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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m too sensitive for this world…not in the sense that everything offends me and I can’t take jokes; not in that sense. I just cry At EVERYTHING. I’ve been crying my eyes out for hours over a sad hamster comic I saw on tiktok. I cried last night over an elephant and then again this morning over a hamster article.

Before anyone says ‘go get professional help’; I do. I have professional help; I just want some more personal advice on what people have done to control their emotions.

I’m 20, nearly 21, I’m about to go into a demanding career and yet I just cry every single day.

Does anyone have any tips for getting my emotions under control? Or any advice on what they did to get their emotions under control?

P.S. pls be kind

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Would it be possible to avoid the things that trigger you?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

You don't need to keep them under control just find outlets for them. Your emotions are what makes you you. Don't squash them down xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would it be possible to avoid the things that trigger you?"

I guess so; but half the time they just come up randomly. I know I can mute words on social media but half the time they don’t work or the wording of posts is ambiguous so the filters don’t work. I’m also one of those people that doesn’t know how to walk away (I’m working on it) so half of the time I’m upsetting myself

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

think of things that make you laugh,, try to think positive not negative x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My advice would be avoid social media. I personally think it’s the cause of a lot of mental health problems/depression in young people these days. It seems to be their life for a lot of them.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

also chatting about it is a good start x

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Therapy is a good space to work through emotion regulation.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Would it be possible to avoid the things that trigger you?

I guess so; but half the time they just come up randomly. I know I can mute words on social media but half the time they don’t work or the wording of posts is ambiguous so the filters don’t work. I’m also one of those people that doesn’t know how to walk away (I’m working on it) so half of the time I’m upsetting myself "

I use very little social media at all. Maybe there's a step further than muting words? There is more to life than tiktok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would it be possible to avoid the things that trigger you?

I guess so; but half the time they just come up randomly. I know I can mute words on social media but half the time they don’t work or the wording of posts is ambiguous so the filters don’t work. I’m also one of those people that doesn’t know how to walk away (I’m working on it) so half of the time I’m upsetting myself

I use very little social media at all. Maybe there's a step further than muting words? There is more to life than tiktok"

But who am I without tiktok just kidding but yes definitely…my friend came off tiktok and says it does wonders. I think I am reluctant to come off social media because I have a fear of missing out which is incredibly stupid I know; but I suppose trying it wouldn’t hurt

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Would it be possible to avoid the things that trigger you?

I guess so; but half the time they just come up randomly. I know I can mute words on social media but half the time they don’t work or the wording of posts is ambiguous so the filters don’t work. I’m also one of those people that doesn’t know how to walk away (I’m working on it) so half of the time I’m upsetting myself "

I'm not qualified to offer you further advice but I wish you well

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I barely register emotions so can’t help with advice. I am the polar opposite

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Repressing emotions can cause them to rebound. Being sensitive is no bad thing, you just need to give yourself space and grace to feel your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a cryer too. I feel your pain J xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Daily meditation and mindset reassessment of what my triggers are and exposure therapy

All of which I do myself and that helps me to live the life I want to

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you looked at asking your Doctor to check your hormone balance?

You may find, especially if you are on the pill that a different prescription or contraceptive will help you.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Stick with the therapy cos I think you'll have to find strategies to enable you to at least regulate them so that you can be functional in day to day life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you looked at asking your Doctor to check your hormone balance?

You may find, especially if you are on the pill that a different prescription or contraceptive will help you."

I’m off to the sexual health clinic next week to start contraception; would it be wise to go to the doctor instead to ask them to test my hormone balance?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Your at the age where it's a sudden realisation that your not a teenager anymore and you have to start taking on adult responsibility and as harsh as it sounds we do unfortunately just have to get on with it.

Now don't misunderstand my point and think I am saying that anyone with depression should suck it up.

No what you are talking about is being oversensitive to normal day to day stuff.

We all get this some more than others.

You sound like our daughter who is a couple of years older than you.

