FabSwingers.com forum: Our questions

By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear."

^this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

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By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear.

^this! "

Probably, but the asking of the questions sometimes puts people off.

Which I’ve found is a good thing. We’re not desperate to meet just anyone. We’re happy to wait to meet the right people!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

As someone has already said, people will say anything on here to get a fuck.

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By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

Love a bit of golf chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I hate questions.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I think they're closed questions and therefore can potentially tell you very little.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Oh I hate questions. "

Really?

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By *auti Lass and MoleCouple
over a year ago

Bicester

Always good to have a good basis to start off with.

We've heard others like to use a traffic light system, where one partner could mention a fruit/vegetable and depending on the colour would indicate to their partner what they are truly feeling at the moment.

For example. If you were getting busy, and didn't feel entirely comfortable to say no, or something isn't quite right, you could mention about the tomato field you saw on the way there, or maybe the plentiful pumpkins on display at Halloween. The partner would read that as something is off, so play should stop and things discussed (privately if needed).

We are in the belief that anybody, at any time, could say no. And every single person should immediately accept that and act adult about it. No asking questions required. No sad puppy dog eyes. Just accept it and mark it up to an issue avoided.

As for boring people to death about fishing. We don't fish, but our fish facts are entertaining as fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My question set is more limited:

1. Fancy a fuck?

One day someone might actually say “yes”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

Awww but you two are the best ever

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By *ingo00Man
over a year ago

Cowley

Bugger, I was hoping I could talk all about the size of my tackle

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Please can we talk about the minutiae of conveying oneself 5km through a park at 09:00 on a Saturday, on about 4hrs sleep?

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By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"Please can we talk about the minutiae of conveying oneself 5km through a park at 09:00 on a Saturday, on about 4hrs sleep? "

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

they will just lie or tell you what you want to hear .... 28 years on the scene has taught us how to avoid as many fakes / none swingers / sex on a plate type and its not by asking questions because of what we just said ... if you talk to someone long enough they will slip up or say something you dont agree with also trust your gut feeling they rarely let you down ..

of course some will slip past but can be dealt with later we've stopped meet as we've got undressed before one a few weeks ago he got down to his boxers and a racist remark was made then it was bye bte

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Seems bad because people will just lie.

Do you really think any thirsty guy on here is gonna admit that he might spit his dummy out if you withdraw consent at the last minute

It’s the equivalent of asking someone if they’re a murderer. “Oh your not? That’s that cleared up then”

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham

No. 4 is very funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets are much more fun when there is a commonality that breaks the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I hate questions.

Really?"
l

Yeah, can't people just talk. Instead of question after question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a test to be passed also questionnaire after i impregnate there anus

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Oh I hate questions.

Really?l

Yeah, can't people just talk. Instead of question after question. "

Have you always felt like this, or did it develop?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Oh I hate questions.

Really?l

Yeah, can't people just talk. Instead of question after question.

Have you always felt like this, or did it develop?"

Mr TMN

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By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

In case anyone is worried, this is just a small part of our armoury and mostly used to put off people we think that will object to it! We’ve had some hilarious answers to the questions!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I love questions because I'm naturally curious about people but... you've got to weather that with some conversation so it's not like a rather dreary test/interrogation you have to pass. People lie. Why not let those things naturally pop up? The likelihood of someone saying well actually, yeah I'm a massive racist is low. Really low.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

5. Are you now, or have you ever been, a terrorist?

6. What is the airspeed of an unladen European Swallow, carrying a coconut (by the husk)?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

They’re good questions but it’s not about asking them directly, it’s about discovering the real answers through conversation.

People will always seek to give the ‘correct’ answers if it means them getting laid.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Oh I hate questions. "

Me too

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

I would answer but I suspect you'd want to shag us, and we're not ready for that yet.

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By *ittyandtheboy OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"I love questions because I'm naturally curious about people but... you've got to weather that with some conversation so it's not like a rather dreary test/interrogation you have to pass. People lie. Why not let those things naturally pop up? The likelihood of someone saying well actually, yeah I'm a massive racist is low. Really low."

