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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

Not really, but thanks. Just setting the scene of where I am and how I feel. But thanks for you input

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Sounds like depression. Take the time to do something for you and you alone. Even if you only go out in the sun and sun your balls. Just do something, anything.

C

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think everyone goes through phases of feeling like you do OP. Hopefully it will pass in time x

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

I think this might say a little more about you than him.

I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand how you feel. Wish I knew what to do to stop it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

I think this might say a little more about you than him.

I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out."

I’m as happy as Larry thanks.

I don’t need to stealth boast about it though

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

I think this might say a little more about you than him.

I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out.

I’m as happy as Larry thanks.

I don’t need to stealth boast about it though "

Great to hear, you are more fortunate than the op in this regard

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By *haneSugarMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves.

Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves.

Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are."

I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted something similar yesterday, must be catching, it is depression no matter how you paint it, it is indicative of where we are as humans, back in the day when we lived in caves, everything had a purpose, you hunted for food protected your family and the land around you, you didn’t do things that meant nothing because that’s when you got caught out by some wild animal and that’s it the end, fast forward to now, our only purpose worth pursuing is continuing our own individual genetics because everything else is done for you, you go work, even if the jobs hard it’s not impossible and if you can’t do it then it’s not the end of the world, basically we have gone soft, our version of hard is not even close to being purposeful over time, sure there’s a lot of great modern things and they make our lives easier, but easy lives aren’t actually in our dna, we are hunters, gatherers, homemakers, farmers, nurturers, all of us and because we basically do none of the above, we are lost bored and steadily sinking in to the abyss, society is failing because we have lost our individual purpose, wars are happening because we have mistaken what it is to be human with if I take that land or that thing I am better than everyone else therefore I am alpha, the world is big enough for us all to king of our own domain, to all those suffering you are in my thoughts, I hope you get out of this, I hope the world can be better, I hope we can find ourselves before it’s too late, responsibility is the first step out of this mess, be responsible for you, timekeeping, upkeep, diet, well being it’s all on you so take responsibility because people and you yourself will sit there and say I’m doing ok, what’s wrong with that? Well ok is way way less than what you could be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Maybe you have nothing to aim for. You are happy where you're at and with the things you have.

We need downs as well as ups I think.

Could be depression. Maybe see your doctor?

Or find something new to aim for/ look forward to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I posted something similar yesterday, must be catching, it is depression no matter how you paint it, it is indicative of where we are as humans, back in the day when we lived in caves, everything had a purpose, you hunted for food protected your family and the land around you, you didn’t do things that meant nothing because that’s when you got caught out by some wild animal and that’s it the end, fast forward to now, our only purpose worth pursuing is continuing our own individual genetics because everything else is done for you, you go work, even if the jobs hard it’s not impossible and if you can’t do it then it’s not the end of the world, basically we have gone soft, our version of hard is not even close to being purposeful over time, sure there’s a lot of great modern things and they make our lives easier, but easy lives aren’t actually in our dna, we are hunters, gatherers, homemakers, farmers, nurturers, all of us and because we basically do none of the above, we are lost bored and steadily sinking in to the abyss, society is failing because we have lost our individual purpose, wars are happening because we have mistaken what it is to be human with if I take that land or that thing I am better than everyone else therefore I am alpha, the world is big enough for us all to king of our own domain, to all those suffering you are in my thoughts, I hope you get out of this, I hope the world can be better, I hope we can find ourselves before it’s too late, responsibility is the first step out of this mess, be responsible for you, timekeeping, upkeep, diet, well being it’s all on you so take responsibility because people and you yourself will sit there and say I’m doing ok, what’s wrong with that? Well ok is way way less than what you could be."

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Yes that's my life too. Difficult not getting regular sex when you're single. Bored of one nighters

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

Sounds like depression. Take the time to do something for you and you alone. Even if you only go out in the sun and sun your balls. Just do something, anything.

C"

Its definitely not depression to me. I know exactly how he feels. It's not having that meaningful human connection that we designed to have. Not everyone is lucky to have someone in their life that loves and cherish them as a sexual person

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

When that happens to me I'm usually thirsty, drink lots of water

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

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By *ohnywrongunMan
over a year ago

Epping


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

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well said

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It could be depression as someone else said ,even celebs get it & those with lives we would envy from the outside .

Maybe have a word with your gp ,the last few years have been hard on most people op .

Take care

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Yes how tou feel has nothing to do with personal wealth.

Achieving life goals is a means to an end and not the end in itself.

You can be alone in a crowded room. You should look at counselling and talking through this.