We have spent probably the last 20 years walking on eggshells with her as just about everything tip's her over the edge.

Now as she's maturing and learning that she is not the centre of the universe and the problems she thought was huge a few years ago to her seem insignificant.

Point I'm making is,it's just a process and what you are describing is growing up.

As I (Mr)

Always said to our daughter.

" The issue may seem small to others but to you at that moment in time seems huge so don't feel that you shouldn't worry,it's just your perspective will change as you get older"

So sometimes it really is a case of just dealing with it , getting on with things but the important thing is to understand the difference between depression and sensitivity.

It sounds like you are getting help for mental health issues so really just learning to cope with the sensitivity is just part of the process.

Also don't look at it as a negative think of it as a cathartic thing that's an outlet for feelings a "coping mechanism"if you want to give it a name.

Just realize that at work people may not be as sympathetic and have less patience.

Good luck I hope this post didn't come across as patronising or unsympathetic it's really the opposite.

And I'm speaking as a guy who has been dealing with depression and mental health problems myself for about 45years.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"My advice would be avoid social media. I personally think it’s the cause of a lot of mental health problems/depression in young people these days. It seems to be their life for a lot of them. "
100 percent this ..

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"My advice would be avoid social media. I personally think it’s the cause of a lot of mental health problems/depression in young people these days. It seems to be their life for a lot of them. 100 percent this .."

This is a tricky one.

As easier said than done as most people the younger generation more so live their lives on social media.

I agree yes it can be extremely harmful but also can offer help support and advice.

I guess the difficult thing is staying away from toxic people and platforms.

But also you can't hide from everything that you find upsetting.

This is one of the modern dilemmas isn't it.

Avoid and feel isolated from everyone.

Engage and become enraged.

Tough call really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if you are low in B12, you can become more emotional than normal.

Perhaps a call to the Dr is required.

Take care

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your at the age where it's a sudden realisation that your not a teenager anymore and you have to start taking on adult responsibility and as harsh as it sounds we do unfortunately just have to get on with it.

Now don't misunderstand my point and think I am saying that anyone with depression should suck it up.

No what you are talking about is being oversensitive to normal day to day stuff.

We all get this some more than others.

You sound like our daughter who is a couple of years older than you.

We have spent probably the last 20 years walking on eggshells with her as just about everything tip's her over the edge.

Now as she's maturing and learning that she is not the centre of the universe and the problems she thought was huge a few years ago to her seem insignificant.

Point I'm making is,it's just a process and what you are describing is growing up.

As I (Mr)

Always said to our daughter.

" The issue may seem small to others but to you at that moment in time seems huge so don't feel that you shouldn't worry,it's just your perspective will change as you get older"

So sometimes it really is a case of just dealing with it , getting on with things but the important thing is to understand the difference between depression and sensitivity.

It sounds like you are getting help for mental health issues so really just learning to cope with the sensitivity is just part of the process.

Also don't look at it as a negative think of it as a cathartic thing that's an outlet for feelings a "coping mechanism"if you want to give it a name.

Just realize that at work people may not be as sympathetic and have less patience.

Good luck I hope this post didn't come across as patronising or unsympathetic it's really the opposite.

And I'm speaking as a guy who has been dealing with depression and mental health problems myself for about 45years.

"

Thank you; this is really helpful

Being a mentally ill teenager I feel like I lost out on my teen years and all of a sudden I’m 20 and it’s just like ‘wow I’m never going to get those years back’ so I think those feelings are difficult to deal with.

I think being 20 is weird anyway as most 20 year olds are in their last year of uni which will usually be their last year of academia and it almost feels like we’re getting abandoned you know?

But yes, I see what you mean about thinking issues are huge as compared to others seeing them as small…I know it’s silly to cry about hamster comics but when you look at the bigger picture I lost my beloved hamster quite traumatically only 5 months ago so I think the grief is still lingering.

