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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. We know this will get some negative feedback but here we go. We find that certain areas of fab have cliques. General chat being the worst. If you’re not a regular you aren’t welcome kind of thing. We are new to the forums but it feels a little the same here. Please feel free to discuss. We are always polite and engaging but it seems that there are more responses to forum posts depending on who posted them rather than the content?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

My advice, just stop caring. It is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice, just stop caring. It is what it is "

Agree, I don’t visit the forums as frequently as some, but join in and have fun, don’t look for issues, most threads are most welcoming I find.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I agree been trying to fit in in different areas of fab but seem to excluded by most. Please don't get me wrong there are some very nice people here in the forum's and chat room.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve been posting for a month or so but can’t say I’ve noticed it being cliquey, but then I don’t pay too much attention!

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

hate cliques,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with."
thankyou. We’ve both been here for 10 years but only recently a couple. We love the lifestyle and met on here. Just find some areas very negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use the forums and chatrooms as a social outlet so to chat mostly to friends and people they know is normal. You wouldn't go to the pub and stop mid conversation with friends to talk to a stranger.

Everyone was new at one point though, joining in and perseverance are what get you noticed and how friendships are built.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree been trying to fit in in different areas of fab but seem to excluded by most. Please don't get me wrong there are some very nice people here in the forum's and chat room. "

Have to agree, it can be very clique..

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By *r Black 85Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Forget them

It is their loss

Dont let anyone dull your sparkle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.thankyou. We’ve both been here for 10 years but only recently a couple. We love the lifestyle and met on here. Just find some areas very negative."

I get why it could feel like that but most people on the forums are just here to have a laugh and pass some time. Obviously there are some dickheads but that is life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forget them

It is their loss

Dont let anyone dull your sparkle"
no issue to us. The whole point of forums is conversation so we are just starting one. All is good

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with."

This is also true

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

If no-one wants to engage op just move into another cam room or forum thread. Plenty of others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true"

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You will find that some threads end up in conversation between certain posters, why they don't take it to pm and let others get a word in baffles me but each to their own. I very rarely (and have noticed a few others) post these days or take part due to the fact that it's very samey these days....same topic on repeat and the same posters. But then you have to remember, the forum is only a very small puddle in the sea which is fab x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve never been in the chat rooms. I’ll speak to anyone on here though. I don’t like or do cliques/group chats etc. Just join in op I’m sure you’ll grow to like it

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Regaulr people being popular isn't a clique.

It's just how conversations go.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids "

Can I hang out with you then?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If no-one wants to engage op just move into another cam room or forum thread. Plenty of others!"
we do. We are regulars in midlands chat and like to stick to there . It was just a polite observation that,being new to the forums,in general,it appears a bit clique. If we are wrong then very sorry but happy to engage. The whole point of the thread was to see if anyone else felt the same so all viewpoints gratefully received

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days "

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll talk to anyone, if they don't want to talk to me or like me I really couldn't give two shits to be fair....

Some people (not all) on here are well known for the comments they make and become predictable with it. You'll soon learn which ones to avoid on future posts OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway "

All three of them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll talk to anyone, if they don't want to talk to me or like me I really couldn't give two shits to be fair....

Some people (not all) on here are well known for the comments they make and become predictable with it. You'll soon learn which ones to avoid on future posts OP "
exactly the initial point

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I find the forums very welcoming, I've not had any issues.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i wouldnt take anything to heart on here,, just take it as a bit of fun,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.thankyou. We’ve both been here for 10 years but only recently a couple. We love the lifestyle and met on here. Just find some areas very negative.

I get why it could feel like that but most people on the forums are just here to have a laugh and pass some time. Obviously there are some dickheads but that is life. "

I'm sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are any cliques taking applications?

I'm house trained, and don't eat much.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Cliques are everywhere in life just deal with them like the rest, let them get on with it just be polite, civil and ignore them.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's the same here as anywhere in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural. "

I talk to you. That kind of disproves your point.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I find the chat rooms less cliquey than the forums tbh! But I just chat either place really! If peeps chat back good if not then no worries x

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them? "

That's not that far off to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are any cliques taking applications?

