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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover

Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone? "

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You may find this thread useful

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1313640

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

Fab rules state no reply means not interested!

Especially don’t then send another message chasing the first one that was deleted

Pix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type "

What's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think it's rude for someone to double message so there's that.

No response is a response, it means that they aren't interested, I might at times have planned to get back someone later on, but then they double message at which point is normally a blocking

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

The FAQs answer this... No response is an acceptable response. You can search the forums for the many reasons why people don't reply when they are not interested (infact on my green arrow you'll see I commented on a thread yesterday about it)

Fab even gives you a big "stop this person hasn't replied to the last message you sent" warning if you're messaging someone who hasn't replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type "

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"You may find this thread useful

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1313640"

I appreciate it thanks

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection "

Yeah I would actually

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester


"The FAQs answer this... No response is an acceptable response. You can search the forums for the many reasons why people don't reply when they are not interested (infact on my green arrow you'll see I commented on a thread yesterday about it)

Fab even gives you a big "stop this person hasn't replied to the last message you sent" warning if you're messaging someone who hasn't replied. "

Oh yes I forgot about that message….

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

After reading so many of these yesterday I went back to responding politely no thank you and pointing out a few things that made us incompatible to meet. Rather than a polite ‘thanks for the reply’ I had each one tell me that my reasons were wrong and that I shouldn’t have an age limit/distance limit/preference to who I meet so I shall go back to deleting those I have no interest in, I don’t have time daily to reply no thank you and less time to keep attempting to hold my ground with my preference. If people read the profile they were contacting there would be a lot less disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

Yeah I would actually "

Are you currently unemployed then?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

Yeah I would actually "

Then you would ask why and,so it carries on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy being difficult it usually means when the pelvises smash together it was worth the wait

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Is this really the third time this has been posted this afternoon?

Wow.

So yeah. People don't read messages, people don't read other posts.

Yay

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"After reading so many of these yesterday I went back to responding politely no thank you and pointing out a few things that made us incompatible to meet. Rather than a polite ‘thanks for the reply’ I had each one tell me that my reasons were wrong and that I shouldn’t have an age limit/distance limit/preference to who I meet so I shall go back to deleting those I have no interest in, I don’t have time daily to reply no thank you and less time to keep attempting to hold my ground with my preference. If people read the profile they were contacting there would be a lot less disappointment "

Okay, yeah that seems fair i mean I’m not for one to complain back and say hang on you are wrong, everyone is entitled to preferences.

I can see the frustration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather not go from the most beautiful person on the side

To a “4 letter bad word” that no one would want to shag just because I sed not my type

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

Yeah I would actually

Are you currently unemployed then? "

Nope full time actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

You just need to get used to it, happens on here a lot nothing you can do about it pointless complaining, you're a guy and it's probably one in 100 to a woman of Couple, so as others have said we're not going to reply to every message they get , yes you may feel rejected because They havent answered pointless sending a second message, just get on with it and take it on the chin and as others have said as well take it is it not interested

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

Yeah I would actually

Then you would ask why and,so it carries on"

See I guess some people are different and would accept and appreciate a negative message at least it’s there saying sorry not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?"

Yes, I put them in the bin.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else....."

I mean harsh but I guess it’s kinda true, manners have died very fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

Yes, I put them in the bin."

Exactly = deleted

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Is this really the third time this has been posted this afternoon?

Wow.

So yeah. People don't read messages, people don't read other posts.

Yay"

Cheers for your input

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?"

If it’s a new pizza leaflet that’s got something new about it it definitely gets a read and hell yeah I’ll probably order something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather not go from the most beautiful person on the side

To a “4 letter bad word” that no one would want to shag just because I sed not my type "

Lol op you complaining about penny not reaping to you and you just skiped me and reply to everyone else

Hypocrite much pot kettle black on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if a message has been well thought out then I feel a response is owed

Sometimes it is the fear of abuse that holds me back from responding. Some don't accept that a 'no thanks' is a no, because they either want to know why, or they become abusive.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t reply if I’m not interested. I just delete and block. I’ve always done it that way and saves any potential abuse as well as the fact I don’t have time to reply to them all. I do say this on my profile though.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I would rather not go from the most beautiful person on the side

To a “4 letter bad word” that no one would want to shag just because I sed not my type "

Said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather not go from the most beautiful person on the side

To a “4 letter bad word” that no one would want to shag just because I sed not my type

Said "

Don’t bother now you shown us exactly the same maentalty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else.....

