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By *ablo minibar123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

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There's no good rolling out the old fab statement 'no one wants to meet'. If you go by verifications popping up all over the place it's clear that meets on fab happen every day.

Only because someone says no to meeting you, it may not mean they don't want to meet, just you are not the person that they are looking for.

What other things do people seem to find hard to accept on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

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By *hieldMan
over a year ago

Neath

I've found some people are incredulous when you aren't looking for the same thing as them. Which os rather odd to me. As if you're deliberately wasting their time by being here.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It isn't ever just them.....'is it me or...' titles gring my gears lol

Or 'only I could...' followed by something thousands of other people do Al the time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Upper age limits.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

That it's OK to be straight.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here."

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found some people are incredulous when you aren't looking for the same thing as them. Which os rather odd to me. As if you're deliberately wasting their time by being here."

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The concept that just because they meet your age, gender and looking for requirements, you don’t want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

Can’t believe that women don’t find me irresistible!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I’m not sat around waiting for some guy to come and fuck me when he’s got a free hour.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Profiles that say "I don't want to fuck the whole site" and then have no veris in 3 years. Why join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that "

Yes I do stand by that. I dont believe most profiles ask for hung or VWE and most threads started asking about cock size reflect this. The large majority do not care or have no preference. A small minority do want bigger and at the other end a small minority prefer smaller.

I actually looked into this last year, 300 female or couple profiles nearest me only around 12% specified VWE and nearly 20% specified no big cocks, the rest did not specify.

Not conclusive but a fairly representative picture I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that think verifications guarantee sex.

Or people that think you're a time waster because you don't have any verifications

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London


"People that think verifications guarantee sex.

Or people that think you're a time waster because you don't have any verifications "

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that "

I agree that people are looking to live their fantasies but I’m neither good looking nor VWE, yet I’ve been meeting people for 9 years!

The idea that it’s only for the select few is an excuse that people tell themselves

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By *ablo minibar123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Profiles that say "I don't want to fuck the whole site" and then have no veris in 3 years. Why join? "

Well the thing is with that one, only because they don't have veris doesn't mean they aren't meeting, some just don't like broadcasting it every time they meet someone for sex, but I do get your point.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that

Yes I do stand by that. I dont believe most profiles ask for hung or VWE and most threads started asking about cock size reflect this. The large majority do not care or have no preference. A small minority do want bigger and at the other end a small minority prefer smaller.

I actually looked into this last year, 300 female or couple profiles nearest me only around 12% specified VWE and nearly 20% specified no big cocks, the rest did not specify.

Not conclusive but a fairly representative picture I think."

Interesting, maybe it’s my own confirmation bias showing there. Thanks for the reply

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By *ablo minibar123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that

I agree that people are looking to live their fantasies but I’m neither good looking nor VWE, yet I’ve been meeting people for 9 years!

The idea that it’s only for the select few is an excuse that people tell themselves"

Very true, I know a fair few gentleman who would describe themselves even less than average, but they struggle to fit parties, and meets in around every day life, they get so many invites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys that think having a personality doesn't matter when it comes to sex.

Women who can't get the correlation of been bombarded with messages while having pictures of your bits out on a site full of horny men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that

Yes I do stand by that. I dont believe most profiles ask for hung or VWE and most threads started asking about cock size reflect this. The large majority do not care or have no preference. A small minority do want bigger and at the other end a small minority prefer smaller.

I actually looked into this last year, 300 female or couple profiles nearest me only around 12% specified VWE and nearly 20% specified no big cocks, the rest did not specify.

Not conclusive but a fairly representative picture I think."

Excellent bit of research

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That saying you're "genuine" carries any weight

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"That a bigger penis does not guarantee more pleasure, more meets or automatically make you a better/more capable lover. Penis size is unimportant to the very large majority on here.

Do you really believe that? Most profiles I look at mention VWE or atleast well hung. Not forum users, but certainly most fab users.

I think the hard truth to accept is that for many women/couples fabs is about living their fantasies. That usually means very good looking, tall and hung guys. And with the ratio of men to women on here, they don’t have to settle for less then that

I agree that people are looking to live their fantasies but I’m neither good looking nor VWE, yet I’ve been meeting people for 9 years!