I'm house trained, and don't eat much."
gen chat has current vacancies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids "

Can you hang out of me then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 'threads' cause a stir most of the time? lol.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can I hang out with you then?! "

If you want to hang out with the geeks and nerds...sure

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?"

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I can see it but it doesn't bother me as I just presume that those in the perceived cliques have been here forever so have built up relationships with other users in a similar position just like they would in any walk if life

I like the forums I use them a lot even though most of my comments get ignored, I've still had my say and that's enough for me but there's other times were I'll avoid responding as I know I'll just land up with dozens on inbox messages

I guess to stand out on the forums you need to be controvertíal as those kind of topics always get lots of responses

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I've been posting on the forums for many years now and I see the "cliques '.

I don't think, well I hope people leave ppl out on purpose. I think it's threads moving quickly and posts get missed.

You post what and when you want OP.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I haven’t read the replies so this might of already been said. But. Welcome to the forums OP, just post what you want to post and don’t worry about anything else.

I use the forums for fun as there are some lovely people here. Don’t take it too serious. All the best and look forward to you posting more

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?"

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy "

I think you need to read the comment a little more closely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural.

I talk to you. That kind of disproves your point."

You're just in the denial stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural.

I talk to you. That kind of disproves your point.

You're just in the denial stage. "

You’re alright… I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy "

I think Nora and I are quite similar in our tastes!

(I did have a couples profile in the past called WheresFrancis!)

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy

I think you need to read the comment a little more closely "

Let me put my glasses on...let's see ... Oh my

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair "

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy

I think Nora and I are quite similar in our tastes!

(I did have a couples profile in the past called WheresFrancis!) "

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Hi op it can be hard to start with but it’s the natural of the beast the more you chat and interact the more you will be recognised

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi op it can be hard to start with but it’s the natural of the beast the more you chat and interact the more you will be recognised"
that’s the point tbf. I used to be a regular in gen chat as a single guy for many years but,as a couple,we get no response. Other half was the same. But,as a couple,no response. Strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural.

I talk to you. That kind of disproves your point.

You're just in the denial stage.

You’re alright… I suppose."

Best

Compliment

Ever

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude! "

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The whole point of forums is conversation so we are just starting one. All is good "

Top marks for spelling it correctly, most people that start the same thread spell it 'click'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi op it can be hard to start with but it’s the natural of the beast the more you chat and interact the more you will be recognisedthat’s the point tbf. I used to be a regular in gen chat as a single guy for many years but,as a couple,we get no response. Other half was the same. But,as a couple,no response. Strange"

As you can see, I ignore any hint of clique and just flirt with whoever.

To your point though, yes, couples do get a rougher ride, I suppose because 4 way attraction is a much more difficult to find here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will talk to those that they get on with with, it's only natural.

I talk to you. That kind of disproves your point.

You're just in the denial stage.

You’re alright… I suppose.

Best

Compliment

Ever"

Don’t get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just gravitate to those who fancy a go on my D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we have all felt the same at some point, regular posters too. Just join in and have fun. And if you do feel like you don't belong then remember the forums aren't exclusive to the few, everyone belongs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The whole point of forums is conversation so we are just starting one. All is good

Top marks for spelling it correctly, most people that start the same thread spell it 'click' "
fanx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a lot of things in life, if you look for evidence of them, you'll find them. Are there cliques on here? Possibly but as has been said numerous times above we all interact more with people we know and I for one see this far more than clique behaviour.

On the more serious threads I think you'll notice it less, on those expressing any opinion is likely to get a response as there'll always be someone on here who disagrees with you and says so (of course I never ever do this ... )

On the more playful threads I think being known to be fun and inclusive will get you more responses, better still if you're female and conventionally attractive. On these threads a lot of what can be interpreted as clique behaviour could equally be nerves. Publicly coming out and saying "I'd love to fuck you" with a total stranger isn't for everyone. We've been on the forums for years and I think if nothing else are recognised by many with plenty who will respond to us but I for one am very shy about flirting with anyone, there's probably less than 5 people on here with whom I feel comfortable doing so.

