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By *appytrailman OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I violently change the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping

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By *appytrailman OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping"

As much as it annoys me not sure I can do that to a near 90 year old woman haha!

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By *appytrailman OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I violently change the subject"

That's currently my tactic to be fair

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I am now 68. Never had children of my own. Something which missed out on. No matter what a lot say about parenthood .

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

My parents are resigned to the fact that I'll never breed. They will just have to make do with my neice and nephew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping

As much as it annoys me not sure I can do that to a near 90 year old woman haha!"

It’s effective though

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia


"I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping

As much as it annoys me not sure I can do that to a near 90 year old woman haha!"

Mine in that age bracket is now convinced I've sterilised myself by having the Fauci genocide jibby jab

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?"

You’re pretty young, you have a lot of years to change your mind!! My husband bitterly regrets that he never had children! But it’s not for everyone

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?

You’re pretty young, you have a lot of years to change your mind!! My husband bitterly regrets that he never had children! But it’s not for everyone "

When one of my relatives tells me I'll change my mind, I blank them for a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s my life choice also

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?

You’re pretty young, you have a lot of years to change your mind!! My husband bitterly regrets that he never had children! But it’s not for everyone

When one of my relatives tells me I'll change my mind, I blank them for a week."

I don’t blame you my daughter is the only child in both mine & her dads family! It’s not a popular choice !!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?

You’re pretty young, you have a lot of years to change your mind!! My husband bitterly regrets that he never had children! But it’s not for everyone

When one of my relatives tells me I'll change my mind, I blank them for a week.

I don’t blame you my daughter is the only child in both mine & her dads family! It’s not a popular choice !! "

I think ultimately family are like dogs. You train them.

My family try to tell me I don't know my own mind, I withdraw for awhile.

They get the message and have mostly stopped. (My family with the out there politics, similarly)

(My dad would be a bloody adorable grandfather but it's not coming from me)

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

My daughter said she will never have a baby she is now pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them Amazon was all out of little gay divaettes I’ll try again when the sales are on

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field


"I kicked them in the cunt / bollocks. Soon stopped their griping

As much as it annoys me not sure I can do that to a near 90 year old woman haha!"

Point out the cost of children and tell them you can only afford it if they stump up a good few hundred grand to help- then get the snip and spend the money on holidays and ho’s as they say….just tell them you’re trying as hard as you can but nowt seems to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have my mum and she lives seven hours away from me

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Don't get grief, it's just accepted by everyone that I don't want children. I've been a good Uncle (still am) to nieces and nephews which has been enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not single but I don't want children and I'm okay with that. If people can't get their heads round it, that's their problem. Live your life how you want it, bollocks to everyone else.

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By *moothstaffspeepsCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

I never ever wanted and children and only ever hear or witness grief and anxiety with parents I know. 99% of the issues come from their children who I’ve never really liked. I can’t ever fathom anything positive about parenthood, nothing good about having responsibilities for rude, selfish and narcissistic youngsters.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Op, you need to distract your elderly members by talking about siblings kids & cousins who have kids.... Easily done! Just change the subject. They will soon forget.

I have friends who had kids & they were always tired & saying they wished they had not jumped in so fast like everyone else.....

Failing that tell them to just fuck off - its your life choice not theirs!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Only those who really want kids should have them as its the most difficult job there is and wreaks havoc if done badly.

Your decision is exactly right for you. It is looking rather unlikely that I'll be made a grandmother, but that's what should happen if my kids are like you and I will wholly support them in that decision as should your family.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm not single ,but not kids as I never wanted them.Thankfully nor does my other half.

Over the years I have been made to feel like there was something wrong with me ,especially when I was much younger .

You have to do you & ignore others it's none of their business.

I hope times have moved on now & people can accept people's life choices without asking why not etc.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've never been interested in having kids. In my 30s one of my cousins used to harangue me and I found the easiest thing was to agree with her: "Yes, you might be right, I might meet the right person and be desperate for babies. I might get to my 40s and really regret not having them. All true, yes".

I'm 49 now and don't get that hassle any more.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think it can be harder for women, as they're supposedly the care givers and so for them not to want to have children appears unnatural.

I never wanted kids and have never had them. It got easier for me when my sister and brother had kids.

I never wanted to get married either so got a hard time about that too. But just ignored what they had to say.

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

My parents have always never pressured me m my sister to having kids,, but when I was 22 I found out that I can't have children as much as I have never wanted them

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I made my dad walk out the room by telling him I already had a kid and didn’t want to waste time with it

I don’t but it shut him up and now I’m no longer questioned about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ever wanted and children and only ever hear or witness grief and anxiety with parents I know. 99% of the issues come from their children who I’ve never really liked. I can’t ever fathom anything positive about parenthood, nothing good about having responsibilities for rude, selfish and narcissistic youngsters. "

Children should never be "hated" in life, you was one once and imagine if you heard someone say that about you as a child!

That sticks with them for life!

No child is any of the above things from birth, that's how they're being raised. They don't come out rude,selfish and narcissistic. I'd be looking at the parents themselves who have children like that for the answers and not the children in question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ever wanted and children and only ever hear or witness grief and anxiety with parents I know. 99% of the issues come from their children who I’ve never really liked. I can’t ever fathom anything positive about parenthood, nothing good about having responsibilities for rude, selfish and narcissistic youngsters. "

Lol this is wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ever wanted and children and only ever hear or witness grief and anxiety with parents I know. 99% of the issues come from their children who I’ve never really liked. I can’t ever fathom anything positive about parenthood, nothing good about having responsibilities for rude, selfish and narcissistic youngsters.

Children should never be "hated" in life, you was one once and imagine if you heard someone say that about you as a child!

That sticks with them for life!

No child is any of the above things from birth, that's how they're being raised. They don't come out rude,selfish and narcissistic. I'd be looking at the parents themselves who have children like that for the answers and not the children in question.

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Im glad you said this because i was thinking the same thing. Sounds like that person was traumatised as a kid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have kids & definitely want more. But I believe only people who actually want kids & are willing to raise em should. If your a person who has selfish tendencies (which isn’t a problem in the slightest) you shouldn’t have kids. It’s definitely a full time job. Very rewarding when done right but definitely hard work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nobody elses business but yours.

Your choice.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

I had that... then had a baby in my 40s and am a single parent. The grief and disparaging comments from that doesn't compare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the way I want to remain personally but get a bit of grief from certain older people in my family about my choices.

Has anyone else had to deal with similar? How have you dealt with it?"

51 weeks in OP, are you married yet?

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I'm 34. I had the snip. Now I just motion scissors down there with my fingers. Soon shuts them up.

Never wanted children.

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