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By *heNerdyFemby OP   Woman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

I will be open I have yet to be with a guy, I am not opposed to it, I am actually eager to try but I don't want to just jump in with one, I am looking to find a couple first and then go from there (less anxiety inducing)

As such I have not listed men as something I am looking for on my profile.

Now I still get winks and DMs from them, and fair play to them for shooting their shot as it were. I am just not currently interested.

What I am wondering is are there people on here that get messages or winks from categories they are not interested in, and follow up on them? or even end up meeting them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it’s not the question you pose but if you block men, then they can’t message or wink you so the problem disappears.

In terms of your question, the only people I block are those that block me first (I’m petty like that ) so my filters are wide open.

I’ll always reply to any message I get and even have long convos but won’t follow up or actually meet any category I’m not interested in (ie men, TV/TS etc)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

I'm straight and quite clear on my profile that I am not meeting and not interested, sexually, in men.

I have many winks and messages from men asking if I'm interested.

That's just how Fab has always been and I accept that fact. Just delete and block.

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By *heNerdyFemby OP   Woman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

I have no problems with getting the winks or messages (some of them have been nice chaps), I am just curious if this behaviour ever actually results in something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them all the time. Along with messages that say "I'm not what you're looking for but...."

You said it right there, YOURE NOT WHAT LOOKING FOR!

I just delete and any repeat messages then I block.

If more people had well written profiles containing clear photos I would iniate messaging more.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We have chatted and met with people that have winked us and on paper are not what we thought we were interested in.On all occasions we have been pleasantly surprised so sometimes for us it’s good to get out of our comfort zone .

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"Yes

I'm straight and quite clear on my profile that I am not meeting and not interested, sexually, in men.

I have many winks and messages from men asking if I'm interested.

That's just how Fab has always been and I accept that fact. Just delete and block."

I used to get the same and I have no interest in being contacted by men so I just switched off the option in settings, problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you aren't looking for a particular group, block them.

Or if you aren't going to block them, accept that they may well message/wink!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I am just curious if this behaviour ever actually results in something!"

Do you mean if you're messaged by someone you wouldn't meet does it ever end up in meeting?

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By *heNerdyFemby OP   Woman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)


"I am just curious if this behaviour ever actually results in something!

Do you mean if you're messaged by someone you wouldn't meet does it ever end up in meeting?"

Have you ever met someone(s) who does not meet what is listed in the "looking for" section of your profile.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Yes

I'm straight and quite clear on my profile that I am not meeting and not interested, sexually, in men.

I have many winks and messages from men asking if I'm interested.

That's just how Fab has always been and I accept that fact. Just delete and block."

This. All the bi/gay guys assume that there's no such thing as "straight", so roll the dice.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I shouldn't have used the word "all". I didn't mean it literally, but didn't proof read well enough.

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