That’s the point, it’s how the questions are received rather than what the answers are.

We asked them today. Kinda guessing the guy was playing away and by not answering us he kinda showed us that he wasn’t for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll answer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

No not in a relationship at all

Yes I accept that 100%

Nope I respect everyone

Fishing no I’ll only talk sports if the conversation went that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

Love a bit of golf chat! "

I hope you find people who can answer yours perfectly too.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Oh I hate questions. "

Why's that?

Winston

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear."

This is why we avoid too much detail in terms of our preferences on our couples profile. Lots of people do modify what they say to get into your pants. Leaving things ambiguous an letting them reveal more of them self without framework to work from gives more chance of getting a more honest representation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ask one question..

Will I be able to contact you in 9 months time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how f you’re pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ask one question..

Will I be able to contact you in 9 months time? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear.

^this!

Probably, but the asking of the questions sometimes puts people off.

Which I’ve found is a good thing. We’re not desperate to meet just anyone. We’re happy to wait to meet the right people! "

It would put me off, it's not a job interview.

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By *ill1966Man
over a year ago

Swindon

"Oh I hate questions.

Really?l

Yeah, can't people just talk. Instead of question after question. "
totally,, talking is key

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

No ..no ..no.. no ... I'm just too far away ...too old and stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the idea of questions this way to be off putting.

Much prefer to converse together, all getting to express ourselves and find where we match.

I'm thinking most could guess the correct answers to those questions too, regardless of their actual beliefs.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer to use multiple choice:

If we were fucking and Dolph Lundgren walked in what would you do?

A) High five him

B) shout out “that’s Dolph Lundgren!!”

C) Ignore the distraction and carry on ploughing my sweet sweet vagina

D) Who is Dolph Lundgren?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You: “Do you promise to tell the truth the whole truth etc….”

Serial killer: “I do”

You see the problem with questions?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I prefer to use multiple choice:

If we were fucking and Dolph Lundgren walked in what would you do?

A) High five him

B) shout out “that’s Dolph Lundgren!!”

C) Ignore the distraction and carry on ploughing my sweet sweet vagina

D) Who is Dolph Lundgren?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

By asking question 3 you would go straight to instablock.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

"I think people will tell you, what they think you want to hear."

This

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I prefer to use multiple choice:

If we were fucking and Dolph Lundgren walked in what would you do?

A) High five him

B) shout out “that’s Dolph Lundgren!!”

C) Ignore the distraction and carry on ploughing my sweet sweet vagina

D) Who is Dolph Lundgren?

All of them at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

By asking question 3 you would go straight to instablock.

Join me for a round one time. Think of it as ‘taboo’

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

It’s all a bit formal for us, can tell what I need to know after a bit of chatting. As long as they have a sense of humour and are clean with an enormous package

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got my own set of questions.

1 why all the questions?

2 if I score better on your questions than you do on mine, what do I win?

3 can I talk about golf?

4 do you have a sense of humour?

You had me at golf

J x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you should do exactly as you please. If it's working and you're happy I can't see a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to use multiple choice:

If we were fucking and Dolph Lundgren walked in what would you do?

A) High five him

B) shout out “that’s Dolph Lundgren!!”

C) Ignore the distraction and carry on ploughing my sweet sweet vagina

D) Who is Dolph Lundgren?

I'd just be thinking we should've held off until we got to our room and not got carried away in the restaurant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

Ummm nope.

I like just to have a conversation as opposed to reeling off questions. I wouldn’t expect a guy to ask me a bunch of questions so why should I J x

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"We have a set of questions which are a way of vetting people. These work surprisingly well! What do you guys think?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

Ummm nope.

I like just to have a conversation as opposed to reeling off questions. I wouldn’t expect a guy to ask me a bunch of questions so why should I J x "

Well said

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i 2nd that,

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