Try not to worry if you're liked else you'll soon convince yourself you don't fit in. Be yourself don't try and please everyone and you'll soon find that while there will be some who avoid/ignore you there will be plenty of others who will appreciate your personality and be more inclusive with you.

If nothing else, you've got a while thread full of people responding to you here.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic.

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find the forums extremely cliquey. A lot of the subject matter is easily highjacked by regulars and inside jokes. It can be intimidating and frustrating at times.

However, it’s clear that quite a few people on here have known each other for a long time, and we genuinely believe there is absolutely no intentional malice behind it.

Just do your thing and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s a pleasant ride x

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Ok. We know this will get some negative feedback but here we go. We find that certain areas of fab have cliques. General chat being the worst. If you’re not a regular you aren’t welcome kind of thing. We are new to the forums but it feels a little the same here. Please feel free to discuss. We are always polite and engaging but it seems that there are more responses to forum posts depending on who posted them rather than the content?"

They are real but I don't care. I just post my banal ramblings and ignore them. I rarely get paid attention to anyway so I am used to it.

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like a lot of things in life, if you look for evidence of them, you'll find them. Are there cliques on here? Possibly but as has been said numerous times above we all interact more with people we know and I for one see this far more than clique behaviour.

On the more serious threads I think you'll notice it less, on those expressing any opinion is likely to get a response as there'll always be someone on here who disagrees with you and says so (of course I never ever do this ... )

On the more playful threads I think being known to be fun and inclusive will get you more responses, better still if you're female and conventionally attractive. On these threads a lot of what can be interpreted as clique behaviour could equally be nerves. Publicly coming out and saying "I'd love to fuck you" with a total stranger isn't for everyone. We've been on the forums for years and I think if nothing else are recognised by many with plenty who will respond to us but I for one am very shy about flirting with anyone, there's probably less than 5 people on here with whom I feel comfortable doing so.

Try not to worry if you're liked else you'll soon convince yourself you don't fit in. Be yourself don't try and please everyone and you'll soon find that while there will be some who avoid/ignore you there will be plenty of others who will appreciate your personality and be more inclusive with you.

If nothing else, you've got a while thread full of people responding to you here.

Fair comment’s

Mr"

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton


"Hi op it can be hard to start with but it’s the natural of the beast the more you chat and interact the more you will be recognisedthat’s the point tbf. I used to be a regular in gen chat as a single guy for many years but,as a couple,we get no response. Other half was the same. But,as a couple,no response. Strange

As you can see, I ignore any hint of clique and just flirt with whoever.

To your point though, yes, couples do get a rougher ride, I suppose because 4 way attraction is a much more difficult to find here x"
But surely attraction shouldn’t come in to it on the forums well apparat from the oooft and wink if you fancy me posts

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"It's like I'm back in high-school, where everyone wants to hang out with the cool kids

Can you hang out of me then?

Yes, I'm building the nerd/geek clique as we speak...Nora is already part of it. Hope you like anime, comic books and dark fantasy

I think Nora and I are quite similar in our tastes!

(I did have a couples profile in the past called WheresFrancis!) "

Intriguing ...I might change ny name to "Merc with the MOUTH" if you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. We know this will get some negative feedback but here we go. We find that certain areas of fab have cliques. General chat being the worst. If you’re not a regular you aren’t welcome kind of thing. We are new to the forums but it feels a little the same here. Please feel free to discuss. We are always polite and engaging but it seems that there are more responses to forum posts depending on who posted them rather than the content?"

Massively so but do you really care about those that post about the best place to buy sour dough bread and those that simp and white Knight to try and get in the good books of someone who "doesn't even meet people from fab" anyway.

