FabSwingers.com forum: Being called a slut/whore..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Straight delete.

No ifs or buts.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If there's nothing in the profile to suggest that would be a welcome approach, then my view is that's abusive and should be reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the first message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not in the first message.

Ok, at what point would you do this…

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

Not in the first message but some may like it. F knows, everyone’s different I suppose.

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By *ingo00Man
over a year ago

Cowley

Straight block. It's one of those terms you can use if you know your audience, how can you with the first message!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

I would just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never use that language as far as I am concerned we just normal people who enjoy a slightly different hobby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is THAT where I’m going wrong?

(*makes notes)

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not in first message.

I’d respond with calling them slutballs or something and see how we go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is THAT where I’m going wrong?

(*makes notes)"

But seriously though.

This is a fuck site, yes?

Ergo all the ladies *must* be, right?

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

What about being called a c@nt in the first message ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in the first message.

Ok, at what point would you do this…"

What I’m saying is there are some that are and some that aren’t going to tell you or show you how they feel about this.

I smile when I realise they are hiding things.

Or, Sometimes it’s in their username, other times it’s not.

So, I’d pop that little word in at a moment I’d think was appropriate to us both, and it never the first message, and it’s never the wrong time.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Just delete the message tbh is what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's about using respectful language especially on the first message.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I understand that the words are being ‘reclaimed’ and used in a positive way but that’s with consent and in specific circumstances. Definitely with people that know the usage and it’s limits.

If it’s in the first message then it would be a straight block and report as that is about abuse or they just want to write whatever whilst they wank. Either way, it’s a big no

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Well I wouldn't. I'd only ever refer to myself as one

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What about being called a c@nt in the first message ? "

Is the ‘u’ broken on your keyboard?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Instant turn off..not adverse to being called either but not in a first message for me these words are most effective when a connection has been built with someone - it’s often more about the moment when they are used and who is using them for me xx

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By *ymFit_FunMan
over a year ago

Dudley

I'd love you to call me slut balls lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about being called a c@nt in the first message ? "

That would piss me off more I think (not that I’m pissed off at being called a slut, more curious about the mindset)

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By *ymFit_FunMan
over a year ago

Dudley

"I'd love you to call me slut balls lol x"

In response to this.

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By *otmyrealname99Man
over a year ago

Manchester

For me this only happens if the lady initiates it, quite a common occurrence though in my experience

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

I never have and wouldn’t

I don’t disrespect women

Unless the scene was set and it was discussed

It makes me feel uncomfortable

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I wouldn't dream of putting words like that in any message nevermind the first one. It is just ignorance and demonstrates a poor command of the English language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using that sort of language says an awful lot more about the sender than the recipient. There needs to be a lot more respect in this world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this only happens if the lady initiates it, quite a common occurrence though in my experience"

Absolutely right. I love it, from the right person/after consent is given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant delete, some guys have been watching too much porn

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

It's all about context to me.

I mean, I'm definitely a total cake slut/where and will pretty much stick anything in my gob.

If we're talking about getting jiggy with others? I'd be devastated, given I'm practically a vestal virgin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would just be ignored. Makes me roll my eyes so bad!

There’s a time and context to be filthy like that, and even then. Most of the times I’m not feeling it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it. Only with guys I’ve been chatting to, not out if the blue J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't use such terms as my opener. Bit down the like with a consensual sense of fun, sure. But I'd expect to be called such things back because...... Equality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s pretty rude to call someone that in a first message, or even if you haven’t built that connection with someone. It comes across as that’s all they view you as if they call it you straight off the bat.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

If someone does it in a message before they’ve met me, it’s an instant turnoff and 99% of the time an instant block. What I do with other people is irrelevant, you’re not going to see that side of me unless I know you treat me with respect.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Instant delete, some guys have been watching too much porn "

I don’t think it’s really just porn. I think it’s more in action films of certain niches that guys love watching. Scantily clad women / shitty hip hop lyrics ‘all dem hoes ‘ blah blah that are in so much of current music people listen to. Reinforces terms for use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I may well be, but I'd rather shit in my hands and clap than pump you pal."

....or similar. Then delete and block.

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By *intsizedpocketrocketsCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

Straight delete!

What right does someone have to just randomly call me those names???

Yes we enjoy using those names in sexy play with eachother but that stays between us, not just anyone who feels like using them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most men wouldn't see this as an appropriate first message. They either see you as just a vagina or think it's something we want to hear, either way it's shows character. Respect goes both ways, once you have that, I have no issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t ever dream of using those terms without gaining permission.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Not in the first message and not at all in fact, name calling is a big turn off for me.

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By *vasexperimentWoman
over a year ago

huddersfield

I wouldn’t answer

Not for me as I can’t stand those terms

Each to their own

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Nah, don’t think I’d even go with it in a first message even if it states in the profile that they like being called that.

Chat first, definitely talk about the use of that, then when it’s the right time, use away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fairly unequivocal then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never could, just not me at all

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Nope. Delete, probably block too. Disrespectful given they don't know whether I like that.

I do... but right time, right place, right person.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I would mark it unread and delete the message and make a note on their profile that they did it so I would not interact with them again in future at any stage.

