FabSwingers.com forum: Women do more than double the chores of men

By *irtydevil666 OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Females are normally responsible for 56 out of 80 household jobs, while men are in charge of just 23 - research from the housework app Choreful has revealed.

The only task that both sexes share is shopping for treats for the children.

The app's inventor Robin Havre said: "It all started as a joke. My girlfriend kept complaining that I wasn't doing enough around the house.

"Totally convinced that I was doing as much as her - if not more - I thought it would be funny to make an app to log the housework.

"I have to admit that I was a bit embarrassed by how little it showed me as doing. The first reading said I was only doing 39 per cent."

Havre says he has taken on more household jobs since the app's revelations.

He said: "Now me and my girlfriend are actually sharing the housework 50/50.

"I'm hoping the app will have this impact in other homes too. I hope it will help motivate couples, flatmates and families towards a more equal relationship."

So there we go folks.....

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

There are 80 household chores?

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not surprised

I think a lot of guys THINK they do as much/more but the reality is still very unbalanced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Females are normally responsible for 56 out of 80 household jobs, while men are in charge of just 23 - research from the housework app Choreful has revealed.

The only task that both sexes share is shopping for treats for the children.

The app's inventor Robin Havre said: "It all started as a joke. My girlfriend kept complaining that I wasn't doing enough around the house.

"Totally convinced that I was doing as much as her - if not more - I thought it would be funny to make an app to log the housework.

"I have to admit that I was a bit embarrassed by how little it showed me as doing. The first reading said I was only doing 39 per cent."

Havre says he has taken on more household jobs since the app's revelations.

He said: "Now me and my girlfriend are actually sharing the housework 50/50.

"I'm hoping the app will have this impact in other homes too. I hope it will help motivate couples, flatmates and families towards a more equal relationship."

So there we go folks....."

A survey is a great way to get a company’s marketing promotion shared cost effectively.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Is it all over the news?

If it isn't then I can't believe it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's probably the other way round here nowadays

. I think it depends on too many factors to quantify it easily though, eg hours each of you work etc. We tended to adjust who did what and how much according to circumstances. I do know from my friends that in general women do the lions share of household chores but the longer they keep doing it the less likely it is that things will change. I read something the other day that made me laugh

"It's funny how keen my husband becomes to do the grocery shopping when I 'forget' to buy beer two weeks in a row'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does this mean we share 1 job? What is that job.. sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There are 80 household chores?"

I count three, cooking, cleaning, washing.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"There are 80 household chores?

I count three, cooking, cleaning, washing.

I'm wondering if they count each room separately.

My ex did 0 chores unless I was ill, or he wanted to bump into his bit on the side in Asda.

I did the garden and all the car stuff too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There are 80 household chores?

I count three, cooking, cleaning, washing.

I'm wondering if they count each room separately.

My ex did 0 chores unless I was ill, or he wanted to bump into his bit on the side in Asda.

I did the garden and all the car stuff too."

I decided my first marriage was doomed when he told me

"Go and clean your kitchen"

. I laugh about it ...now

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As there is only me here, I argue with myself over who is going to do the laundry, and who's turn it is to cook dinner or do the dishes

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"There are 80 household chores?

I count three, cooking, cleaning, washing.

I'm wondering if they count each room separately.

My ex did 0 chores unless I was ill, or he wanted to bump into his bit on the side in Asda.

I did the garden and all the car stuff too.

I decided my first marriage was doomed when he told me

"Go and clean your kitchen"

. I laugh about it ...now"

Oh I got told "It's your house, you pay the bills" lol He did start cooking when he wanted to impress people though, but I got the washing up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must not be men.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

The only thing I ever did was put the the bins out. I did cut the grass a couple of times, then paid someone else to do it.

My ex wife even did the decorating, even now I pay her to come and clean my cottage every two weeks.

Busy running my own business was always a good excuse .

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Well I'm not sure as I do 99% of all the chores and all he does is the rubbish once a week!

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Living on your own and having to do every job all the time gives you a real appreciation of when someone does anything for you at all, having someone do half the chores sounds like bliss

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"There are 80 household chores?"

That was my first though... What's the list?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The 23 that men do is linked to doing the job right a 3rd time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are 80 household chores?

That was my first though... What's the list?"

80 though! Is this daily? If its daily I'm giving up.

Seriously, I've no time for 80 bloody chores a day...

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Does this mean we share 1 job? What is that job.. sex."

Bi couples sometimes share a blow job.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Does this mean we share 1 job? What is that job.. sex.

Bi couples sometimes share a blow job.

Now this we understand.

Oh we do share all the adulting too, as well as the fun stuff

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Seems fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not that way here, or with any of my previous relationships.

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By *red and Wilma 75Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

No they don’t? My husband made me type that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait, men do chores??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Living on your own and having to do every job all the time gives you a real appreciation of when someone does anything for you at all, having someone do half the chores sounds like bliss"

Living on my own has given me appreciation for the job being done right the first time, and not having to deal with the job not being done or the whining that he was going to get to it... later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait, men do chores??

Yeah. We “listen” to women talk. That is a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait, men do chores??

Yeah. We “listen” to women talk. That is a chore."

Well played

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Well I'm defo doing all 80!

Some things are defo a husband job.

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By *andB 2020Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Id say generally true but im old school.

Plus my son lives with me full time and my partner has kids at hers so i do all the chores at mine.

Id never let her do any when she stays over.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Wait, men do chores??

Yeah. We “listen” to women talk. That is a chore.

Well played "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Wait, men do chores??

