FabSwingers.com forum: Don’t want the drama

By *ayHaych OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I see a lot of profiles which say they won’t meet married/attached people playing away as they don’t want the drama. Do people have stories of such drama?

Personally I don’t get why a partner would be angry at the outside party when it takes two to tango. The arguments would be at home in my mind, but I’m sure that’s not always the case?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Because people aren't always rational especially when being cheated on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We try to avoid meeting married people of their partners don't know but have read of 'drama' occuring. However we've heard way more frequently of married couples creating drama when one realises that swinging isn't quite what they imagined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We try to avoid meeting married people of their partners don't know but have read of 'drama' occuring. However we've heard way more frequently of married couples creating drama when one realises that swinging isn't quite what they imagined "

Can vouch for this had very bad experience years ago because a couple weren’t honest with each other and took it out on me

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By *ayHaych OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

"Because people aren't always rational especially when being cheated on."

Yes absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot of profiles which say they won’t meet married/attached people playing away as they don’t want the drama. Do people have stories of such drama?

Personally I don’t get why a partner would be angry at the outside party when it takes two to tango. The arguments would be at home in my mind, but I’m sure that’s not always the case?"

I thought the other person always gets the blame.

Stupid really as they should be blaming their own partner for cheating.

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By *ayHaych OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

"I see a lot of profiles which say they won’t meet married/attached people playing away as they don’t want the drama. Do people have stories of such drama?

Personally I don’t get why a partner would be angry at the outside party when it takes two to tango. The arguments would be at home in my mind, but I’m sure that’s not always the case?

I thought the other person always gets the blame.

Stupid really as they should be blaming their own partner for cheating. "

I have always had this view too

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By *ayHaych OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Can vouch for this had very bad experience years ago because a couple weren’t honest with each other and took it out on me "

I have heard this can get messy :/

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Because it’s easier to believe that there partner was led astray and coerced in to cheering rather than they went and did it if there own free will making it easier to blame the other person and take out there heartbreak on them.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Cheating not cheering

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

When I was on a different site, I got chatting to a bloke who gave me his number. I only sent a few messages to him and never met him, but one morning I got a very aggressive message from a woman who asked why I was messaging her husband.

He’d told me he was single and a mature student and living in shared accommodation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot of profiles which say they won’t meet married/attached people playing away as they don’t want the drama. Do people have stories of such drama?

Personally I don’t get why a partner would be angry at the outside party when it takes two to tango. The arguments would be at home in my mind, but I’m sure that’s not always the case?"

Unfortunately it still seems to be the case that the single person gets the drama from the cheated on spouse. Personally I think it's the person doing the cheating that deserves the drama

Missy x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I see a lot of profiles which say they won’t meet married/attached people playing away as they don’t want the drama. Do people have stories of such drama?

Personally I don’t get why a partner would be angry at the outside party when it takes two to tango. The arguments would be at home in my mind, but I’m sure that’s not always the case?

I thought the other person always gets the blame.

Stupid really as they should be blaming their own partner for cheating. "

I've heard a lot of people referring to their husband or wife as having been 'stolen' as if they were helpless victims. It helps them to feel less abandoned I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had a few cases of drama with that particular subject

There was this couple north of me basically but I didn't know that they were so anyway halfway through you know what I hear screaming as the husband opens the door charges at me and chases me.

Also watched as a woman who had slept with a cheater was attacked by his gf and the gf of the other guy who had cheated with her.

Basically drama doesn't always affect just the person cheating and they can be very angry at the outside party.

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