I mean harsh but I guess it’s kinda true, manners have died very fast "

Maybe it was'nt that your not there type. Could be they reconised you. Or something else. Either way its not rude or bad manners to not reply, if you messaged a load of women on instagram or something similar would you expect them to respond to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This same exact thread comes up every week.

I agree that I would like a response back. It’s nice and it’s helpful. But if I think too much about it as I have in the past, it takes you down an ugly path of entitlement and eventually being a creep!

If I was a girl and got 250 messages a day, and spent 10 seconds clicking on a message and saying “sorry, I’m not interested” and then going back, that’s 2500 seconds (or nearly 40 minutes) EVERY SINGLE DAY. And many girls get lots more than 250 messages. It’s just not feasible.

Instead do what I’ve found helpful: delete your messages from your sent folder when you’ve sent one. If you get a reply, that’s delightfully pleasant. If not, I don’t feel like I’m being rejected. Nothing to lose. This same exact thread comes up every week.

I agree that I would like a response back. It’s nice and it’s helpful. But if I think too much about it as I have in the past, it takes you down an ugly path of entitlement and eventually being a creep!

If I was a girl and got 250 messages a day, and spent 10 seconds clicking on a message and saying “sorry, I’m not interested” and then going back, that’s 2500 seconds (or nearly 40 minutes) EVERY SINGLE DAY. And many girls get lots more than 250 messages. It’s just not feasible.

Instead do what I’ve found helpful: delete your messages from your sent folder when you’ve sent one. If you get a reply, that’s delightfully pleasant. If not, I don’t feel like I’m being rejected. Nothing to lose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sent twice, sorry!

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else.....

I mean harsh but I guess it’s kinda true, manners have died very fast

Maybe it was'nt that your not there type. Could be they reconised you. Or something else. Either way its not rude or bad manners to not reply, if you messaged a load of women on instagram or something similar would you expect them to respond to you? "

Putting it like this makes sense I see the point thread can get dropped now I just felt like it was just a bit muggy but I didn’t realise there were so many people that get abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry op not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"That sent twice, sorry!"

No dramas bro, yeah I totally get it, I just never looked at it from the other side

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Sorry op not my type"

No problem have a wonderful day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

Well you clearly do mind it otherwise you wouldn’t make a thread about it…

Why difference does it make if someone replies no or deletes your message - It’s the same outcome.

Most people can’t take rejection so it’s easier for someone to just delete your message, than to receive why’s, but I’m… and potential abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That sent twice, sorry!"

I actually read it twice and feel the need to reply.

I agree, well made point and also I seem to think I saw you write something similar previously

I agree, well made point and also I seem to think I saw you write something similar previously

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread "

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles "

But replying allows the op to message again, even if they change their filters due to age or what they are seeking.

No reply is the best option. It's the forum standard

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

Not this again zzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles "

It takes too long to write to everyone, they then write back trying to convince you otherwise or give abuse.

No reply means no thanks.

It’s not difficult to understand

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners."

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles "

You asked the question when you could have searched the eleventy billion other threads on the same subject, hence you started the circles

I regularly don't respond, no it's not hard but no response is a pretty clear statement.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles

It takes too long to write to everyone, they then write back trying to convince you otherwise or give abuse.

No reply means no thanks.

It’s not difficult to understand "

Yeah that’s fine, I was just saying that not realising that a previous message was deleted I then re introduced myself as I didn’t think I had messaged before resulted in me receiving abuse, does that make it fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself "

But deleting the message is saying “not interested” and why would you “result to abuse towards yourself” ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself "

Their lack of response to your first message has already told you they aren’t interested.

They had no need or obligation to message you telling you this, that’s why it’s in the site t’s and c’s.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself "

"Let it go, let it go" song from Frozen

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"I would rather not go from the most beautiful person on the side

To a “4 letter bad word” that no one would want to shag just because I sed not my type

Lol op you complaining about penny not reaping to you and you just skiped me and reply to everyone else

Hypocrite much pot kettle black on that one "

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

Their lack of response to your first message has already told you they aren’t interested.

They had no need or obligation to message you telling you this, that’s why it’s in the site t’s and c’s.

"

It was just a simple misunderstanding that could have been avoided that’s all I was trying to say

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles

It takes too long to write to everyone, they then write back trying to convince you otherwise or give abuse.

