FabSwingers.com forum: Do women actually respond to any messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nah we all meet via psychic force.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Look at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No but it is a lot harder for men to get a reply from a woman

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yes ..they do

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

In my opinion....your profile is why you won't be getting replies.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes they do but they won't listen when I ask them to form an orderly queue.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

Your profile text says you’re not looking. Having a partner who doesn’t know you are here won’t help either

It’s best to be honest, but some ladies, me included would be put off

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Keep it on the forum OP.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes they do but they won't listen when I ask them to form an orderly queue."

Depends how long the queue is

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By *innocentMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Why would a woman respond to a man who's profile not only has no photos,but actively states he is cheating on his poor,innocent wife.

Wake up fella,and sort yourself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s pretty obvious why you won’t be getting any replies.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I talk to a few, gorgeous ladies. It's the way you chat that makes the difference. Treat it like a pub. You wouldn't whip your todger out there, would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Most here will check out the profile before reading the message, they've often decided before even opening up the message.

Use your profile to sell yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t you just chat with the past friends that you say you are only here to chat with ?

Why would anyone reply to that profile ? But if you have past friends they must of engaged in conversation with you

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Sue does reply to a properly worded message with face pics and something the pique her interest... most guys just send on a dick pic which for her is just a no no ...

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I do actually respond to the majority of messages I receive.

But one look at your profile and I think it’s pretty obvious. No wonder you get no replies. I wouldn’t reply either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply if there is something on their profile that appeals.

Never knowingly to an attached man though.

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

This has gone well lol

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By *ichaelJ1986Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Even with the change of your profile txt, it’s still not the best. Also, everything only has one g OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has gone well lol"

It hasn't even begun yet.

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By *pYaMan
over a year ago

Ready…

This was never going to go well!

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

Yes, I do. But only if you’re fit af

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

I reply to all messages. But if u r asking my opinion why u don't u need to ask for an opinion, ok

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"Keep it on the forum OP."

I don't think he read your response!

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Yes i do, even if its a no

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Take a look at some of the profiles from the regular forum members, you might get some ideas that will help to get a response!

Also search the forum for similar threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, but if its obvious from there details on there profile that they haven't read my profile, I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Profile, profile, profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been said already, but there is nothing to draw women in….

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By *ames_1169Man
over a year ago

Exning

I’m having the same problem. Can anyone tell me what is wrong with my profile x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"In my opinion....your profile is why you won't be getting replies."

I agree! It’s tells us nothing about you at all

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

Yes women respond to introductory messages sometimes a while later. We must consider that the amount of messages woman receive could be completely overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do some work on your profile, get some pics in there ( not just knob pics)

Keep at it, have respect and patience.

Oh..dont be pushy

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes women do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do but I wouldn't yours

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The mistake you are making is that you think that your message will be considered in and of itself, separately from you profile. In many cases this is not the case.

Whether you like it or not, a great many receivers of you messages will look at your profile first to see what type of person they have received a message from. If they like your avatar, good pictures and good profile text, they will probably read your message. They will look at how you present yourself generally to the community first and then see how you have presented yourself to them specifically next.

How do you think you would fare when they look at your profile to decide whether they want to read your message, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is thread bare , no photos and consists of one sentence so would say you only have yourself to blame . Try updating your profile , oh and handy hint these sort of posts don’t do you any favours

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Yes do my best to respond to all messages

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman
over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

There's nothing in your profile that would make me want to know more. No pictures on show, no info about you as a person. Detail makes the difference for me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't know about everyone else but when I get a message I look at the profile before I open the message. If its a good one and I think we might get on I will reply either way, but if not its a delete.

Tbh I'd delete a message after looking at yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will reply, and some won't..... but we just gotta accept that.

She's probably had 1000s of samey samey messages, and can afford to pick and choose.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

What makes you think they won't message you if you're a fit with what someone is looking for?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, go to a club,

go to a social,

take a couple of hours writing a good profile, whatever a good profile is (this could prove impossible as everyone has a different opinion of what a good profile is).

this isn't a sex site,

what do you expect,

have no expectations,

have face pics

very your pics

etc

I haven't covered all the bases that I have seen on similar threads such as this, I could throw in some abuse for good measure.

the only comments that I have taken on board is that single women and couples must receive so many messages that they would have to employ someone to look through and reply to them.

so I do not message anyone and just stick to the forums, that way I don't feel that im part of the problem so many on here comment on.

