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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Entirely your personal choice.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay "

The person who knows best in this situation is you.

It sounds like you went to tell her. But also sounds like you are happy with the current situation, her knowing but not confronting it.

What makes her say that she thinks you are gay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay "

Should you be open and honest with your wife? Erm, yes

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay "
I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with ."

This

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with ."

Abso fucking lutely

Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Be honest with her and if you can’t, let her be loved by someone else who can be.

Life is too short for both of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She already knows, so just tell her the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were my husband, I’d be more worried for my health as you appear to bareback. That would be my initial concern, are you protecting your wife’s health?

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with ."

Because he fears that he might lose the person he loves?

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay

The person who knows best in this situation is you.

It sounds like you went to tell her. But also sounds like you are happy with the current situation, her knowing but not confronting it.

What makes her say that she thinks you are gay? "

.. I was hoping for a response in the forum rather than a PM response …

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

Because he fears that he might lose the person he loves? "
It’s selfish tho surely his wife deserves all the facts so she can make her own mind up.I’m sorry but you can’t love someone that much if your willing to lie and cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

Because he fears that he might lose the person he loves? "

He doesn’t fear it that much if he’s cheating on her repeatedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

Because he fears that he might lose the person he loves?

He doesn’t fear it that much if he’s cheating on her repeatedly "

This

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

Because he fears that he might lose the person he loves?

He doesn’t fear it that much if he’s cheating on her repeatedly "

True. But (I’m surmising here), maybe he thinks he can continue as is … don’t confront it openly with his wife, continue to have sex with men, and hope that it never comes to a head with his wife and has to be discussed openly in case she says fuck it, I’m off.

Ie, don’t rock the boat and hope for the best

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By *nn_JamesCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire/ South Bucks Borders


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with ."

100% this...

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with .

100% this..."

I’m guessing that he realises that his extra-marital behaviour could jeopardise his marriage, and hopes to continue it, undetected. That’s why he doesn’t want to discuss it, wants to keep spinning along hoping for the best.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

Doesn’t really help that apart from PM’ing me, OP seems to have gone into hiding in this topic.

May not have liked the nature of the responses he was getting.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I think my wife knows about my extra sexual activities she keeps saying that I am gay and asked me last night if anything was to happen to her would I turn gay and I said yes she didn't even blink .

Should I come out and say that I am bi /gay I can’t understand why fully grown adults can’t have a conversation with the person they claim to love and want to spend the rest of their life with ."

I always struggle with this too

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