FabSwingers.com forum: Losing interest

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who don't think conversation is a 50/50 affair and just want to be entertained.

Oh! And bullshit

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with? "

When trust goes.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

In my experience, it's usually something that I've done that puts other people off.

But for me its manipulation attempts

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"People who don't think conversation is a 50/50 affair and just want to be entertained.

Oh! And bullshit

What he said

& when they can't hold a conversation replying with 1 word answers. They go straight in the trash bin haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When negative personality traits start to slip out like bad temper or judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you realise they weren't being genuine and clearly didn't care about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One sided conversations or when I feel I’m being messed around, also trust plus a big part for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One sided conversations or when I feel I’m being messed around, also trust plus a big part for me too."

This.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

All of the above so far ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lies usually

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

When they accuse you of doing something, and you know you haven't. It's usually because they are doing it.

A rule for one but not the other.

Being deceitful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One sided conversations or when I feel I’m being messed around, also trust plus a big part for me too."

Oh absolutely this, there's only so much of a conversation you can carry with one or two word answers. I just tak it as a hint they aren't interested anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarking

watching for answers that make me feel wonderful.

People come and go out of peoples lives, I get it, fab is a weird place so my answer is not the same as it would be in here compared to my real world.

I lose interest if I am giving my energy to people when I don’t feel I’m getting anything back, it’s that simple. We would then probably drift apart. And who knows, in the future our lives might interact in the same way it once did.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with? "

Literally anything at all. I am a fickle fish. I don’t even know sometimes what it is that switches me off.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Bookmarking

watching for answers that make me feel wonderful.

People come and go out of peoples lives, I get it, fab is a weird place so my answer is not the same as it would be in here compared to my real world.

I have had this happen several times. I'm not always impressed though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People being ignorant

People fallowing people just because one person got the hump

See it all the time

Will not talk in public

Icore when people are watching

See them in person they all over me

Sorry not interested

Run back to them tell them how stupid yous have been

Thanks for shown me your toxic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Minimal response, we are fully capable of making conversation, if we can't get that back how do we expect to hold conversation between bouts of fucking and foreplay?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My list starts with 'they have a funny look on their face' then goes through about 19,000 other really daft reasons, 10 very sensible reasons and ends with ' they're an axe murderer'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bookmarking

watching for answers that make me feel wonderful.

People come and go out of peoples lives, I get it, fab is a weird place so my answer is not the same as it would be in here compared to my real world.

I have had this happen several times. I'm not always impressed though."

It’s jarring at first, especially when you may feel you valued them highly. But I do get it, like some above said. People can be fickle, and anything can make people lose interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we’re talking Fab, what makes me lose interest is hypocrisy, and when someone appears to think of themselves or their opinions to be better than everyone else.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If they show they're liars.

They come and go ie don't speak for ages and then expect to carry on where we left off.

It becomes obvious we have totally different view points on things .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab. Too many messages, thinking I'm online all the time expecting a reply within 4 seconds. Basically looking very needy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting comments. Normally it's something I've done (my personality isn't for everyone I'm afraid lol) but a turn off would be a woman who expects me to chase after her. Like I always have to be the one to txt, call, male plans etc, attraction and interest should be mutual, not one sided, anytime I feel I'm chasing after a woman, I just stop contacting them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Manipulation, weird behaviour, and discovering things about them I find unpalatable

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"When negative personality traits start to slip out like bad temper or judgemental "

This too

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Lack of communication usually.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

When they give me a small glass of wine instead of a large glass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

communication lack of it or the creepiness of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uneven contact ratio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they turn rude and crude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they say something a little bit cringe followed by the words hehe

If they ask what your doing, followed by "send me a pic"

Being overly keen.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If they let me down or do something that gives me the ick.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

When the person becomes needy, controlling (when I’m online or not) or shows entitlement when we meet in as 1:1 or in a group

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

When the initial rush of the chase fades and I realise we have little in common or are looking for different things entirely.

That or their voice/hair/height/shoe size/neediness/car/etc

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

Short messages and all they keep asking if I'm good with my mouth and to send pictures.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Constant drama especially when someone plays the victim all the time yet never seems to have a good word to say about anyone .

Telling different stories to different people about the same thing.

Falseness, being sworn enemies with someone one minute then best buddies the next.

Making every conversation about sex.

Blowing hot and cold and just basically playing games.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

In a relationship it’s when they act as if the own me or my time. I believe in putting in time to allow a relationship to grow but it always comes with a compromise. Unfortunately hypocritical attitudes happen all the time when they find out I crossdress. Suddenly someone who’s all for freedom of expression but not in her partner.

