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By *shley79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Why is it so hard for some people to tell you that they aren’t going to attend the meet or social you’ve arranged with them….

So so annoying!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think some people nevee intend to meet up sadly ,it's an awful thing to do though and please report them op.

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By *shley79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I think some people nevee intend to meet up sadly ,it's an awful thing to do though and please report them op."

It’s just such a waste of my time

My time is so precious so when someone has agreed to meet it’s so disappointing when they don’t.

But if they have a genuine excuse it’s ok, but when there’s nothing…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for some people to tell you that they aren’t going to attend the meet or social you’ve arranged with them….

So so annoying!"

Because some people are massive arseholes.

Is annoying but look at it like you’ve swerved a nut job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it really is a blessing in disguise, othertimes it just is so damn annoying! Just got to keep ya chin up & keep on going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no excuse for just not showing up, unless they did and watched from a far

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By *ookingtolickMan
over a year ago

london

I’ve heard this often..think sometimes guys just like the idea and have a Tommy tank before bottling it ..

When I’ve met people who weren’t for me I’ve always met them anyway and said as much.

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We were let down by about 5 guys once for a gangbang. It's so rude. We blocked everyone that didn't give notice. Even blocked their profiles when they've returned to Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly happens to us all. But if it’s a frequent occurrence, I would think about your approach to seeking up a meet.

I usually ask the lady “ if for any reason you need to cancel, could you just send me a quick message’

I also send a message stating , I’m heading to the date. Usually 30 minutes before the date .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were let down by about 5 guys once for a gangbang. It's so rude. We blocked everyone that didn't give notice. Even blocked their profiles when they've returned to Fab!"

I’ve organised a fair number of GB meets. Only 3/10 people will turn up. The number increases if you’ve met them before .

I know it’s disheartening.

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By *xiled BikerMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Well I was getting paranoid, I have had 4 no shows over the years, with no apology given or reason, usually when you try and contact its ignored or profile deleted or even blocking me.

Agree with OP its also expensive, if its hotel meet I usually organise a nice room with some space, such a shame to waste the space with a no show not to mention expense.

Now I am more cautious about a meet. Such a shame as it tarnishes ones view of FAB. I do wonder how many turned up had a look and decided otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I was getting paranoid, I have had 4 no shows over the years, with no apology given or reason, usually when you try and contact its ignored or profile deleted or even blocking me.

Agree with OP its also expensive, if its hotel meet I usually organise a nice room with some space, such a shame to waste the space with a no show not to mention expense.

Now I am more cautious about a meet. Such a shame as it tarnishes ones view of FAB. I do wonder how many turned up had a look and decided otherwise!

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Sorry to hear the wasted expense of a hotel room.

I usually only book the hotel room once the lady has arrived. It does mean the cost is more.

I wonder if single ladies get the same from men no showing .

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Many people get no shows. Some are genuine, some are not. It is very frustrating. Sat there in all your glory and not a single male in sight.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Not sure why some people choose to do this without having the decency to cancel and let the person know.

Fake profiles maybe or they just get off on having a wank over pictures but the reality is a lot more different.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I will not turn up for a meet unless I've heard from them that day. It's not foolproof but I've not a no show to date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's shitty, just block and don't give them a 2nd thought x

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By *mperor888Man
over a year ago

Wednesbury

I find that if you have built up a rapure with someone,there is less chance of a let down, but if it is a spontaneous meet the risk is much higher for a no show.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been here 5 years and never had a no show or been one so I'm not sure what I'm doing differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I knew the answer, I get so many no show, and not even a message to say sorry.

I would rather have bad excuse then none.

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By *shley79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I wish I knew the answer, I get so many no show, and not even a message to say sorry.

I would rather have bad excuse then none. "

Exactly

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Been there done that more than once. So annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically, I just gave up meeting humans and bought some stuff with my lovehoney discount init. You know the vibes.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Because everyone wants to meet the unobtainable.

If everyone lowered their standards and just agreed to meet anyone who propositioned them we’d all be getting on famously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot unfortunately, really does affect your mental health, just feel like shit or worthless, best to just block and move on! Wish there was a way a no show can be reported, like 3 strikes and your out.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sorry to hear its happened to you OP. Sadly for some people, that's how they get their kicks.

Onwards and upwards x

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Sorry op but happens a lot now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to my twice, different women in different areas,but same situation,she'd suggest meeting in her local pub,I'd drive forty miles,sit in what turns out to be a right dump of a pub for an hour then when she doesn't show up drive another forty miles home. Very annoying especially with current cost of diesel. They both apologised & have what was probably a genuine excuse,but why not message me as soon as they realise they're not going to make it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and work a meet into other plans. Social combine it with doing other things etc hotel meet make sure there’s decent places to go in the area etc. you can report no shows through their profile or messages.

I don’t meet often but if I say I’ll be somewhere I’ll be there.

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