FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong on here?

By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Maybe it's your cringy statuses?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Maybe it's your cringy statuses?"

Maybe also consider if your profile portrays you well?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

9 weeks is the blink of an eye on here. 9 months is a more realistic time period to find that connection

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It doesn't actually say what your disability is, so not sure how anyone can discriminate.

The status definitely doesn't help.

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

Your a man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll echo what I said on your last thread. Have patience and make your profile the best it can be… It’s your shop window to the whole of Fabswingers

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By *ravelling TogMan
over a year ago

sleaford

It doesn't really say what you offer to anyone interested it's more a list of what you want.

As someone else has mentioned it's your first impression to people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another 1 sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another 1 sigh "

At least he got some views today as we have all looked

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By *ravelling TogMan
over a year ago

sleaford

Another thing is make your profile reflect you. If you get someone to direct you how to write it then it'll just look like a carbon copy, cut and paste job or worse be completely opposite of who you are.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

The numbers are not in your favour. Indeed in any gents favour

Maybe 1500 or so active I've single ladies, of all ages, in all areas.

Think of the amount of single gents there is for them to get harrased by on a daily basis (25000 or so would be a reasonable guess)

It's good going getting a response, it's almost biblical getting a meet.

This really isn't dial-a-shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave your profile blank or with “fill in later” have a vague pic then you’ll get the same amount of response and or fun either way

Strange old place is fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is uninteresting with 2 very poor quality pictures.

There are literally thousands of more inviting profiles.

Also what else would we have to do so that you didn’t feel discriminated against.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It amazes me how ready a lot of single men are to blame others for their lack of success and seem oblivious to the fact they might not be making a good impression.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Join in with forum/cam room chat op and treat fab like a social club. Lot's of different people and topics. Enjoy and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It amazes me how ready a lot of single men are to blame others for their lack of success and seem oblivious to the fact they might not be making a good impression. "

It’s easier to do that than it is to look at yourself though innit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your a man lol"

^^^

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"It amazes me how ready a lot of single men are to blame others for their lack of success and seem oblivious to the fact they might not be making a good impression.

It’s easier to do that than it is to look at yourself though innit? "

Innit.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

9 weeks is nothing here, people wait longer to get a passport.

Like other people have said your status isn't going to help at all either and if you think it will then you're still going to be waiting after 9 years for anyone to be interested

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Thanks for the advice mate

At least some people are understanding

Instead of being critical

I’m not very good at English or grammar

I don’t have anyone that can help me

Write a profile or status,

I’m really trying to experiment to find out what will attract people to me,

I don’t see why I should tell me disability on my profile,

If someone wants to know they can ask surely

Thanks again for your advice mate

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Thanks for advice mate,

At least your not critical of me

Unlike some people

I will try what you have advised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for advice mate,

At least your not critical of me

Unlike some people

I will try what you have advised "

Use reply + quote so it’s clear who you’re responding to.

I don’t think people are being critical so much, but it is true, you need to put your person into the profile, and no one can do that for you.

Of course you don’t have to say what your disability is, but you’ve said you think it’s why, which is why people have picked up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no idea what your disability is from looking at your profile so I'd safely say it isn't that.

Your photos aren't great, you can't accommodate so I'd assume you aren't single and your bio doesn't sell you. I find it a bit cringe as well as your status but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get out what you put in. Go to clubs and socials on your own, Sell yourself, use chatrooms and forums. The only people that succeed as singles go the extra mile. I drove over 200 miles for a coffee with Elfie. Most people said I was mad. We just booked our wedding. That’s the sort of effort you need on here

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"It doesn't actually say what your disability is, so not sure how anyone can discriminate.

The status definitely doesn't help."

Just going to say. Your profile (which isn’t great) doesnt mention any disability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where you're going wrong, like most blokes, is thinking that being on here guarantees sex.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

We don't know what your disability is op ,it's more likely that your profile is bare that's not doing you any favours .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice mate

At least some people are understanding

Instead of being critical

I’m not very good at English or grammar

I don’t have anyone that can help me

Write a profile or status,

I’m really trying to experiment to find out what will attract people to me,

I don’t see why I should tell me disability on my profile,

If someone wants to know they can ask surely

Thanks again for your advice mate "
me me me i want to know what your disability is????