No reply means no thanks.

It’s not difficult to understand

Yeah that’s fine, I was just saying that not realising that a previous message was deleted I then re introduced myself as I didn’t think I had messaged before resulted in me receiving abuse, does that make it fair "

It tells you if you have messaged them before. Both on their page and as you attempt to message them.

If you can't take two hints then feel free to leave notes about people who you have messaged. It's not rocket science

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

"Let it go, let it go" song from Frozen "

Tune but yeah lots of ice queens around, I didn’t realise there were forums before maybe I should have searched, I’m not trying to be a a hole I was just simply questioning if it was avoidable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated. "

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men"

Maybe just the ones complaining then...

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men

Maybe just the ones complaining then..."

Just a guy trying to understand that’s all, but feel free to keep educating me

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

"Let it go, let it go" song from Frozen

Tune but yeah lots of ice queens around, I didn’t realise there were forums before maybe I should have searched, I’m not trying to be a a hole I was just simply questioning if it was avoidable "

Thank you. I rather like being a queen. Off with your head......

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I try to message everyone back. It doesn't take me long to type no thank you. I don't usually allow my messages to build up to an unmanageable amount as I don't like having hundreds of unread messages in my inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

"Let it go, let it go" song from Frozen

Tune but yeah lots of ice queens around, I didn’t realise there were forums before maybe I should have searched, I’m not trying to be a a hole I was just simply questioning if it was avoidable "

You posted 19 weeks ago on a thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles "

Someones infested??

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

"Let it go, let it go" song from Frozen

Tune but yeah lots of ice queens around, I didn’t realise there were forums before maybe I should have searched, I’m not trying to be a a hole I was just simply questioning if it was avoidable

Thank you. I rather like being a queen. Off with your head......"

the queen of hearts I see

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Personally, I think it's lazy. As I'm quite lazy myself I use my filters so I don't get bogged down replying to message after message.

I have zero unread messages at the moment and it makes me happy

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No response means not interested,no one owes you a response.

Here endeth the thread

I agree no one is entitled to anything, I was just saying it’s not hard to say not infested but let’s not go round in circles

Someones infested?? "

Interested*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else....."

I had to bulk delete 960 messages the other day, because I just don’t have the time or the inclination to answer them.

My time is mine to use as I see fit, not to be a ‘good girl’ and behave as men think I should.

It’s very entitled to think otherwise

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else.....

I had to bulk delete 960 messages the other day, because I just don’t have the time or the inclination to answer them.

My time is mine to use as I see fit, not to be a ‘good girl’ and behave as men think I should.

It’s very entitled to think otherwise "

Good job I’m not telling you have to spend your time then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men

Maybe just the ones complaining then...

Just a guy trying to understand that’s all, but feel free to keep educating me "

It's not hard.

No interest, no reply.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the tune of fresh prince

Sing….

Now, this is a story all about how

life on fab-can make a man feel down

And I'd like to take a minute

Just sit right there

I'll tell you how many people tell us life ain’t fair!!!

At best the ‘forumites’ will hear this every day

“Why won’t people meet me?, I’ve tried every way! “

Send dicks out, tits out, blowjob on a stool.

Deleted ignore feeling like a fool

Then a couple of messages from a woman wants wood!

Wasted your time, being blocked ain’t good

You’re ego is floored and you feel despair

You say, I’m posting in the forum because fab ain’t fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men

Maybe just the ones complaining then...

Just a guy trying to understand that’s all, but feel free to keep educating me

It's not hard.

No interest, no reply.

Simples.

"

You’re right. It is simple. When I’m not hard I have no interest to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because half the people on here there mothers didn't teach them manners .......and think they are above an better than anyone else.....

I had to bulk delete 960 messages the other day, because I just don’t have the time or the inclination to answer them.

My time is mine to use as I see fit, not to be a ‘good girl’ and behave as men think I should.

It’s very entitled to think otherwise

Good job I’m not telling you have to spend your time then "

I was actually responding to someone else, but you are really.

You’re complaining we don’t reply, replying is on my time.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Life ain't fair. If all people have got to worry about is people deleting messages unread on fab, they've got off light I would say.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Is it hard for guys not to be so full of entitlement and think every woman on here is gagging for it?

All the men that think it's rude or bad manners to not reply, maybes just go have a wank. You're clearly a bit sexually frustrated.

