FabSwingers.com forum: Inviting someone to your home

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So for the first time I’m having someone from

FAB coming to my home.

I’ve actually never had anyone over that I felt comfortable with ever before. I’ve accommodated in hotels.

Just getting a feel of how people feel about having what essentially is initially complete strangers in there homes?

Suppose for me it’s been a huge step.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We met them socially at least once, I know it's no guarantee of safety but you can get a basic feel for them. We then just took basic precautions e.g. putting valuables away, closing doors to rooms we wanted to remain private and then being as welcoming as possible

We warn our young people about the dangers of meeting strangers from the net, we should be taking the same precautions ourselves I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds advice,

I’ve met them socially a few times now and it’s all good on that aspect.

Suppose I’m just nervous, wanting to me a good host and all that haha

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Social first. It's your home, so you have to be comfortable with the set up. Have fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

And I just realised I didn't actually answer your question

We were hesitant and slightly nervous but excited too. It all turned out well because 99.9% of people are decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never !! Never

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Sounds advice,

I’ve met them socially a few times now and it’s all good on that aspect.

Suppose I’m just nervous, wanting to me a good host and all that haha

I'm sure you're a good host

Condoms, lube, clean towels, fresh bathroom, light snacks and drinks. Sorted

Is it over night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t beat it

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

I don’t have anyone from fab come to my house as a general rule.

I do However go to mens houses. Most of them don’t seem to have any problem with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds advice,

I’ve met them socially a few times now and it’s all good on that aspect.

Suppose I’m just nervous, wanting to me a good host and all that haha

I'm sure you're a good host

Condoms, lube, clean towels, fresh bathroom, light snacks and drinks. Sorted

Is it over night? "

Indeed it is! My first ever haha

Have set a day aside to make sure house and garden are spotless haha.

Actually gone and purchased new towels and glass wear haha….might be over thinking this.

Maybe it was the way I was raised, having guests over was like me cassa su cassa

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Never !! Never"
this for me too x

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By *ittlechick77Couple
over a year ago

Staines

We meet socially first have hosted few different people ice breakers games drinks snacks then naughty fun had. No issues thus far

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

I prefer to accommodate as I feel safer in my own surroundings, always got a few defence items stashed close at hand mind if the worse was to happen. Going to someone else's home, well you don't really know wot your walking into, safer in your own home I think

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I only accommodate in hotels

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Just get to know them a bit I would say via chat or meeting for coffee. I have never had any problems inviting people to my home. They are always very respectful. But I know what you mean, it is nerve wracking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i appreciate this topic. had wondered myself of what to provide. glad of the insight and to know my hunches were on point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only accommodate in hotels

This used to be me.

Even when I’m invited to someone home, I’m always nervous

Plus it’s rude to go empty handed so I always take a little something as a thank you

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

It depends on the meet and who with.

Usually like meet socially and see if click and get on first. Then either same evening go mine or arrange another date.

Have had few meets due to situation just invited round but usually spoke to for while first not just a quick chat and invite.

Have fun and make sure have essentials I always have own supplies and try keep place nice although since single last year my house is a man cave lol

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

We’ve only ever had people over but the cat is like a guard dog

If I was single then I’d feel differently. We love having people here anyway, we’re pretty sociable and have been lucky so far

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just get to know them a bit I would say via chat or meeting for coffee. I have never had any problems inviting people to my home. They are always very respectful. But I know what you mean, it is nerve wracking."

Exactly! Not a decision I’ve taken lightly

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Exactly! Not a decision I’ve taken lightly "

Just try to relax and enjoy. If it's not going the way you would like politely ask them to leave. I have done that and had no issues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We’ve only ever had people over but the cat is like a guard dog

If I was single then I’d feel differently. We love having people here anyway, we’re pretty sociable and have been lucky so far "

You sure it’s a cat!

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

We had been seeing a guy for quite some time and he expressed an interest to my wife in having her in our bed.

She mentioned it to be and whereas I had no initial problems with it (aside of what to do with 2 x 20 somethings) she wanted our home to remain free from this lifestyle and that hotels etc fuelled the flames of our hidden lifestyle - does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only accommodate in hotels

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had been seeing a guy for quite some time and he expressed an interest to my wife in having her in our bed.

Very much so yes!

As much as it’s a erotic and sexy idea of having someone in your bed, one appreciates there are boundaries and lines which must be respected.

Hotel fun and socials have been my indulgent pleasure. Especially when room service knock at 3am and she answers in just a pair of knickers lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have had two people I met through fab to my home. But I had been met them several times before I even thought of inviting them to my home.

Personally I would never bring someone I barely know back to my house as it's my safe zone and I also would never go to someone's home if I didn't know them well. That is just me though everyone does fab their own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only person that thought, as long as its not a Vampire?

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’ve never invited to my home … but if I know them well there isn’t a problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am I the only person that thought, as long as its not a Vampire?"