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It doesn't actually say what your disability is, so not sure how anyone can discriminate."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t speak for others, but we do tend to discriminate against profiles that have been live for a couple of months, yet have two shit pictures and a ‘fill in later,’ rather than against people with disabilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

Do you tell them what your disability is?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

For a start there's no information on your profile as to what you're into, 'will fill in later' is beyond lazy will you be that lazy in bed too?

Add to that there are over 100 guys to every woman on this site that means for every guy to get just one meet a year every woman needs to have two meets a week which lets face it will never happen

Oh and it's a swingers site not a hook up, if you want easy NSA fun pay for it

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Thanks for the kind advice

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Hi thanks for the advice

I’m not comfortable with my disability in an intimate scenario, because of the nature of it,

I have tried to update my profile better,

Giving people a clue to my disability through that of famous celebrities with my disability

So they can find out easier,

Then if there happy with that,

They can ask questions about it

I’m not the best with grammar or trying to write a profile,

I don’t have anyone who can advise me what to put on my profile.

Thanks again for kind advice

Magpie x

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Thanks for advice mate,

At least your not critical of me

Unlike some people

I will try what you have advised

Use reply + quote so it’s clear who you’re responding to.

I don’t think people are being critical so much, but it is true, you need to put your person into the profile, and no one can do that for you.

Of course you don’t have to say what your disability is, but you’ve said you think it’s why, which is why people have picked up on it. "

Thanks for Advice Hippychick,

I will take your advice as your from my home county of birth,

I left Sussex some 33 years ago,

I bet it’s changed a lot,

Thanks again for your advice

Magpie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate don't run yourself down bro.

I'm sure there is people that will like your profile.

If it makes you feel better I get no attention to. But it's a waiting game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is this hindrance you allude too?

We need to know!

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"You get out what you put in. Go to clubs and socials on your own, Sell yourself, use chatrooms and forums. The only people that succeed as singles go the extra mile. I drove over 200 miles for a coffee with Elfie. Most people said I was mad. We just booked our wedding. That’s the sort of effort you need on here"

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Can’t speak for others, but we do tend to discriminate against profiles that have been live for a couple of months, yet have two shit pictures and a ‘fill in later,’ rather than against people with disabilities

hi sorry I was in middle of redoing my profile changes,

So that’s why it said fill in later,

I have same disability as Singer Adele Roberts & Actor George Clooney,

If people want to know they can ask me or google,

I’m trying to make better profile pictures without dick pictures as that’s the number turn off for a women,

Thanks for the thoughtful advice anyway

Magpie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

It depends what the disability is but it's against the law to discriminate due to a disability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi sorry I was in middle of redoing my profile changes,

So that’s why it said fill in later,

I have same disability as Singer Adele Roberts & Actor George Clooney,

If people want to know they can ask me or google,

I’m trying to make better profile pictures without dick pictures as that’s the number turn off for a women,

Thanks for the thoughtful advice anyway

Magpie "

A few have asked what disability do you have?

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Do you tell them what your disability is? "

Hi I haven’t been asked once yet,

But I have updated my profile giving them a clue to it by referencing it to celebrities that have the same disability

I’m sure people can ask me or google,

I’m now just trying to make some decent photos without my dick as that’s number one turn off for females

Thanks for your reply

Magpie

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By *red010171Man
over a year ago

South West ish

As people have said get out and about and talk to people, socials, clubs,forum (but not just what's up with my profile type threads) etc. There are people on here whom meet, no different to in person, engage person through conversation and what you seek is more likely to follow than just asking why can't I get a meet.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

hi sorry I was in middle of redoing my profile changes,

So that’s why it said fill in later,

I have same disability as Singer Adele Roberts & Actor George Clooney,

If people want to know they can ask me or google,

I’m trying to make better profile pictures without dick pictures as that’s the number turn off for a women,

Thanks for the thoughtful advice anyway

Magpie

A few have asked what disability do you have?"

Hi mate,

I have a stomach bag,

It’s not something that is easy to have & be intimate with someone who is new to it

Magpie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Do you tell them what your disability is?

Hi I haven’t been asked once yet,

But I have updated my profile giving them a clue to it by referencing it to celebrities that have the same disability

I’m sure people can ask me or google,

I’m now just trying to make some decent photos without my dick as that’s number one turn off for females

Thanks for your reply

Magpie

Perhaps have a chat with the wife?

