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By *ympho6969 OP   Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?

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By *ay9971Man
over a year ago

Manchester/London

Don’t know about anyone else but I love a ‘larger’ lady…..there is just more human to love in my humble opinion xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"

Just looked on your profile(Liz)

You are hot as feck!!!! we both loooove curvy girls.

When it comes to relationships...its not just looks they looking for.

im sure you know that yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I fancy someone, their size is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs your stunning by the looks off your pics I personally would wine and dine you on a date with no expetsoins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looked on your profile, and your body is gorgeous

Do you think that about yourself? That you’re not good enough to date?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"

You look just fine to me, I wouldn’t even say you’re large, like side 16? is very common almost average . Maybe it isn’t your size ? Are you a wierdo ?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Looking mighty fine as far as I’m concerned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear that, it can't be fun thinking you aren't special enough for more than sex but please know that you are!

As far as I go, I'm more into facial attraction and personality. The body comes after that

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Skinny bunts don’t necessarily make good wives. I like my large bird to cuddle up to at night.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

You are stunning OP

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think people will gravitate towards the body type they prefer in the first instance and if they like each others personality it'll develop into something long term.

I might be wrong but most men aren't so shallow that they choose their long term partner based on body size

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No OP, they don't. I've never struggled for attention even away from Fab and when I was a size 30. And that's not just dicking attention, actual dating attention.

It's really tough when you're feeling low and invisible to not place your worth on your body isn't it? I do that sometimes. It's bollocks. Of course physical attraction matters but there's so much to it. And you're more than your meat suit.

I still get a bit... gosh about getting naked in front of new people. But. Life is too short. You can work on your body (not you specifically) but more importantly work on loving yourself. Believe that you're worth more than a fuck, you are and don't let the negative thoughts penetrate your mind.

You're really not particularly big and I say that as a fat woman. Regardless of your size, providing you're not a throbber, that meaningful is deserved. x

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By *ympho6969 OP   Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

To catch all the comments

I'm a little weird but who isn't.

Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.

After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Has anyone specifically told you this op ?

You look great so I can't see why you'd struggle to get dates.

Is it your own insecurity maybe .

Hang on in there and don't feel bad about yourself.x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Large is hard because it varies so much

I like curvy

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By *neel135Man
over a year ago

Worcester

You look great

I wouldn’t be bothered about looks it about making a connection doesn’t matter who it is with or what shape, colour, sex they are

xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"To catch all the comments

I'm a little weird but who isn't.

Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.

After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too."

I think you should stop thinking of yourself in terms of where you come on some imaginary scale of looks and referring to punching too high. Your self worth as a woman is not down to how attractive your body is to men.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've been a lot bigger than I am now and a lot slimmer. I can't say there was a difference in the amount of men who were attracted to me. The main difference was my own confidence in myself regardless of my size. When I've been confident I've attracted more attention then when I'm not. Not saying this is the case for you though.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Skinny bunts don’t necessarily make good wives. I like my large bird to cuddle up to at night."

Did you really have to be so derogatory against slimmer women? Nothing makes turns me off quicker than putting others down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember, people will never be as unkind to you as you are to yourself OP. Embrace who you are and the right person for you will accept you for who you are

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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OP, most people have a completely different (and usually longer) list of preferences for a dating partner than they do for a casual sex partner. I'd hazard a guess that body size/shape features higher on most people's casual sex list than it does on their dating list. Most men really aren't that shallow in my experience.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

You look good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To catch all the comments

I'm a little weird but who isn't.

Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.

After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too.

I think you should stop thinking of yourself in terms of where you come on some imaginary scale of looks and referring to punching too high. Your self worth as a woman is not down to how attractive your body is to men. "

What Mrs NC said ^

You are enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Skinny bunts don’t necessarily make good wives. I like my large bird to cuddle up to at night.

Did you really have to be so derogatory against slimmer women? Nothing makes turns me off quicker than putting others down. "

Agreed

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. But you will be someone’s. X

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Bbws are so sexy unfortunately us bigger lads don't get the same love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man this thread has triggered me. I've been in that "good enough to fuck but not date" camp my whole adult life too - hugs OP

I will say your pics are beautiful and you're nowhere near "large".

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

My last long term partner was a size 22, but to be honest, I didn't see it like that because I was madly in love with her.

To me the person matters more than the size

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By *lasgowpair76Couple
over a year ago

Renfrewshire

Wife and I both definitely prefer a curvy girl, we find that look so much hotter. You are definitely not what most would class as a larger lady OP either

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I always liked curvier larger ladies. It's a body type that makes me go phwoaar.

But I don't really discriminate, I like larger ladies all the way through to muscular ladies. Sexy is sexy.

There's definitely someone out there for everyone.