Those thatbarw mocking you are idiots who are missing the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

"

It doesn't suprise me sometimes why people don't speak up. People are encouraged to speak up and when they do get dismissed or recieve unhelpful comments. Thanks to people like yourself and the majority of others who have posted here I'm glad I posted something. It seems I'm not the only one who is having these struggles.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I've felt similar a couple of times over the last few years.

I guess the important thing to take from it is that you have realised you feel this way and want to make a change.

Like others have said, do something for yourself. Can be something small or something bigger.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

Be kind and all that.

OP find someone to talk to.

Doesn't matter what or who you've got if you feel sad, you feel sad.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

I think everyone feels like that at times, OP, but if it's been going on for some time or you feel like it's getting worse, I'd chat to your doctor.

But have you also thought what might fill the void? Not material stuff, but more time doing things you like etc, or spending time with people you like? Just something to focus on. Easier said than done, I know. Hope you're feeling better soon.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? "

Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to

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By *osephSamuel90Man
over a year ago

Bracknell


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

You seem to be on quite a lot of threads like this telling people to stop whining or some variant of that. You're in your late 50s now, maybe you should grow up and learn some empathy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? "

Thanks for your support. A few people have mentioned on this thread regarding personal goals or doing something for me. I do have some things in mind which I've wanted to do for sometime, I think the right moment would be now so I'm going to look into those things and really aim to get stuck in. If anyone is interested then message me and I'll let you know what I have in mind, would be ace to make new friends on this journey

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Get closer to nature. Grow plants, feed the birds, get a cat or dog. Dog walk for neighbours. All helps o/p.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose?

Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to "

This absolutely….. every time I step into a religious establishment I get hot and feel the weight of the building on me, those people can’t save me, I can save myself one day at a time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose?

Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to "

Goodness me I'm not suggesting you do! I wouldn't either.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

"
well said there was absolutely no need for those crass comments

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

What an unkind comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Yep, then I start to pick my life apart- a bit like those Talking heads lyrics "this is not my beautiful house, this is not my beautiful wife" etc. Main thing is to try and swim against the tide and focus on those positive part of your life you have already mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding personal goals or just a reason to live can be difficult. Several years ago I retired from a dynamic job that consumed my entire work life, and even encroached on my personal life to an extent, but I was happy with that. Suddenly, it was over and I found myself trying to adjust. I still work full time, but my life, though comfortable, is so sedate that I constantly question it's purpose. Others can suggest diversions and alternative activities, but they are things that might suit them. Finding your own is the thing, and I'm still looking..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two of the most important requirements for being happy are to have your expectations met and to have a purpose.

You can have a lovely family/car/home but if they don't meet your expectations then you won't be happy irrespective if what you "should" feel. When I was married,to an outside observer, I had no reason to be unhappy yet I still was. My expectation of what I wanted from my wife wasn't being met (and before I get a forum flaming this wasn't that she didn't give me sex) therefore I became chronically unhappy. I say chronically because it was a situation that developed over years.

Similarly having a purpose. This one is tricky for someone like me. I have no children of my own and my step kids are all grown or have parents to support them. This takes away one of the most common life purposes - to raise/protect/care for children. Another common one is religion (as mentioned above) but if, like me, you believe there is no higher purpose to life this is gone too.

What works for me is fitness goals, the training itself makes you feel better and having a goal helps to take away that feeling of aimless existence. Also, as above, fitness goals mean behaving in a way that's closer to the life we evolved to live, a life of high activity levels, physical struggle and reward.

Good luck OP

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So refreshing to hear all the support, thanks everyone. Common themes coming through in terms of setting goals and trying new focuses and that's exactly what I'll aim to do. Bless you all

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Some really good advice coming together op hope it helps balance things a bit more for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your amazing support. I've already made note of the goals (sensible goals) I wish to achieve and I will put my focus into those tasks/goals. I now know why the advice is to speak up and I'll be sure to advise this to others.

Going to give this a really good bash, all thanks to you amazing lot!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Not dismissing your post, OP many people have phases in their lives when they feel similar. It could be a sign of depression but then it could just be a phase of emptiness which will go away in time.

There is something to be said that around certain ages we start having thoughts about the meaning of things, life etc... and yes, that in itself can make us feel a bit empty.

When my (young) kids said things not dissimilar to your statement at times, OP, I used to tell them to look at these thoughts not as something they should desperately try to avoid or bury, but to open their minds to allow them in and let them leave again a bit like a house with open windows where the draft energy of life would take care of them. Wishing you well x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. "

You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty?

And that is a depressing thing to live with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess.

You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty?

And that is a depressing thing to live with."

