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"So your telling me someone you haven't met in real life has crushed your confidence?" I never said mine was crushed just dented | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." We would honestly say is if this is how it is, then maybe you should consider leaving the site. You may never actually meet anyone, and if this site is denting your confidence already, well maybe it isn't for you. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." I don’t expect to meet ladies or couples on this platform. Better success elsewhere for me . | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." When you reached out for help and support like this, I bet you weren’t expecting people in the comments to be quite as lacking in compassion and humility. My advice OP is to write out on a piece of paper what your worth and value is. What makes you a decent guy. What makes you a good person. What makes you interesting to others. Why would you be a good proposition to meet. Validate your “self” and give yourself a hug. In the meantime, roll with the punches and rejections in here and maybe have a look at how you’re approaching people on here. You’ve given no indication of what you’re experiencing, but I imagine - as with most guys- it’s a lack of getting through to people. Try and think about why that might be, if that’s the case. Try and stand out by talking positively about those things you wrote out. Happy to talk further. Take care of yourself OP | |||
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"Why is it that people say that they have no problem meeting and shagging people in real life but can’t on here…? What is the difference? People are people, you meet, talk to them- obviously there is a lack of body language, but if people are very successful “pulling” down the pub- A) Why not here and B) Why are they online and not down the pub? " I have precisely the opposite experience. I seem to connect with people easily when I tried Bimble, but it’s incredibly challenging here. There’s an interesting theory in there around the “flexibility” in peoples standards and outlooks, as being different, depending on what platform they’re searching from. At least I think so! X | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. If the negative outweighs the positive, take care of yourself and find another dating avenue." Yes. It's made me a lot more cynical. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that. When you reached out for help and support like this, I bet you weren’t expecting people in the comments to be quite as lacking in compassion and humility. My advice OP is to write out on a piece of paper what your worth and value is. What makes you a decent guy. What makes you a good person. What makes you interesting to others. Why would you be a good proposition to meet. Validate your “self” and give yourself a hug. In the meantime, roll with the punches and rejections in here and maybe have a look at how you’re approaching people on here. You’ve given no indication of what you’re experiencing, but I imagine - as with most guys- it’s a lack of getting through to people. Try and think about why that might be, if that’s the case. Try and stand out by talking positively about those things you wrote out. Happy to talk further. Take care of yourself OP " | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. If the negative outweighs the positive, take care of yourself and find another dating avenue." Love to know what you find cynical about people on fabs . | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. If the negative outweighs the positive, take care of yourself and find another dating avenue. Yes. It's made me a lot more cynical. " I’ll be the first male to agree here, to point. I take people on face value, but I’ve learned never to be surprised. Text never holds enough detail for me to know everything I want to know. So the fab hasn’t made me less confident just weary. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." I would say fab has helped my confidence. I don’t really like busy crowded bars etc - my height means I spend the whole night bending over and missing half the chat. I can’t be bothered with that. Fab has meant I can find like minded people without all the preening and posing. I enjoy that. | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. If the negative outweighs the positive, take care of yourself and find another dating avenue. Love to know what you find cynical about people on fabs . " Smoke and mirrors and people who are all things to all men. They play to their audience and present a particular forum image but are the complete opposite privately. I can understand how it can make people more cynical and how it can affect confidence. The usual advice is to just avoid those who give you grief but unfortunately many of those don't like to let go once they have their teeth in something and they make it their mission to influence the experience of others. That can also affect confidence after a while. It hasn't affected my confidence one way or the other but I rarely give anyone on here a second chance now because of the games. | |||
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"It’s given me a lot of confidence I’m grateful for it " No one likes a show off. | |||
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"Its not the lack of interest it's more the rejection after pics etc " I can understand that. Easier said than done, but mustn't let it get to you. You say you're normally a confident guy, so just remember all the reasons outside of Fab that contribute to that. My confidence (highs or lows) doesn't stem from Fab (luckily!), but I do get that Fab can make it worse on a bad day! Just got to remember this is a very small part of the universe, mate, so don't invest too much of your confidence in it, if that's makes sense. | |||
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"Its not the lack of interest it's more the rejection after pics etc " I get what you mean. I'd say I'm pretty confident in person and Fab has helped a lot with that as it's such an open community, you can say things without too much fear of judgement but over messaging when it goes silent after sending face pics, it can be a bit soul destroying and make you look deeper at flaws others may not notice. | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. Love to know what you find cynical about people on fabs . " You've misunderstood. They didn't say that others were cynical, they spoke only for themselves, having perceived *themselves* more cynical now. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." It's some pixels. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that. When you reached out for help and support like this, I bet you weren’t expecting people in the comments to be quite as lacking in compassion and humility. My advice OP is to write out on a piece of paper what your worth and value is. What makes you a decent guy. What makes you a good person. What makes you interesting to others. Why would you be a good proposition to meet. Validate your “self” and give yourself a hug. In the meantime, roll with the punches and rejections in here and maybe have a look at how you’re approaching people on here. You’ve given no indication of what you’re experiencing, but I imagine - as with most guys- it’s a lack of getting through to people. Try and think about why that might be, if that’s the case. Try and stand out by talking positively about those things you wrote out. Happy to talk further. Take care of yourself OP " Agreed. | |||
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"I wouldn’t say it’s given me more confidence but it has made me realise more men prefer curvier women than I thought. " Same! | |||
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"Fab shouldn't be that much of an influence in your life, if it is you need to step away." Nice rack | |||
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"Fab shouldn't be that much of an influence in your life, if it is you need to step away." | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." Has it really knocked your confidence or just dented your ego? A lot of single guys on here don't get anywhere because of their ego's. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that. Has it really knocked your confidence or just dented your ego? A lot of single guys on here don't get anywhere because of their ego's." If this thread was started by a woman would you ask her that question too or actually consider the effect the site can have on people's confidence? | |||
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"It hasn't crushed my confidence, but it HAS made me cynical. Love to know what you find cynical about people on fabs . You've misunderstood. They didn't say that others were cynical, they spoke only for themselves, having perceived *themselves* more cynical now. " Correct. After all of my interactions, experiences, conversations, and even stories from others, I'm cynical in my viewing of many of human kind. I dont like being cynical, I'm actually a ridiculously upbeat person in general, but Fab seems to showcase a high number of fuckeits that I have little patience for. | |||
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"Has fab helped or crushed your confidence. Im a naturally confident man but fab is starting to dent that." Yes, mine to. | |||
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"It’s given me a lot of confidence I’m grateful for it No one likes a show off. " Showing off in what way? Have you got a problem? I answered the question, that’s all. | |||
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"I wouldn’t say it’s given me more confidence but it has made me realise more men prefer curvier women than I thought. " My opinion too | |||
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