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Monday Mental Health Check-in 20.06

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Morning all, it’s that time again.

I had a few days without anxiety at the end of last week, but I’ve had a couple of shaky (literally) ones again with this morning feeling pretty jittery and fearful. Lots of noticing of physical sensations. I think I know what’s contributing to it all but don’t really want to talk about it. I have CBT every other week and have a session this coming Wednesday so that’s good. I haven’t been doing the workouts I was supposed to do for homework (exposure to and pushing through uncomfortable feelings) but I did walk for an hour every day last week and hope to continue with that this week.

How are you all doing? Sending love to all

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Good to hear about those positive little steps Lou, wobble days come around, but they are also there to help you learn and grow. Good luck with your CBT homework x

I had a massive set back in the heat last week and basically turned into a hermit, luckily it cooled down at the weekend so re-emergence was achievable, but the experience has made me more aware of my bodies reactions to heat stresses and what I need to do to avoid it x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good to hear about those positive little steps Lou, wobble days come around, but they are also there to help you learn and grow. Good luck with your CBT homework x

I had a massive set back in the heat last week and basically turned into a hermit, luckily it cooled down at the weekend so re-emergence was achievable, but the experience has made me more aware of my bodies reactions to heat stresses and what I need to do to avoid it x"

Thank you x

I’m sorry you had a tough time last week It’s good when we learn from those experiences though. You should move to Lancs, the heat barely touched us here! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for giving people the chance to talk OP and look after yourself

Mixed week with some fun times and many times of wondering about the pointless ness of being here

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Thanks for giving people the chance to talk OP and look after yourself

Mixed week with some fun times and many times of wondering about the pointless ness of being here "

I’m sorry you’re struggling with the site. Glad you’ve got some fun times to look forward to as well

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning Lou & everyone!

After a couple of weeks of dreadful anxiety, job stresses (ie my work has been non existent), some health investigations and just generally withdrawing and being tearful. I seemed to have managed to pick myself up a bit last week.

Read some helpful psychology books, tried my hardest to focus on the tiniest positives and most importantly prioritised exercise and I’m feeling much better.

Life is still complicated but I’m choosing to not spend too much dwelling on the bad which in turn is making me feel more proactive & able to function. I’m starting this week feeling more in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for giving people the chance to talk OP and look after yourself

Mixed week with some fun times and many times of wondering about the pointless ness of being here

I’m sorry you’re struggling with the site. Glad you’ve got some fun times to look forward to as well

X"

Did not mean the site

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Thanks for giving people the chance to talk OP and look after yourself

Mixed week with some fun times and many times of wondering about the pointless ness of being here

I’m sorry you’re struggling with the site. Glad you’ve got some fun times to look forward to as well

X

Did not mean the site "

Ohhh, that was an assumption on my part, apologies. Well, that’s a much bigger musing. Sending love x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good morning Lou & everyone!

After a couple of weeks of dreadful anxiety, job stresses (ie my work has been non existent), some health investigations and just generally withdrawing and being tearful. I seemed to have managed to pick myself up a bit last week.

Read some helpful psychology books, tried my hardest to focus on the tiniest positives and most importantly prioritised exercise and I’m feeling much better.

Life is still complicated but I’m choosing to not spend too much dwelling on the bad which in turn is making me feel more proactive & able to function. I’m starting this week feeling more in control."

That sounds really positive! I’m glad you’ve managed to get in control of some stuff and turn it around x

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

This is a great use of forum space. Mutual support and understanding - really good to see this xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning Lou & everyone!

After a couple of weeks of dreadful anxiety, job stresses (ie my work has been non existent), some health investigations and just generally withdrawing and being tearful. I seemed to have managed to pick myself up a bit last week.

Read some helpful psychology books, tried my hardest to focus on the tiniest positives and most importantly prioritised exercise and I’m feeling much better.

Life is still complicated but I’m choosing to not spend too much dwelling on the bad which in turn is making me feel more proactive & able to function. I’m starting this week feeling more in control.

That sounds really positive! I’m glad you’ve managed to get in control of some stuff and turn it around x"

Thank you, I’m hoping I can keep the momentum going! Hope your CBT goes well and helps. Xx

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Mixed start to the week here, recently dipped back into depression again but feared going back on anti depressants as they have always been the death of my libido. Saw a Psychiatrist and we found medication that doesn’t have that effect. I’m back on ADHD medication too and that has me quite bouncy. Hopefully things even out soon but weekly talking therapy should help a lot.

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"This is a great use of forum space. Mutual support and understanding - really good to see this xxxx"

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Good morning Lou & everyone!

After a couple of weeks of dreadful anxiety, job stresses (ie my work has been non existent), some health investigations and just generally withdrawing and being tearful. I seemed to have managed to pick myself up a bit last week.