I’ll invite blade to hide in the en-suite haha

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

95% of my meets have been in my home. I much prefer it & feel way more comfortable. Never had a problem but then, I always chat & get to know guys first. Also, I live alone, which helps.

I'm sure it'll be fine, OP. Just relax & enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the the insight!

Certainly given me some food for thought!

It’s nice to know I’m not alone in my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally homes are a no go, both mine and theirs. Mostly for safety and privacy purposes. I prefer to keep my private life and fab life separately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally homes are a no go, both mine and theirs. Mostly for safety and privacy purposes. I prefer to keep my private life and fab life separately. "

I have done for quite some time even in my personal life,

But once in a while someone comes along and you think..mmmm why not indeed!

Then the nerves kick in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share my home with my kids so I can't do this, but it depends what you're looking to establish with someone here. Most people are just looking for sex and hotels are fine for that level of connection. I can see why people are wary.

It's more intimate having someone in your home, and I'm grateful to the men who have invited me to theirs. There is an intensity to the way we connect. I hope you find that, if that's what you seek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat for a while first but absolutely love a daytime visit

J x

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By *safun2016Man
over a year ago

Harlow

I’d be happy to host a meet but would normally like to at least have met them socially first. That way you can find out from the start if you have a connection or not. Mindless sex doesn’t interest me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I chat for a while first but absolutely love a daytime visit

J x "

Well if your ever in town and just happen to be passing, I’ll make breakfast haha

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My home is my sanctuary. I don't invite people here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I share my home with my kids so I can't do this, but it depends what you're looking to establish with someone here. Most people are just looking for sex and hotels are fine for that level of connection. I can see why people are wary.

It's more intimate having someone in your home, and I'm grateful to the men who have invited me to theirs. There is an intensity to the way we connect. I hope you find that, if that's what you seek. "

Mindless, trivial and short lived encounters are of little interest to myself, I like to keep

My circle small but with some fine memories and connections!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d be happy to host a meet but would normally like to at least have met them socially first. That way you can find out from the start if you have a connection or not. Mindless sex doesn’t interest me "

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

There seems to be no "right" answer here I only ever meet at my home, I wouldn't feel safe meeting anywhere else

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Virtually all of the meets I've had - with single females as well as couples - have been at their homes...

....I've always been of the opinion that people are probably more relaxed in their own surroundings...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more intimate having someone in your home, and I'm grateful to the men who have invited me to theirs. There is an intensity to the way we connect. I hope you find that, if that's what you seek.

Mindless, trivial and short lived encounters are of little interest to myself, I like to keep

My circle small but with some fine memories and connections!"

Similar to me - I rarely meet anyone even for a coffee. But when I do, it's not at a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but my best meetings ever have been spur of the moment late night "come on overs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will never happen. We keep this “secret little hobby “ totally separate from home life

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Years ago a chap who had been to my house a couple of times months before, turned up at my door one Sunday lunchtime out of the blue, stating I'd disappeared off Fab and he didnt have my phone number !!!

I had my teenage children there and was utterly dismayed.

Nowadays it's extremely rare that I would even consider inviting anyone to my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

will never go to a guys home ever again i used to after getting to know them and with hubs knowing where i am and stuff but not after the last guy ... i went to his house and from the second i got in he started to creep me out .... then he grabbed my arm hard and tried to pull me towards where ever he wanted me to go i just kicked and punched and fled hubs was there in a few mins ..... the other guy then once realised hubs had turned up locked himeself in his house ....i had bruise's on my arms for about 2 weeks ...and never again it will always be a place of my choosing and hubs will be near by....

now i met this guy about 6 times 2 for socials and 4 for play my job means i can read people quiet easy so this just proves trust no one even if you think you know them.....

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By *otshot14Woman
over a year ago

nuneaton

I've done both.but I find it easy to have a social first.

I like if I go to there place,u can leave when u want to.

Sometimes at your own,they may stay a bit longer than u want.

But always let someone know that your going out,or that if u have someone in at yours.u have an escape plan.

U just never know.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

When your username is Robyn graves and your profile photo contains a skull.... very few people want to come to your house..

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have In the past when single.

Only when I've met them before and for a social ,

Never had a problem.

Hope all goes well op x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I've had a few ladies off here stay at mine, usually from the South coast, they stay Fri and Saturday night, apart from one lady who ended up staying 4 nights, I thought she was planning on moving in

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"will never go to a guys home ever again i used to after getting to know them and with hubs knowing where i am and stuff but not after the last guy ... i went to his house and from the second i got in he started to creep me out .... then he grabbed my arm hard and tried to pull me towards where ever he wanted me to go i just kicked and punched and fled hubs was there in a few mins ..... the other guy then once realised hubs had turned up locked himeself in his house ....i had bruise's on my arms for about 2 weeks ...and never again it will always be a place of my choosing and hubs will be near by....

now i met this guy about 6 times 2 for socials and 4 for play my job means i can read people quiet easy so this just proves trust no one even if you think you know them....."

