all you couples and single ladies out there that will only meet straight guys, are you really meeting straight guys??

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By *D67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

A few have told me they put as being straight as they dont want to lessen the chances of a meeting with a female or couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost count of the number of straight guys I've had from here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Message filters.

When somebody suggested this to the OP earlier, he replied "I've done that but it gets a bit overwhelming"

Shortly later someone else suggested the same and the OP replies " Need to set one up"

So two different answers to the same suggestion, something not adding up here.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I've lost count of the number of straight guys I've had from here"

Zero, you've had fab straight as a straight guy wouldn't go with a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

I'm quite willing to have a conversation with anyone off the forums.

(It's not a significant problem for me, I get a wink from a fella every few weeks, that's all)

Great attitude

I’ll chat to anyone on the forums, and sometimes get messages from forums from guys who aren’t into me (personally or categorically) but it’s nice to be social. "

I talk to anyone, some of the best conversations have been by Dm and not just with women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've lost count of the number of straight guys I've had from here

Zero, you've had fab straight as a straight guy wouldn't go with a guy

"
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No, …. but yes.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Guys are thirsty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is confusing who is who on here, so many lie. I think there are two types who message:

I gently approach men with straight if it is not clear, to ask if they also meet males alone and not just females. It is respectful and enquiring. I would never approach if they blatantly state they are straight in profile text. Many turn out bi, out of the modest amount I message over time.

However it is important the tone of approach, if gay/ bi men approach with an attitude they can convert a straight man, or claim suck better than a female, they are the annoying ones in the wrong. I can see why this annoys genuine straight men and also embarrasses the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No 'bi, CD's or TV's and so called 'straight' men can ever message me. Fab. has an excellent 'settings' function, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add, I have had some men reply politely to say they are straight, so it shows my approach is not sleazy and is respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's respectful. ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh"

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Perhaps the same reason why guys contact couples who say "no single males" or guys contact women who say "no single males"? Or straight guys contact couples who say "bisexual guys only" please. Could probably add it to... Don't contact without profile photos or if you've only got dick pics and on and on.

This is discussed quite often and without asking the individuals concerned I'm not sure we will ever find out.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Message filters.

This! They contact you because you allow them to.

Which means you must want them to, or you would set a filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them"

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

There is straight and then there is “fab straight”.

I’ve seen many men, who are on fabguys with lots of veris, on here with “straight” profiles

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By *ustintime69Man
over a year ago

london

I get most of my fabs from other men and it really doesn’t bother me at all….being somebody’s eye candy is fine by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

Heading to the store shortly, hoping I will be mistaken for Jim too

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

Designer dongs I assume?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do straight men not. Have their filters up ….?

I'm quite willing to have a conversation with anyone off the forums.

(It's not a significant problem for me, I get a wink from a fella every few weeks, that's all)

Great attitude

I’ll chat to anyone on the forums, and sometimes get messages from forums from guys who aren’t into me (personally or categorically) but it’s nice to be social.

I talk to anyone, some of the best conversations have been by Dm and not just with women.

Exactly.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"just join fabguys if you want men,,"

Some men enjoy both sausage rolls and Cornish pasties

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By *ustintime69Man
over a year ago

london

"just join fabguys if you want men,,

Some men enjoy both sausage rolls and Cornish pasties

Just spat my tea out laughing at that

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Good question I've never understood this myself don't help ill chat with anyone and also some idiot bloke fake verified me so yeah I'll get men messaging believing I might be at least bi because there's a male verification it's like nope I'm straight but tbh like I said unless there pushy with bisexual stuff am happy chat with anyone most tbh are respectful that I'm straight so yeah to op I wouldn't be bothered to much and if does as others have said can filter it so they can't

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

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Utter nonsense. I don't believe a word of it! Jim shops at Primark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

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Utter nonsense. I don't believe a word of it! Jim shops at Primark.

It's true. I don't have to scroll up to know who got mistaken for me and got donged on. I hope you didn't have an umbrella, Dusk.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"I've got an auto-forward message rule setup: all messages from men go into -Erect-Jim-'s InBox.

