FabSwingers.com forum: Guy wanting role play.. blank profile is that a problem ?

By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Wanting to try more role play open to new things. Love sub dom dressing up, anything new Il try. I’m blank for my own reasons but share pics once I speak to someone. Why is it such a big thing? Il share with people I connect with that’s my choice

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over a year ago

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"Wanting to try more role play open to new things. Love sub dom dressing up, anything new Il try. I’m blank for my own reasons but share pics once I speak to someone. Why is it such a big thing? Il share with people I connect with that’s my choice "

How are people supposed to know there's a connection if they can't see what you're like and what you're looking for?

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

I will say what I’m looking for and send pics to someone once we have spoke and I feel is not wasting my time

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The trouble is most people won't even consider connecting with you until they have got an idea of what you look like, so you may not get that connection in the first place.

You are absolutely right that it's your choice, but it's also their choice not to be interested in people without photos. As long as you're OK with that, everybody's happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep totally your choice. But they'll pass you by based on a blank profile (you might be a bit of a minger

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Message me Il happily send pics I just choose not to have them public.. it’s a sex site and for my career I think it’s the sensible thing to do.

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m not but that’s the assumption People have over that I’m just private

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Its not a "sex site" it's called fab swingers for a reason!

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

True

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Thanks for the comment I know it’s a swingers site. But is that not for people to meet up and try new things ? Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Message me Il happily send pics I just choose not to have them public.. it’s a sex site and for my career I think it’s the sensible thing to do. "

I also have a career believe it or not.. I'd pass you by as you seem to have a bit of a unfriendly demeanour

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m actually a bit gutted I have come across that way, it wasn’t my intention I was just wanting some feedback. That’s the last thing I want, I’m very friendly but maybe I need to work on that if it’s coming across the opposite. That’s surprising bloody hell

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Would you pick up a sealed, blank box from a supermarket, pay for it, then take it home to see if you want to eat what's inside?

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

If you want a blank profile for your own reasons, then you need to accept a lot of people won't want to engage with you, for their own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you went to a club, or wherever with the intention of meeting someone for potential relationships and when you get there, everyone had a cardboard box on their head. Later on you find out there was a particular person that was miffed that you didn't come over to find out more about them and they would have taken the box off if you'd clicked. World doesn't work like that I'm afraid. Scroll the forums and you'll find a large number of single men who can't get noticed on here despite putting in the time and effort on their profile.

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Fair point

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"I’m actually a bit gutted I have come across that way, it wasn’t my intention I was just wanting some feedback. That’s the last thing I want, I’m very friendly but maybe I need to work on that if it’s coming across the opposite. That’s surprising bloody hell "

Personally I would get rid of the last 2 paragraphs. They're very negative and a bit whiny.

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

But once I talk to someone I’m happy to exchange pics but I get what you’re saying

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Thanks for your opinion

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"Fair point "
you don't have to have a face pic up just any pic will do look at some of mine they are pic's of my socks

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

Socks ? Thanks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post a face pic then?... I mean I don't. But then I'm fem so not an issue here

But you do read on your profile like you think you're 'something', and looks only go that far. And you ain't showing yours?... No shock there's no response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair point you don't have to have a face pic up just any pic will do look at some of mine they are pic's of my socks "

Just to add to this.....I'd advise against a cock pic. That's something people also don't want revealed until the appropriate time.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"Socks ? Thanks haha "
and people love them its just a bit of craic

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By *hompy OP Man
over a year ago

sheffield

I won’t thanks ??

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Most women won't open a message without looking at the profile first and if there are no pics will move on to the next one.

To use the shop window analogy, if you don't have a sign up or give some idea of what you are selling, everyone will just keep walking on passed.

Lack of consistency between what is said and what is displayed will not attract anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will say what I’m looking for and send pics to someone once we have spoke and I feel is not wasting my time "

Yeh, that’s probably your biggest ego flex right there. Even I would find it hard to want to talk to someone who has no pics, no profile and wants me to prove in some way that I’m not wasting ‘their’ time.

A change of attitude is a positive thing op. #thinkpossitive

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By *icole 123Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

"Message me Il happily send pics I just choose not to have them public.. it’s a sex site and for my career I think it’s the sensible thing to do.

I also have a career believe it or not.. I'd pass you by as you seem to have a bit of a unfriendly demeanour "

That’s exactly what I was thinking

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

There's absolutely nothing in your profile or anything you've said in here to create any interest. I'd describe it as bland (that's being polite).

The sense I get is you seem to think as if we were to meet you'd be doing me the favour!

