FabSwingers.com forum: 30s on Tinder

By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

The way I figure, most women in their 20s will consider me too old, and women in their late 30s/early 40s might consider me too young. This leaves women within a year or two of me in either direction, and reduces my overall potential matches.

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Isn't this the third or fourth time you've posted this?

If you think age is your issue hide it.

If you think your pics or text is your issue change it.

Tinder isn't awful. It isn't great.

I'm 40 plus and have had likes from ladies 10 or 12 years either side of me. To the right person it really is just a number.

Are you sure your profile isnt hidden? Not sent to liked only?

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Isn't this the third or fourth time you've posted this?

If you think age is your issue hide it.

If you think your pics or text is your issue change it.

Tinder isn't awful. It isn't great.

I'm 40 plus and have had likes from ladies 10 or 12 years either side of me. To the right person it really is just a number.

Are you sure your profile isnt hidden? Not sent to liked only?"

Before I was just generally wondering about others experiences of tinder, but yesterday I started to wonder if my age was an issue.

And no, it's definitely showing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask what sort of pics you use on tinder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a different app. Bumble might be better for your age group.

Snatch seems to be a harder catch on bumble though but does seem to be of higher class.

If you get desperate try POF. Just make sure you double bag your fellow.

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Can I ask what sort of pics you use on tinder? "

I'm using a mix of face pics, full body pics (with clothes on

) and me out with friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with Bumble. Women message first if they are interested, that way you know for sure.

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Go with Bumble. Women message first if they are interested, that way you know for sure. "

I used that just before I used Tinder, and had the same result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go with Bumble. Women message first if they are interested, that way you know for sure.

I used that just before I used Tinder, and had the same result"

POF is your only hope then.

Sorry for your loss x

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

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"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

I think bumble and hinge are miles better. If you can’t get a sniff on tinder then I would hazard a guess that your blurb is crap and your standards aren’t reflective of reality? Why don’t you do an hour of only right swipes, zero no’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I ask what sort of pics you use on tinder?

I'm using a mix of face pics, full body pics (with clothes on

) and me out with friends"

Ok ditch the mates pics. Looks immature and tells her she’ll be fighting for your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

If your not mega swiping right for days on end your doing it wrong. Swipe right now and do the picking later.

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

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It has to be your blurb, you’re good looking.

I just read your profile on here and I felt bored instantly. “I can assure you…”

I’m giving feedback - not trying to be a bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?"

Me too movement

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

other

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?"

Are you crazy! Also, every fucker is attached to their phone, plus fear of rejection!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement "

Ah yes, women reporting their sexual harassment and sexual assault experiences has definitely been the cause of people not talking to each other irl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement "

I’ve been in a relationship/married for 10 years so I’d be fucked if I ever have to date again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Are you crazy! Also, every fucker is attached to their phone, plus fear of rejection! "

Fear is for pussies.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

Bro, it’s just online dating.

I’ve had the same experience on several apps (Bumble, POF, Happn, OKcupid) - Only likes come from bots.

Starting to wonder whether I’m past it.

However. I did read somewhere that the algorithms on these sites are tuned to matching under 25s or there abouts that everyone else is a ‘second class’ citizen.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?"

Have you read / watched the news in the last decade? Women DO NOT want or like to be approached. No way I’m being labelled creepy or a pervert thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did read somewhere that the algorithms on these sites are tuned to matching under 25s or there abouts that everyone else is a ‘second class’ citizen. "

Mwahahahahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?"

Male violence

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

other

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Are you crazy! Also, every fucker is attached to their phone, plus fear of rejection!

Fear is for pussies."

Misogynist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Have you read / watched the news in the last decade? Women DO NOT want or like to be approached. No way I’m being labelled creepy or a pervert thank you very much.

You can strike up conversation naturally without being creepy or a pervert. I’m married and not trying to pull but still do it regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement "

What does this even mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your posts and comments are always really negative towards how you look, come across, cock size, how you have no luck anywhere.