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Now you have made comment you will have a lot less chance of finding success on here im afraid.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I always read a profile before I decide whether to open a message. If the profile shows no effort whatsoever then I generally don't bother. Occasionally, usually if im bored, I'll open a few messages regardless of the profile but they have to really capture my interest to warrant a reply.

Most of my fab meets have been as a result of me seeing a profile I like and messaging first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m having the same problem. Can anyone tell me what is wrong with my profile x "

Maybe try socials. Often it's easier in person.

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By *ames_1169Man
over a year ago

Exning

"I’m having the same problem. Can anyone tell me what is wrong with my profile x

Maybe try socials. Often it's easier in person.

Thanks

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Your profile ...well, it's not a profile! Put the energy that goes in those messages into creating a better profile. Better pictures (or maybe start with putting up some pictures) . Write more about yourself ...and last but not least be decent, respectful, well mannered and tall/dark/handsome

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By *ookingforfunin2021Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Knew it

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Theres maybe 2 or 3% of the members that are single females.

You need to stand out and be the best you can be to get a response. And even then, the chance of that lady you have messaged being attracted to you is slim as well.

It really is a lottery.

Be you, be unique, be honest. You have to make your own luck

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Just looking at your profile would be a no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get a lazy message ie “hi” or “how’s u” then we tend not to reply, but if we get a structured message then we will reply even if it’s a polite no thank you.

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By *haneSugarMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

To be fair, if you've ever seen a woman's inbox you'll see that they probably feel like they're sifting through a load of emails at work. The ratio of men to women just is what it is.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yep I answer any message that interests me.I look at profiles first if it doesn't interest me then I don't even open the message usually anymore.And it's not because I get loads of messages I have tight filters.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

We look at profiles first.

Even if I were looking, I would never reply to you.

Julie.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Simple answer if they don't think you are compatible, then no.

Remember that single quys outnumber single woman something like 20-1.

On average a single woman will receive hundreds of messages a week, some a day

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I reply to any message where I'm interested in talking to the person based on the profile and the message

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

If I get a message I look at the profile first. I wouldn’t reply to yours op

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Doesn't matter how much detail you put in to a message, if that detail isn't of interest to the recipient they are under no obligation to respond. Just because I send you a wonderfully detailed cookery book about baking doesn't mean you are obliged to start banging out olive loaves and Victoria sponges! Has to be something that interests the recipient, however good your profile is, however arty and well composed your pictures, we are all here for different things, you won't interest everyone or possibly anyone.

You are not obliged to be on fab, I mean that in as nice a way as possible, if it isn't a positive thing in your life, give it up, move on and do something that is. Don't moan and feel hard done by because you aren't getting any action, change something, if nothing works it probably isn't for you.

For many people, not just single men, being on fab is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome...... Think that definition is used as an indication of something else.

Also, punctuation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The perfect demonstration of how not to Fab as a single male.

Shadow profile, no public pics, and a one line bio topped off with a whine on the forums.

Bravo sir bravo.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

By detailed, can you explain that?

Do you send them a big blurb of what you want or what you are going to do to the recipient?

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Single men have loads of struggle here..but women get the worse loads of texts d...pics they get fed uo..i understand completely they are bombarded with messages daily...no wonder they dont reply...if they replied to everyone they would never leave fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah we all meet via psychic force. "

Smoke signals. And pulse operated robots for intimacy will be the norm very very soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they dont. They moan about cock pics. They moan about one liners. But when they get neither of these they still moan. Opps thats me not getting any responces. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had trouble getting replies from everyone I message.

Fab is so easy to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had trouble getting replies from everyone I message.

Fab is so easy to do. "

The Bedford rascal is the clincher! Love it

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Just because I send you a wonderfully detailed cookery book about baking doesn't mean you are obliged to start banging out olive loaves and Victoria sponges!"