Read some helpful psychology books, tried my hardest to focus on the tiniest positives and most importantly prioritised exercise and I’m feeling much better.

Life is still complicated but I’m choosing to not spend too much dwelling on the bad which in turn is making me feel more proactive & able to function. I’m starting this week feeling more in control.

That sounds really positive! I’m glad you’ve managed to get in control of some stuff and turn it around x

Thank you, I’m hoping I can keep the momentum going! Hope your CBT goes well and helps. Xx"

That’s always the fear! Stay positive

And thank you x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Mixed start to the week here, recently dipped back into depression again but feared going back on anti depressants as they have always been the death of my libido. Saw a Psychiatrist and we found medication that doesn’t have that effect. I’m back on ADHD medication too and that has me quite bouncy. Hopefully things even out soon but weekly talking therapy should help a lot. "

Sorry to hear things have been tough, it sounds like you’ve got some ways through sorted though that you’re happy with. I have everything crossed that you find yourself on an even keel very soon. Good luck with the therapy! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A new partner and I had a 4 some last night. She really liked one of the guys which didn’t give me a great feeling this morning. We texted and discussed this morning how I felt (jealous). She said she had a great time and a particular guy ticked all her boxes.

I’m glad we chatted and she reiterated that her interest was solely physical and not seeking anything beyond yesterdays meet.

Nameste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starflylou I hope u don't mind me unboxing u I went through same anxiety couldnt leave dvhoise and severe depression but I got through if u ever need a ear to bend don't hesitate x

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley


"Sorry to hear things have been tough, it sounds like you’ve got some ways through sorted though that you’re happy with. I have everything crossed that you find yourself on an even keel very soon. Good luck with the therapy! x"

Thank you I appreciate it

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Hi to you all mental health hits us all at some stage and its the brave that talk openly about their issues, I have suffered with PTSD, DEpression and anxiety. I write a blog about mental issues

www.iancallaghan.co.uk and lately been doing some videos where I talk about my issues

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwl7prMPcXUHiNlzA2dFp5w

My ear is open at any time

Take care everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for giving people the chance to talk OP and look after yourself

Mixed week with some fun times and many times of wondering about the pointless ness of being here

I’m sorry you’re struggling with the site. Glad you’ve got some fun times to look forward to as well

X

Did not mean the site

Ohhh, that was an assumption on my part, apologies. Well, that’s a much bigger musing. Sending love x"

Appreciated

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"A new partner and I had a 4 some last night. She really liked one of the guys which didn’t give me a great feeling this morning. We texted and discussed this morning how I felt (jealous). She said she had a great time and a particular guy ticked all her boxes.

I’m glad we chatted and she reiterated that her interest was solely physical and not seeking anything beyond yesterdays meet.

Nameste. "

I’m glad it worked out for you and you’re feeling better about it all today

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Starflylou I hope u don't mind me unboxing u I went through same anxiety couldnt leave dvhoise and severe depression but I got through if u ever need a ear to bend don't hesitate x"

That’s kind, thank you x

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hi to you all mental health hits us all at some stage and its the brave that talk openly about their issues, I have suffered with PTSD, DEpression and anxiety. I write a blog about mental issues

www.iancallaghan.co.uk and lately been doing some videos where I talk about my issues

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwl7prMPcXUHiNlzA2dFp5w

My ear is open at any time

Take care everyone x"

Thank you for sharing, I’ll be sure to check it out, and for your offer of support x

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By *r LovecraftMan
over a year ago

RCT/Swansea/Cwmbran

Wandering the forums and chanced upon this.

I've struggled with anxiety panic attacks and other associated mental health problems for the last ten years I guess and they were a contributory factor I'm my marriage breaking down.

Counselling has helped but i still get episodes. Last week was a bad week and yesterday particularly so - Father's Day with no contact from the children combined with a long journey almost broke me. Today is sunny though and I'll have a walk in the sunshine plus a swim later that I hope will help.

Now I know this thread is here, I'll check in.

Take care all, love yourself and be kind to others.

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By *tarflyLou OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Wandering the forums and chanced upon this.

I've struggled with anxiety panic attacks and other associated mental health problems for the last ten years I guess and they were a contributory factor I'm my marriage breaking down.

Counselling has helped but i still get episodes. Last week was a bad week and yesterday particularly so - Father's Day with no contact from the children combined with a long journey almost broke me. Today is sunny though and I'll have a walk in the sunshine plus a swim later that I hope will help.

Now I know this thread is here, I'll check in.

Take care all, love yourself and be kind to others."

That all sounds really tough, I’m sorry you’ve spent so long suffering. I’m glad counselling has helped you a lot, I think we probably remain vulnerable when we’ve been through things like that though and I don’t think it’s unusual to struggle at times. It’s good you made it through yesterday and today finds you with a positive outlook.

Please do come and check in every week, you’re very welcome x

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