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Do you find lots of messages overwhelming?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sometimes gets a fair amount of messages like 10-15 in a day and it just gets like- eeek I can’t face it all right now.

And then it piles up. And piles up.

On WhatsApp it’s way worse I have so many unread chats because when I’m talking to one person like 4/5 others message you and it’s impossible to keep up. Plus group chats on top.

How do you manage?

- this is an anxiety thing so please don’t come in here on a hype.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yes. I've neglected my inbox for over a week now.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"Yes. I've neglected my inbox for over a week now. "

Never neglect your outbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

You need staff, Steve my lovely.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine aren’t ridiculous. But I like talking so there’s the fact I want to talk that helps. If I thought I was ignoring someone or missed a message because I have too many for how busy I am to reply, I think that could bother me.

I talk to her very few people so I have that on my side.

Don’t sweat it op, if people are really your friend, they’ll understand if you take time to reply, we’re all busy with work and other stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I can’t reply as quick as I’d like as I flit in and out of Fab and I like to take time to properly reply to messages, so I expect some people think I’m ghosting them, when I’m not, I’m simply waiting until I have proper time to reply properly, so often I’ll have 8 or 9 messages pending reply (I’m not as popular as you, OP!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Piles?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have over 30 unread here and it's making me uncomfortable. My email is beyond a joke . I don't get a lot of WhatsApp's or texts as that's just for family and close friends.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

211 unread txts right now. It gets to a point where you just accept you’ll be ignoring a lot of people

I hate it. Can’t change though. Dog brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc "

Surely they are easy to deal with? Delete button takes a second.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, I do find too many messages overwhelming, particularly when I can't get to them straight away. I had to leave group chat on Whatsapp, the only one I had, because by the time I'd get to it, there'd be like 100 unread messages, most just exchanges between two people on the chat, a stay-at-home Mum and a guy who was unemployed at that time. I guess they had way too much time on their hands.

My Fab inbox- I try to keep it clear, but there are days when the amount of messages is too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"211 unread txts right now. It gets to a point where you just accept you’ll be ignoring a lot of people

I hate it. Can’t change though. Dog brain "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc

Surely they are easy to deal with? Delete button takes a second."

True but I’m not checking my inbox all the time and when it piles up I say oh I’ll go through them properly later. Then don’t. Then they pile up and the people you actually want to talk to get lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc

Surely they are easy to deal with? Delete button takes a second."

He likes to savour that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc

Surely they are easy to deal with? Delete button takes a second.

He likes to savour that"

It’s nice to feel wanted on here. You know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way this isn’t a brag- most of the messages on here are from men asking about my bbc

Surely they are easy to deal with? Delete button takes a second.

He likes to savour that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can get through my zero mails quite easily

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes my box is always full, I need help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely! I'm so used to only having 1 or 2 messages at a time so any more than that then it literally takes me hours to reply. Then there's more pressure to make it a fucking good message!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I am terrible at keeping on top of my messages in any personal repository, be it here or personal email/WhatsApp etc. I am incredibly good at doing it for work though! I need to employ the same level of commitment in my personal life but you know, I want to write honestly and meaningfully to people and I overthink it massively and then procrastinate!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I average one message a month on here so it's not difficult to keep up.

I'm not in any fab related chatgroups so don't need to worry about those either.

I'm in a couple of hiking WhatsApp groups but those only account for 2 or 3 messages a week at most.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

When pics blow up the inbox melts. I am still churning through 1200 messages Prib just bulk delete today as can’t be assed chewing through them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When pics blow up the inbox melts. I am still churning through 1200 messages Prib just bulk delete today as can’t be assed chewing through them "

I find it crazy how people message when a pic gets to page 1 of hot pics. Literally everyone is doing the same thing so I don't get how they hope that theirs is the message that will be read

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I am usually too busy mending something I've tried to fix to bother with messages.

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