FabSwingers.com forum: Everyone’s getting married

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems like EVERYONE is getting married, I don’t know if it’s because it’s a millennial thing and it’s that time that everyone is finally tying the not. But it seems that way?? 2 girls I met recently are getting married soon, one of my good friends is going to 3 weddings, I’ve been invited to 2.

I keep seeing it on Instagram…

It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)

And there’s me, a single Pringle , scrambling for scraps and dealing with fuck boys (mind you, at least they are VERY pretty ones) who I wouldn’t trust handling a piece of my chewed, chewing gum… never mind trusting them on actually committing to something.

What am I doing wrong? Guys! X

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

No dating advice here, I’m out of practice since I’m two weeks off my 20th wedding anniversary, but the number of weddings is probably an age thing, I remember that phase.

Sending love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No dating advice here, I’m out of practice since I’m two weeks off my 20th wedding anniversary, but the number of weddings is probably an age thing, I remember that phase.

Sending love

Congrats on ur wedding anniversary!! That’s amazing x

It’s an unbearable phase

I’m feeling like the grinch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And all my friends are splitting up and divorcing…

New love is wonderful to watch and give us hope op.

You’d be a catch for anyone who truly falls for you, And only you know if you’d be up for it all though. Can you imagine your whole life with them? If not, you don’t want marriage, you like the idea of it. Just enjoy peoples company, that’s good too.

*not a relationship expert.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

I’ll marry you. I need a trophy wife.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"No dating advice here, I’m out of practice since I’m two weeks off my 20th wedding anniversary, but the number of weddings is probably an age thing, I remember that phase.

Sending love

Congrats on ur wedding anniversary!! That’s amazing x

It’s an unbearable phase

I’m feeling like the grinch "

Bless you xx

And thank you, knowing my relationship with my husband it’s actually a miracle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And all my friends are splitting up and divorcing…

New love is wonderful to watch and give us hope op.

*not a relationship expert.

Thanks for this, I mean, divorce is pain. So I guess I do like the idea of it (like I love the idea of a lot of things… sur-fucking-prise), more than the reality but who knows, maybe once I find the one I’ll change my mind tho

God , why am I like this?!!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It's not a millennial thing. In every generation there comes a time when all your friends are getting married.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not a millennial thing. In every generation there comes a time when all your friends are getting married. "

Yeah I meant as it’s the millennial time to do it, so generational. That’s what I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably Covid and lockdown has a bit to do with that. A couple of my mates and their partners moved in together (not all together obvs) but maybe it made people realise that they can spend the rest of their lives with that person. It's actually quite wholesome to see considering we're considered the fuck it and Chuck it generation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably Covid and lockdown has a bit to do with that. A couple of my mates and their partners moved in together (not all together obvs) but maybe it made people realise that they can spend the rest of their lives with that person. It's actually quite wholesome to see considering we're considered the fuck it and Chuck it generation

It definitely made or break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From all the social media I see I thought that men have finally come around to the fact that there is nothing to be gained from getting married.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's even a song about it, although this one was probably for my parents

https://youtu.be/7eGnrTZBE-0

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"It's not a millennial thing. In every generation there comes a time when all your friends are getting married.

Yeah I meant as it’s the millennial time to do it, so generational. That’s what I meant

Ok you're forgiven. These millennials sometimes think they're a special unique breed

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.

When I get married or decide to start a new relationship, I want to make sure it's with the right woman...but before I meet the right woman I want to make sure I am the right man...therefore I will be focusing on myself for now

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Think you're at that age OP, most of my friends got married late 20's early 30's. It's not that you are doing anything wrong whatsoever, everyone finds their own path. And I'm now in the age category that several of us are now getting divorced, so who wants to keep up with the crowd?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think you're at that age OP, most of my friends got married late 20's early 30's. It's not that you are doing anything wrong whatsoever, everyone finds their own path. And I'm now in the age category that several of us are now getting divorced, so who wants to keep up with the crowd? "

I guess you feel the pressure and you are like… why is this even happening

But hey ho, one future bride did say “sounds like you are living the hot girl summer dream, we all secretely want” haha

I died

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Don’t be jealous - I know someone who is getting married and his other half is completely oblivious to the fact he is seeing another woman. When I questioned why he was doing it, he said it was to keep her happy but nothing would change… poor woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.