In my eyes anyone who says that to someone they don't know on here has absolutely no respect for the person and see every woman on here as someone below them to use for their pleasure and discard them like rubbish when done with them.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

With the right person at the right time I really enjoy that type of name calling and other dirty talk,

As a first message it’s a block from me every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block usually, never considered reporting.

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By *urvybeckiWoman
over a year ago

Enfield

Call me it in the middle of a night of fun then fine, before you even know me just get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it's invited i think that kind of attitude is appalling.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Never on Fab but okay on hand written messages for the milkman, especially when he delivers semi-skimmed instead of full fat…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

I would never say this until i knew it was something that particular person wanted

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

I think it’s a great thing for the ladies on here- will help them quickly filter out those that have no clue about the etiquette of being a filth monster and when to enquire if she’s in the mood to maybe let the dirty ho bag out for a little mutual smuttery

In reverse, you can call most blokes on here whatever the hell you wish right off the bat, as they’ll probably be so excited at getting a message they’ll have their slut shoes out and polished in no time

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Not in the first message, if you’ve openly discussed it as a kink then fair enough, but consent to use that kind of term to someone is exactly that, consent. People shouldn’t be using it until certain it’s something the person is into abs certainly not on an opening message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never gets a reply from me

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By *aka12345Couple
over a year ago

close by

I absolutely love it being called a slut not sure about first message but def in the first 2-3 They’d know I love it so guys feel free to message this slut hehe xx mrs k xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play?

In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.

Communication is a lot more than just instructions.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Fairly unequivocal then

Yes, pretty much! The Forum is as one!

Going to take a brave (or stupid) man to own up and say that's how he starts every first message he sends!

(No, this isn't a confession. I save it for message #2).

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Depends on context,wether as insult or as compliment ie your one gorgeous sexy slut.But probably not a good idea till you get to know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lover is French born so he calls me ma petite saloppe and I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would block the cnut

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My lover is French born so he calls me ma petite saloppe and I love it

But as a first message, before he knew you loved it?

I love it too, with consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on context,wether as insult or as compliment ie your one gorgeous sexy slut.But probably not a good idea till you get to know someone "

Let me get this right.

You are advocating the term ‘you’re gorgeous’ to ‘you’re a whore / slut’ to being the same ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Call me that anytime and they’d be rubbing their bollocks better

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I really don't mind this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me that anytime and they’d be rubbing their bollocks better "

Mine felt sore just reading that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My lover is French born so he calls me ma petite saloppe and I love it

But as a first message, before he knew you loved it?

I love it too, with consent "

No we built up to it in play..so it's in context..

Anyone starts their message like that it's automatic block

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Call me that anytime and they’d be rubbing their bollocks better

Mine felt sore just reading that

Awww I’ll kiss them better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would only ever use in established partner and in context

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

For me it’s a term that may come into future play but it’s certainly not the way to start a conversation. It’s a binary way of addressing, which may appeal to some but will antagonise many others.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Nope just wouldn’t respond to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Call them fuck boys or meat dildos. If people want to identify as a "slut" then fair play to them but don't assume people are just because they use this site.

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

I mean they wouldn’t be wrong and depends on what context I guess. First message might be a bit of a stretch x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t think you would be doing yourself any favours with that approach in first message

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I would never call a woman that...not even if she wants to be called that...not even if it's a kink of her during sex...I simply find it degrading. If a woman wants to be called " daddy's little cum slut" by a man (in any scenario), I am not that man.

Why would a man call a woman that in the first message they send? He is ignorant...he is uneducated..he is sexually frustrated...

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

" don't assume people are just because they use this site. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone saw I was a dom, still messaged me a whole message about how he’s going to force me down, call me a slut/whore and now he’s going to make me daddy’s little whore, and was surprised when I told him to do one.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Nope! Just no!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

There is a suitable time and place for language like that, and its not in an introductory message.

I worry for them and their families if they think talking to strangers like that is acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My reaction would be to delete the message.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, not how I would approach anyone to be honest. If I'm asked to use language like that down the line thats different, but not as an opener.

You only get one chance to make a first impression. Don't waste it by acting like a letch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grab my dildo and wank fast and furiously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a straight block for me! I think it just shows the lack of respect they have for a woman my opinion anyways

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play?

In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.

Communication is a lot more than just instructions.

Each to their own. I’m a kinkster as well as a swinger and I only want partners who will ask my wants and preferences, not just make educated guesses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like either of those words and refuse to use them personally!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Instant block.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

My thinking is they’re possibly the same people who complain they can’t get a meet. Sound like a bunch of fannies

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not in the first message or any message ! Have to build a certain amount of trust before this I guess

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Not acceptable

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd ignore them and block them if they kept messaging me. I enjoy it with a partner, not an Internet stranger.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

Call them fuck boys or meat dildos. If people want to identify as a "slut" then fair play to them but don't assume people are just because they use this site. "

As a joke I used to call my ex the meat sack that was attached to my penis. He found it hilarious

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

It's a never from me.

I'm not against people that enjoy using those words or those that like being called it either. It's just not something I want to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play?

In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.