Think that’s probably a accurate statement for most men but not all men

Maybe just the ones complaining then...

Just a guy trying to understand that’s all, but feel free to keep educating me

It's not hard.

No interest, no reply.

Simples.

"

It will always be a matter of opinion, everyone is free to choose who they talk to, reply to, meet, block ect

It was just a miss understanding where I felt like it was a little rude and the easier option was just to say sorry not interested, people will think that oh I’m a guy I expect that but I don’t

It’s just a simple miss understanding

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"To the tune of fresh prince

Sing….

Now, this is a story all about how

life on fab-can make a man feel down

And I'd like to take a minute

Just sit right there

I'll tell you how many people tell us life ain’t fair!!!

At best the ‘forumites’ will hear this every day

“Why won’t people meet me?, I’ve tried every way! “

Send dicks out, tits out, blowjob on a stool.

Deleted ignore feeling like a fool

Then a couple of messages from a woman wants wood!

Wasted your time, being blocked ain’t good

You’re ego is floored and you feel despair

You say, I’m posting in the forum because fab ain’t fair!

"

Pretty incredible that

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"To the tune of fresh prince

Sing….

Now, this is a story all about how

life on fab-can make a man feel down

And I'd like to take a minute

Just sit right there

I'll tell you how many people tell us life ain’t fair!!!

At best the ‘forumites’ will hear this every day

“Why won’t people meet me?, I’ve tried every way! “

Send dicks out, tits out, blowjob on a stool.

Deleted ignore feeling like a fool

Then a couple of messages from a woman wants wood!

Wasted your time, being blocked ain’t good

You’re ego is floored and you feel despair

You say, I’m posting in the forum because fab ain’t fair!

"

Pretty incredible that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone? "

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

I can relate! But it’s tough when women get like a million messages. I do agree thought I appreciate it soo much when somebody just says they’re not interest up front and honestly !

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day "

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day "

I get like 5 a day.

Sssshhhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

I get like 5 a day.

Sssshhhh. "

snap

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted

I can relate! But it’s tough when women get like a million messages. I do agree thought I appreciate it soo much when somebody just says they’re not interest up front and honestly ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day "

Yes, they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

I get like 5 a day.

Sssshhhh. snap "

We should maybe just stop sending them to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day "

If I tick the Looking for men box I can get 50 messages a day.

*With my shite profile!!*

Imagine how many messages women with amazing pics get.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

I get like 5 a day.

Sssshhhh. snap

We should maybe just stop sending them to each other. "

what will be will be

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover

I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people "

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread! "

Typical man, never finishes the job.

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By *urious-Switch81Man
over a year ago

Heanor


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone? "

I'd love 100 messages a day

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread! "

My mistake I’ll do that now

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I'd love 100 messages a day"

Sorry mate not interested

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread! "

Who’s not got a message say hello

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

Their lack of response to your first message has already told you they aren’t interested.

They had no need or obligation to message you telling you this, that’s why it’s in the site t’s and c’s.

It was just a simple misunderstanding that could have been avoided that’s all I was trying to say "

.................................

So you've had one arsey response to a message?

Imagine multiplying that x10, x20...everyday and you've some idea why women/couples don't respond to messages from people they're not interested in.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

You missed one of my messages. I'm the ice queen, turned queen of hearts. I will be cry into my tea if I don't get a response lol

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

Their lack of response to your first message has already told you they aren’t interested.

They had no need or obligation to message you telling you this, that’s why it’s in the site t’s and c’s.

It was just a simple misunderstanding that could have been avoided that’s all I was trying to say

.................................

So you've had one arsey response to a message?

Imagine multiplying that x10, x20...everyday and you've some idea why women/couples don't respond to messages from people they're not interested in."

Well there’s been a few, Today was the tipping point of this whole pointless chase of who wants to be a millionaire and well let’s just say I’m a celebrity get me out of here

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?"

Come on Monty, that's one of the most clichéd and unsound analogies on here!

(But I do agree with the overall spirit of the responses on here)

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"You missed one of my messages. I'm the ice queen, turned queen of hearts. I will be cry into my tea if I don't get a response lol"

My apologies, what you up to later fancy some flamingo croquet?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Blimey.It's like groundhog day on the forums. To all those who I've ever not responded to or just deleted messages, it is perfectly acceptable to do that on fab. Read the FAQs. It does not mean I have no manners.