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Do you tell them what your disability is?

Hi I haven’t been asked once yet,

But I have updated my profile giving them a clue to it by referencing it to celebrities that have the same disability

I’m sure people can ask me or google,

I’m now just trying to make some decent photos without my dick as that’s number one turn off for females

Thanks for your reply

Magpie

Perhaps have a chat with the wife?"

She’s not interested Mate at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi sorry I was in middle of redoing my profile changes,

So that’s why it said fill in later,

I have same disability as Singer Adele Roberts & Actor George Clooney,

If people want to know they can ask me or google,

I’m trying to make better profile pictures without dick pictures as that’s the number turn off for a women,

Thanks for the thoughtful advice anyway

Magpie

A few have asked what disability do you have?

Hi mate,

I have a stomach bag,

It’s not something that is easy to have & be intimate with someone who is new to it

Magpie"

A stoma?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

hi sorry I was in middle of redoing my profile changes,

So that’s why it said fill in later,

I have same disability as Singer Adele Roberts & Actor George Clooney,

If people want to know they can ask me or google,

I’m trying to make better profile pictures without dick pictures as that’s the number turn off for a women,

Thanks for the thoughtful advice anyway

Magpie

A few have asked what disability do you have?

Hi mate,

I have a stomach bag,

It’s not something that is easy to have & be intimate with someone who is new to it

Magpie

A stoma?"

Yes mate

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue "

A Stoma

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"We don't know what your disability is op ,it's more likely that your profile is bare that's not doing you any favours ."

It’s not blank now

I was rejigging it a bit

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma"

Ok, I think you’ll find lots of people aren’t put off by this. You certainly won’t be the only one.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

It depends what the disability is but it's against the law to discriminate due to a disability "

I have a Stoma bag

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma"

Having a big dick doesn't help either.

So don't feel discriminated, its life on a free site.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Ok, I think you’ll find lots of people aren’t put off by this. You certainly won’t be the only one.

Every person that have asked me or I tell

Have Never heard from again

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I’ll echo what I said on your last thread. Have patience and make your profile the best it can be… It’s your shop window to the whole of Fabswingers

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Perfect.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Having a big dick doesn't help either.

So don't feel discriminated, its life on a free site."

How did you get on here for free?

I have had to pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Ok, I think you’ll find lots of people aren’t put off by this. You certainly won’t be the only one.

Every person that have asked me or I tell

Have Never heard from again "

I have dated a lady with a stoma...........made not one jot of difference. Go out and enjoy life!

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Ok, I think you’ll find lots of people aren’t put off by this. You certainly won’t be the only one.

I hope so,

It doesn’t give me any confidence when people just don’t reply when you tell them what I got

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

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By * U mineMan
over a year ago

Fun

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Having a big dick doesn't help either.

So don't feel discriminated, its life on a free site.

How did you get on here for free?

I have had to pay

Big dick they like to have us on the site.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Ok, I think you’ll find lots of people aren’t put off by this. You certainly won’t be the only one.

Every person that have asked me or I tell

Have Never heard from again

I have dated a lady with a stoma...........made not one jot of difference. Go out and enjoy life!"

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"George Clooney is dyslexic - if it’s that?

It must be a struggle but there are lots of people I’ve seen posting on here and are open about their dyslexia.

If it’s not, I have no clue

A Stoma

Having a big dick doesn't help either.

So don't feel discriminated, its life on a free site.

How did you get on here for free?

I have had to pay

Big dick they like to have us on the site."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Your profile is depressing. You need to concentrate on what's good about yourself, not what's wrong. I wouldn't include any mention of disability in my status and, to be honest, probably not in my profile at all (and I too have a slight disability)

Your profile reads more like the sort of profile I would expect to find on a dating site, which Fab definitely isn't. You won't get sympathy shags on here.

You need to make yourself sound like a fun person to spend time with.

Even with the best profile don't expect instant results. You're going to have to get involved in the forums and go to some social meets (the ones that are purely social are a good start). The first few you'll probably feel a little awkward and out of place but stick with it, it will work if you adopt the right mindset.

And finally never, ever, never start another thread like this - it makes you look sad, unconfident and introverted - none of which will help getting what you really want from here.