Try and have a positive outlook and things might change? After all, you've had fab meets, and youre not the elephant man with a 0.5 inch penis. You just moan a lot (and not in a good way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Male violence "

Yes male violence stopped all conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Have you read / watched the news in the last decade? Women DO NOT want or like to be approached. No way I’m being labelled creepy or a pervert thank you very much.

I get approached by women almost every time I’m having a night out. Even if I’m on my own. They’re perverts obviously. Even the ones asking for makeup tips

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

Bro, it’s just online dating.

I’ve had the same experience on several apps (Bumble, POF, Happn, OKcupid) - Only likes come from bots.

Starting to wonder whether I’m past it.

However. I did read somewhere that the algorithms on these sites are tuned to matching under 25s or there abouts that everyone else is a ‘second class’ citizen. "

Jeez, if a buff, good looking guy like you is having trouble getting likes, I'm really screwed. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Are you crazy! Also, every fucker is attached to their phone, plus fear of rejection!

Fear is for pussies.

Misogynist "

Who’s she?

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

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"OP, your posts and comments are always really negative towards how you look, come across, cock size, how you have no luck anywhere.

Try and have a positive outlook and things might change? After all, you've had fab meets, and youre not the elephant man with a 0.5 inch penis. You just moan a lot (and not in a good way)

Yep, try positivity. Nobody likes a negative Nelly. Also, it’s a vibe you can give off, and do. Nobody wants that energy around them or in them.

Pics smiling, a funny profile text. Back yourself, it’s dog eat dog but you ain’t getting eaten.

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"OP, your posts and comments are always really negative towards how you look, come across, cock size, how you have no luck anywhere.

Try and have a positive outlook and things might change? After all, you've had fab meets, and youre not the elephant man with a 0.5 inch penis. You just moan a lot (and not in a good way)

I mean, my pics are what they are, and my bio isn't negative or moaning at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op if it makes you feel any better as a lesbian my tinder is dead as well…my nearest lesbians seem to be 40 miles away lol

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

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"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

Bro, it’s just online dating.

I’ve had the same experience on several apps (Bumble, POF, Happn, OKcupid) - Only likes come from bots.

Starting to wonder whether I’m past it.

However. I did read somewhere that the algorithms on these sites are tuned to matching under 25s or there abouts that everyone else is a ‘second class’ citizen.

Jeez, if a buff, good looking guy like you is having trouble getting likes, I'm really screwed. Haha"

You latched onto the one profile you could draw a negative comparison

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Turned 33 in April. Been using Tinder for just over a month now and have had zero likes. It's made me wonder whether 30s is like a lost middle ground on there?

Would be keen to hear from others 30 and up about their experience?

I'm prepared to face the fact that it's just me

Bro, it’s just online dating.

I’ve had the same experience on several apps (Bumble, POF, Happn, OKcupid) - Only likes come from bots.

Starting to wonder whether I’m past it.

However. I did read somewhere that the algorithms on these sites are tuned to matching under 25s or there abouts that everyone else is a ‘second class’ citizen.

Jeez, if a buff, good looking guy like you is having trouble getting likes, I'm really screwed. Haha"

I get likes, in your town, and I've got 10 years on you.

If it's not working change something. Doing the same over and over is the definition of insanity.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Have you read / watched the news in the last decade? Women DO NOT want or like to be approached. No way I’m being labelled creepy or a pervert thank you very much.

You can strike up conversation naturally without being creepy or a pervert. I’m married and not trying to pull but still do it regularly."

Yeah and the difference is you’re married ..I assume you wear a ring, which will make it obvious.

Married mate of mine says exactly the same thing. Once married very easy to approach and talk to women. Even gets approached by women.

Anyway, I’m not complaining - as someone pointed out - it’s the fault of some men. The rest of us just have to bear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Have you read / watched the news in the last decade? Women DO NOT want or like to be approached. No way I’m being labelled creepy or a pervert thank you very much.

You can strike up conversation naturally without being creepy or a pervert. I’m married and not trying to pull but still do it regularly.

Yeah and the difference is you’re married ..I assume you wear a ring, which will make it obvious.

Married mate of mine says exactly the same thing. Once married very easy to approach and talk to women. Even gets approached by women.

Anyway, I’m not complaining - as someone pointed out - it’s the fault of some men. The rest of us just have to bear it.