I’m not saying it’s not acceptable I’m just saying that if said person would have just said not interested in the first place or actually put preferences on their profile then me messaging them after I was unaware the previous message was deleted wouldn’t have resulted in abuse towards myself

Their lack of response to your first message has already told you they aren’t interested.

They had no need or obligation to message you telling you this, that’s why it’s in the site t’s and c’s.

It was just a simple misunderstanding that could have been avoided that’s all I was trying to say

.................................

So you've had one arsey response to a message?

Imagine multiplying that x10, x20...everyday and you've some idea why women/couples don't respond to messages from people they're not interested in.

Well there’s been a few, Today was the tipping point of this whole pointless chase of who wants to be a millionaire and well let’s just say I’m a celebrity get me out of here "

................................

If it's any consolation many of us feel the same way.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

My mistake I’ll do that now "

But ignore the one that points out the problem stems from yourself ignoring the fact you knew you had messaged them once already but ignored it anyway?

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The problem is solved if the unwanted message is deleted. Then the sender knows it is of no interest and the inbox is 1 message smaller.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day "

They do actually

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

They do actually "

Humble brag there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

Come on Monty, that's one of the most clichéd and unsound analogies on here!

(But I do agree with the overall spirit of the responses on here) "

Why is it?

It’s unwanted mail, you didn’t ask for it. You don’t phone them up and thank them for the menu they put through the door - same goes for a random message… why reply to those you aren’t interested in…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

They do actually "

I bet you do mind

Meh, kinda failed with 'do ya' really face 1st time... Anyhoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

They do actually

Humble brag there "

I’ve not had that many but I do know others that have

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.

Christ this again?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

When in Rome, do as...

This is Fab Rome. Accept the terms here and live with it, if you can.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

Come on Monty, that's one of the most clichéd and unsound analogies on here!

(But I do agree with the overall spirit of the responses on here)

Why is it?

It’s unwanted mail, you didn’t ask for it. You don’t phone them up and thank them for the menu they put through the door - same goes for a random message… why reply to those you aren’t interested in…"

°

The thread is about not getting responses. It's not about unsolicited messages. There's a difference.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

If you are not interested just delete the message then you will have 1 less inbox message. Simples. No effort.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

OP I'd not delete your message cos I'd fancy you and still like to browse by but don't have time to meet/fuck everyone, not the dozens of attractive strangers on here. Things are not as clear-cut as "fuck list" and "bin".

Apologies, I didn't finish reading the thread before posting (a first!).

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"OP I'd not delete your message cos I'd fancy you and still like to browse by but don't have time to meet/fuck everyone, not the dozens of attractive strangers on here. Things are not as clear-cut as "fuck list" and "bin".

Apologies, I didn't finish reading the thread before posting (a first!)."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules."

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service "

You’re very welcome young man.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service

You’re very welcome young man."

Again thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the tune of fresh prince

Sing….

Now, this is a story all about how

life on fab-can make a man feel down

And I'd like to take a minute

Just sit right there

I'll tell you how many people tell us life ain’t fair!!!

At best the ‘forumites’ will hear this every day

“Why won’t people meet me?, I’ve tried every way! “

Send dicks out, tits out, blowjob on a stool.

Deleted ignore feeling like a fool

Then a couple of messages from a woman wants wood!

Wasted your time, being blocked ain’t good

You’re ego is floored and you feel despair

You say, I’m posting in the forum because fab ain’t fair!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello "

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

So many ‘entitled’ OPs on here

No reply? Move on. Don’t pollute the forums with whiny threads about lack of clunge being offered to you.

That’s the worst thing you can do. I’m pretty certain you’ve been blocked by several more women since posting this thread, same as the hundreds of previous moaners. Get over it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service "

They'll still wank over your pics though, so, best block them

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

On here ‘over a year’ but not a single veri?

Not even a cam? Nor a photo veri from admin?

That’s a red flag for most people.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

"

What’s up?

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service

They'll still wank over your pics though, so, best block them "

Noted thanks for the tip (joke)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service

They'll still wank over your pics though, so, best block them

Noted thanks for the tip (joke) "

That’s what she said

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"No reply is a no thanks. Dems da rules.

Believe that’s been established but thank you for your service

They'll still wank over your pics though, so, best block them

Noted thanks for the tip (joke)

That’s what she said "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

Come on Monty, that's one of the most clichéd and unsound analogies on here!