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By *heDeliveryManMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"

Looking at your pics I wouldn't say your a larger lady. A good figure for me is boobs and a bum. An attractive face (just being honest) and a great personality (someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously and enjoys a laugh).

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm not exactly slim (read "I'm a chubby chubster") but never found it hard to get a boyfriend and have been in a committed relationship for 18 years now. I'm not sure there's a universal "rule" on body sizes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"

All about the curves for me OP, and yours look gorgeous to me

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

I absolutely love and embrace my sexy curves. Xx

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

To me ‘something meaningful’ isn’t about a body shape or size it’s about a person, the way they laugh, there little quirks and unique qualities that make you just want to be around them.

When I’ve spoken to friends about previous partners I don’t wax lyrical about there shape I talk about all the daft stuff we would do together, trips we had taken, places we had eaten - the proper memory kinda stuff!

If you wish to be meaningful to someone you need to be happy in you, not picking yourself apart, sometimes on fab woman see all these half naked other woman and suddenly feel like there not in the same league (hate that term) or that they couldn’t possibly offer more than the stereotypical perfect body - slim/curvy/bbw/petit none of it matters if it’s meaningful all of it is not just your body!

Know your own worth, don’t let others dictate what you are worth! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my figure

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.

Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.

I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.

So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"

From a male perspective, I wouldn't class you as a larger lady, yes you have curves,and very nice they are too, however I haven't spoke to or interacted with you, so I don't know what your personality is like, which for me is the clincher.

All I can say is be yourself, love your curves, and Mr right will come along, it really is a lottery, sooner or later you will hit the jackpot

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Body size has nothing to do with getting a long term boyfriend/partner, it's about the person inside.

We all have preferences and you haven't found him yet.

You've gorgeous curves, some slim people are jealous of curves.

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By *heDeliveryManMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I hate my figure"

When women say that I always get annoyed as its much more about the person inside the body. A womans mind is more attractive. You could be a super model, but if you just lay there in bed then it isn't really attractive.

Although I went on the scales yesterday and was shocked at my weight and then checked the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I love a larger bodied woman, something very sexy about those curves. Lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it helps, I'm slim and get seen as 'just for fun' too sometimes. I don't think it's to do with anyone's body shape.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think if you're looking to have something meaningful with someone, as opposed to them just wanting to fuck you and nothing more, then maybe you have to reconsider how you go about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

physical atraction is important but personality/how much we get along together is far more important. just keep looking op i am sure there is somone for you. have to agree with everyone else you have some nice pics. I know it's easier said than done though to have confidence in yourself but wish you all the best.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Hugs sweetie from a fellow biggie whos been single a similar length of time xxxx

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

And 1 July 2019 OMG love xxxx

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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Love a fuller lady

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

I've dated ladies with a more full figure and those with less curves.

Their personalities were the determining factor, not what the tape measure said.....

Love yourself OP, there's only one of you and its amazing.

Winston

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Iv been single for 5 years and I’m feeling the same I’m also a bigger lady xx

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"No OP, they don't. I've never struggled for attention even away from Fab and when I was a size 30. And that's not just dicking attention, actual dating attention.

It's really tough when you're feeling low and invisible to not place your worth on your body isn't it? I do that sometimes. It's bollocks. Of course physical attraction matters but there's so much to it. And you're more than your meat suit.

I still get a bit... gosh about getting naked in front of new people. But. Life is too short. You can work on your body (not you specifically) but more importantly work on loving yourself. Believe that you're worth more than a fuck, you are and don't let the negative thoughts penetrate your mind.

You're really not particularly big and I say that as a fat woman. Regardless of your size, providing you're not a throbber, that meaningful is deserved. x"

Thank you for answering more eloquently than I could!

OP, I'm a Very Fat Bird, have been my entire life. Sometimes I'm fitter than others depending on whether I'm training but even at my fittest I was still a large 22, at my least fit I was a 32.

I've never been in that "good enough to fuck but not date" situation, but I have heard it mentioned before on here. I've had messages from guys who have clearly seen me that way but they tend not to be guys I've had much interest in so no great loss.

I see plenty of very large women in relationships though so I'm not convinced it's a norm outside of this type of site, out in the real world.

Hold yourself precious OP, you are far more than a number on a scale and you shouldn't have to settle for something clandestine if that's not what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy or beauty is an attitude.

It’s all tied into confidence and who you are as a person. It’s never about body size. Or at least that’s the way I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my lord. I wouldn't even have you down as a larger lady. You are stunning x

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look gorgeous.

Not what I would call a larger lady at all.

I love women to have a bit of substance to them, curves are much sexier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really bothered about size of lady prefer the curvy lady’s always have always will

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

The smaller ones tend to fly out of the bedroom window when you toss them around sadly

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly my long term relationships have all been with women over a size 20, not sure why it's just how it's been.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I married a larger lady, if that answers the question

18 years this year

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