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"Texting on other platforms would still give you the same doubt. Give her your number and tell her to call on private. Her response will tell you everything you need to know " This. If people are unable to speak on the phone then there is no way they are able to meet. | |||
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"As we see it, if someone wants to exchange bodily fluids a phone number is not a big ask. We don't get the won't give out numbers thing, what can anyone do with it that you can't block them for? We have given ours out many, many times and never had any trouble at all. " You are incredibly naïve. | |||
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"I would at least expect a WhatsApp or Kik convo before a meet to give me some degree of confidence that the person was genuine. What does everyone else do ? Got someone wanting to meet, but she has just named a place and a time via messaging on here, but I’m a bit wary that it’s BS, as she refuses to chat on any other platform. Thoughts?" Is it a fuck meet or a social? | |||
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"Meeting for a drink with the expectation that it will lead to more. However, I only chatted for a couple of hours on Tuesday so just not wholly confident that it’s legit. You are right though Hippy Chick, at the end of the day I only lose a couple of hours of my time." That's it, weigh up the pros and cons on taking a chance. | |||
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"I disagree, I’ve had meets which I’ve arranged on here alone. I never give out my number, or do phone calls/videos. If she doesn’t turn up, she doesn’t turn up, what have you lost? " This . Only you can decide though. | |||
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"You are incredibly naïve." Feel free to explain this one. | |||
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"As we see it, if someone wants to exchange bodily fluids a phone number is not a big ask. We don't get the won't give out numbers thing, what can anyone do with it that you can't block them for? We have given ours out many, many times and never had any trouble at all. " You're lucky then! I had to change my number because a guy kept ringing me from private number. I only chat on here nowadays but I suppose it's different as I only meet in clubs anyway. | |||
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"Texting on other platforms would still give you the same doubt. Give her your number and tell her to call on private. Her response will tell you everything you need to know " Agree with this, it’s my time waster marker if they won’t chat on a withheld number call | |||
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"She'll flake.. Why would you not give your mobile number to someone you intend to meet in person!?" Because of being harassed? I had a date from a dating site a while ago. Pleasant but no chemistry. I sent a very polite thanks but no thanks via WhatsApp.. she had a meltdown and I had to block her eventually. She then started messaging me from several different numbers. I can only imagine how much worse it could be for a single female. Its perfectly acceptable to keep your number private until you are sure you want to meet up again. There are enough methods of communication without handing it out. | |||
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"She'll flake.. Why would you not give your mobile number to someone you intend to meet in person!? Because of being harassed? I had a date from a dating site a while ago. Pleasant but no chemistry. I sent a very polite thanks but no thanks via WhatsApp.. she had a meltdown and I had to block her eventually. She then started messaging me from several different numbers. I can only imagine how much worse it could be for a single female. Its perfectly acceptable to keep your number private until you are sure you want to meet up again. There are enough methods of communication without handing it out. " Definitely! I won’t give mine easily. I had this. Kept calling from other numbers. Very few people get my number. | |||
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"She'll flake.. Why would you not give your mobile number to someone you intend to meet in person!? Because of being harassed? I had a date from a dating site a while ago. Pleasant but no chemistry. I sent a very polite thanks but no thanks via WhatsApp.. she had a meltdown and I had to block her eventually. She then started messaging me from several different numbers. I can only imagine how much worse it could be for a single female. Its perfectly acceptable to keep your number private until you are sure you want to meet up again. There are enough methods of communication without handing it out. " | |||
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"Yeah thanks for the advice all, I will pass. All the signs are telling me this." Is she verified by meets with others? Has she been in Fab a while? Is she even photo verified by the site? | |||
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"This thread shows how different everyone is. I won’t even FaceTime family because I hate it, so there’s no way I’d be FaceTiming somebody from here. I’m also phobic of phone conversations with guys after I once had a really awkward one which still makes me cringe to think about, so I probably wouldn’t do that either. I will chat on other platforms though and I’m not a time waster. Everyone just has to do what feels right for them. Good luck deciding what to do OP! x" Same. I’m not video calling with anybody. If they don’t believe I’m real move on. That’s not my problem. | |||
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"This thread shows how different everyone is. I won’t even FaceTime family because I hate it, so there’s no way I’d be FaceTiming somebody from here. I’m also phobic of phone conversations with guys after I once had a really awkward one which still makes me cringe to think about, so I probably wouldn’t do that either. I will chat on other platforms though and I’m not a time waster. Everyone just has to do what feels right for them. Good luck deciding what to do OP! x" Absolutely! I won’t FaceTime either, I don’t mind a phone call and I chat off here but video call is a no from me… | |||
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"This thread shows how different everyone is. I won’t even FaceTime family because I hate it, so there’s no way I’d be FaceTiming somebody from here. I’m also phobic of phone conversations with guys after I once had a really awkward one which still makes me cringe to think about, so I probably wouldn’t do that either. I will chat on other platforms though and I’m not a time waster. Everyone just has to do what feels right for them. Good luck deciding what to do OP! x Same. I’m not video calling with anybody. If they don’t believe I’m real move on. That’s not my problem. " Exactly this. | |||