(But I do agree with the overall spirit of the responses on here)

Why is it?

It’s unwanted mail, you didn’t ask for it. You don’t phone them up and thank them for the menu they put through the door - same goes for a random message… why reply to those you aren’t interested in…

°

The thread is about not getting responses. It's not about unsolicited messages. There's a difference."

I haven’t mentioned the word “unsolicited” I called leaflets through your door unwanted. Two different words with different meanings. That’s the difference

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type "

No you wouldn't though.. all day every day. Sending 100 no thank yous and most of those people sending yet another message anyway, half of them being abusive. You'd soon stop

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

No you wouldn't though.. all day every day. Sending 100 no thank yous and most of those people sending yet another message anyway, half of them being abusive. You'd soon stop"

Well I can’t only say what I would do, I can’t speak for everyone as everyone isn’t the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

No you wouldn't though.. all day every day. Sending 100 no thank yous and most of those people sending yet another message anyway, half of them being abusive. You'd soon stop"

Exactly. It’s just not possible.

I’ve been on here over three years, imagine how much time that would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember every message you send wasn’t asked for. No one owes you anything. If you want to meet people, go to a club or a local social. Entitlement is really unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I can be

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If you're sending unsolicited messages, don't expect anything in return.

I don't call up there various takeaway menus I receive through the door to say, "no thanks, I won't be ordering tonight".

Expect nothing, and then if you do get a reply it's a bonus.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"If you're sending unsolicited messages, don't expect anything in return.

I don't call up there various takeaway menus I receive through the door to say, "no thanks, I won't be ordering tonight".

Expect nothing, and then if you do get a reply it's a bonus. "

How do you know who doesn't want you to message them?

If they fancy you and want your dick is it still an unsolicited message?

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

No you wouldn't though.. all day every day. Sending 100 no thank yous and most of those people sending yet another message anyway, half of them being abusive. You'd soon stop

Exactly. It’s just not possible.

I’ve been on here over three years, imagine how much time that would be"

I've been here ten years. I tried this theory once. For a day. Well maybe half a day. I had as many unread at the end as I did at the beginning. I was angry.

What do you do when the Mormons knock on the door? Do you owe them a conversation in your own time at your own front door? NO!

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"If you're sending unsolicited messages, don't expect anything in return.

I don't call up there various takeaway menus I receive through the door to say, "no thanks, I won't be ordering tonight".

Expect nothing, and then if you do get a reply it's a bonus.

How do you know who doesn't want you to message them?

If they fancy you and want your dick is it still an unsolicited message?"

Now this is a good question and it’s not from a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up? "

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

UK


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection "

Thought that said an inbox full of erections at first

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up?

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

"

Try a message and I’ll tell you if I’m interested or not

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on. "

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

You’d rather be stood up?

That’s weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now "

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'...

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'... "

Me good looking behave I’m below average at best, I just come here for the social aspect don’t intend to find a wife or that ultimate shag that everyone seems to think is gonna happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'...

Me good looking behave I’m below average at best, I just come here for the social aspect don’t intend to find a wife or that ultimate shag that everyone seems to think is gonna happen "

Cool! So why ya bitchin then?

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

OP if everytime you replied with a no thanks it would lead to why not / aggression / name calling / threats or a further message to say thanks for replying.... would you?

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'...

Me good looking behave I’m below average at best, I just come here for the social aspect don’t intend to find a wife or that ultimate shag that everyone seems to think is gonna happen

Cool! So why ya bitchin then? "

I’ve just given up I’ve rolled over and played puppy dog as clearly I’m wrong for thinking the way I did so hopefully we can all move on and enjoy the rest of the night or maybe another forum I start maybe on something daft that’s been talked about more like what’s best MMF or FFM obviously that’s a matter of personal choice

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"OP if everytime you replied with a no thanks it would lead to why not / aggression / name calling / threats or a further message to say thanks for replying.... would you? "

I mean I can’t speak for all men but I know that I would just accept it I would prefer to be told to piss off over blank out ignored but I understand that people do what they do to feel safer or the less hassle route, there are some incredible looking people on here that I could only wish to be blessed with their presence and I don’t blame people for trying but none should get abused either end of the spectrum

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'...

Me good looking behave I’m below average at best, I just come here for the social aspect don’t intend to find a wife or that ultimate shag that everyone seems to think is gonna happen

Cool! So why ya bitchin then?