Thank you for this; it’s a super helpful message

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Giving up most forms of social media was one of the best things I have done.

I don’t have to buy into the bullshit frivolous rubbish that those around me seem to involve themselves in.

I retain the positive ones that work for me like Fab.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Have quiet days, maybe go out for a walk. See nature and clear mind.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Your at the age where it's a sudden realisation that your not a teenager anymore and you have to start taking on adult responsibility and as harsh as it sounds we do unfortunately just have to get on with it.

Now don't misunderstand my point and think I am saying that anyone with depression should suck it up.

No what you are talking about is being oversensitive to normal day to day stuff.

We all get this some more than others.

You sound like our daughter who is a couple of years older than you.

We have spent probably the last 20 years walking on eggshells with her as just about everything tip's her over the edge.

Now as she's maturing and learning that she is not the centre of the universe and the problems she thought was huge a few years ago to her seem insignificant.

Point I'm making is,it's just a process and what you are describing is growing up.

As I (Mr)

Always said to our daughter.

" The issue may seem small to others but to you at that moment in time seems huge so don't feel that you shouldn't worry,it's just your perspective will change as you get older"

So sometimes it really is a case of just dealing with it , getting on with things but the important thing is to understand the difference between depression and sensitivity.

It sounds like you are getting help for mental health issues so really just learning to cope with the sensitivity is just part of the process.

Also don't look at it as a negative think of it as a cathartic thing that's an outlet for feelings a "coping mechanism"if you want to give it a name.

Just realize that at work people may not be as sympathetic and have less patience.

Good luck I hope this post didn't come across as patronising or unsympathetic it's really the opposite.

And I'm speaking as a guy who has been dealing with depression and mental health problems myself for about 45years.

Thank you; this is really helpful

Being a mentally ill teenager I feel like I lost out on my teen years and all of a sudden I’m 20 and it’s just like ‘wow I’m never going to get those years back’ so I think those feelings are difficult to deal with.

I think being 20 is weird anyway as most 20 year olds are in their last year of uni which will usually be their last year of academia and it almost feels like we’re getting abandoned you know?

But yes, I see what you mean about thinking issues are huge as compared to others seeing them as small…I know it’s silly to cry about hamster comics but when you look at the bigger picture I lost my beloved hamster quite traumatically only 5 months ago so I think the grief is still lingering.

Thank you for this; it’s a super helpful message "

No worries. We lost our cat a few years ago and I still shed the odd tear.

It's good to let those feelings out bottling them up is far more harmful.

I work in a industry rife with toxic masculinity as a carpenter it was never the done thing to show your feelings.

These days I don't give a crap,if I'm having a bad day I will tell people and generally just waffle nonsense,they mostly just ignore me but occasionally a guy will open up and admit to having issues.

So never feel silly for being sensitive.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you looked at asking your Doctor to check your hormone balance?

You may find, especially if you are on the pill that a different prescription or contraceptive will help you.

I’m off to the sexual health clinic next week to start contraception; would it be wise to go to the doctor instead to ask them to test my hormone balance? "

Perhaps give your surgery a call and see what they suggest is best.

I know when I was peri-menopausal I was often over emotional and cried at the drop of a hat. I didn’t realise why at the time and wished I had done something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of great advice above, particularly about giving up SM, it sounds like it isn’t healthy for you, and as much as you might miss it, if it’s affecting you badly it isn’t worth it.

Get your hormones and vitamin levels checked, might be worth adding in vitamin D, magnesium, 5htp and /or l-tryptophan, but with checking with your GP.

But mainly, and maybe most importantly - crying is ok, crying because something makes you sad isn’t a bad thing, your tears are physical, and if you don’t release them, then where do they go?

Definitely worth getting some therapy (because everyone should imho), but not because there’s something wrong with you, but because talking about things can help, whatever they are.

Journaling is also a very valuable tool on emotion regulation, wrote whatever comes, and then if you want to burn it, then do .

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