I've lost count of the times in the past I've written a unique post and got no response then a fitty plagiarises it and the thread fills up. Trick is to not take it to heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list "

Don't you roll your eyes at me

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Do I think they exist? Yes I do, despite people saying they don't. But I think that's the same in every avenue of life to be honest.

I think it can be difficult to feel like you to fit in, but with time it'll come. You'll find there are those who are more welcoming to newbies than others. Just try and get involved in their threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Classic example. Just got a PM from a guy asking.. which one of you keeps posting in forums? It’s a couples profile which we both access so what difference does it make?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic. "

Honestly if you keep putting that much importance on the amount of posts you're getting you're gonna drive yourself mad.

It depends on the day, who's about, what you've posted etc. Some of my threads have gotten to 175, others have had maybe 3 posts. But if you're truly interested in just engaging with those who want to talk about the same things as you then numbers shouldn't matter, in my opinion...

I've green arrowed you and you seem to only really start threads based on negative experiences you've had on this site. If that is the audience you're looking for you're probably not gonna get too much engagement from more regular forumites because most of them use the lounge for kind of everyday tidbits, advice, joking around, sharing personal stories etc. Maybe try starting a conversation about something you're interested in or a hobby?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Classic example. Just got a PM from a guy asking.. which one of you keeps posting in forums? It’s a couples profile which we both access so what difference does it make?"

Probably a lot.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic. "

My first thread I posted I think got about 7 replies. Sometimes mine only get a few responses and others it'll max out. If you have a topic that isn't a regular one and is a bit novel, you're more likely to get higher numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Ok. I thought forums were for debates and everything we’ve posted has been with the intention of starting a debate. Pretty much sums up the point tbf

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic.

Honestly if you keep putting that much importance on the amount of posts you're getting you're gonna drive yourself mad.

It depends on the day, who's about, what you've posted etc. Some of my threads have gotten to 175, others have had maybe 3 posts. But if you're truly interested in just engaging with those who want to talk about the same things as you then numbers shouldn't matter, in my opinion...

I've green arrowed you and you seem to only really start threads based on negative experiences you've had on this site. If that is the audience you're looking for you're probably not gonna get too much engagement from more regular forumites because most of them use the lounge for kind of everyday tidbits, advice, joking around, sharing personal stories etc. Maybe try starting a conversation about something you're interested in or a hobby? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…"

First rule of clique club...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Ok. I thought forums were for debates and everything we’ve posted has been with the intention of starting a debate. Pretty much sums up the point tbf

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic.

Honestly if you keep putting that much importance on the amount of posts you're getting you're gonna drive yourself mad.

It depends on the day, who's about, what you've posted etc. Some of my threads have gotten to 175, others have had maybe 3 posts. But if you're truly interested in just engaging with those who want to talk about the same things as you then numbers shouldn't matter, in my opinion...

I've green arrowed you and you seem to only really start threads based on negative experiences you've had on this site. If that is the audience you're looking for you're probably not gonna get too much engagement from more regular forumites because most of them use the lounge for kind of everyday tidbits, advice, joking around, sharing personal stories etc. Maybe try starting a conversation about something you're interested in or a hobby? "

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me "

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid "

Never wish that upon yourself silly ha ha ha

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Think it depends on what's posted some thread's are popular and some aren't.

Some are untouched and some go to 175.

Nothing to do with the poster its the topic they post in my opinion. Cant say I have ever noticed cliques to be honest just people who are friends with each other off the forums as well as on them.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic.

Honestly if you keep putting that much importance on the amount of posts you're getting you're gonna drive yourself mad.

It depends on the day, who's about, what you've posted etc. Some of my threads have gotten to 175, others have had maybe 3 posts. But if you're truly interested in just engaging with those who want to talk about the same things as you then numbers shouldn't matter, in my opinion...