I mean, I see your point! I mean, I do have a type for sure, in every way

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons. It's not the be-all and end-all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t be jealous - I know someone who is getting married and his other half is completely oblivious to the fact he is seeing another woman. When I questioned why he was doing it, he said it was to keep her happy but nothing would change… poor woman

You know what, I (shamefully) admit I’ve been the other woman a few times, and I did talk to some of these men. And they all seem to give the same answer. Either that or , it is what it is. Or can’t change things but (dick talk) if things were different id want you to be my gf… (yeah right)

Obviously now, looking back, I kinda wish I didn’t let myself know that side of some people, as it has created such a trust issue and jaded me a bit.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I see from your profile that you are 32 so plenty of time yet to find the one, don’t sweat it and good luck!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's never too late to wed.

My friends are in their 50s and getting married in a couple of weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody I know getting married usually the opposite

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons. It's not the be-all and end-all. "

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's definitely just the phase of life you are in and is the done thing. Just because you meet someone in your twenties/thirties doesn't mean you are guaranteed to soulmates and will last forever, if it's going to happen then it's going to happen any time. Congrats to the folk that do but it's just not for me

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

Think of it this way at least it's weddings and not funerals. Don't worry about what's happening around you statistically speaking I'm sure some of the people you know getting married will end up divorced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.

Have you read Block, Delete, Move On?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.

Have you read Block, Delete, Move On? "

Ouhh no, do I have to go buy it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.

Have you read Block, Delete, Move On?

Ouhh no, do I have to go buy it? X

I enjoyed reading it. It was very relatable. I would lend it to you but you're too far away

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm not getting married. Everything I ever learnt about marriage, I learnt from my parents and can be summed up as a very expensive legally binding contract

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I'm not getting married. Everything I ever learnt about marriage, I learnt from my parents and can be summed up as a very expensive legally binding contract"

My parents were abysmal at marriages. Dad 4 of them, Mum 3. However both my brother and I are happily married in steady, very long term relationships. It doesn't have to follow that history repeats.

Nor do you have to get married either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids want a party excuse

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Think of it this way at least it's weddings and not funerals. Don't worry about what's happening around you statistically speaking I'm sure some of the people you know getting married will end up divorced "

Yeah, it's funerals for me at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent advice.

Take everything on Instagram with a pinch of salt too. People trying to show off their lives when they are likely dead inside.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I'm not getting married. Everything I ever learnt about marriage, I learnt from my parents and can be summed up as a very expensive legally binding contract

My parents were abysmal at marriages. Dad 4 of them, Mum 3. However both my brother and I are happily married in steady, very long term relationships. It doesn't have to follow that history repeats.

Nor do you have to get married either!"

I agree, I just dont think it's for me

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Marriage is over rated.

No one really takes marriage seriously.

Everyone lies and the grass is always greener on the other side.

Marriage is just a word to keep people together...they might as well use the word handcuffs instead.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.

Have you read Block, Delete, Move On?

Ouhh no, do I have to go buy it? X

I enjoyed reading it. It was very relatable. I would lend it to you but you're too far away

I follow her on Instagram, she's brillilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like EVERYONE is getting married, I don’t know if it’s because it’s a millennial thing and it’s that time that everyone is finally tying the not. But it seems that way?? 2 girls I met recently are getting married soon, one of my good friends is going to 3 weddings, I’ve been invited to 2.

I keep seeing it on Instagram…

It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)

What am I doing wrong? Guys! X

Girl, same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This says it really well, and especially about focusing on yourself. You have to love yourself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure once the weddings are done and dusted you won't be feeling like this. Just ride it out, enjoy the parties you've been invited to and wish them all the best

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I am not but married, only to the gym

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Bath was full of hen parties.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep seeing it on Instagram…

It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)

What am I doing wrong? Guys! X

Girl, same. "

catch 22

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By *lectrumMan
over a year ago

south shields

Been to more funerals than weddings lately sad but true

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Usually South, Currently North

Marriage doesn’t come when you’re looking for it imo.

I’m planning my second wedding. I was widowed 5 years ago after a very happy 10 year marriage.

Pretty much the only thing in common both have is that I wasn’t looking, or expecting, anything serious either time.

It’ll find you when it’s right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Marriage doesn’t come when you’re looking for it imo.

I’m planning my second wedding. I was widowed 5 years ago after a very happy 10 year marriage.

Pretty much the only thing in common both have is that I wasn’t looking, or expecting, anything serious either time.

It’ll find you when it’s right. "

To be fair I’d be just okay to be with a guy I trust and fancy that treats me right. I ain’t asking for much

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

Enjoy the parties OP. Think of all the hot guys, best man etc in suits...

Love a wedding, just wish i hadnt had one myself !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Enjoy the parties OP. Think of all the hot guys, best man etc in suits...

Love a wedding, just wish i hadnt had one myself !"

Sets reminder: don’t shag the groom

I’m KIDDING!! I’m not that bad

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Marriage is definitely over rated, never again

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