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Why do people lie?

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By *az080378 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Do they even realise how much it destroys someone when they do it?

What is the point?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

fear, low self esteem, to impress you, because they can, because they have a mental health problem, because they know you won't like the truth, because they are trying to be nice and so on and so forth

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies."

This is true. Even the autistic people who are brutally truthful let a little lie slip out once in a while.

C

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By *az080378 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?

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By *esire in SheffieldMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Once someone told me

Men lies

Woman put make up on

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"fear, low self esteem, to impress you, because they can, because they have a mental health problem, because they know you won't like the truth, because they are trying to be nice and so on and so forth "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Once someone told me

Men lies

Woman put make up on "

what did they mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?"

It can only destroy them if they allow it too!

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By *esire in SheffieldMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Everybody uses something to impress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?"

It sounds like you’re in a sad place right now through no fault of your own, so I send you care and hope it gets better soon.

Unfortunately, some people are basically shiz and they hurt other people through their actions.

Trust is hard won and easily lost. That’s on them, not you. Be kind to yourself first and foremost please OP. Kx

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

everbody tells a little lie but you get the the ones that are compulsive,, you never know what the truth is, they live in a different world,,

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Selfishness mostly.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

For so many reasons and usually for their own gain/benefit.

“Trust no one, believe nothing and question everything”

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By *az080378 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cromer


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?

It sounds like you’re in a sad place right now through no fault of your own, so I send you care and hope it gets better soon.

Unfortunately, some people are basically shiz and they hurt other people through their actions.

Trust is hard won and easily lost. That’s on them, not you. Be kind to yourself first and foremost please OP. Kx "

Thank you, I really needed to hear that.

I am beyond sad,and also angry at myself,but mostly I am deeply hurt .

But your words mean alot and are appreciated xx

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By *az080378 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cromer


"Selfishness mostly."

Yeah,I agree.

Just sometimes you don't see it coming until it's slaps you in the face and breaks your heart

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door


"fear, low self esteem, to impress you, because they can, because they have a mental health problem, because they know you won't like the truth, because they are trying to be nice and so on and so forth "

^this and lots more.

Cause they can then accuse you of doing what they are doing but you aren't doing what they are!

They know you've caught them out!

And their lies can destroy the innocent.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Selfishness mostly.

Yeah,I agree.

Just sometimes you don't see it coming until it's slaps you in the face and breaks your heart "

Know that one all too well.

It's something I struggle with now. Trusting. Not sure I'll ever allow myself to trust again and I find that the saddest of all of it. When they make that decision (and it is a choice) to lie, I don't think they fully understand how deeply the impact will be felt or how long the trauma will last (because it most certainly can be traumatising)

That shit can fully change how you live your life in the future. It ain't just the here and now it affects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Selfishness mostly.

Yeah,I agree.

Just sometimes you don't see it coming until it's slaps you in the face and breaks your heart

Know that one all too well.

It's something I struggle with now. Trusting. Not sure I'll ever allow myself to trust again and I find that the saddest of all of it. When they make that decision (and it is a choice) to lie, I don't think they fully understand how deeply the impact will be felt or how long the trauma will last (because it most certainly can be traumatising)

That shit can fully change how you live your life in the future. It ain't just the here and now it affects."

Absolutely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy it its fun to tell make believe stories like the time i punched a hole in a volcano and swam in its lava bubble bath

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove


"Do they even realise how much it destroys someone when they do it?

What is the point?"

…

Because they can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of us are innocent by any stretch of the imagination, and I believe we’ve all told the odd porky pies...

and esp. on fabswingers

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Because it's easier to hide behind a lie than face the truth

The problems start when the liar starts to believe that their lies are truths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, depends on the level of lie? 'it's complicated'... But there married? Vs 'I'm not wanting much serious'... And they ghost ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?"

Yes.

But it’s hard to trust once it’s been proven that your trust also lies to you. (Profound eh? )

But I do believe we can trust people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?"

No.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Do they even realise how much it destroys someone when they do it?

What is the point?"

On here I guess they lie to get laid.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Everyone does lie to some degree,but when you know your lie will destroy the other person I just don't understand why you would do it.

Can you really ever trust anyone?"

Sadly in the moment they don’t care about anyone but themselves and their own selfish needs. What’s worse is when you’ve tried to be encouraging yet they still continue to lie and cheat even when you know truth

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies."

I disagree. Not everybody does.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Usually because they're selfish or cowardly.

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By *ayyorksMan
over a year ago

Halifax yorkshire

Lies they always catch you out and bite you on the ass !

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

For what it's worth - I believe people lie because that are worried about the consequences if they tell the truth.

Kind of saving their (nitrate-free) bacon or something like that...

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies.

I disagree. Not everybody does."

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Liar.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies.

I disagree. Not everybody does.

•

Liar. "

Brave man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies.

I disagree. Not everybody does."

I think we've all told the odd kind-hearted lie at one time or other. Complimenting someone's new haircut when you don't actually like it, for example. I agree with you that not everyone tells the more self-serving lies that the OP has been at the receiving end of.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"It's a polarising topic.

Everyone lies.

I disagree. Not everybody does.

I think we've all told the odd kind-hearted lie at one time or other. Complimenting someone's new haircut when you don't actually like it, for example. I agree with you that not everyone tells the more self-serving lies that the OP has been at the receiving end of."

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Hence why I surmised that everyone lies, which is dependent on the context and sentiment.

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Do they even realise how much it destroys someone when they do it?

What is the point?"

I worker with one guy who used to be a friend but his lies were unreal. One time at work I was in the office and in the next room was my so called friend was telling lies about me I heard everything he said. I just never spoke to him as a friend ever since and this was back in 2011 or 2012

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the lie.

If someone really fat asks you how they look in an outfit, are you really going to say - you look like a burst couch luv, have you not got any mirrors in your house ?

Or will you say - you look fine, I don't know what you are worried about ?

I've baked this cake and am super excited for you to try it ....

Takes taste, bland as hell -

A) it's wonderful, you are improving so much. (Lie)

B) Jesus, maybe you should give up and find something you are good at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.. This is a Whole massive debate that would probably need several types of expert professionals to help...

You go round the twist self analysing this. Self preservation, be true to yourself & try to absorb other peoples negativities. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like all the bad things we do as people, because we can. To protect ourselves, to protect other people, to hide from a painful truth, to do something we know will cause pain if discovered, yet feel we need/deserve to do it and the one thing you have to remember.

No matter how big, damaging and painful the lie to which you have believed, it is not a measure of you. You have not failed yourself, or anyone else by believing it.

Trust isn't failure, without it all your other healthy relationships wouldn't exist. So hold on to it for now, but you can and should invest it in others again.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Some continue to lie as they've told so many untruths that the truth would uncover their lies. Yes there are some who cannot or will not lie, they have learnt there is nothing but harm to come from lying and you have to remember all the lies you've told or you could come unstuck.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Telling the truth can be just as cruel as a lie.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Usually because they're selfish or cowardly. "

this

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