No spouse, no children. And I guess some could say maybe I need a partner in my life but I know me and right now I don't need a partner. I feel I've a bit yet to accomplish for myself and reaching out on this forum has helped me realise that very quickly.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess.

You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty?

And that is a depressing thing to live with.

No spouse, no children. And I guess some could say maybe I need a partner in my life but I know me and right now I don't need a partner. I feel I've a bit yet to accomplish for myself and reaching out on this forum has helped me realise that very quickly. "
really pleased it's gone well for you after the appalling first comment,it's good to remember that we are not all arseholes and genuine caring people among us will try to support others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But do you do anything for YOU OP? Or do you spend your time maintaining the things you've listed or being part of them instead?

What makes YOU happy? Hobbies and interests and simple pleasures can take a backseat when you're there for you family and work and jetting off for business trips. It can leave you without many choices and freedoms of your own, like fitting in a walk on a sunny day just because you feel like it, there's no time, work needs doing, it's family time, when is it You time? Are your choices missing?

PW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh"

Some people actually do feel that way, they have everything they need a good life.. beautiful children... but feel like they are alone in life and feel like they haven't got anything.. or anyone to turn to.. i know this because I'm one of them, it's anxiety and depression disorder. If you have it properly it's horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

"

agree with this and it just shows not everyone understands mental health yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But do you do anything for YOU OP? Or do you spend your time maintaining the things you've listed or being part of them instead?

What makes YOU happy? Hobbies and interests and simple pleasures can take a backseat when you're there for you family and work and jetting off for business trips. It can leave you without many choices and freedoms of your own, like fitting in a walk on a sunny day just because you feel like it, there's no time, work needs doing, it's family time, when is it You time? Are your choices missing?

PW "

Thanks for your support. I have recently started making time for myself and started going on long walks and going for runs. It helps to some degree but I'm now putting goals into place so that after I go for a walk I have other things to focus on albeit a small or big goal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, hope everyone is enjoying the great weather. Stay safe all.

So an update; I'm putting myself first and doing things for me. Reaching out by posting this thread almost felt like making that initial step. I had a really positive week all of last week. I've set out to achieve goals. I'm still going out for walks and runs but also spent time with friends and family over the weekend which was great. I guess this beautiful weather also helps but having things to aim for is such a motivator and a focus point to keep your mind active.

Thanks all for the support. Onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know something is missing but i cant have it so i wont try replace it better to feel nothing than feel shitty tho starlord got that wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you are fufilling your financial needs but not your spiritual needs.

What do you do for fun? Hobbies etc

Stuff that does not revolve around money or material possessions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you've said, you have an incredible family. Talk to them about how you feel. Communicate with them. Your instinct is to soldier on because you have 'nothing to complain about' and that is exactly what is exacerbating the issue. Something is not quite right and it has reached the point where you are speaking of it to strangers here. You need to do something about this and perhaps this is the first step. Now you need to speak to a professional or your family to work out what's next.

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Often go through times like this, or just feeling inadequately equipped to do my work, even though I know I am bloody good at what I do. It usually passes, so hope you get through this and start to feel better about things soon

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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging.

OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all

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Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, hope everyone is enjoying the great weather. Stay safe all.

So an update; I'm putting myself first and doing things for me. Reaching out by posting this thread almost felt like making that initial step. I had a really positive week all of last week. I've set out to achieve goals. I'm still going out for walks and runs but also spent time with friends and family over the weekend which was great. I guess this beautiful weather also helps but having things to aim for is such a motivator and a focus point to keep your mind active.

Thanks all for the support. Onwards and upwards

"

I've just read this update. Great news but I suspect it's a temporary uplift. I've been in a similar situation. Communication, communication, communication makes it a far less lonely experience, whether that is with your family, a friend or a professional, it helps. They're there when you hit the wall and the motivation isn't quite there.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves.

Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like you are fufilling your financial needs but not your spiritual needs.

What do you do for fun? Hobbies etc

Stuff that does not revolve around money or material possessions.

"

Thanks everyone for your support once again.

I think you're right regarding fulfilling financial needs and not spiritual needs.

I have started taking long walks and sometimes go running. As I say, I have a great family network and friends circles but I'm looking to expand that by join a tennis club or the gym. I'm keen on keeping fit so I can incorporate health and socialising in one.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Purpose is more important than happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice "

I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice

I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly"

Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice

I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly

Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x"

Not that I'm aware of in my situation. Just meet cheats, liars and time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression can hit anyone OP. I hope you feel better soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh

I think this might say a little more about you than him.

I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out."