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By *aughtyxButNiceMan
over a year ago

Chatham

This site is a single lady /couples paradise

There are so many single lads on here we’ll not so single lads just popping out for a quick takeaway and leaving there Steak at home

Iv seen them turn up at club get what they want and gone in a hour back to the wife lol

If it was just singles and swingers there would not be half the blokes on here

But to be honest I’m been on here for a couple of years and meet some lovely ladies and couples so it dose happen just be Polite and patient and Truthful on your profile and the nice ones will find you It might take a while but They will

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Do you tell them what your disability is?

Hi I haven’t been asked once yet,

But I have updated my profile giving them a clue to it by referencing it to celebrities that have the same disability

I’m sure people can ask me or google,

I’m now just trying to make some decent photos without my dick as that’s number one turn off for females

Thanks for your reply

Magpie

Perhaps have a chat with the wife?

She’s not interested Mate at all"

The fact that you are cheating will also lessen your odds of meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is depressing. You need to concentrate on what's good about yourself, not what's wrong. I wouldn't include any mention of disability in my status and, to be honest, probably not in my profile at all (and I too have a slight disability)

Your profile reads more like the sort of profile I would expect to find on a dating site, which Fab definitely isn't. You won't get sympathy shags on here.

You need to make yourself sound like a fun person to spend time with.

And finally never, ever, never start another thread like this - it makes you look sad, unconfident and introverted - none of which will help getting what you really want from here.

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this advice is sound

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

"Maybe it's your cringy statuses?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your doing nothing ‘wrong’. Stop using negative words. And anywsy, there is no right or wrong.

You can put whatever you want on your profile (to a point, let’s avoid things that’ll get you banned I suppose

) and this is why everyone’s is different.

But whatever you put, people will read. And have a think if you believe it shows people who you are and would want to know you more or turn them away. Big up the stuff you think people will like about you.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Your doing nothing ‘wrong’. Stop using negative words. And anywsy, there is no right or wrong.

You can put whatever you want on your profile (to a point, let’s avoid things that’ll get you banned I suppose

) and this is why everyone’s is different.

Good answer.

Remember that single guys are 100 a penny on here, and OP you are not even single.

The simple fact is, if your profile stands out people will be attracted to it.

If it doesn't it won't.

Blaming it on your disability really isn't attractive. Most people have some kind of disability.

Best thing? Take a strong hard look at the effort you have put in.

If it is your best then cool.

Not everyone gets free sex on here, even though they would all like to!!

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Some sound advice on here. A couple of things that would put be off. Your status is depressing and what about talking about your abilities rather than disabilities. Also for me personally I don't meet men who have a partner who don't know they're on fab. Nothing to do with disability or anything else.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

As an experiment I would suggest you don't mention your 'slight disability' just to see if it changes things - at least then you'll know if all the above are criticisms or the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

You're a little fish in a big pond, you need to get yourself noticed. Attend socials regularly, join in lighthearted forum posts or chat rooms. Take some better photo's. You're honest about being married but is your wife aware that you intend on cheating on her.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Fair question.

Is she OP?

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

Your poor profile, your absurd fetish of pointing out your 'disability' or your weird statuses.

That's just first impression though.

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

To reiterate a previous post.

Don’t take this site too seriously. There are many reasons why you may not be getting the interaction you seek.

People in here do not support any discriminatory behaviour and I’d seriously doubt your lack of interaction is as a result of your disability.

You are who you are and members will take you for who you are.

Perhaps a more positive and upbeat profile . Your only 9 weeks on the site . Many of us have been on for years .. be positive and supportive , chat in rooms and interact with forum posts. You will get there ..

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

It depends what the disability is but it's against the law to discriminate due to a disability

I have a Stoma bag"

I’ve seen a man at a club with a stoma bag. Didn’t hinder him at all

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

It depends what the disability is but it's against the law to discriminate due to a disability

I have a Stoma bag"

George Clooney doesn't have a stoma bag

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By *yourselfMan
over a year ago

Heworth

"Another 1 sigh "

Tedious aren't they, every other day.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Hi Mate, really appreciate your advice

I’m a bit nervous about going to a club at the moment,

Once I got a social & meet out the way

I might find someone to go with

Not many clubs mention if they are disability friendly,

Only one in Devon I know of

Thanks again for Advice I will take it all on board,

I will try to sell myself better

Magpie

It depends what the disability is but it's against the law to discriminate due to a disability

I have a Stoma bag

I’ve seen a man at a club with a stoma bag. Didn’t hinder him at all"

That gives me a lot of hope

That others with a Stoma bag are going to clubs,

Thanks for the heads up Lovely Lady x

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"To reiterate a previous post.