What job enables you to do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When your username is Robyn graves and your profile photo contains a skull.... very few people want to come to your house..

Would i need to bring my own shovel?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've had a few ladies off here stay at mine, usually from the South coast, they stay Fri and Saturday night, apart from one lady who ended up staying 4 nights, I thought she was planning on moving in

You make them too welcome Ace

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

now i met this guy about 6 times 2 for socials and 4 for play my job means i can read people quiet easy so this just proves trust no one even if you think you know them....."

We went to a couples house after meeting socially and had quite a scary experience too. We learned many lessons that night, none of them good

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I was fine as I'd known them a while.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

After being stalked twice on here then it's never going to happen, unless we know them first.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Never as a principle. Only if a guy becomes a regular, after meeting a good few times x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Leave her tooth brush did she haha,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After being stalked twice on here then it's never going to happen, unless we know them first."

See that just scares me! Hell no!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my meets have been at mine

Just have to way up the safety aspects and arrange a safe call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d prefer to keep Fab world separate from the real one. So I don’t invite anyone back to mine.

I have however met at someone’s home once and this confirmed to me that it’s not for me, meeting at peoples homes. I left thinking how stupid I’d been, anything could have happened. As it was the lady was a good host, however she failed to mention her Dom, would be present. Not an issue, but I could have walked into anything!

So now prefer hotel meets, as it will be more visible if other are there or clubs. Club meets allow you to walk away with little reduced chance of offending the other person/s. You can make a good excuse if there’s no click!

I would consider outside, as again, I think it would be easyJet for either to walkaway, if there’s is no connection.

Just my thoughts and way.

Be safe and have fun people.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I have had one or two guys at mine and it ended up a regular thing for a while. Never any issues with them fortunately.

It was day time and kids were at school so not an overnight. I have stayed at a guy’s house a few times, in fact he asked me to stay over the first time we met up.

I’ve usually found guys to be lovely hosts and clean homes.

Relax and enjoy the evening.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We much prefer hotels its just safer and easier, though we did meet at home once and it was a bit of a disaster.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you're comfortable enough, after meeting, then you can always have a friend to check in on you.

I'd not leave valuables about and I'd decide where access is permitted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only person that thought, as long as its not a Vampire?

I’ll invite blade to hide in the en-suite haha

A bit of Garlic round the door lol

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

No problem. I prefer to entertain at home. Why pay for a hotel when I have a perfectly good house?

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

When I first joined fab..maybe 10 ish years ago.. I had a guy come to my home and he robbed me.. Since then.... Won't have strangers in my home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it once when swinging - as a couple - with a friend. We’d met the couple on a few occasions before and enjoyed some fun evenings. Bbut on the night they were supposed to book a hotel, they suddenly announced they couldn’t secure the room. So I invited them back to my place.

All went swimmingly, until 4 weeks later when they both removed themselves from our WhatsApp group and then the chap turned up at my front door , punching and screaming it, demanding to see his wife, who had apparently run away.

It scared my daughter half to death.

I will never invite anyone to mine again as a result.

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By *urvy123babeWoman
over a year ago

cambridge

All of my meets have been at my house, probably not the best idea as a single female, but I think I have a good judge of character and can pick up on any weird vibes before hand.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

"I have had one or two guys at mine and it ended up a regular thing for a while. Never any issues with them fortunately.

It was day time and kids were at school so not an overnight. I have stayed at a guy’s house a few times, in fact he asked me to stay over the first time we met up.

I’ve usually found guys to be lovely hosts and clean homes.

Relax and enjoy the evening. "

Iv always found the men I have met to have immaculate homes too. Show home standard normally. I always compliment them on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish mine was. Unfortunately I rent and it isn't the best property in the world to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I chat for a while first but absolutely love a daytime visit

J x

Well if your ever in town and just happen to be passing, I’ll make breakfast haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now i met this guy about 6 times 2 for socials and 4 for play my job means i can read people quiet easy so this just proves trust no one even if you think you know them.....

What job enables you to do that?"

not going to say what my jobs are but maybe its come across alittle wrong what i meant was my job require me to read people but that experience where i thought he was ok proved me wrong ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now i met this guy about 6 times 2 for socials and 4 for play my job means i can read people quiet easy so this just proves trust no one even if you think you know them.....

We went to a couples house after meeting socially and had quite a scary experience too. We learned many lessons that night, none of them good"

yes totally agree its not just men who can freak you out years and years ago we met a couple in bristol had a great nights out at the pubs n clubs went very creepy when we went back to theres ...

heard many stories from guys claiming women have gone psycho on them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a fair few meets at current and previous house never had any issues but pretty certain I could of handled most situations if they had gone bad.

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