Not going to lie I'm a sucker for a decent recipe book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

I wouldn't reply to you as there is no profile pic and no pics available to me on your profile. You are also a smoker which is a no go xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Rewrite your profile and may put some pics on public, not necessarily 20 pics of your dick from every angle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply even if it’s just to say ‘no thanks’ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Responded to 10 people today so far, but I've gotten between 10 and 25 messages per hour.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Profile is a bit shabby Paul, definitely needs work mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had trouble getting replies from everyone I message.

Fab is so easy to do.

The Bedford rascal is the clincher! Love it "

Like bees to a honeypot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just throw some cheesy banter out there, if I don't make them laugh I just have to try harder

If they give a slight chuckle you might just get a response

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Have a wank, it’s 100% better than anything you will get from anyone on here

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By *y gameMan
over a year ago

open wide

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

Two mistakes, expecting a meet, asking why you can't get one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to reply if there’s no pics and barely anything in the profile. Discreet meets also implies they are probably in a relationship where the partner does not know.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Classic it must be them nothing I must be doing or not,

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By *sm01Man
over a year ago

wisbech

No they are all lesbian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience they always respond if you message them:

“Hi how are you?”

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please

Look at your profile. "

Your profile is shit Paul. Needs work and effort, it’s a tough gig out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to everyone it’s just polite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get replys if I don't it's not personal, chatted to some really nice women on here pretty down to earth and straight forward, made some good friends too not all about sex good to have a laugh too I'd say keep going mate

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By *y gameMan
over a year ago

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"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please

Look at your profile.

Your profile is shit Paul. Needs work and effort, it’s a tough gig out there! "

Part-time good Samaritans .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say most reply even if it’s just good luck

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By *oodprincess69Woman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be impossible to respond to 10,000 messages daily.

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please

Look at your profile.

Your profile is shit Paul. Needs work and effort, it’s a tough gig out there!

Part-time good Samaritans .

Straight to point sometimes- unless he’s manipulating the chat!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You could make the best message in the history of literature but if it's not going to work between the recipient and you, you should not expect a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you message and it's clear you haven't read my profile I block and delete . If you message and your profile is basically blank ... I ignore or respond no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post is a reminder of how good a filter the forum really is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t reply because

1 you have no pictures,

2 you’re cheating and I don’t want the drama,

3 you’re a smoker I don’t want that breathing in my face but that’s just me, these are the reasons you wouldn’t make a match for me, therefore I wouldn’t reply.

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

You must be on a wind up, this attitude kills it for guys on here, we’re the plus 1 pal, just accept it, make some effort and don’t have expectations…

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

"Just because I send you a wonderfully detailed cookery book about baking doesn't mean you are obliged to start banging out olive loaves and Victoria sponges!

Not going to lie I'm a sucker for a decent recipe book"

I will pop one in the post pronto!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

They get many more messages than they can handle o/p. Maybe join in with forum/cam room chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience they always respond if you message them:

“Hi how are you?”"

If anyone sent that to me, it’s instant delete

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I have tried a detailed message with pics and women still never reply it’s mad no wonder why men can’t get meets any tips please "

No not from profiles like yours sorry

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just because I left a comment why do guys think it's a opportunity to skip the age preference and send a private message via the thread so rude!!!

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By *olourmeplayfulWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don’t always reply I admit. My first filter tends to be no profile pic or no public pics. Your profile wouldn’t pass my filter.

I’ve also just today had a follow up message from a man I didn’t reply to (less than 45 mins after his first message) calling me an ignorant fuck. Not a great look.

My profile isn’t even close to being one of the best out there and I still get close to 70 messages every day. I can’t reply to all of them, a lot of time as well, a reply leads to them thinking we’re now fully chatting and I can’t keep that many conversations going.

I have to be a bit brutal about who I reply to and who I don’t. But it’s worth remembering, women don’t owe anyone a reply.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Just because I send you a wonderfully detailed cookery book about baking doesn't mean you are obliged to start banging out olive loaves and Victoria sponges!

Not going to lie I'm a sucker for a decent recipe book

I will pop one in the post pronto!

Awesome. I'll get the kitchen aid out

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