FabSwingers.com forum: Happy ever after

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there such a thing?

Do you want it?

What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.

You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?

I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.

It's going to be awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in my happy ever after

I think it will naturally evolve round me.

I don’t go into my past on here, but we survived so …. This’ll do me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it. But I think if it didn’t work out I’d probably consider being solo poly/ some relationship anarchy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it clearly happens, but I'm not sure I will find it.

I try not to think about it too much to be honest.

At the moment it's just me and the cat, but I would absolutely love a companion

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

For me at present there is no happy ever after. There was I was going to retire in October but due our government and Russia that's all been knocked on the head. As I will never have enough to pay my bills

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Is there such a thing?

Do you want it?

What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.

You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?

I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.

It's going to be awesome.

I guess it depends how you define “happy” - what you’d be happy with?

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

My back up plan is pretty much my life now.

Solitary, simple, uncomplicated.

I don't "need" more but I would be lying if I said I didn't want more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curly said the meaning of life is 1 thing happy ever after im more and more believing was created for children to give them hope and the survival instinct just like you can do what ever you want if you are willing to work hard and sacrifice its all sentimental bullshit

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is there such a thing?

Do you want it?

What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.

You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?

I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.

It's going to be awesome.

You might want to rethink the huskies/sledging plan. Apparently, they shit prolifically and it's easy to get caught in a fecal slipstream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love that Disney film snow dogs! I come from a nuclear family and I don't represent a broken home. Just a happy single ready to mingle

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

As much as I'm a fan of a plan in regards to some things, I enjoy the happiness of being in the now in regards to life in general

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

Plans are overrated. They are always out of date as soon as you finish creating it.

Take life, generally, as it comes. Some stuff will be good, but a load will be s**t of the deepest smelliest kind.

Even in a happily ever after situation, inevitably, it will almost certainly end with one or more of you experiencing an enormous sense of loss and grief.

What a cheery soul I am today.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Nothing ever turns out how you think it will, I like that sometimes as long as there are no nasty surprises.

I’m happy & content as much as I can be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a different idea of what they need to be happy. Most people will never be as humans are always looking for something better. No one knows what's going to happen tomorrow but being happy in who you are, what you have and being content is the best you can hope for.. everything else in life is a bonus level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN

Neil Diamond. Unexpected!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would be fine with being pleased most days.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

No such thing, just lurch from one crisis to another - good days don't involve any crisis

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN

Neil Diamond. Unexpected!

Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a goal for your perfect life is laudable so some degree. But when you change and your goals change your life has to if you still want to be happy.

Better to find someone to share the road, not the destination, even if they are huskies…

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Better than the crazy cat lady....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm very happy right now. And That'll do pet. That'll do

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yes. Happy ever after does exist. It doesn't mean happy always and it doesn't mean it can't be broken. But it can exist.

However, happy ever after in the traditional fairy tale sense absolutely isn't in my cards. So I'll take the happy as it comes and embrace it when it does.

Life has too much shit, too much hurt, abuse and heartache to not grab hold of the happy times.

So even if forever isn't something that is for everyone, right now can be. And if you can make right now happy, you can have your happy ever after

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I had it and it was taken away

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Why is it assumed that everyone is single on here?

Plenty of happy couples.

I'm sure plenty of singles also happy with their lives and happy to be single.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I get through the day, make contingencies for the medium term. The long term doesn't concern me that much (other than saving for retirement etc, assuming society doesn't collapse before then and assuming the retirement age is below 145 by the time I get there)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we have it then just push it away,

sometimes we're just destined to fuck up a good thing,

Sometimes we find it impossible to try and repair the damage,

Sometimes we're scared of dropping our gaurd in the thought that the pain is too much to encounter once more,

One or all of the above is true for gatsby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel like the typical happy ever after i.e marriage etc is for me... Not that I don't want it, it just doesn't seem to want me.

I'll be a crazy old Great Dane lady with a fuck tonne of Jamshed wine. That'll be a Happy Ever After for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had it, not sure I'll find it again.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Everyone's idea of happiness is different. I am happier when in a 'relationship'. I thought i had my happy ever after, but had my heart broken. But i think i'm willing to take that risk again..

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

No, I don’t think that there is a happy ever after but I think that there can be happiness along the way.

No one will have a forever happy life, that’s just not possible but the bad makes the good better, when it does come.

The key is to smell the roses along the way.

That’s not a euphemism for sucking cock by the way

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Everyone has a different version of happy, the whole fairytale ending no I don't believe in, but being in a good relationship with a happy family,I see that as a happy ever after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.