Yeah. We “listen” to women talk. That is a chore."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It utterly depends on the people involved. In my first marriage my wife didn't lift a finger ever. She would sit on the sofa and wait the hour difference between us getting home for me to cook her food

Second wife would bitch incessantly that I never did anything right and couldn't cook for toffee. I gave up in the end and let her and her mother mither me out of my own home.

Now I'm living on my own again chores are no longer a chore - it's called facilitating life. Most people can't believe that a straight old man lives in this house on his own. Oh and I make all my own food from scratch and bake my own bread and I dont appear to have starved to death.

I doff my cap to bad bitch as she runs a tight ship in her home with two teenagers and a 10 year old. Mornings are the worst getting the herd out of bed, fed, out the door with more food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait, men do chores??

"
we chop wood.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

As I am a widower. 100% of jobs down to me to do.

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Even then they expect a fucking medal for doing something as basic as hoovering up their own mess.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Even then they expect a fucking medal for doing something as basic as hoovering up their own mess."

Doing 100% of the chores is way better than 80% plus "you're such a good man, you iron your own clothes, cookies for you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in this House!

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Well they do say Wife stands for

Washing

Ironing

Fucking

Etc...

*i'll be hiding over there... can someone tell me when its safe to come back out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not surprised

I think a lot of guys THINK they do as much/more but the reality is still very unbalanced

Not if like myself you're divorced, do the school run after work which includes dinner, making sure they have clean uniform and lunches made for the next day before dropping them to their mam at 6pm. Add to that sorting out the normal day to day stuff and 3 weekends out of 4 I have my children from Friday to a Sunday evening I'm sure I do just as much as any woman

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Not in this house. Mr KC does the lion's share of the physical chores. He's always been great at sharing things fairly but it's a necessity nowadays, unfortunately. I feel very much like a burden at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all. Run my own business and all gardening, decorating, diy, bins, books, cooking, cleaning, etc.

If I get a cuppa made for me I am grateful!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Not in my chuffing house…..

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Chores are equally valued are they? In time, or in effort, or some combo?

Mowing the lawn vs loading the dishwasher?

Putting up a shelf vs cooking a meal?

What if it's a sloping lawn? Or a 3 course meal?

It's bollocks. Work as a team, starting to compare like this is a recipe for disaster.

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

My wife and I both work in IT and have adapted the Agile methodology to housework. We both have a set number of hours available for housework, we add tasks that need doing to the backlog, we agree between us how long each task will take and prioritise them. We then each take tasks off the backlog.

We both end up doing an equal amount of work but in different areas.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Chores are equally valued are they? In time, or in effort, or some combo?

Mowing the lawn vs loading the dishwasher?

Putting up a shelf vs cooking a meal?

What if it's a sloping lawn? Or a 3 course meal?

It's bollocks. Work as a team, starting to compare like this is a recipe for disaster."

Mowing a 20sq ft lawn versus vacuuming a 4 bed house?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Chores are equally valued are they? In time, or in effort, or some combo?

Mowing the lawn vs loading the dishwasher?

Putting up a shelf vs cooking a meal?

What if it's a sloping lawn? Or a 3 course meal?

It's bollocks. Work as a team, starting to compare like this is a recipe for disaster.

Mowing a 20sq ft lawn versus vacuuming a 4 bed house?"

And it takes minutes to put up a shelf. A roast dinner can take a couple of hours.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

And it takes minutes to put up a shelf. A roast dinner can take a couple of hours."

That was my point. One task that is traditionally male and, on average, harder. And one the other way.

...wasn't being sexist, was demonstrating that the whole concept was gibberish....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's not healthy to compare the chores as some may take longer than others. In an ideal world, we would have chores that we're good at and if either of us were feeling overwhelmed, we can lean on each other to pick up the slack

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Surely it's not healthy to compare the chores as some may take longer than others. In an ideal world, we would have chores that we're good at and if either of us were feeling overwhelmed, we can lean on each other to pick up the slack

The best way is to do them together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in this house. It would say my husband does 80% of the household chores. I do all the shopping organising and planning and it works for us.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think it's always different depending upon the individual people as my ex only did 5 to 10% if anything we might have done the shopping together but we didn't pay together I paid and did a huge majority of other tasks even cooking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live alone so I think this officially makes me a hero.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I live alone so I think this officially makes me a hero. "

Na ya taking advantage of yourself

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Men might not do as many jobs but I think you'll find they are the important jobs.

If women weren't kept busy they'd only spend their time gossiping to their chums or watching daytime tv.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Not in this house. It would say my husband does 80% of the household chores. I do all the shopping organising and planning and it works for us. "

Similar here actually, plus I earn the majority of our income too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live alone so I think this officially makes me a hero.

Na ya taking advantage of yourself

I do that most evenings to be fair.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"My wife and I both work in IT and have adapted the Agile methodology to housework. We both have a set number of hours available for housework, we add tasks that need doing to the backlog, we agree between us how long each task will take and prioritise them. We then each take tasks off the backlog.

We both end up doing an equal amount of work but in different areas. "

I'm seriously considering Jira or similar for house hold management. Maybe just Trello with a to-do, in-progress, and done (utilising WIP limits)

But I don't know if I can be bothered explaining it to the luddite husband

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Whoever did that research never visited my house.

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By *westUKguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

If there are 80 then i do 78 of them, and yes when you think about some of the things that need doing they add up,i also work and look after kids and do all the diy so not all men are useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both end up doing an equal amount of work but in different areas.

I'm seriously considering Jira or similar for house hold management. Maybe just Trello with a to-do, in-progress, and done (utilising WIP limits)

But I don't know if I can be bothered explaining it to the luddite husband"
would setting up a way of managing chotse, count as a chore ? 81

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