This actually made me laugh

You should see how much cock I'm getting.

That is why the women attack you, as you get more cock than them

I got mistaken for Jim once in the street outside the TKMaxx and it just started raining dongs.

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Utter nonsense. I don't believe a word of it! Jim shops at Primark.

It's true. I don't have to scroll up to know who got mistaken for me and got donged on. I hope you didn't have an umbrella, Dusk."

I didn't have an umbrella, Jim.

It was magical.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Just to add, I have had some men reply politely to say they are straight, so it shows my approach is not sleazy and is respectful

If this was the standard approach I probably wouldn't have filters on.

However I have been stung before by a male using a female profile to contact me before sending a pic of him being fisted (up to mid forearm) with a second message. Needed a pint of unsee juice for that.

I think it's more about respect and judging boundaries than the gender.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My profile clearly states no straight guys but they still message.

I don’t dress as often as I used to, so on the few occasions I do, it’ll always be with someone who’s actively seeking TV’s.

In all honesty it’s not a massive issue for me, but I can quite understand why it would frustrate others.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Go yo your message filters mate

that's how I resolved the matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to add, I have had some men reply politely to say they are straight, so it shows my approach is not sleazy and is respectful

If this was the standard approach I probably wouldn't have filters on.

I think it's more about respect and judging boundaries than the gender. "

Mate that is awful, hate those deceivers. I always pull up other gay/ bi men if they are targeting straight men. Such a huge embarrassment. To send a fisting picture too, that would turn my stomach!

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"Just to add, I have had some men reply politely to say they are straight, so it shows my approach is not sleazy and is respectful

If this was the standard approach I probably wouldn't have filters on.

I think it's more about respect and judging boundaries than the gender.

Mate that is awful, hate those deceivers. I always pull up other gay/ bi men if they are targeting straight men. Such a huge embarrassment. To send a fisting picture too, that would turn my stomach!"

I think I went private and didn't log in again for a while after that. There are some things you need eye bleach for. I'm not sure what he hoped to achieve. If he can get a forearm up there my penis would achieve nothing, and that is assuming I wanted to be with a guy...

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

i have chatted to a few guys on here and have been respectful and fabbed my pictures no problem with that,, and chatted to TVs who have been respectful and had nice conversations with them, maybe should of blocked a few individuals,,

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"just join fabguys if you want men,,"

This obv frustrates u but now u might see how some women on here feel about the unwanted attention they often receive.

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

it was the way he went about if he was gay bi or tv, i will chat to them no probs, he was just a touch dishonest hey but no harm done,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just join fabguys if you want men,,

This obv frustrates u but now u might see how some women on here feel about the unwanted attention they often receive. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The same could be said about the ‘straight’ guys contacting gay/bi men.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There are lots of similar threads that crop up frequently. Most people are respectful and can be easily blocked or filtered out if not and of course reported if are inappropriate, offensive etc. Many people chat to one another both in forum and in DMs irrespective of preferences as you would just do in the real world. Anyone crossing g the line are shown the 'exit' so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many many guys in here list straight but have verifications for guys

Listing as straight gives better chances of meets with women

Also list as meeting couples so there’s an idea they don’t mind cock

The simplest thing to do for them is what many do

Simply type into profile,” Not looking for single guys.”

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By *valon7Woman
over a year ago

Lancaster

Shouldnt that be 'why do 'straight' guys contact men?

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I learned about filters later than I should have, after many messages beginning "I know it says straight on your profile, but...."

I still see many "straight" male profiles viewing mine repeatedly and fabbing my pics. Not that I mind, but I find it sad that they feel they have to present as straight"

They don't "have to" present as straight...

Unfortunately, there are still many people, particularly women, who clearly state on their profiles that they do not want to meet bi men, which definitely drives some bi men's honesty out the window.

I do have issues with crossing clearly stated boundaries - which is exactly what men do who lie about their sexuality/experience with other men, when meeting women who do not want to meet men who have sex with other men. What other lies and deceit are these men willing and capable of to get into women's knickers?