A lot of the time they don’t notice the ring. I’m a naturally chatty person though and must seem approachable.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Swipe swipe and more swipe right, lose the mates pics, if that appears a lot swipe left as they don't know who the profile belongs to. Keep the blurb simple, double check your settings that you're seeing everyone and they're seeing you, you're not ugly so I doubt you're not getting any swipes, you may just not be swiping them back

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd say it's because you have a small Penis..... nah joking of course! It's basically a numbers game like on here, so wouldn't worry about it.

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Ut's unusual for someone to get absolutely zero likes. Is your bio on Tinder filled with the same crippling self doubt as your posts on here?

I found Tinder a waste of time tbh, it's full of wrong uns on a weekend sesh just after nudes.

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Swipe swipe and more swipe right, lose the mates pics, if that appears a lot swipe left as they don't know who the profile belongs to. Keep the blurb simple, double check your settings that you're seeing everyone and they're seeing you, you're not ugly so I doubt you're not getting any swipes, you may just not be swiping them back

I made sure my group pics (2 of them) appear after plenty of solo ones

And I am swiping mostly right. Whether it's a nice pic or a good bio with similar interests listed, I swipe right.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Really ? The last time I used tinder was last year,and honestly I had more meets with tinder than with fab...not sure age is the problem ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

Oh duh! Isn’t it weird that women call out sexual harassment and suddenly men are scared to yo them. As if they’re actually annoyed they can’t keep getting away with what they’re used to?

Nah I’m being ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake"

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

Oh duh! Isn’t it weird that women call out sexual harassment and suddenly men are scared to yo them. As if they’re actually annoyed they can’t keep getting away with what they’re used to?

Nah I’m being ridiculous"

The very IDEA OMG.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

It’s the Barry

Fucking hell Baz mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

It’s the Barry

Fucking hell Baz mate"

He's a character, that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 years old, face no one wants to see anywhere never mind on here and I’ve used POF Badoo fetlife, countless others plus this is my fourth time on fab, everything is what you make it, be positive, be charming be funny and above all be yourself, why do people treat it like it’s results orientated, I haven’t had a blow Job in 8 days, I’m unverified no face photo, how’s he doing it? You ask, well I’m having conversations, that often start in the forums, I’m not expecting anything, not even a message back, your expectations of yourself should be very high, you should be top of the food chain entertaining but don’t expect anything back, if and when people message me back it makes my day better but not getting anything at all does not make it worse, chin up

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Think this sounds like the same Barry who can't say anything anymore as, you know, PC's gone mad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP no offence but either you're making these threads to get daily asspats or you really are just fucking exhausting

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Really ? The last time I used tinder was last year,and honestly I had more meets with tinder than with fab...not sure age is the problem ..."

You're in really good shape and from pics can tell you're really good looking. That might be helping right enough. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op has anyone ever told you you kinda look like Taron Egerton? Idk I kinda see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Think this sounds like the same Barry who can't say anything anymore as, you know, PC's gone mad..."

Barry curses feminists too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Think this sounds like the same Barry who can't say anything anymore as, you know, PC's gone mad...

Barry curses feminists too"

He thinks Feminists cursed him first. Because they’re witches right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP no offence but either you're making these threads to get daily asspats or you really are just fucking exhausting

My impression is that it’s the latter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Think this sounds like the same Barry who can't say anything anymore as, you know, PC's gone mad...

Barry curses feminists too

He thinks Feminists cursed him first. Because they’re witches right? "

Oh yes

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"OP no offence but either you're making these threads to get daily asspats or you really are just fucking exhausting

My impression is that it’s the latter "

How come?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Light-hearted joke no need to cry Cinderella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happened to actually going out and talking to people?

Me too movement

What does this even mean

Women standing up against sexual harassment means menz can't get booty

#hottake

Amirite though? I see men on here use this excuse all the time. "I don't dare touch a woman now". Ok, Barry.

Light-hearted joke no need to cry Cinderella "

Alright Barry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go with Bumble. Women message first if they are interested, that way you know for sure. "

This might be better then OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tony said, ‘Run it back!’

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