I've green arrowed you and you seem to only really start threads based on negative experiences you've had on this site. If that is the audience you're looking for you're probably not gonna get too much engagement from more regular forumites because most of them use the lounge for kind of everyday tidbits, advice, joking around, sharing personal stories etc. Maybe try starting a conversation about something you're interested in or a hobby? "

Yes a lot of posts that just seem to be rants rather than conversation starters. This post felt the same to be honest. I was literally thinking "I'm not really sure what they want people to say" after reading it.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…"

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid

Never wish that upon yourself silly ha ha ha "

Yes well, I dont think you would have the desire to do so, so I think I'm safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm I understand and empathise with where you're coming from OP.

I think it takes a bit of time. When I first started posting I felt I was very misunderstood, but I think it takes time for others to warm up and get to know your personality. Just keep being you; the more people get to know you the more they will engage.

No issue. We will get back to swinging and avoid the forums in future lol

Also I think a good way to socialise on here is to set up threads. Then you'll only really get people who are already interested in talking about the same subject. It's also important to acknowledge people back so you can build that rapport.

Good luck OP

Have set up many threads with little response. That’s exactly the point. People seem to respond to who has posted rather than the topic.

Honestly if you keep putting that much importance on the amount of posts you're getting you're gonna drive yourself mad.

It depends on the day, who's about, what you've posted etc. Some of my threads have gotten to 175, others have had maybe 3 posts. But if you're truly interested in just engaging with those who want to talk about the same things as you then numbers shouldn't matter, in my opinion...

I've green arrowed you and you seem to only really start threads based on negative experiences you've had on this site. If that is the audience you're looking for you're probably not gonna get too much engagement from more regular forumites because most of them use the lounge for kind of everyday tidbits, advice, joking around, sharing personal stories etc. Maybe try starting a conversation about something you're interested in or a hobby?

Yes a lot of posts that just seem to be rants rather than conversation starters. This post felt the same to be honest. I was literally thinking "I'm not really sure what they want people to say" after reading it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C"

Can we get tshirts printed??!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Think it depends on what's posted some thread's are popular and some aren't.

Some are untouched and some go to 175.

Nothing to do with the poster its the topic they post in my opinion. Cant say I have ever noticed cliques to be honest just people who are friends with each other off the forums as well as on them. "

I can honestly say I rarely look who posted. I just look at the topic. Half the time I only look at the title and not even the rest of it and usually get it totally wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do regulars get BJ on arrival at social op? If yes where do I sign up

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I think it seems cliquey at times because some posters will chat more to those they've met or know well.

Most try to be inclusive I'd say ,I just post on the threads I want to & don't worry about others.

You post as you like .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think it depends on what's posted some thread's are popular and some aren't.

Some are untouched and some go to 175.

Nothing to do with the poster its the topic they post in my opinion. Cant say I have ever noticed cliques to be honest just people who are friends with each other off the forums as well as on them.

I can honestly say I rarely look who posted. I just look at the topic. Half the time I only look at the title and not even the rest of it and usually get it totally wrong! "
tbf,we will stick to swinging,avoid gen chat and the forums

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Can we get tshirts printed??!"

Sure we can. I'm not doing pink again though even though you say it is salmon coloured!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C"

Are you outing your clique?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Think it depends on what's posted some thread's are popular and some aren't.

Some are untouched and some go to 175.

Nothing to do with the poster its the topic they post in my opinion. Cant say I have ever noticed cliques to be honest just people who are friends with each other off the forums as well as on them.

I can honestly say I rarely look who posted. I just look at the topic. Half the time I only look at the title and not even the rest of it and usually get it totally wrong! tbf,we will stick to swinging,avoid gen chat and the forums"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid

Never wish that upon yourself silly ha ha ha

Yes well, I dont think you would have the desire to do so, so I think I'm safe "

I go over there for my tattoos so be careful, you may bump into me one day in the town , bad luck! Ha

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C"

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid

Never wish that upon yourself silly ha ha ha

Yes well, I dont think you would have the desire to do so, so I think I'm safe

I go over there for my tattoos so be careful, you may bump into me one day in the town , bad luck! Ha "

Nooooo. I shall be ringing the church bells to warn the local populace

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think it depends on what's posted some thread's are popular and some aren't.

Some are untouched and some go to 175.

