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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve spent the evening with my monsters at the cinema, after which we were chatting about things and the subject of last year came up.

It feels like a lifetime ago to me, so much has happened and radically changed since then. I look back feeling as though it was a different person.

My question, dear fabbers, is; what has this last 12 months changed? Do you look back at yourself then with envy? Regret? Pity? Joy? Something else?

Has this last year been a journey or more of the same?

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

It’s been a rollercoaster. So much has happened on quite a few levels and I just feel like I’m starting to get my old self back. Just need to lose the weight I’ve gained in that time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regret that I’m one year older and hence one year nearer my ultimate demise.

Happy that I’ve had a decent year with lots of smiles and laughs after the year that went before.

Enjoyed the sporting world - the European Championships and so nearly succeeding there and my club team having a decent season

Frustration that Covid hit my health early this year and set me back fitness wise but I’m on the road to getting back where I was.

And, most importantly, almost smack bang in the middle of it all … we had CHRISTMAS!!!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Still ticking along nicely

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

The last year has been a long fucking slog. I wish things would get easier but now in addition to my Dad in hospital, my 8yo niece is now in hospital too. And various other things. I'd like "the universe" to cut us a bit of slack, please!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm doing ok. Was last year too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty happy with the way this last year has gone. I've picked up some new hobbies, got better at my existing one and my experience on Fab has been good too with going to a few socials. I was worried coming out of lockdown how I would navigate Fab and trying to meet people and although I've not found what I'm looking for, I've still had some great times and think my confidence has grown as a result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been a horrible 12 months, I lost my best friend, I lost family members and I left the family home. The latter had been uncomfortable for years so actually was a good result and I still see the kids every week. I’m Working on me again now, and I’m happy. Here’s to the next 12 months

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I started a new job, it's the best job I've ever had

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By *illbe9999Man
over a year ago

Holmfirth

A year ago my Mum died of cancer.

She was a teacher and highly popular in our home village.

When it came to her funeral only 12 people were allowed to attend.

It wasn't a fitting end to such a beautiful woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look back. Always moving forward just trying to be better than I was yesterday

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A year ago my Mum died of cancer.

She was a teacher and highly popular in our home village.

When it came to her funeral only 12 people were allowed to attend.

It wasn't a fitting end to such a beautiful woman."

I am so sorry

I recently attended a memorial that had been put off because of restrictions.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A year ago my Mum died of cancer.

She was a teacher and highly popular in our home village.

When it came to her funeral only 12 people were allowed to attend.

It wasn't a fitting end to such a beautiful woman."

Sorry for your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No global recession last year

... People are going to go through tough time in the coming months. Expecially winter.

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By *illbe9999Man
over a year ago

Holmfirth

I am so sorry

I recently attended a memorial that had been put off because of restrictions. "

Thank you. It wasn't a sympathy post but what you've suggest could help things with my brothers and I. XX

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS. "

I'm sorry

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I am so sorry

I recently attended a memorial that had been put off because of restrictions.

Thank you. It wasn't a sympathy post but what you've suggest could help things with my brothers and I. XX"

It absolutely does help x

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I'm sorry"

Thanks. Bit of a shock but at least I know.Still getting my head round it but hey ho..not why me, but why not me. Just make the most of what the future brings me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

The last year has without question been the most amazing life changing experience ever imo ..

So to anyone that whinges about fab .. Just be you and it really can change your life as long as you are looking for more than just sexual liaisons..

I've made so many incredible friends through fab in the last year and I am genuinely so grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS. "

Sorry to hear that, must be scary. Hopefully you have a good support network around you x

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS. "

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support?

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

"I started a new job, it's the best job I've ever had"

Well done, I've registered two new businesses.

WillBe, have a get together in her name, invite all that couldn't go and do her proud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been a few times in my life when I’ve thought I had it sussed, only to realise a while later I just dealt with that situation. I’ve forgot more than I remember but I like me now better than ever before.

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By *illbe9999Man
over a year ago

Holmfirth

"I started a new job, it's the best job I've ever had

Well done, I've registered two new businesses.

WillBe, have a get together in her name, invite all that couldn't go and do her proud."

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A year ago today…I was one year deep in mental health recovery! I began my recovery in June 2020 after the most traumatic mental breakdown of my life; and I decided enough was enough.

2 years later…still in recovery but now completed my degree, have my career lined up, removed my abuser, rekindled old friendships and found happiness in my writing again!

And 5 years ago on this very day I left school! Strange how quickly time goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A year ago today…I was one year deep in mental health recovery! I began my recovery in June 2020 after the most traumatic mental breakdown of my life; and I decided enough was enough.

