FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do woman totally ignore your messages or winks, I mean it is not that hard to reply back with a no thank you, if someone walked past you and said hello you would not just walk past and say nothing so why be so rude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i ignore people all the time when they say hello

also do the who the fuck are you face too

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Woman’s getting 100 messages daily . Sorry I cannot even read them all sometime lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they will literally get hundreds a day.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Given how many hundreds of messages many women get and the grief they then often get back if they do try to politely say no then it’s hardly surprising, and I’m sure they don’t appreciate the sense of entitlement that just because someone messaged them they are obligated to respond!

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Who said that

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Why should they?

Do you reply to every man who messages you with offers you've no interest in? Who've totally ignored your profile, are clearly barking up the wrong tree yet feel it their duty to convince you to meet them?

Do you answer ever call from a number you don't know, who chances are are trying to either scam you or get you to buy something you don't want?

Do you always rant and make assumptions without reading the FAQs?

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Meh.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Depends on your definition of rude - people complain if you delete a message and equally complain if you say ‘thanks, but not for me’

Can’t win really - I tend to look at the profile and if it doesn’t grab my attention I just delete the message

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do woman totally ignore your messages or winks, I mean it is not that hard to reply back with a no thank you, if someone walked past you and said hello you would not just walk past and say nothing so why be so rude!!"

Do you reply to all the pizza and double glazing leaflets that comes through your door?

It’s in the FAQs no reply is no thank you.

Do you think people have the time to reply back to every message or even want to and open themselves up to potential abuse from people that can’t take a rejection?

Not rude at all.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Im going to change my profile to ‘card carrying lesbian’ i bet they get all the hoonanny leaving none for the blokes!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because they follow the norms of the site as set out in the FAQ.

I think it's incredibly rude to not understand the culture you find yourself in. And then insisting that women (or anyone) behave as you think fit, given completely different circumstances.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Why do men ignore all the other threads posted daily about this.

It's so rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally they don't just whack their cock out when they first meet you and say hi or have 50 other people saying hi at the same time.

I use to reply but I've always had people try and change my mind so now I just delete.

Unfortunately the few that would take no for an answer are treated the same way.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Anyway as I was saying, I was down the local the other night when a fella walked in with a baby giraffe.

The giraffe drank 8 pints of cider and collapsed.

Fella just got up to leave.

Landlord said you can’t leave that lien there.

He said, it’s not a lion it’s a giraffe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do just get used to it and realise it’s not rude, it’s just how it is. A code so to speak.

It’s a little soul destroying when you put effort into a message and your instantly deleted but you just have to accept it.

I see it that the women and couples on here must get so many messages that it’s borderline impossible to respond anyway. We are the majority and we need to remember that really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im going to change my profile to ‘card carrying lesbian’ i bet they get all the hoonanny leaving none for the blokes!!

I’m sorry to break this to you, but as a lesbian, the only messages I’ve ever got are from men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your definition of rude - people complain if you delete a message and equally complain if you say ‘thanks, but not for me.

This sums it up unfortunately.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Junk mail..

Does anyone reply ..

Nuff said..

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Im going to change my profile to ‘card carrying lesbian’ i bet they get all the hoonanny leaving none for the blokes!!

I’m sorry to break this to you, but as a lesbian, the only messages I’ve ever got are from men "

Well that’s an absolute outrage - im going to be ignored as a bloke and a lesbian - i think i need a biscuit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other other hand, when you get junk mail do you respond to it all with a no thank you?

I think your analogy is a little skewed. I may well smile back and give a nod at someone greeting me in the street but if every time a woman went outside (like logging onto the site) she got several dozen people approach her, many of them suggesting reasons why she would want to fuck them or why they want to fuck her or complimenting her on her tits, how often would you expect her to reply to them?

You aren't owed anything. Stop being so entitled and you might get responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do woman totally ignore your messages or winks, if someone walked past you and said hello you would not just walk past and say nothing so why be so rude!!"

This is why I’m a feminist .

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

The difference is you're not walking past people on the street. This is fab, not real life. Get over it. No one owes anyone anything on here. It's not rude to ignore messages from complete strangers.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Totally agree with you OP.

I think all the women should look at their inbox to see if they have a message from you OP, and then reply to you immediately, with an apology for not having done so sooner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy "

It’s a question???

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

"Im going to change my profile to ‘card carrying lesbian’ i bet they get all the hoonanny leaving none for the blokes!!

I’m sorry to break this to you, but as a lesbian, the only messages I’ve ever got are from men "

Offering to ‘bring you back’?

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Myself I prefer to see a straight read and delete will tell you they are not interested. Although it’s nice to hear back with a no thanks but that opens them to abuse from the odd ego driven idiot.

So as a lady on fab they sometimes are on a loose loose situation so you can understand why no reply.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???"

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

I just think if someone puts effort into a message for it to be totally ignored is just plain rude, that’s why I think the wink is a good thing as people would not have so much wasted time writing pointless messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit for a woman to have hundreds of messages a day must be quite daunting, and I am sure that they don't know we're to start sometimes. We all have a life outside of fab( possibly some don't). Personally I do not get too cross if I don't get a response, life is too short.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

You don't have to write pointless messages. You can just send a wink which might also get ignored.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

But people that aren't interested have to waste their time replying to you?

Double standards no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How will an inbox full of “No thanks” improve your fab experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

Apart from some people have a lot of messages and simply don’t have the time to reply to all. You have no idea how many people can’t take rejection though and resort to abuse or but I… it just saves all the grief and hassle. It’s in the FAQs anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real life v Fab website.

Totally 2 different things mate. Get use to “ignored is a polite (I repeat “polite”) no.

Just ignore them first,

it restores the balance of your zen.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If you get 100 people saying hello as they walked past every day, you might get a bit bored with it. If they start complaining you don't say hello back every time you might get pissed off.

To use your analogy though, what some women get on here every day is 100 men showing their knob and asking for a shag.

Saying hello does not warrant a reply. Stop being so entitled.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"How will an inbox full of “No thanks” improve your fab experience?

It beats ‘ewwww!!’

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's very easy to take it personally, but you shouldn't. Couples and single women receive hundreds of messages on here.

The difference with saying hello in person is that there wouldn't be 100 other guys saying hello at the same time, so not really comparable

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

We would say it is because they are not interested in you.

The reason for hello in everyday life is just being friendly. The reason on here is that you want sex.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Real life v Fab website.

Totally 2 different things mate. Get use to “ignored is a polite (I repeat “polite”) no.

Just ignore them first,

it restores the balance of your zen.

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i think there may also be some rules regarding showing your dick and saying fancy a fuck in the dog & duck pub then getting all arsey when the woman looks out the window instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and for someone who doesn't want to be judged, you're doing a fine job of hypocrisy

It’s a question???

With a statement of how rude it is . . . . .

You don't have to write pointless messages. You can just send a wink which might also get ignored."

But sending a wink does not really take much time to reply to, where as it does to put some effort into a message, hence why there is so many copy and paste messages!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Some people reply, some don't, if you accept this your time on the site will probably be more enjoyable

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