On here it’s when I don’t accommodate I don’t just let anyone into my home. So conversations get stunted or suggestions of meeting elsewhere are ignored. Basically I feel like I’m someone’s dirty little secret, hidden away to be used whenever they’re Randy…fuck that !

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Lies or if they say something shitty or creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With men when they think they can be demanding and approach with demanding questions expecting me to do as they say without any communication….

Couples - when you only talk to the male

Bullshit - I’m pretty good at working it out in a couple of messages now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of honesty

We have nothing to say to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost interest in this thread now.

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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

Messaging in text talk...byyyeeee...not 4 me M8...

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

People expecting instant replies. I had someone message me and say “I have seen you’re online a few times and as you haven’t replied I will now be blocking you”…

I’m a busy guy and sometimes if I’m really interested I want to take my time to give a proper reply!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"People expecting instant replies. I had someone message me and say “I have seen you’re online a few times and as you haven’t replied I will now be blocking you”…

I’m a busy guy and sometimes if I’m really interested I want to take my time to give a proper reply!"

This seems to be more of a female behaviour as I have never had a guy do that too me but several men report that they have. Lucky escape quite frankly as who wants to deal with such entitlement. However take 3 months to respond and I will have lost interest.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Oh yeah I agree with that sentiment if someone takes months to reply. I usually reply within a day or two.

I agree, it is a lucky escape!

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Rudeness or being accused of doing something you haven't done!

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Hidden agendas.. ie., after a few weeks of conversing via here and telephone...

'Can't wait to fuck you tonight it's taken a while to find someone to cuck us"

From a single female profile who never mentioned cucking never mind a hubby. You gotta laugh

I go into conversations now expecting there to be a catch.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When the chat is just one word answers or not keeping the conversation going!

When they ask within 2 messages, what are you into?…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are too keen.

If they are not keen enough.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with? "

Ejaculation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with?

When trust goes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with?

Ejaculation."

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Talking down to me and/or being materialistic.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

When you realise they are just looking for sock puppets to use in their personal soap opera.

When they say one thing in private and the complete opposite in the forums.

When they have different versions of the same story to suit their audience.

When you realise they are working their way through the verifications of someone they absolutely despise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you realise you're the one making all the effort to keep the conversation going.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"When the initial rush of the chase fades and I realise we have little in common or are looking for different things entirely.

That or their voice/hair/height/shoe size/neediness/car/etc"

... car??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they lie to me.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

When I realise the interest isn't 50/50 and I'm single-handedly thrusting a friendship onto someone who is entirely indifferent towards me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding out 30 year old Kelly is 65 year old bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes you lose interest in someone that you initially had an attraction with? "

Marrying them , lol.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If they either can’t be trusted or become too needy , which unfortunately is a lot of people here !

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"If they are too keen.

If they are not keen enough. "

Haha women are buggers.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"When the initial rush of the chase fades and I realise we have little in common or are looking for different things entirely.

That or their voice/hair/height/shoe size/neediness/car/etc

... car??!

Yep. Forever broken and always wanting a ride . . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many things. As well as a lot of the ones already mentioned, I'll add incompatible kissing styles and the wrong smell. I don't mean them smellng bad, but some people smell amazing and others not so much. Pheromones I presume.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Many things. As well as a lot of the ones already mentioned, I'll add incompatible kissing styles and the wrong smell. I don't mean them smellng bad, but some people smell amazing and others not so much. Pheromones I presume."

Yes! It's such a thing. I remember a social with a beautiful man but I thought he smelled like goat underneath his admittedly nice aftershave. It didn't go any further. Sometimes people (esp when they've worked up a bit sweat) smell to me like they should be fucking me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Persistent negativity

Inconsistency

I get the vibe they’re a shit shag

Too stuffy

Clingy, needy, bossy

Just no chemistry

Incompatible humour

Unable to handle me when I become a handful

The list goes on….

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Yes! Kissing! It's amazing how something so unbelievable can be such a turn off if you don't gel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no, poor Goat Man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the conversations turn into one or two word replies

When I find out they’re actually attached and haven’t told me

When it’s constant talk of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unable to handle me when I become a handful"

I read that and I immediately thought of the pic of your arse in those tight leggings. Now that's a whole different kind of handful

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Emerging incompatibilities

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Finding out they have lied. I believe nothing they say after that which puts me off them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they keep asking closed questions. Give me something to reply to.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Constant drama especially when someone plays the victim all the time yet never seems to have a good word to say about anyone .

Telling different stories to different people about the same thing.

Falseness, being sworn enemies with someone one minute then best buddies the next.

Making every conversation about sex.

Blowing hot and cold and just basically playing games.

Exactly the same for me

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