I’ve just given up I’ve rolled over and played puppy dog as clearly I’m wrong for thinking the way I did so hopefully we can all move on and enjoy the rest of the night or maybe another forum I start maybe on something daft that’s been talked about more like what’s best MMF or FFM obviously that’s a matter of personal choice "

Your thoughts and feelings are no less valid than anyone else's.

Women have the "right" to do what they want on here as they are the sought after commodity.

Doesn't mean you have to agree with it.

They'd be pissed off if they didn't get any messages and had to send their own.

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"It’s a sausage fest on here.

Women will get hounded on the daily and have no obligation to reply and will undoubtedly have better things to do than reply to shit one liners off thirsty guys.

Take the hint - being ignored is as a “no, thanks” and move on.

I appreciate it think the bukkake fest for no reply means not interested has all be taken care of now

Cool.. So what are you expecting then? Charity date night, or the 3% of women actively looking to meet?...

You're a good looking guy... Everyone seems to join here and get crazy hell bent on securing that elusive 'meet?'.. For what? 'A shag'...

Me good looking behave I’m below average at best, I just come here for the social aspect don’t intend to find a wife or that ultimate shag that everyone seems to think is gonna happen

Cool! So why ya bitchin then?

I’ve just given up I’ve rolled over and played puppy dog as clearly I’m wrong for thinking the way I did so hopefully we can all move on and enjoy the rest of the night or maybe another forum I start maybe on something daft that’s been talked about more like what’s best MMF or FFM obviously that’s a matter of personal choice

Your thoughts and feelings are no less valid than anyone else's.

Women have the "right" to do what they want on here as they are the sought after commodity.

Doesn't mean you have to agree with it.

They'd be pissed off if they didn't get any messages and had to send their own."

You should be a inspiration to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up?

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

Try a message and I’ll tell you if I’m interested or not "

I never asked if you were interested...You did say to message on the thread if there was anyone you hadn't responded too....I posted aaaaaagggggeeeeees ago

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up?

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

Try a message and I’ll tell you if I’m interested or not

I never asked if you were interested...You did say to message on the thread if there was anyone you hadn't responded too....I posted aaaaaagggggeeeeees ago "

Apologies you didn’t get the sarcasm clearly my humour is terrible the same as my opening messages to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up?

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

Try a message and I’ll tell you if I’m interested or not

I never asked if you were interested...You did say to message on the thread if there was anyone you hadn't responded too....I posted aaaaaagggggeeeeees ago

Apologies you didn’t get the sarcasm clearly my humour is terrible the same as my opening messages to people "

You said it

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By *igg25 OP   Man
over a year ago

andover


"I’ve run out of popcorn now thank you for the messages much better than getting 0 messages shall we say same time tomorrow?

Have a great day people

Hang on, you can’t go yet, you haven’t responded to every person/message on the thread!

Who’s not got a message say hello

What’s up?

Oh just feeling ignored and feeling needy

#paymeattentiongoddamnit

Try a message and I’ll tell you if I’m interested or not

I never asked if you were interested...You did say to message on the thread if there was anyone you hadn't responded too....I posted aaaaaagggggeeeeees ago

Apologies you didn’t get the sarcasm clearly my humour is terrible the same as my opening messages to people

You said it "

Well there’s the problem then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we dont reply = moaned at

do reply = moaned at

too many preference on profiles = moaned at

to many not looking for = moaned at

alot of men just moan for no other reason than to moan because when they join the think they are owed something but always forget there problem is not us women or couples there real problem is ...wait for it ...yep ... men they all fail to see the number one reason they are getting nowhen is other men there are zillions of you its like going in town to buy something and the choice is everwhere ...

i think alot of men become entitled after joinging they cant cope with there ego after being refused its one scene where being a woman or couple is stronger than being a man it a scene where we get the choice .... maybe rather than you all running of and telling all your mate about fab and how fantatic it is all that free sex (that most men cant seem to get) ... maybe stall telling your mates the truth ah but then youve nothing to big up have you lol....

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

My number one reason for a delete is that they haven't taken 2 mins to read my profile,so why should I reply to them ?.

I always reply to a well written message where I can see they've read my profile ,even with a no thanks as they're so rare .

Some women (not me ) get hundreds a day and don't have the time to reply individually to each one.