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"Texting on other platforms would still give you the same doubt. Give her your number and tell her to call on private. Her response will tell you everything you need to know This. If people are unable to speak on the phone then there is no way they are able to meet." Not true. I have massive anxiety about talking to people in the phone. I'd much rather meet face to face. | |||
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"This thread shows how different everyone is. I won’t even FaceTime family because I hate it, so there’s no way I’d be FaceTiming somebody from here. I’m also phobic of phone conversations with guys after I once had a really awkward one which still makes me cringe to think about, so I probably wouldn’t do that either. I will chat on other platforms though and I’m not a time waster. Everyone just has to do what feels right for them. Good luck deciding what to do OP! x Same. I’m not video calling with anybody. If they don’t believe I’m real move on. That’s not my problem. " We all know you are just a sexy AI construct Nora | |||
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"I would at least expect a WhatsApp or Kik convo before a meet to give me some degree of confidence that the person was genuine. What does everyone else do ? Got someone wanting to meet, but she has just named a place and a time via messaging on here, but I’m a bit wary that it’s BS, as she refuses to chat on any other platform. Thoughts?" I had one many moons ago. A couple. Meet down a lane and behind the farm buildings. Wouldn't talk to me in advance. Never met them before. My erection was very keen. My brain kicked in about 2 hours before and realised it all sounded very dodgy. Too dodgy. So I declined. | |||
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"I usually just chat for a while on here or Kik before I meet anyone. I have never chatted on the phone because I won't give out my number/whatapp .I have one phone and I am not that invested in fab to buy a phone just for here. I find chatting for a while you get a good idea what the person is like and I've never had a no show since I joined. Maybe I got lucky but it works for me. Only you can decide how you do fab and if you are wary or getting that feeling someone isn't real than follow your gut. " That's why the OP gives people his number and says it's ok for the other person to withold their number if they don't want to give it. This is what I do, surprisingly you get all sorts of excuses as to why they won't/can't do it, it makes me laugh . This is my preferred method before any meet. Trust your gut OP. | |||
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"I would at least expect a WhatsApp or Kik convo before a meet to give me some degree of confidence that the person was genuine. What does everyone else do ? Got someone wanting to meet, but she has just named a place and a time via messaging on here, but I’m a bit wary that it’s BS, as she refuses to chat on any other platform. Thoughts?" . Why would you want to start chatting on another platform. Whatever is said here is the same elsewhere. | |||
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"I usually just chat for a while on here or Kik before I meet anyone. I have never chatted on the phone because I won't give out my number/whatapp .I have one phone and I am not that invested in fab to buy a phone just for here. I find chatting for a while you get a good idea what the person is like and I've never had a no show since I joined. Maybe I got lucky but it works for me. Only you can decide how you do fab and if you are wary or getting that feeling someone isn't real than follow your gut. That's why the OP gives people his number and says it's ok for the other person to withold their number if they don't want to give it. This is what I do, surprisingly you get all sorts of excuses as to why they won't/can't do it, it makes me laugh . This is my preferred method before any meet. Trust your gut OP. " It makes you laugh that people want to protect their privacy and don't want to risk some nutjob using their number in nefarious ways? Great. | |||
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"I usually just chat for a while on here or Kik before I meet anyone. I have never chatted on the phone because I won't give out my number/whatapp .I have one phone and I am not that invested in fab to buy a phone just for here. I find chatting for a while you get a good idea what the person is like and I've never had a no show since I joined. Maybe I got lucky but it works for me. Only you can decide how you do fab and if you are wary or getting that feeling someone isn't real than follow your gut. That's why the OP gives people his number and says it's ok for the other person to withold their number if they don't want to give it. This is what I do, surprisingly you get all sorts of excuses as to why they won't/can't do it, it makes me laugh . This is my preferred method before any meet. Trust your gut OP. " Well you do fab the way you choose .I choose not to talk to someone on the phone before I meet because the couple of times I did it was awkward as hell it's so much easier to talk I person or a guy expecting sex talk so no I won't talk on the phone or facetime first that's my choice and I don't care if someone doesn't like the fact I won't. They can do the same as I do have when people get pushy about it and move on and meet someone who is more suited to them.No one should have to change how they do fab to suit other people it's that simple and it amused me when others try and say their way is the right way and says a lot more about them and how they would be on a meet than anything else ever can . | |||
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"Texting on other platforms would still give you the same doubt. Give her your number and tell her to call on private. Her response will tell you everything you need to know This. If people are unable to speak on the phone then there is no way they are able to meet. Not true. I have massive anxiety about talking to people in the phone. I'd much rather meet face to face." For me, a phone chat confirms the person is actually a female, and works as a great ice-breaker before a face to face meet, as you get a good feel for how the two of you will get on. Because I offer my number, and the person can call me number withheld, I always say “If I sound like a nutter you can just hang up on me, and I cannot call you back”. This has worked well over the years, but as this thread shows, we all do different things | |||
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