FabSwingers.com forum: How many

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

How many chances do you give someone on here?

If all has been going good and arrangements are made to meet and then it gets cancelled...

How many cancellations does it take to say "this is never going to happen" and move on?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They might get a second chance if they communicated clearly.

If they were rubbish, that's it... Next!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Two and their arse is grass.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I guess it depends on the circumstances of the cancellation.

Life goes on outside of fab and shit happens sometimes.

If was just a no show, then they wouldn't get another chance

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends. If I deem it to be a genuine excuse I give a second chance. If I think it's bs I give zero chances.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

One only they never message to let me know they ain't coming so one chance only had many a free night fucked up cause chicken shit assholes ruining it

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

How many do u give op ...not that I bet uv been let down x

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"How many do u give op ...not that I bet uv been let down x "

2 and yes I have x

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"How many do u give op ...not that I bet uv been let down x

2 and yes I have x"

2 is enough chances 4 anyone x

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"How many do u give op ...not that I bet uv been let down x

2 and yes I have x

2 is enough chances 4 anyone x"

I think it's reasonable x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

2 chances as life does tend to get in the way sometimes.

Also depends, you get a feel if you’re being spun a yarn, if I feel that then I’m off sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is and how often we speak if its someone new its 1 if iv taken time to get to know them likely more if its someone i call a real friend my loyalty kicks in making it unlimited

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

As I only arrange to meet fab social friends when I'm in their area anyway its usually once then it's turned into maybe plans.

Real life friends can cancel as many times as they like as I do it to them as we all have super busy lives and are comfortable with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take one cancellation as genuine but any more and it's done. Also if I get the vibe they are lying about the first cancellation, it will also be done.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Had this recently.. 3 times I got various excuses , none of which I believed so that's that really

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Depends who it is, what their reason is, how I'm feeling at the time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get given any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on what the reason was, but yes a second chance definitely

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Depends but it’s 2 max

If someone gives me plenty of notice, and a rescheduled plan, I’ll give them the 2nd chance

Otherwise, no. I live by this motto

If they wanted to, they would

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If somebody has genuinely done something wrong, we would probably give them a second chance if they acknowledged their mistake (as we would hope to if we did something wrong) depending on what they did.

If they didn't offer any apology, I (Luke) might give them a second chance but it's unlikely Hannah would.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I tend to give a couple of chances if they have made their best effort to tell me as much in advance as possible. But two cancellations and I just think there is no point as their life is too complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get let down all the time. Usually allow a reschedule or two if they give me notice, but any banter stops until they’ve met me. Anyone who just doesn’t turn up is blocked

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

2 in general, there are those I might make an exception for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice. Within reason I might stretch to 3. Circumstances and trust go along way for me to have patience with people. I lose my patience when I lose trust.

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By *miableRogueMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would personally give someone another chance… but myself?… I would only expect one chance

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

A second chance but after that no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe twice J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe twice J x "

I think it fair to say that the genuine peoples will turn up for a first meet. Its the reason why they are here, otherwise what's the point?

If you've been getting on well, then possibly give them a second chance, but mess up again. report them as no shows and block.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Depends on how late the cancellation was but I would give a second chance

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By *nked rascalMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Totally depends on the situation and the person. Hopefully there’s enough of a connection pre meet to be able to have an opinion on a person as to whether they’re reliable and trustworthy.

But always give a second/third (and final) chance cos I’m good like that

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