2 years later…still in recovery but now completed my degree, have my career lined up, removed my abuser, rekindled old friendships and found happiness in my writing again!

And 5 years ago on this very day I left school! Strange how quickly time goes."

Well done you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a bloody awful 3 years of ill-health, redundancy, and family separation I thought Jan 2022 was finally the light at the end of the tunnel. But in Feb, during a routine check up, I was referred to the dermatologist with a suspicious looking mole on my leg. 2 weeks later I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma, and to top it all off, two days before my surgery my GP gave me the news that I am now T2 diabetic.

I have a constant painful ache in my leg from the melanoma scar but, in the context of the situ, I am just beyond thankful that I am now cancer free. The diabetes is taking a little longer to get under control and the meds I'm on have horrible side effects but...it is what it is, and I'll keep getting up each time I get knocked down.

But it hasn't all been doom and gloom. Having to be off my feet to recover, gave me the opportunity to complete the 4th year of my OU BA Classics degree, which I had to defer from when I was first ill 3 years ago. End of year assessment results are due in 4 weeks..fingers crossed

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The last year has been a long fucking slog. I wish things would get easier but now in addition to my Dad in hospital, my 8yo niece is now in hospital too. And various other things. I'd like "the universe" to cut us a bit of slack, please!"

I wish for a speedy recovery for your dad and your niece.

That things ease up and the universe is listening x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"A year ago today…I was one year deep in mental health recovery! I began my recovery in June 2020 after the most traumatic mental breakdown of my life; and I decided enough was enough.

2 years later…still in recovery but now completed my degree, have my career lined up, removed my abuser, rekindled old friendships and found happiness in my writing again!

And 5 years ago on this very day I left school! Strange how quickly time goes."

You sound like you've worked really hard to get where you are now and will to get to where you want to be.

I know how hard that can be and I wish you all the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last year has without question been the most amazing life changing experience ever imo ..

So to anyone that whinges about fab .. Just be you and it really can change your life as long as you are looking for more than just sexual liaisons..

I've made so many incredible friends through fab in the last year and I am genuinely so grateful

Totally agree with you. It's been a saviour to come on Fab when I've been having a tough day, and chat about fun, silly nonsense with people I've never met, as well as with special people that have become lifelong friends

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"After a bloody awful 3 years of ill-health, redundancy, and family separation I thought Jan 2022 was finally the light at the end of the tunnel. But in Feb, during a routine check up, I was referred to the dermatologist with a suspicious looking mole on my leg. 2 weeks later I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma, and to top it all off, two days before my surgery my GP gave me the news that I am now T2 diabetic.

Getting the all clear must have been such a weight off...that must have been a nightmare.

Good luck for your assessment x

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

In the past year... very little has changed other than finding swinging. I've stabilised. Ish. Getting itchy feet. I hope I feel refreshed in a years time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Getting the all clear must have been such a weight off...that must have been a nightmare.

Good luck for your assessment x"

After surgery it was a 3 week wait for the biopsy results, to find out if it had spread (I bit off every single one of my beautiful fingernails..thankfully they are now regrowing). The relief of the news made me cry when my doctor told me. Melanoma is one of the fastest spreading skin cancers so I know I'm incredibly lucky and I now smother myself in F50 before leaving the house. Sorry to you and everyone on this thread for rambling on about it, but it's the first time I've really talked about it. I was given the contact number for the skin cancer specialist nurse to talk to about the mental effect it has on you, but I don't want to use up their valuable time when services are already strained. So, thank you for letting me share it here.

And, thank you for the good luck on my OU paper. Tbh I'm not bothered what grade I get, I'm just happy to have finished it lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

11 months and 2 weeks ago i had a meltdown that cost me my last realistic hope of the life i lived and dream of

Ever since that day iv become a grain of sand in the desert a forgotten memory more myth than man only remembered in subconscious dreams which on there own arnt enough for just the simplest hello hope you are well but this is the life i have best just be a dad again its less complicated than emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s pity. But not 13 months, 2 years. Before that worldwide problem I was a successful business owner/ accountant. Now I’m 50% in a wheelchair and 50% normal-ish. 49 and wishing I were younger!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support? "

Not yet, but I will. As for support, medicly, well i was sat in the room with brain doc, shows me the scan and points out stuff on my brain and says Its ms, then as an after thought says "oh its on your spine too" lmao. Then sends me off with a "ill send you a telephone appointment for september" As for friends, well, its hard, I could see in their eyes when i told them their first thought was " what does this mean for me" ( as in them) It sure does make you see who your friends are. My mum, sis, and my 2 spawn, well just try to plasy it down for them. Im more worried for them. I want their lives to carry on as normal. Hey ho someone is having a worse day..anyway at least i get to go round saying.