How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.

For me, I don't want to get married or any of that shizzle, my happy ever after right now is someone to take me for dinner, or drinks, or veg on the sofa with , once or twice a week, spend a weekend , maybe two a month together, who wants to devour and adore me in equal measure, who isn't shagging anyone else (unless I'm involved

) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.

I dont believe thats not possible

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It would be nice to find my happy ever after, but I doubt I will, too scarred to let anyone get that close again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years ago I'd have said it's entirely possible, unfortunately life and in particular the last six months are teaching me otherwise. I still live in hope, but the pragmatist in me is preparing for loneliness to prevail.

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Is there such a thing?

Do you want it?

What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.

You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?

I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.

It's going to be awesome.

I thought I had my happily every after when I was married, then I went through hell and thought I’d never be happy again but now I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I’m by myself.

Everyone has their happy ever after inside, we just need to remember we are responsible for it and not pin it on someone else because things can change so fast and they’ll be gone. You’ll always have yourself

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN

Neil Diamond. Unexpected!

Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM

Ville Valo

- the definitive version!

I think I've got what I'm looking for in life. I'm the luckiest woman in the world, with Mr KC

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.

How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.

) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.

I dont believe thats not possible

Ditto. Evaded me so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had my real happiness you dont get that happy twice in a lifetime so i wont try to be

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I find values more useful than goals, personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy wouldn't change anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really believe in a 'happy ever after', more a 'content ever after'. Happy isn't a permanent state of being, just a fleeting emotion that comes in waves throughout the day, if we're lucky, along with a host of other emotions. Relationships aren't without their issues, even the best ones, but being content with the overall quality of a relationship is doable. Being ecstatically happy all the time is not.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'd like to die knowing my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren are all doing ok.

Until then, I'll break my body trying to make it so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well jeez I'd completely forgotten about this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.

How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.

) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.

I dont believe thats not possible

Can I have this please.

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By *heshire-cat74Woman
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I have given up finding it, I'm learning to live with what I have and be happy with that

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I thought I had my Happy Ever After, then he got on a plane and never came home (except in a coffin). No one is going to come close to what I had with him and I will never look. I’m managing my life now and it has got easier.

I have a card in my room that says “remember the small things because one day you will look back and realise they were the big things”… and I live by that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have given up finding it, I'm learning to live with what I have and be happy with that"

This is me.

Well, I'll be happy once I get my huskies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.

So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.

So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.

I feel I was so lucky with my husband.

The devastation of losing him is something that’s hard to live with. It eases, but doesn’t go.

Knowing how quickly you can lose someone, it makes me want it all the more.

I just can’t find it

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I think it does OP. But I think the older we get maybe the more doubtful we get. Hurt in the past etc.when it feels right with one person then I’m happy,never look elsewhere.and hopefully they’ll feel the same.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah course it does. But I don't believe in the stereotypical version of happily ever after, which probably helps

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don't really believe in a 'happy ever after', more a 'content ever after'. Happy isn't a permanent state of being, just a fleeting emotion that comes in waves throughout the day, if we're lucky, along with a host of other emotions. Relationships aren't without their issues, even the best ones, but being content with the overall quality of a relationship is doable. Being ecstatically happy all the time is not."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN

Neil Diamond. Unexpected!

Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM

Haven't heard Johnny Cash sing it. I grew up with Neil Diamond-loving parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play most things pretty safe so it's highly unlikely my plans or goals go completely tits up. On the other hand, it may stop me me having the chance to truly match my ambitions or potential.

I pretty much have 0 relationship goals as it's not really in my control, but I have career goals I'm sure I can meet because I have a longer timeframe to do it

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.

So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.

I sometimes think that the sadness of things that have happened, stay with you and bring a tinge of melancholy to happy times.

As I get older (I’m not old, dammit!) the happy times seem less ‘vibrant’ but the sad times are easier to manage.

Perhaps part of it is that life experience brings the wisdom that moments are fleeting, people come and go and you can’t be forever happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.

So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.

I've had that and I still miss him, but time has passed and I think I could find happiness again with someone else. But I had to be open to it to have a chance of that happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there such a thing?

Do you want it?

What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.

You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?

I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.

It's going to be awesome.

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things will always work out in the end, so if it ain't working out right now, it ain't the end!

Be brave, take a chance and have confidence in yourself, you can do it. I promise x.

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By *ayjay199xMan
over a year ago

london

Depends, after what?

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