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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Our profile is very clear. It states that we will not respond to messages without a face pic and it also says that we only meet at Amigos so not to bother messaging if you’re not a member. 95% of our messages ignore both of these stipulations so get deleted or blocked. Then we get abuse and called ignorant. Our attitude is that, if you can’t abide by the rules of our profile, how can we trust you to stay within boundaries if we play? Are we being harsh or sensible?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Ahhh, fuck the wankers on the side. It's your life so you can do what you want (within the realms of the law)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most ppl don't read the text on a profile just look at the pics.its there fault for not reading your profile and what you are looking for just ignore them and block the idiots that can't take no for an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people can't repect your wants, needs from the very start then absolutely they won't respect you whilst in the middle of play.

If someone takes any sort of liberty at any point then we won't be meeting them for play. Due diligence, that gut feeling and using your experience are key to protecting yourselves when swinging.

KJ

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No you're not being too harsh

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No. I don’t think anyone reads my profile before messaging to be honest. It’s quite obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you aren’t being harsh. It’s your profile and your swinging life, you run it as you choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you're not being harsh.

I use my profile like a filter, if they can't respect what's on my profile, are they going to respect me...

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I agree with your wants but some folk think why should I send a face pic when you don’t have one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with your wants but some folk think why should I send a face pic when you don’t have one "
. We have face pics which we attach to messages

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Our profile is very clear. It states that we will not respond to messages without a face pic and it also says that we only meet at Amigos so not to bother messaging if you’re not a member. 95% of our messages ignore both of these stipulations so get deleted or blocked. Then we get abuse and called ignorant. Our attitude is that, if you can’t abide by the rules of our profile, how can we trust you to stay within boundaries if we play? Are we being harsh or sensible?"

Your profile, your choice. But you can't go far wrong if you treat others the way you'd like to be treated.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Anyone asking for face pics who don't show their own faces is harsh in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with your wants but some folk think why should I send a face pic when you don’t have one . We have face pics which we attach to messages "

I think it's the 'what if they recognise me?' factor that is the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a read of our profile, it still gets ignored, many times

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I agree with your wants but some folk think why should I send a face pic when you don’t have one "

In which case it's easier not to message as it's blatantly obvious the conditions of communication aren't being met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard case of fire the same message to anyone within 20 miles, your profile wasn't read, they're not actually interested in anything other than getting a fluke response from anyone. Just use it as a manual filter to catch those Fab can't catch for you.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I agree with your wants but some folk think why should I send a face pic when you don’t have one . We have face pics which we attach to messages "

In that case your well in your rights to block then because they don’t follow the rules

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope your profile is clear and tells people what you do /don't do.

It's takes 2 mins to read a profile ,I use it as a filter .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. My bio is literally 56 words. Fifty. Six.

A quick Google search tells us that the average adult reads at a rate of 238 words per minute. By rights this means my profile should take approx 14.18 seconds to read.

And yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP. My bio is literally 56 words. Fifty. Six.

A quick Google search tells us that the average adult reads at a rate of 238 words per minute. By rights this means my profile should take approx 14.18 seconds to read.

And yet... "

Ours is just 9 words, yet still

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