This isnt just any illness...this is an MS illness.

Said in the voice of the woman who does the marks and sparks add lol

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Last year is one I want to forget I lost my dad feb 21

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Last year is one I want to forget I lost my dad feb 21 "

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your dad.

I really hope you are doing ok.

I lost my dad in December and it was a very difficult time for me.

Sending you big hugs x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

" Getting the all clear must have been such a weight off...that must have been a nightmare.

Good luck for your assessment x

And, thank you for the good luck on my OU paper. Tbh I'm not bothered what grade I get, I'm just happy to have finished it lol x"

Oh no...don't be sorry at all.. this is what the thread is for.

You most definitely aren't rambling on.

You really did have a lucky escape.

I can imagine how much of a mental toll that it can take on you.

I know the NHS are stretched but don't feel bad about using any services that they can offer if it would be helpful.

Finishing your OU....I hope you enjoy celebrating it x

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"Last year is one I want to forget I lost my dad feb 21

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your dad.

I really hope you are doing ok.

I lost my dad in December and it was a very difficult time for me.

Sending you big hugs x"
same to you xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support?

This isnt just any illness...this is an MS illness.

Said in the voice of the woman who does the marks and sparks add lol "

I hope you manage to find some support during what must be a scary time x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Last year is one I want to forget I lost my dad feb 21

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your dad.

I really hope you are doing ok.

I lost my dad in December and it was a very difficult time for me.

Sending you big hugs xsame to you xx

Thank you xx

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year is one I want to forget I lost my dad feb 21 "

I lost my dad few years ago. I hate when someone says " I know what your going through " No you dont! We may have gone through the same experience but in very different ways. Took me a couple years but eventually I started to remember him with a smile rather than a tear. I hope you do to . Insert a caring emoji...

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support?

This isnt just any illness...this is an MS illness.

Said in the voice of the woman who does the marks and sparks add lol

I hope you manage to find some support during what must be a scary time x

Thank you. x

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"A year ago today…I was one year deep in mental health recovery! I began my recovery in June 2020 after the most traumatic mental breakdown of my life; and I decided enough was enough.

2 years later…still in recovery but now completed my degree, have my career lined up, removed my abuser, rekindled old friendships and found happiness in my writing again!

And 5 years ago on this very day I left school! Strange how quickly time goes."

You sound like a strong lady, Thats alot to go through especially so young. I hope thats your lifes worth of shit over and done with and happy times ahead.You got this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life is certainly different to what it once was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last three years have been a nightmare but also eye opening in some ways

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support?

This isnt just any illness...this is an MS illness.

Said in the voice of the woman who does the marks and sparks add lol "

This made me chuckle. At least the M&S bit! I hope that you’re ok.

You’re absolutely right about friends reactions though, it sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A year ago today I had a meet with someone for the first time since before the lockdown.

The past year has been a lot of discovering and finding out things. Making new friends, finding out what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My life is certainly different to what it once was.

Also In another year I hope to look back and be happy in the knowledge that what has happened needed to happen to be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS. "

My friend has MS. I always give her a lift to parkrun so I can use her blue badge

On a more serious note, she goes to an MS support group and has a brilliant network of friends through that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One year ago, I was going through quite an intense and painful stage of grief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been an eye opening journey for me. My first 'long term' fwb and an introduction to fab which has pushed aside all of my ridiculous opinions about what is considered acceptable in society. I have embraced change, people's life choices and become a much better man for it. In short, this last year has been great for me and I hope it continues

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

A mixture of joy, sadness anger and regret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

I’m so sorry to read this. Are you coping with the diagnosis and getting support?

This isnt just any illness...this is an MS illness.

Said in the voice of the woman who does the marks and sparks add lol

This made me chuckle. At least the M&S bit! I hope that you’re ok.

You’re absolutely right about friends reactions though, it sucks"

It was tiresome going over it again and again with everyone, and although I never really use it much these days, that's exactly what I wrote on my fb page

It did take a while for the penny to drop for quite a few

See there faces working out why, where, what and how can i get and illness form Marks and Spencsers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regret nothing I have ever done I life each day as it comes and try to live it to the best that I can

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Last year I thought I was losing my shit. My arm kept going numb, I couldnt concentrate on anything and was much more clumsier than normal.

Found out a few weeks ago I got MS.

My friend has MS. I always give her a lift to parkrun so I can use her blue badge

On a more serious note, she goes to an MS support group and has a brilliant network of friends through that. "

There would be 3 disabled spaces in a row outside my house haha

I've been told I should. Think I might now. Thank you

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