Just delete your sent messages and any reply then is a bonus.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"if we dont reply = moaned at

do reply = moaned at

too many preference on profiles = moaned at

to many not looking for = moaned at

alot of men just moan for no other reason than to moan because when they join the think they are owed something but always forget there problem is not us women or couples there real problem is ...wait for it ...yep ... men they all fail to see the number one reason they are getting nowhen is other men there are zillions of you its like going in town to buy something and the choice is everwhere ...

i think alot of men become entitled after joinging they cant cope with there ego after being refused its one scene where being a woman or couple is stronger than being a man it a scene where we get the choice .... maybe rather than you all running of and telling all your mate about fab and how fantatic it is all that free sex (that most men cant seem to get) ... maybe stall telling your mates the truth ah but then youve nothing to big up have you lol.... "

Simple for us we blocked single guys. After our first week of joining we got so much abuse off single guys we decided it was not worth the grief and changed to only wanting cpls and single women. Finding single women is just as hard for cpls as it is for single guys. So cpls is now our main aim which we have our first cpl meet coming up after taking our time. Our advice to guys is talk to the ladies on here as you would to your mum or sister,i.e. with the same respect and not treat them like a cumdump/piece of meat. And thats the biggest mistake guys are making in treating women like crap.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

So you would rather have an inbox full of rejection

Yeah I would actually "

I assume everyone on the thread has messaged OP with a pro-active rejection, per his stated desire.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

I would try yes not hard to say sorry not my type "

If you got hundreds of messages a day no way would you spend hours each replying to them all.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Single women, and indeed many couples get so many messages that it's impossible for them to reply to everyone.

Here's a tip from an old hand though, if you fancy someone then add them to your hotlist, wait till you see them on line then message them. That way your message goes to the front of their inbox. Even then there's no guarantees because, they could be being bombarded by time wasters, daydreamers, wannabes, and picture collectors from all over the country, and you are still well down the list. Personally though I find that strategy of waiting until they are online has worked well for me over the years.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

You explain it very well _ilverjag spot on.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Thank you, perhaps great minds think alike. I see that we have both been around for a few years, and probably the voices of experience talking here.

Best regards.

Dave

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

If we were looking for a single guy and looked at your profile after being contacted by you we would certainly reject you.

The reason? You clearly state that you have fantasies that you want to tick off, and really your profile shows no personality.

Would we reply? Probably not.

The rules of the site say no reply means no, so you have your reply don't you??

Hope it helps you in the future.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted "

People don't owe you a thing. Just take it on the chin and move along.

C

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

These "not replying" threads come up all the time but the various OPs never seem to reply to all the messages on the thread.

Irony huh?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that come through your door?

If it’s a new pizza leaflet that’s got something new about it it definitely gets a read and hell yeah I’ll probably order something "

But do you reply to the pizza place that doesn't offer anything new or exciting to tell them you won't be ordering from them?

Or do you just bin it?

Because unless you're phoning/emailing them to say no thanks......that's really rude!!!

A

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I don’t read / reply to most messages as simply they have no avatar pic or I can see they are not suitable from the age in header of message

If they can’t be bothered to respect my profile likes why should I waste my precious time responding to an imbecile to tell them the reason they can read on profile .

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Women (assume that's who you message) and couples get many in the course of a day. Just move on op plenty of others around.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"If you're sending unsolicited messages, don't expect anything in return.

I don't call up there various takeaway menus I receive through the door to say, "no thanks, I won't be ordering tonight".

Expect nothing, and then if you do get a reply it's a bonus.

How do you know who doesn't want you to message them?

If they fancy you and want your dick is it still an unsolicited message?"

One would assume they'd reply and then it's a happy day.

The point is don't moan of they don't reply.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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"Okay I don’t mind being rejected, stood up or told to piss off but is it really to hard for some people to say sorry not my type rather than leaving a message or read or just deleting, then having a go because I haven’t seen your message was deleted

People don't owe you a thing. Just take it on the chin and move along.

C"

There seems such a sense of entitlement among many single guys.

'Swingers have sex with others, why won't they have sex with me?'

Thing is, we don't have sex with just anyone, some of us don't even swap at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good difficult people everyone.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"If you got a hundred messages a day would you reply to everyone?

Despite popular opinion on here nobody gets a hundred messages a day

They do actually

Humble brag there

I’ve not had that many but I do know others that have "

Its quality over quantity

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