Don’t take this site too seriously. There are many reasons why you may not be getting the interaction you seek.

People in here do not support any discriminatory behaviour and I’d seriously doubt your lack of interaction is as a result of your disability.

You are who you are and members will take you for who you are.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"To reiterate a previous post.

Don’t take this site too seriously. There are many reasons why you may not be getting the interaction you seek.

People in here do not support any discriminatory behaviour and I’d seriously doubt your lack of interaction is as a result of your disability.

You are who you are and members will take you for who you are.

Thanks for all your kind advice mate it gives me confidence that I can interact with others,

I will get there one day,

Not everyone gives you the feeling other confidence with there comments

If they can’t be helpful

They shouldn’t post

All I’m looking for is people with helpful advice

Not criticism!

it’s not nice for my confidence

Thanks again for the kind words

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

She’s already cheating on me,

I’ve been told by friends

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Another 1 sigh

Tedious aren't they, every other day. "

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Another 1 sigh

Tedious aren't they, every other day. "

I wish I never said anything now

Feel a bit crap now

Not confident plus I’m nervous about going to socials then to be criticised about my situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun "

Cheer up, it could be worse. Like someone said, imagine opening 50 "sorry your not my type" messages every day.

There every cloud as a silver lining.

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By *hasing the honeypot 69 OP Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

Cheer up, it could be worse. Like someone said, imagine opening 50 "sorry your not my type" messages every day.

There every cloud as a silver lining. "

Thanks for your advice & kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of all the fab woman as a whole…..

A large % will want to meet men

That % gets smaller for every preference you don’t meet.

You’ll be too old for some

You’ll be too married for some

You’ll be too far away for some

You’re smoker status will discount you from some

Your ‘disability’ whatever it is, may discount you from some

Add all that up, and only a tiny % of all the women here will actually want to meet within their preferences.

Now take an even tinier % of that tiny % of women, and they may be the ones that would fancy you enough to have sex with.

The brutal truth is, that you’re looking for a needle in a stack of needles.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

What exactly do you expect?

The vast majority on here have no intrest in back cheats.

How can you expect random people on here to believe that you'll have respect for them when you don't even have any respect for your own partner?

You may think that we're being harsh, but that's the harsh truth I'm afraid.

Swinging and cheating are very very very different things!

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

She’s already cheating on me,

I’ve been told by friends "

Maybe the first thing you need to do is split with your wife.

If you are both cheating is there anything worth staying together for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try looking at a different type of socialising.

After reading your profile and some of your comments I don't feel like you're ready for fab. (Only my opinion) you come across shy and a bit like you've been forced here as a result of your wife cheating on you.

You're not ready for socials because of fear of being judged and you're not having any luck with private meets due to how your profile comes across.

Could you not look at groups locally to you just so you could maybe make some new friends.

I know that doesn't help sexually but maybe just stick to pleasuring yourself until you're ready to jump all in

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Been on here a bit now

Can’t seem to get any interest from anyone,

Feel like I’m being discriminated because of my slight disability,

All I want is some fun

She’s already cheating on me,

I’ve been told by friends "

Missed that part, then in that case confront her, though so many will lie about that.

Agree with others that you aren't ready for this lifestyle.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"What exactly do you expect?

The vast majority on here have no intrest in back cheats.

How can you expect random people on here to believe that you'll have respect for them when you don't even have any respect for your own partner?

You may think that we're being harsh, but that's the harsh truth I'm afraid.

Swinging and cheating are very very very different things!"

Very very true,

Some people think swingers fuck everyone so why can't I get some.

Wrong

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It ain't very nice referring to your wife as a disability.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"It ain't very nice referring to your wife as a disability. "

I thought he meant his bad tattoos but this works.

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By *xxblackcatxxxMan
over a year ago

NEWBURY

It is with interest i have read all of the threads on this post , and agree with the majority of them , I have looked at your profile , Your picture, Mmmm you will never attract anyones attention with a picture like that, You are trying to sell yourself, Take some spectacular pictures, not in the toilet , Most phones have cameras so easy to do it yourself,

Communication is key its a two thing , So start chatting to people & they will chat back

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