Nothing to do with the poster its the topic they post in my opinion. Cant say I have ever noticed cliques to be honest just people who are friends with each other off the forums as well as on them.

I can honestly say I rarely look who posted. I just look at the topic. Half the time I only look at the title and not even the rest of it and usually get it totally wrong! "
tbf,we will stick to swinging,avoid gen chat and the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?"

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really know what a clique means to most. I tend to think of it in clichéd terms like an American teen drama (the cheerleaders, the jocks, the geeks) ... But I don't see that here.

What I do see is somw people seem to have connections with loys of people, and others who don't. It's more a network or Venn diagram that discrete groups.

But that's true in life. Life imitates fab as they say.

As someone who tends to be aloof and bounce around the edges both here and irl, it may be I miss the more subtle ways of defining groups. I can be oblivious to sub text. Especially when near boobs.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Sometimes mine only get a few responses and others it'll max out. If you have a topic that isn't a regular one and is a bit novel, you're more likely to get higher numbers "

Same here, it happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat..."

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one "

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Is everyone on this thread now in a Clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak of my perspective all the lady’s and gents have been fab had few negative messages few down right disrespectful but hey ho I know what it is and what to expect fab is what you and the people make it so far been fun

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"What I do see is somw people seem to have connections with loys of people, and others who don't. It's more a network or Venn diagram that discrete groups. "

Would you like to be in my Venn diagram?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Is everyone on this thread now in a Clique "

Shhhh, they do not exist

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one "

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one"

I can see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me. "

Do you like rats?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one

I can see that. "

It's both a gift and a curse

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Sometimes mine only get a few responses and others it'll max out. If you have a topic that isn't a regular one and is a bit novel, you're more likely to get higher numbers

Same here, it happens to us all "

Definitely does and that's fine with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one"

The Weasel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I do see is somw people seem to have connections with loys of people, and others who don't. It's more a network or Venn diagram that discrete groups.

Would you like to be in my Venn diagram? "
I refuse to join any Venn diagram that would have me as a member.

(Yes pls)

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one

The Weasel?"

I dunno, whome ever is most annoying depending on the choice of the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one

The Weasel?

I dunno, whome ever is most annoying depending on the choice of the individual"

That weasel still haunts my dreams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely cliques on Fab. I stay away from them and their social events but if I'm going to the club and I see them, I just walk away. They are best ignored and I just do my own thing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Ouch!

I'm probably that annoying one

The Weasel?

I dunno, whome ever is most annoying depending on the choice of the individual

That weasel still haunts my dreams."

The devil's lettuce will nuke that for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me.

Do you like rats?"

I've known a few.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more"

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes a bit of time. Most people were ignored when they first started posting.

Just keep plucking away and people will recognise you and start to respond more. I don’t think it’s a clique it’s just the way of the world. People gravitate more towards people they are familiar with.

This is also true

It took me a while before people realised that I’m usually just on a wind up. I got some big pile ons in the early days

I started by being all nice. Then I became jaded and generally stopped caring what people think of me. Not that I dont care what certain users think of me, the ones I like anyway

All three of them?

That's not that far off to be fair

And there was me thinking I kept up with your sarcasm quite well at the social to have made it to number 4....rude!

I never said who those four were dreamy. For all you know you could of made it to the list

Don't you roll your eyes at me

You'll have to come here and make me I'm afraid

Never wish that upon yourself silly ha ha ha

Yes well, I dont think you would have the desire to do so, so I think I'm safe

I go over there for my tattoos so be careful, you may bump into me one day in the town , bad luck! Ha

Nooooo. I shall be ringing the church bells to warn the local populace "

Good plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique! "

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more"

It’s just people joking. There’s nothing more to it. Join in and you might enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more"

But, it makes the thread look more popular though

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more"

This is totally normal

I'm always amazed how people that come here slagging posters off think it will make them popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me.

Do you like rats?

I've known a few."

Perfect. You are the rat catcher

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me.

Do you like rats?

I've known a few.