Thanks, but no thanks.

(Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op-use reply +quote so we know who you’re responding to

The trouble is, you’re unlikely to get connections without at least something on your profile.

It’s your profile to run as you wish though, and if it’s working for you then it’s fine…….

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Is it not time to 'blank' this thread?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Most women won't open a message without looking at the profile first and if there are no pics will move on to the next one.

To use the shop window analogy, if you don't have a sign up or give some idea of what you are selling, everyone will just keep walking on passed.

Lack of consistency between what is said and what is displayed will not attract anyone."

Yep this is spot on.

If the profile doesn't grab my attention I won't interact with the person. Most of us have jobs and prefer to keep this part of our lives private but we still can make an effort with our profiles.

Of course you don't have to have pics up that's entirely your perogative OP but it's also other people's choice to ignore any messages from blank profiles. Especially ones who have negative comments on theirs about others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also value anonymity to a point due to running our own business and the fact that Fab life, for us, is something between us and no-one in our families or vanilla friends have a clue what we do.

But still we have 82 public pics. None show faces but we hope it gives the couples and singles we look for a good idea of our bodies and our vibe. I just don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t add a few pics. You don’t have to show your face but it will enhance your profile.

You say you don’t do veris (or words to that effect) - but why? When you make a decision on a big purchase do you not read reviews and do some research first? No, no money is changing hands but to entrust your time and body (and safety) to someone else most people need to have some verification that the person they are meeting is a) real b) not a nutter and c) up to the task.

For a bit of insight … and this isn’t because we get attention and it’s ‘gone to our heads’ as per your profile, it’s a simple supply and demand/time constraints issue … we get upwards of 700 views on our profile a day. We don’t have time to look at them all. Sometimes we don’t look at all but just read messages received. If we do look it’s always an interesting profile pic or tagline that will catch our eyes. A profile without pics is never going to jump off the page at us and even the best message or a wink is not going to be responded to if the profile doesn’t look as if there’s been any effort put into it. Add to that that there’s so many single men on here and a lot of couples especially aren’t looking for single men then if you’re serious about wanting to meet people you have to stand out to get someone to chat in the first place.

It’s your choice, of course, but if you want success here then I think you need to have a rethink and change the tune a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a shop window with nothing in it you won’t draw many people inside.

But it is absolutely your choice.

For extra added anonymity delete the profile altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'll find majority of people have a career in the fab world. However, if you went to a club would you wear a mask in case someone recognised you? You don't need to put public face pics but you need to show something to get people's attention. You don't really sell yourself well, abs those last 2 paragraphs make you sound bitter which is unattractive

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP..good luck with your search, but I suspect that you'll draw a blank. If you're hoping to start chatting to someone based on your profile, you could be waiting for quite some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile is a reflection of someone's personality and a blank one doesn't give me anything to go off. If someone can't take 5 mins to write something, conversation is not going too be much effort on their part I feel.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I won’t thanks ??"

Firstly, please keep it to the forums, OP.

Secondly, please use the "Reply +quote" button so we can see which comment you are responding to.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's not just the thread. But to address the pic thing....do you think anyone I work with would identify me based on my profile pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re very clear on this thread that you’re going to do you, your way.

It’s your profile so good for you, stick to your guns.

Your target market is giving you valuable feedback which you can choose to utilise or continue to push back on if you want.

You use Fab in the way it works for you.

Good luck in your search

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Message me Il happily send pics I just choose not to have them public.. it’s a sex site and for my career I think it’s the sensible thing to do. "

I think it's unlikely you'll get as far as people messaging you if you have no photos to tempt people with. Why would they? If this is as you describe it "a sex site," don't you think people want to chat with people they find attractive? Why would they chat to you in the first place if they can't see you and they have many alternatives they can see. People are not going to talk to the numerous blank profiles on the off chance they will find one of them attractive. They'll just go straight to the many they can see.

You are perfectly capable of not showing your face. You can obscure it with editing or just not have it in a photo. It is what the vast majority of people do on here.

As you say, it's entirely your choice but it seems a very unnecessary and counterproductive approach.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you think your colleagues would recognise you by your clothed torso ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most women I check a profile before even opening a message. If there's no attraction there's no point ergo I am more likely to open the mail of a man I can see I'm attracted to.

Also it seems a bit unfair, you can see their pics but you expect to chat a bit before showing yours?

As others have said, how you use fab is up to you but if you're actively looking to connect with people then I'd take note of the advice you've been given.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

To much hassle for me. Ms

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