Communication is a lot more than just instructions.

Each to their own. I’m a kinkster as well as a swinger and I only want partners who will ask my wants and preferences, not just make educated guesses. "

You maybe making out I would be making an education guess, … I don’t know.

I can be kinky with the right people, but I don’t want someone handing me a menu or me asking them ‘what are you into?’ I like to find out in more subtle ways. It’s less clinical that way. And also great surprise like a bolt from the blue when someone gets it right. And with enough talking, it’s never wrong with someone.

Each to their own, your right.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one" "

So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They'd get a short sharp message back and a block .It's totally unacceptable to Me when I've never spoken to someone .

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"

So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?

Cunts. That shit gets earned.

It's a fucking gift not a right.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here?

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

"Call me that anytime and they’d be rubbing their bollocks better "

Ooooo-you feisty little minx!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say oi cunt and some swears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"

So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?

Cunts. That shit gets earned.

It's a fucking gift not a right."

*3 swear words in 3 short sentences….

*steps slowly away……..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not acceptable

Only in play once discussed and agreed should things like that be said

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this

My first reaction is

"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"

So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?

Cunts. That shit gets earned.

It's a fucking gift not a right.

*3 swear words in 3 short sentences….

*steps slowly away……..

That’s a record only I could beat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete. Prob an immediate block.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

In the sin bin they go

Tg x

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Not in a first, second or third message...no thanks...and consent given to be called one?!...um no thanks again

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By *uriousaquarian27Man
over a year ago

East

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Never done it, wouldn’t ever. Straight block.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wouldn't..

Only if directed well down the line that this was OK

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Nope def wouldn’t use that in a first message but on meets I have known a few ladies love the term in the middle of things - a massive turn on and if they enjoy it then great but definitely not on a first message x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Instant delete (or possible lecture).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 21/06/22 15:30:28]

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here? "

I asked that, apparently it’s different on here.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

What about when women refer to themselves a slut or a whore? If they refer to themselves as a whore, does that actually mean what they charge for sex or do they actually mean slut?

There are several profiles on here where women refer to themselves as whores

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Personally doesn't seem the best choice for an opening message.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here?

I asked that, apparently it’s different on here."

At that point I rage lol

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I've never used these terms in any of my messages, either at the introductory stage or otherwise.

I don't do it in real life and there's no rationale for me to do it on this platform.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here?

I asked that, apparently it’s different on here."

Well Yes. … But no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of messages off men where they call me a slut they usually go something like this. Fuck your ass now you slag slutty…

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Instant delete here too, no need for it.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

For me it would be a delete as we are incompatible.

For some others it's a turn on as it is what they are looking for.

Each to their own and all that Jazz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

I’ve been called a slut more times then I care to mention

Whore wise it comes with the territory, I’m a male escort so essentially it’s factually correct.

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By *rdepRomaMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Totally disagree in calling that on the first message, lack of respect in my view.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

First message is presumptuous without knowing you. More or a word to use if you share the same vibe and energy. Expect if you profile or comment suggest that type of approach.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Its a term I would reserve for intimate moments if, and this bit is important, it is something that the lady:

1. Is ok with AND

2. Has asked for on THAT occasion.

There is no reason or excuse to use denigrating terms like this outside of that.

I would suggest that chaps that use these terms lightly, especially in an introductory message have issues and it should be treated as a red flag/block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?

Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…

Genuinely curious about this "

Definitely a no. Yes I know what my username is and the odd word is fine. But some men take it too far before they've even said hi

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By *ingkanuteMan
over a year ago

durham

I wouldn't be happy . My bull calls me names but I meet him regularly and love it but not from a guy you haven't even met Eve xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So a fairly resounding result then really.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

What’s worse…… Being called a wh*re or someone cooking you a salmon tea?

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"What’s worse…… Being called a wh*re or someone cooking you a salmon tea?

Depends if they can cook.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

"Straight delete.

No ifs or buts.

I agree

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Instant block. No where in my profile does it suggest that's appropriate.

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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago

clifton ish

"Not in the first message.

Ok, at what point would you do this…"
probably at the polnt with her back legs around my neck after we being doing foreplay for at least an hour when she says fuck me hard with your big cock and call me your dirty cum slut whore but no other circumstances unless she’s been a cunt and you can’t tolerate her anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in the first message.

Ok, at what point would you do this…probably at the polnt with her back legs around my neck after we being doing foreplay for at least an hour when she says fuck me hard with your big cock and call me your dirty cum slut whore but no other circumstances unless she’s been a cunt and you can’t tolerate her anymore "

Her back legs around your neck? Where are her front legs ?

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"Not in the first message.

Her back legs around your neck? Where are her front legs ? "

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I mean it's pretty basic you just block

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Well if it's a way forward it looks like I've been missing something all these years, but for the moment I'll stick with what works for me, that's pass the compliments, and treat them like a princess unless they tell me different.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Call me it when we know each other and in the throws of passion but not in a first message that’s a quick delete x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I guess it would depend on the rest of the message, the context and who it was from, but it’s not my style of messaging / sexting a stranger

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

Morning you sluts, hope you’ll have a good day.

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