Perfect. You are the rat catcher "

Caught you.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread "

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread "

Typical forum

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think . "

Or he. Dunno who’s posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

Or he. Dunno who’s posting "

That's part of the fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum "

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

This is totally normal

I'm always amazed how people that come here slagging posters off think it will make them popular "
couldn’t give a shit about being popular. See above. Simples

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

But, it makes the thread look more popular though "

You know you have a good thread going when it breaks that 100 post mark

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

Or he. Dunno who’s posting

That's part of the fun! "

It’s part of life! Conversations change subject all the time.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

This is totally normal

I'm always amazed how people that come here slagging posters off think it will make them popular couldn’t give a shit about being popular. See above. Simples "

Oooooooooooooooh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read the thread other than the OP, so no doubt what I’m saying has been said before but there’s definitely cliques in here, a clique is a group of people with common interests that often exclude or omit other people.

You’ll get people saying “there are no cliques but of course I’ll talk to my friends or people I associate with” .. not seeing the irony in their posts.

You’ll often see people say something and it’ll be ignored, then one of the popular characters says exactly the same thing some time later and be lauded for being so funny / astute / insightful ..

It’s the way of the world though, happens everywhere not just on here, the only way through it is to persevere, keep vocal and contribute and eventually… you’ll be part of the clique

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends on what you post. As seen, a topic like this will always generate a response. I'm not going to touch the clique thing.

I do think that the poster can sometimes affect the number of responses as can the day. Post more OP, ones that engage folk or things you're really interested in. It's a bit of a quandary - folk aren't contractually obligated to reply to you, but it would be nice if posters were more welcoming at times. Try not to be too disheartened, every poster has been ignored at some point.

Or...say fuck it, it's a beautiful sunny day and you can have a kitchen disco rather than get too irked by the goings on of some anonymous people on a swingers site.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

Or he. Dunno who’s posting

That's part of the fun!

It’s part of life! Conversations change subject all the time. "

Well if that's life then perhaps I dont want to be alive any more!

*storms off in a hormonal strop*

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum "

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Two things I've found to be the case on the forums: people who say they are new get a really good welcome and a lot of engagement from everyone. And the second thing I've found is that unless you're really well known on the forums, you won't get that many direct replies on threads.

Mind you, I don't think that's so much of a clique thing or meant in a personal way, it's just human nature to talk more with people you are more familiar with

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"couldn’t give a shit about being popular. See above. Simples "

I'd worked that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

Or he. Dunno who’s posting

That's part of the fun!

It’s part of life! Conversations change subject all the time.

Well if that's life then perhaps I dont want to be alive any more!

*storms off in a hormonal strop*"

Wait for me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clique? Sound hot! I’m in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there "

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You’ll get people saying “there are no cliques but of course I’ll talk to my friends or people I associate with” .. not seeing the irony in their posts.

"

What "irony"

Just because one talks with friends does not mean they automatically reject everyone else.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x"

I never stray from the lounge

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Oh well if that’s what she means I’m guilty I do that I think .

Or he. Dunno who’s posting

That's part of the fun!

It’s part of life! Conversations change subject all the time.

Well if that's life then perhaps I dont want to be alive any more!

*storms off in a hormonal strop*

Wait for me!!!"

Hurry up then! I dont have all day to waste on the fab forum you know! Wait...oh yeah, I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have yet to see anyone identify any of these cliques…

It doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm in The Snark Squad with Just Another Girl and Drwhosaidwhatnow

C

Is that like a shit suicide squad?

Bagsy Harley Quinn!!

I have a baseball bat...

I had you down as the rat girl from the last one

Oh actually, now you mention it that's maybe more me.

Do you like rats?

I've known a few.

Perfect. You are the rat catcher

Caught you. "

Hey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to receive comments on your posts then try making controversial statements.

Global warming is made up.

The war in Ukraine is a good thing.

You get the general idea.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x"

I've watched from the sidelines, as I do here now most of the time

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more"

Nothing is even remotely proven. It's just people laughing and joking. It's common on ALL semi successful forums.