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Take time out to pamper yourself, have fun and try not to overthink. You’ll find no two days are the same and we all have ups and down moments. If we’ve no happiness and or god health then it makes us very poor. So enjoy life doing the things that make you feel happy. Surround yourself with positive energy peeps and have fun... Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice

I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly

Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x

Not that I'm aware of in my situation. Just meet cheats, liars and time wasters "

Well that can often be a sign of you getting hurt, then looking for someone to mend that pain that may not be suitable. So you get hurt and more damaged and seek out again. It is a vicious cycle I see so many fall in. Whenever I got hurt, I took a long break from dating, rather than risking rebounds x

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By *ood time Chris BMan
over a year ago

TAUNTON AREA


"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves.

Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are.

I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. "

I know how you feel ,I'm in an identical situation, its hard to shake off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm back to where I was three weeks ago when I posted this.

It was my birthday yesterday (it's Monday now). Had a meal with family in the afternoon and was with them for a good few hours in the sunshine, a few drinks and a bite to eat.

Since I came home I've had that empty feeling.

What's going on with me? I'm sat in the kitchen right now with the small light on, I could just burst out crying

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By *ccidentprone2023Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

Yeah some thing or some one missing im ya life

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By *hesecretdocMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

You poor thing. Just browsed through this thread and there really are done caring people!

Sounds like depression to me (been there in the past), that just wanting to burst into tears and not knowing why.

I suggest talking and trying to figure out but if it's been going on for a few weeks you really need your GP! Sometimes treatment is needed to put you in the place to try and work out what's going on!

Happy to chat anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Society's must have and do's isn't for everyone dude

You can have everything and be unhappy and have nothing and be happy

Find the balance my friend you got this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?

All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice

I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly"

I often feel like this because I'm never been in love or in a relationship, I feel I've missed out on that journey in life, but I've also watched relationships which I would have been jealous of and often wondered why I didn't have that, watching them now fall apart etc I've realised maybe that's not my path.

As for op, I think sometimes people get to an age and think they haven't achieved it all, aren't happy enough etc and we compare ourselves to other people, what other show us, but I can guarantee who the ones we watch thinking they have it all are also wondering why can't I have tbat or why ain't I happy.

A friend told me lately she's jealous of the freedom I have of been single, been able to come and go as I please, my reply I'd love to have someone to lie beside at night and hold me, tell me they love me etc. Her reply she wished she had it too and as for me coming and going as I please, sometimes it greats lonely.

Depression etc isn't something you cure or solve with a flick of a switch or a light bulb moment, it's something you have to work at everyday, be grateful for what you do have, remove the negative people etc from your life.

Life is but a fleeting moment, a roller coaster of emotions and journeys, enjoy the ride

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

I've been dealing with a lot of this for a long time. Initially without realising it.

I know I have lots of positive things going for me.

I go through a long phase of normality. But knowing something isn't right. Then a few days of being silent when talking becomes hard work. Followed by anger then emotion and back to "normality"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want.

I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?"

I might be wrong and if so I will apologise. But your situation reminds me of the scene in only fools and horses where they sell the watch. In life you have effectively won. So there are no more battles. No more challenges so what is the point?

It's akin to being a great samurai. But with no enemy to fight.

If I'm correct. You need a challenge. A real challenge that will push you to excel. Where there is a real risk that without hard effort you will fail. Without skill and resourcefulness you will fail.

I wish you good luck on your quest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been dealing with a lot of this for a long time. Initially without realising it.

I know I have lots of positive things going for me.

I go through a long phase of normality. But knowing something isn't right. Then a few days of being silent when talking becomes hard work. Followed by anger then emotion and back to "normality""

I hear you mate. Really struggle sometimes. The next few days are going to be hot and sunny and people's moods will be lifted, people in beer gardens after work, smells of bbqs everywhere and I can already see myself dreading that and wishing it would just chuck it down and rain all day and night so that I can not feel guilty for staying indoors and shutting everyone and the world away

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

So what brought you to fab OP

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma


"I've been dealing with a lot of this for a long time. Initially without realising it.

I know I have lots of positive things going for me.

I go through a long phase of normality. But knowing something isn't right. Then a few days of being silent when talking becomes hard work. Followed by anger then emotion and back to "normality"

I hear you mate. Really struggle sometimes. The next few days are going to be hot and sunny and people's moods will be lifted, people in beer gardens after work, smells of bbqs everywhere and I can already see myself dreading that and wishing it would just chuck it down and rain all day and night so that I can not feel guilty for staying indoors and shutting everyone and the world away "

You might get a friendly shoulder here, and good on everyone for providing that shoulder.

It might be worthwhile thinking about support from a professional that could provide you the tools you need to manage your feelings.

If you are interested in that, speak to your GP, Im sure they will know how to help you.

Chin up

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