I've previously been in a relationship with a man who identified as straight according to his profile. As time went on, I discovered he was far, far from straight - which for me was actually a massive turn-on. What was a massive disappointment were the lies I discovered in our journey together which ultimately led to the end of the relationship...

There's something to be said about integrity and being true to yourself. People who lie about their sexuality on an adult website meeting "like-minded" others for consensual sex - have neither...Mrs

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By *avexx OP Man
over a year ago

cheshire

it was just the lies for me he hinted he had a female partner, which he clearly didnt,, all his friends were male he should of just said he was gay or bi. no probs to me ,, one of my best mates his gay lovely guy,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The same could be said about the ‘straight’ guys contacting gay/bi men.

Bit of an irrelevant retort really, as they are not actually straight men contacting gay/ bi men. That is not the fault of genuine straight men…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just join fabguys if you want men,,

This obv frustrates u but now u might see how some women on here feel about the unwanted attention they often receive. "

That does not mean all straight men are pests and therefore automatically deserve harassment from embarrassing gay/ bi men that are ruining the experience for them on here…..

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

I've had many guys with straight profiles contact me (a gay man) looking for sex. So now I often message/wink straight profiles, some answer some don't, some just want to chat some want more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t want guys messaging you set a message filter. It’s simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been messaged both innocently and less innocently by gay and bi guys on here. I've only ever taken it as a compliment and I would be very surprised if many straight guys are 'inundated' with such attention.

I also think sexuality is not as black and white as some people seem to think.

I identify as straight and I have only ever been intimate with women. However, I do find TV/TS ladies attractive and often fantasise about an encounter with them, but I don't think it will ever be more than a fantasy for me, but you never know.

I certainly wouldn't call myself bi or even fab-straight. Maybe I should put straight* with an asterisk?

I won't meet but I might wank over your photos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shall i come out as Bi?!

“The choice today is revolt. Igor Stravinsky wrote, “The old original sin was one of knowledge, the new original sin is one of non-acknowledgement.” It is the refusal to acknowledge anything outside the operation of the human will—most especially the good toward which the soul is ordered. The good is what must ultimately inform human justice. Therefore, moral relativism is inimical to justice, as it removes the epistemological ground for knowing the good. As Max Planck, the founder of quantum theory, wrote, “Everything that is relative presupposes the existence of something that is absolute, and is meaningful only when juxtaposed to something absolute.”4 What happens if the absolute is absent? If what is good is relative to something other than itself, then it is not the good but the expression of some other interest that only claims to be the good. Claims of “good” then become transparent masks for self-interest. This is the surest path back to barbarism and the brutal doctrine of “right is the rule of the stronger”. The regression is not accidental. Relativism inevitably concludes in nihilism, and the ultimate expression of nihilism is the supremacy of the will.”

? Robert R. Reilly, Making Gay Okay: How Rationalising Homosexual Behaviour Is Changing Everything

This used to be the thinking now we are all in the soup together.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Probably for the same reason lots of 'straight' men contact bi guys offering to suck their cock

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

"i understand that im not pulling them down,, but can get a bit much,,"

Block men from messaging you, it's easily stopped

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By *ob rodMan
over a year ago

lancaster

The majority of messages I get are from “straight men”

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"just join fabguys if you want men,,

This obv frustrates u but now u might see how some women on here feel about the unwanted attention they often receive.

That does not mean all straight men are pests and therefore automatically deserve harassment from embarrassing gay/ bi men that are ruining the experience for them on here….."

Thanks for the clarification that all str8 men aren't pests. I just hope my embarrassingly gay messages to them are not ruining their experience here too much and are taken with the 'nudge nudge wink wink' way they are intended.

Apologies in advance if yr on the receiving end of one- excuse the pun.

Just a suggestion to those who dislike it so much.....set yr filters

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Lots of people message others for various reasons. I had a straight man messaging me for a recipe of a dish I posted that I made on that day as he wanted to make it for his partner. I had a few messages about other things like holiday places etc. As many said, the block button and filters work well for anyone who is so adverse to contact by other guys.

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