The idea that it’s only for the select few is an excuse that people tell themselves"

Fair enough, I just see a lot of profiles near me looking for hung. To the point that it’s “if you can show us 8 inches, you’ll get invited over”

Definitely a much easier way to get meets than the avenues taken if your not hung, but I think it might be confirmation bias on my part because I see these status a lot.

I don’t think it’s instant access to infinite meets, but I definitely think it checks a lot of boxes. But again, that’s probably confirmation bias. Not many people advertise looking for “nice, genuine people, penis size not fussed” in their status for instant meets

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

A: that not replying to a message means not interested

B: that replying to a message isn't a guarantee of sex

C: that being nearby doesn't mean I'm instantly available to fuck

D: that Mr is somehow lacking and that's why we're on here

E: that we're not fucking 24/7

Phew, getting it all out this morning!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that think verifications guarantee sex.

Or people that think you're a time waster because you don't have any verifications "

I waiver on this one. I’m (very) well known in the scenes I circulate in. Was very well know in the clubs I used to attend. But on here I wonder whether I should/need to get verified, just to prove I’m a real person. But I’m coming down in the side of it really doesn’t matter as I don’t read other peoples verifications do figure I’m ok with it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some find the concept that not all woman squirt is true....they make it their mission to make them do it.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

That being passive and just accepting what lands in your inbox is only going to get you minimal returns.

If people are unhappy with the quality and quantity of messages, use your filters and go looking yourself

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Whoops - I mean D is something people think which is not true!

Mrs TMN x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


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What other things do people seem to find hard to accept on fab?"

That bi guys aren't going to jump on the male in a couple and aren't able to play just as straight as them.

That club entry fees will never be equal for single men and women.

That no answer is an answer.

That people have to look at a profile to be able to decide if they're interested. Looking in itself means fuck all!

That less than 1% of site members use the forums so just because you think there's a 'clique' it won't stop you being able to engage with 1000's of other people.

That it IS a sex site for some, just as much as it's a swingers site for others. Equally it's a dating site too if people want it to be.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

If your still searching for that one person who will change your life, look in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That it's not rude if you don't reply.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

A lot of guys seem to think that sending a cock photo and saying hi is going to be enough to make somebody want to start a conversation with them - or worse, to jump straight into bed with them.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


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What other things do people seem to find hard to accept on fab?

That bi guys aren't going to jump on the male in a couple and aren't able to play just as straight as them.

That club entry fees will never be equal for single men and women.

That no answer is an answer.

That people have to look at a profile to be able to decide if they're interested. Looking in itself means fuck all!

That less than 1% of site members use the forums so just because you think there's a 'clique' it won't stop you being able to engage with 1000's of other people.

That it IS a sex site for some, just as much as it's a swingers site for others. Equally it's a dating site too if people want it to be.

A"

Boom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

That “no” is a complete sentence and requires no further explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That I’m not sat around waiting for some guy to come and fuck me when he’s got a free hour. "

I agree with that one

But a hour free emmm in my experience

3 minutes feel like is it worth the hassle off getting ready

For a splat and run

I understand not everyone is superman and can go for hours

But there’s no shame in brakes and go again in 10-15 minutes

But splat and run is a big no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That if you message me meet now, I'm not going to run towards your dick jaw open and knickers round my ankles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Women who can't get the correlation of been bombarded with messages while having pictures of your bits out on a site full of horny men.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That not all women want a guy over 6ft with a 6 pack and an 8"+ penis.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"That “no” is a complete sentence and requires no further explanation "

This is my favourite saying at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That if you message me meet now, I'm not going to run towards your dick jaw open and knickers round my ankles."

You liar

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That being "professional" carries any weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That men can be 100% straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That having no information on your profile or a contactme for more information, doesn't make you mysterious and lots of people flooding your inbox.

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By *hieldMan
over a year ago

Neath


"That if you message me meet now, I'm not going to run towards your dick jaw open and knickers round my ankles."

Although if you're able to run like that without falling uou have skills lol

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Hi Pablo! x

People can arrange to meet and seem keen to do so. Then cancel at the last minute. No problem, it happens and they might have good reason. Be polite if communicating afterwards and there might be another which will actually take place.

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By *ablo minibar123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Hi Pablo! x

People can arrange to meet and seem keen to do so. Then cancel at the last minute. No problem, it happens and they might have good reason. Be polite if communicating afterwards and there might be another which will actually take place.

"

A2 hello there you

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