FabSwingers.com forum: Living at home

By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Whoelse still lives at home and is not ashamed to say it?

I for one still live at home with my mum, dad and brother.

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By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

To be honest, I'm better off where I am because even if I'm living at home, I doesn't mean I don't have my independence.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

doesnt everyone live at home?

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I love my parents to bits but I could never live with them again they drive me bonkers ha ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would drive me nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ find it pretty sad tbh . Mind I still know people in their 50s that could never get on property ladder

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I left at 18 and never went back

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I love my parents to bits but I could never live with them again they drive me bonkers ha ha ha

I second that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left at 18 and never went back"

19 here

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I left at 18 and never went back"

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was working away alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No moved out at 18 thanks to her maj, worked my arse off, bought a house at 23.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.

If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.

Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live in a pineapple under the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not? "

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age "

Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

I moved out at 18 and bought my own house at 24. My two 21 year old sons are desperate to move out but I can’t see it happening any time soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age

Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age

Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback "

. I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.

Our daughter was driving me somewhere quite early in the morning last week, I thanked her and she told me it was paying me back in some small way for all the times I'd got out of bed in the early hours to pick her up from some God forsaken location

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By *enuine Welsh GentMan
over a year ago

Newport

I do, am saving for a property of my own. Doesn't help the love life though

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age

Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback

. I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.

Sounds like you’ve brought her up well and she thankful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?

I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum

And dad at that age

Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback

. I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.

I don’t have kids and only family I have I see maybe once To twice a year

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Me and my kids live with my mum, I sold up and moved in with her in 2015 due to her ongoing health issues.

Apart from wishing I’d rented out my property rather than sell it, I have no regrets.

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By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.

If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.

Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues."

I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my kids live with my mum, I sold up and moved in with her in 2015 due to her ongoing health issues.

Apart from wishing I’d rented out my property rather than sell it, I have no regrets. "

Fair play health issues and looking after parents is different . I’ve never married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.

I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.

I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.

Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I’d like to live back at home just to be looked after for a while lol. Adulting is hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my son still lives at home and he is 24.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.

If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.

Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues.

I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence."

My son has autism and he will never leave home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.

If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.

Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues.

I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence.

My son has autism and he will never leave home. "

Feel for you all FairPlay must be tough

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By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where"

I agree. What saddens me is that in some parts of society, it is frowned upon if some people are still living at home. It's like they think something is wrong with the person if they don't have their own place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where"

I’m south asian and I’ll reiterate, until one leaves home and have your own house and in time perhaps your family, one always remain a mummy’s boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where

In fairness it’s usually lack of money or. Any cut the apron strings

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where

People are judgemental and will jump to conclusions without finding out individual circumstances. We all do it to a certain extent.

Don't apologise for or excuse the fact that you live at home.

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By *unandgamegeek OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where

In fairness it’s usually lack of money or. Any cut the apron strings "

That's true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from

Each other’s houses

It’s like that can’t cope without each other

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I live at mums as her carer...I need to escape occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live at mums as her carer...I need to escape occasionally

Like we admit health reasons are justified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from

Each other’s houses

It’s like that can’t cope without each other "

That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"doesnt everyone live at home?"

Homeless people don't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from

Each other’s houses

It’s like that can’t cope without each other

That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents?"

Area is fine but see lads and girls that are back at mums for tea every night and same with lads

Mum doing washing for them or hoovering seeing them every day etc not natural . I’m 8 hours drive away from my mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from

Each other’s houses

It’s like that can’t cope without each other

That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents?

Area is fine but see lads and girls that are back at mums for tea every night and same with lads

Mum doing washing for them or hoovering seeing them every day etc not natural . I’m 8 hours drive away from my mum "

Seems you’re envious mate. It’s not anyone business.

All I said in this thread was that : I don’t feel people are independent until they have their own place. There is a level of immaturity, if a person relies on living with mum and dad, if it’s through choice. People have good reason to stay home, and some have shared their story. Some don’t care, and j say good for them.

I don’t begrudge people who do stay home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from

Each other’s houses

It’s like that can’t cope without each other "

My boys are polar opposite, eldest bought the house that backs onto mine because he wanted to be close, my youngest moved to Scotland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And fwiw both my boys know my house is their house and it will always be 'home' no matter their age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.

I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.

Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property "

But it's people like you who have taken that opportunity away from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.

I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.

Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property

But it's people like you who have taken that opportunity away from them. "

If you want to blame anyone it’s successive governments and the Bank of England to blame. No point blaming the smarty pants taking advantage of the situation.

It’s like saying I don’t like bill gates because he had a computer before anyone else lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I moved out my parents house at 19 and bought my own place at 25. Never looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left at 17 and couldn't imagine having having to share my space with my parents again.

My children are welcome to stay until they're ready to leave. I wasn't ready and had to flee due to domestic abuse, so that time was a bit traumatic. Also, one of my children is autistic and I don't think he'll be ready until well into his 20's, possibly longer. Bright as a button but struggles with organising and executive function.

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