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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Something just popped into my head recently and it made me think. I thought back to my previous visits to a club and thought of all the things I did like having a drink and a chat or dancing on the pole and now think, am I doing these things for me or am I just trying too hard to be liked and make friends?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Only you can answer that!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Sounds pretty deep, man...

Did you have fun on those occasions? If not, there might be cause for deeper self-reflection.

But if so, maybe it doesn't matter and it sounds like y'had fun. Give yourself a break, my dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you feel you had to force yourself to do those things?

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that! "

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Sounds pretty deep, man...

Did you have fun on those occasions? If not, there might be cause for deeper self-reflection.

But if so, maybe it doesn't matter and it sounds like y'had fun. Give yourself a break, my dude

"

In the moment, they did sound fun but I can't help but think that I was only doing them like a dog jumping through hoops.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Did you feel you had to force yourself to do those things? "

I'm not really sure

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Sounds pretty deep, man...

Did you have fun on those occasions? If not, there might be cause for deeper self-reflection.

But if so, maybe it doesn't matter and it sounds like y'had fun. Give yourself a break, my dude

In the moment, they did sound fun but I can't help but think that I was only doing them like a dog jumping through hoops."

I think if you're asking yourself those questions, then you are looking for at least a slight change.

But it's also good to ask those things of yourself. Keeps you decent, right?

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Just be you..

people have to like you…

If it’s not you then it’ll fail somewhere.

Be you.

X

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Sounds pretty deep, man...

Did you have fun on those occasions? If not, there might be cause for deeper self-reflection.

But if so, maybe it doesn't matter and it sounds like y'had fun. Give yourself a break, my dude

In the moment, they did sound fun but I can't help but think that I was only doing them like a dog jumping through hoops.

I think if you're asking yourself those questions, then you are looking for at least a slight change.

But it's also good to ask those things of yourself. Keeps you decent, right?"

I honestly have no idea. Sorry, it's just my autistic mind finds it hard to understand sometimes.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Just be you..

people have to like you…

If it’s not you then it’ll fail somewhere.

Be you.

X"

I do my best being me but I can't help but think my best isn't good enough sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how."

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini? "

No, Libra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra"

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign. "

????

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign. "

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign. "

Sorry, I don't understand what my star sign has to do with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww OP I just want to hug you reading this thread don't think so deep your fine as you are & start again tomorrow every day is a new day to start again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????"

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up ! "

I'm not sure I agree with that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

I'm not sure I agree with that..."

It was just a joke.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up ! "

Sorry. I'm not an astrology buff. I've always thought horoscopes were rubbish anyway.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Awww OP I just want to hug you reading this thread don't think so deep your fine as you are & start again tomorrow every day is a new day to start again x "

Thanks. I try not to think so deep but can't help it sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

I'm not sure I agree with that...

It was just a joke. "

One that went over your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

I'm not sure I agree with that...

It was just a joke.

One that went over your head. "

Maybe I was trying too hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up ! "

ffs leave it out. I'm Libra and sure I can answer all them questions. Well, sometimes, I think....

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

I'm not sure I agree with that...

It was just a joke.

One that went over your head.

Maybe I was trying too hard. "

Sorry but I'm not in the mood for jokes. Plus it made me feel like I'm stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you can answer that!

I wish I could but I'm not sure how.

You sound indecisive. Are you a Gemini?

No, Libra

that explains it. It’s your star sign.

????

Your not sure how you can answer that. Not sure if your trying too hard. It’s a libra trait. Keep up !

I'm not sure I agree with that...

It was just a joke.

One that went over your head.

Maybe I was trying too hard.

Sorry but I'm not in the mood for jokes. Plus it made me feel like I'm stupid."

Sure. Noted.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Long as you enjoyed yourself does it really matter because if people enjoyed it as well it's a bonus but you did it because you wanted to it made you feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awww OP I just want to hug you reading this thread don't think so deep your fine as you are & start again tomorrow every day is a new day to start again x

Thanks. I try not to think so deep but can't help it sometimes"

x this feeling will pass keep your chin up

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Awww OP I just want to hug you reading this thread don't think so deep your fine as you are & start again tomorrow every day is a new day to start again x

Thanks. I try not to think so deep but can't help it sometimes x this feeling will pass keep your chin up "

I'll try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If doing those things to make friends makes you happy, then I say go for it! We all have to step out of comfort zone and personally, I think almost too much emphasis has been placed on being self-autonomous and being only happy with ourselves but sometimes you need that from other people too. Don't sweat it and if you do make friends at the end of then it says a lot about how positively you come across

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"If doing those things to make friends makes you happy, then I say go for it! We all have to step out of comfort zone and personally, I think almost too much emphasis has been placed on being self-autonomous and being only happy with ourselves but sometimes you need that from other people too. Don't sweat it and if you do make friends at the end of then it says a lot about how positively you come across "

Thinking back to these past months, I dont think I've made progress in making new friends. Saying hello to a few people and dancing like a monkey (not literally) doesn't seem to be doing anything. Maybe I am just trying too hard

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

I've just realised that I have been second guessing myself which if I understand correctly, is not a good thing to do.

What can I do to avoid doing this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking back to these past months, I dont think I've made progress in making new friends. Saying hello to a few people and dancing like a monkey (not literally) doesn't seem to be doing anything. Maybe I am just trying too hard "

I think you should pat yourself on the back for what you have done, take some time each day to appreciate the efforts you made regardless of wether you’ve reached your goal. Apparently it gets easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you sober or d*unk?

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Were you sober or d*unk? "

Obviously sober as I never drink at a club

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Pole dancing sounds interesting

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're social animals, so whatever our decisions, some of our motivation will be driven by this.

It's great to become more self-aware, potentially helping you to steer clear life in the way that you want it to be. Never any need for regret, just to learn and take further decisions that are right for you.

We can't master your life OP, nor fully understand you. You can have a great go at it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes you so you just try harder to be liked, been there.

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