The fact you think this makes it cliquey, is on you. Wait for it to actually happen before you blow your load early.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x

I never stray from the lounge "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x

I've watched from the sidelines, as I do here now most of the time "

I bet you think, "WTF!?"

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

It's easy to prove what we deliberately set out to prove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

Finnnne you can be Harley.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

You didn’t reply to my post, does that mean I’m not in your clique?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

I'm pretty sure I'm getting laid tonight, but I can't be wrong.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"

I never stray from the lounge "

You don't? Fuck, now I have to go back and pick up all those breadcrumbs!

C

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

So was that what this was about? Confirmation bias?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x

I've watched from the sidelines, as I do here now most of the time

I bet you think, "WTF!?" "

I do....it does make me giggle though. Makes me wish sometimes I was back home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ll get people saying “there are no cliques but of course I’ll talk to my friends or people I associate with” .. not seeing the irony in their posts.

What "irony"

Just because one talks with friends does not mean they automatically reject everyone else."

But they do though. Happens *incredibly often*, mostly to the non-forum famous males, but others too. Totally blanked and ignored.

But if you don’t think so then I’ll respect your opinion on it, agree to disagree, and move on.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Wtf! You try and be nice and give advice and then that! . Knew being nice was overrated!

Back to being a cow for me.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you want to receive comments on your posts then try making controversial statements.

Global warming is made up.

The war in Ukraine is a good thing.

You get the general idea. "

Fab is cliquey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point is proven. None of the last few posts have anything to do with the topic in question. Say no more

No it’s not. Threads go off topic. That’s not a clique!

That's just someone inadvertently or not, hijacking the thread

Typical forum

It happens a lot even in the Scottish forum

There are quite amusing...brutal sometimes. In here is tame compared to there

That's why I prefer coming to the Lounge. The Scottish forum is bad for it and I hardly comment on anything there much now x

I've watched from the sidelines, as I do here now most of the time

I bet you think, "WTF!?"

I do....it does make me giggle though. Makes me wish sometimes I was back home "

A giggle for all the wrong reasons

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all

So was that what this was about? Confirmation bias? "

It's almost as if OP didnt think that the fab forums haven't seen this topic a hundred times so that a few forumites were going to have a bit of fun with it

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"Pretty sure we’ve proved our point lol. Nite all"

So the people in the alleged clique have taken your thread off topic?

That's not how forums or cliques work at all.

This is very very common for most forums that don't have nazi admin ie the better ones.

If there was a clique they would just ignore you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"

I never stray from the lounge

You don't? Fuck, now I have to go back and pick up all those breadcrumbs!

C"

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I post when I have something to say and most of the time don't even look at whose post it is. There are certain threads that don't interest me at all. However, I have noticed some people respond to someone whilst ignoring exactly the same comment posted by someone else only moments ago but who cares. As long as everyone is respectful and appreciates that there will be different opinions expressed its all fine. It's when people become abusive or argumentative for the sake of it that I just jump to the games threads or the cake ones. My pet hate are those threads that are so deliberately started by ops to provoke whilst they themselves sit on the side and watch the arguments unravel. Sad I know but there are a few that do unfortunately. It's only a forum and usually there is good bunter, some good info and lots of fun. When it turns into something else, I just move on and come back later when order has been restored

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You’ll get people saying “there are no cliques but of course I’ll talk to my friends or people I associate with” .. not seeing the irony in their posts.

What "irony"

Just because one talks with friends does not mean they automatically reject everyone else.

But they do though. Happens *incredibly often*, mostly to the non-forum famous males, but others too. Totally blanked and ignored.

But if you don’t think so then I’ll respect your opinion on it, agree to disagree, and move on. "

It's not "what you know" but "who" surely everyone knows that rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cliques end of wham bam thank you ma’am

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Good cliqueing everyone

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"My pet hate are those threads that are so deliberately started by ops to provoke whilst they themselves sit on the side and watch the arguments unravel. "

Light the touch paper and run threads, not my fave either

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